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Brad Heward 1/20/1962~12/22/2005 Brad, it has been a year since we lost you and sometimes the pain is more than we can bear. Our hearts still ache in sadness and silent tears still flow, what it meant to lose you no one will ever know. Your time on earth seemed all too brief because we wanted you in our lives forever. Although we really miss you, in our hearts we know you are at peace. Brad you will always be with us, we will feel you in the warmth of the summer sun. We will see you in the brilliance of autumn leaves. You will be beside us in the peacefulness of a gentle snowfall and rejoice with us at the emergence of the first flowers of spring. We are so thankful for the times we shared and the priceless memories that will be with us forever. With all our love forever. Rest in peace my son, rest in peace. Mom (Alma), sister (Shelly), brother (Steve), wife (Cheryl), daughters (Jen and Katie), son (Bradley Jr.)

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Published by The Salt Lake Tribune on Dec. 22, 2006.

Memories and Condolences
for Brad Heward

33 Entries

Cheryl Heward

January 21, 2008

Jan 20th.
Hi Honey, You would have been 46 today. It is hard to know what to say. It just stinks that you aren't here to celebrate your birthday.
Would you like to hear something odd? We are surrounded with people in this family whose birthdays are Jan 20th husband. Your niece, Vicky is 25 today (born 4 days after we met), Cousin Lisa's daughter (right next door) Sierra Sunshine is 22, Jen's boyfriend Zack is 23 today, and Shawn Kirby (he helped brother Kirk build our house and they are good friends) 44 also today. Amazing huh? Shawn just found out Friday that he has a tumor on his liver, and the Drs. are giving him a few weeks; but, we are going to be more optimistic. Deannas Dads' friend Alex was cured of the same thing years ago and that is how they got into all the medical stuff since then. So we will pray and they will do what they can, and hopefully Cindy doesn't have to deal with what me and the kids have had to by losing you.
I have been a basket case today, I guess just feeling sorry for us.
We are going to get an icecream cake for your birthday from now on honey since they were your favorite. Funny, that was the only time I could get you to eat cake.
I love and miss you Brad, and you are closing the gap. You were my very best friend Honey and I so miss discussing everything with you. It's hard not having you to share everything with.
I had 2 flat tires this past month and Katie had one in Nov. The Suburban's water pump went out, and Bradley is going to fix it tomorrow or Tuesday, his days off.
Katie's car drives really well in the snow especially with the great new (costly Ha Ha) tires. You would be proud of me for choosing the ones I did...(Katie helped).
She drove her Pathfinder down to Greenhorn (the river bed) last weekend (both days) with all the rest of the kids (lots of our family), were 4 wheeling for that event called "Winter Fest" even had snow. They had a blast. No she didn't wreck it either. Remind you of anyone? You and CJ, and me and my motorcycle,eh?
Bradley might go to work for another RV Dealership in Roseville as a salesman. He's found he doesn't really like car sales.
Jen is now a Registered Dental Assistant. I'm so proud of her honey and I know you are too. She and Katie went up snowboarding today and had a wonderful time together.
We are lucky husband. We have 3 great kids; what a legacy.
I will always be in love with you <3Brad<3.
Forever Yours,
Cheryl

Cheryl Heward

January 17, 2008

1/16/08
Hi sweetheart,
Guess what today is. I know you know, we met this (Sunday then) morning. You ran past my north window around the corner past the east window to check out the mallards in the Quailbrook apartment complex pond. You caught my eye...through both windows. I thought to myself, "he looks interesting". Then as we headed out to the Lark sanddunes, jeeping, I caught your eye. I fell in love with you pretty quickly, you were just crazy enough to fall for me just as quickly. That was a wonderful day my love...one that I will never forget. I am so glad we met this day 25 years ago. We just didn't have enough time did we. I thought we would get to grow old fishing together. I thank God for you Brad. You loved me, took care of me and our 3 great kids, and I miss you terribly. Wish we could spend this anniversary together again. Recently I was really thinking (like everyday but that day was extra wishing to be with you, hug you, etc.) and that night, I was blessed to see you and be with you in a dream. That was truly a blessing. We all miss you husband, I wouldn't be who I am without you and am grateful God gifted me to spend the time with you that I did. Some of my favorite memories are from Butterfield Canyon, the sand dunes,going over the mountains from Toole through Butterfield canyon, getting those huge hamburgers with our little kiddles, hunting with you in the canyon, fishing every place we could dunk a worm - even out fishing you some days! But you always gutted them with a smile and I loved watching you every chance I got...I miss you with my wholly broken heart Bradley J . Keep praying for all of us honey.
With Loving Remembrance,
Your Wife Cheryl

Alma (mom) Gillespie

December 31, 2007

Brad - Here it is New Years Eve, it is hard for me to believe that it has been two years since we lost you. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of you wish that I could just see you again, hug you and take all of your pain away. The memory of you is so imprinted on my life, I see you as my little boy, so cute and always smiling, so good natured. Everyone loved you that knew you. You grew into this special young man, one that I am still so very proud of. Brad when you laughed I laughed, when you cried I cried, when you hurt I hurt double. I wished that I could have taken all of your troubles and hurt away. Brad time hasn't healed any of the hurt I feel with your passing, it hurts just as bad today as it did the day I found out you were gone, I wish I could have been there for you. Shelly and Steve miss you so very much, and Shaun still can't believe you are gone, he so looked up to you, you were and still are his idol. Brad you left three beautiful children, you are here through them, they are so much a part of you. That Jen, she is so beautiful and has such a beautiful heart, Bradley is so much like you in so many ways, and that Katie, she is so sweet. Brad you are and will always be my special ANGEL.

Cheryl Heward

December 23, 2007

11p.m. Dec. 22nd. Before I go to bed tonight Honey, I want you to know that this day 2 years ago my heart was broken. No one can know the pain I feel. I can't express the heartache I have. My best friend, Jen, Brad, and Katie's Dad, and the love of my life (my soul mate), it's hard to think of living the rest of this life without you. I believe God when He says that I can only do it one day at a time and He gives me just enough for that. I am so grateful for the life we shared. We may have only had 23 years, but we certainly loved each other with the passion of a lifetime and we will meet again when my life is finished and I too am called home. I would not be the person I am without knowing you. God put us together and we enjoyed, loved, and helped each other be better than we would have been alone. I loved you the best I could honey and I know you did the same. No one could ever replace you Brad. You were one of a kind as you knew, and that was what I loved best. I just loved watching you when you didn't know I was (so you wouldn't get embarrassed). You were so very special.
Your family still has a deep wound that only God can heal and give comfort for.
Alma and I talked for almost 2 hours this morning and it was really comforting for both of us. Being able to talk about our loss is so helpful. Thank you Brad for the love you gave me and our children and for loving us with a sacrificial love. I’m so glad you are in heaven, running with the angels; I will see you when my journey is complete and we will have a wonderful reunion. The kids are doing well, but we miss you so. Today has been so difficult. I just wanted to end it with the love of my life hearing of my love for him.
Katie and I just sang "When You Say Nothing At All", our song for all those years.
I love you and miss you, you are flying with the eagles now honey. Forever and Always Amen.

Katie Heward

December 23, 2007

December 22nd
Dad, before I go to bed I have some things I want to say.........

Has it really been two years?
Has this time really passed this fast?
Not a day goes by
That I don't think of you
Ever Since you've been gone
There’s not a tear that's rolled off my cheek that I wasn't thinking of you being gone
Only because It's not fair to me
losing you at the age of 15
You alone are the most amazing man I've ever known, my hero my dad
Although I know everything happens for a reason, and will I tell you..
what a huge impact this has had, not only on me but our whole family, for we have all learned to reach out and love one another
Not only has this brought us all closer
I know you are here
maybe I can't see you
But at times I can feel you
and know you are there
Dad, for you are the reason I am who I am today, and I pray that you are proud of me and all my achievements,
I know I make mistakes, But knowing you are looking down on me makes me strive to do even better,
For losing you has given me ability to help others going through the same thing I've been going through,
Not only do I encourage them
I do it in love and understand better than anyone since I know what it's like to lose someone SO important in your life,
It's a hard thing for some to grasp
That haven't lost their dad
They can give there condolences
But they won't understand until they have lost their own.
Every day I try to look on the bright side of things, and live as though today were my last
maybe not at this time
maybe not in 40years or more
Yet All I know is in the end ill eventually be with you
Dad I love you
I miss you so much I cant even begin to explain
I miss the days when we would spend all day fishing together in our fishing hole
I miss the times when we would go for our motorcycle rides
I miss how you could fix or do anything, that we ever asked
I miss the fact you would hold me when I would cry
I miss the touch of your rough but soft, hard working hands
The smell of your skin
The whiskers on your chin
While in the embrace of your strong arms
That always pulled me back up on my feet when I would fall down
You would always Help me back up
I'm sad that I was cheated out of having you the rest of my child hood and beyond
I'm sad that I have to live the rest of my life with out you physically being here.
I'm sad that it had to end the way it did
I'm sorry Those last few years, I was so lost and angry
It hurt me to see you in so much pain
It broke me to pieces seeing you those last few times
It was almost to hard to bear seeing you in such distress
It’s still difficult, Realizing you are really gone
even at 2 years now.
The thought of knowing my daddy isn't coming back the rest of my lifetime
Brings me sadness and pain,
But at the same time
I know I was not given this for no reason
I know I was not given more than I can handle
I know that by losing you
I am a minister to others
I know by this,
I am a stronger person,
Although it's been hell
And I've wanted to give up
There’s always that little voice in my head saying,
You Keep going, you keep your head up you CAN do it,
I always seem to find room and that extra kick to keep going, for this little voice is you rooting me on,
helping me to not give up.
I know even you struggled with some things,
but who doesn't in their lifetime,
For seeing what you went through
Has made me a better, stronger, caring, understanding person
More than I have ever been in my life
I thank you,
I thank you for being the best dad
I thank you for always being there when you could even though you were struggling
I thank you for the kind of man you were
honest, sincere, loving, compassionate,
sensitive, insightful, godly, passionate, generous,
ALWAYS willing to lend a helping hand,
You Had an Amazing sense of humor
All I know is we love you for who you were and all your incredible qualities
Dad I want you to know
"Your In The Arms Of The Angels"
And I will sing to you with all my heart
Because I know that is something you want me to do.
I will keep my passion alive for singing & music
because I love it, and I know you support me in every way even though your not here.

I now understand….
“Everything Happens for a reason”
Maybe you don’t understand “why” at the time
But in time you realize what the outcome has become
It’s shaped me into who I am today
I love you dad......
I love you so much......
I miss you...
I miss you too much...
I will never forget you.....
I will never ever forget you...
There is plenty more I have to say, but for now I'll leave it at this.

We love you.
Love always,
Your little
~<3 Katie bug<3~

Mike Howland

December 22, 2007

Well my good friend, I can't believe you've been gone 2 years already. There's not a day that passes when I don't think about you. Everytime I drive to work, or just in the Salt Lake valley, I can see where Lark used to be and this gets me thinking of the wild and crazy times we had growing up. I'm sure if there's such a thing as a free-spirited angel, you're definitely one of them! Though not brothers by blood, I always saw you as my brother and loved you as one also. Till we meet again...

Alma (mom) Gillespie

September 15, 2007

Brad, it is getting close to two years since we lost you. I still hurt inside every day and miss you so very very much. Sometimes it is so hard to fathom the thought that you are gone and that I will never be able to see or hug you and tell you how much I love you. I never though in my whole life that grief could run so deep and for so long. I pray each and every day that God is surrounding you with his love and comfort and keeping you in his care. Brad we will never ever forget you, you have a piece of my heart and are so much a part of me. I will be seeing you some day. Love from all of us here on this earthly home.

Cheryl Heward

June 18, 2007

June 17th. It's Fathers Day Honey. It has been a particularly difficult day today.It didn't seem to get much better as the day progressed. One of those times I struggled to not cry all day.
Vicky and Guy got married yesterday at Margie and Tim's the wedding was really nice. Katie and I sang our song "When You Say Nothing At All" it sounded really good. Our voices blend really well. Remember how we would sing that song over and over again together for each other? I like remembering how we could be across a crowded room and always knew what each was thinking and glad we were each other's;I can always feel a smile creep up on my face thinking about that. I thought back to our wedding 24 years ago a lot this whole month. You would have been 45 this year Brad. I wish we had had more time.
I got up early today and made a nice family breakfast. We took turns sharing a fun, happy memory of you. I am also making a memorial spot for you at the waterfall across the front yard where you would (whenever you could) say to me "Mom, I'm goin fishin.", and you would walk across the front yard and dunk a worm in your own private fishin hole any day you wanted. We were so blessed weren't we honey. How about those 2 huge bucks you got right here across the property also.... now we will have a special spot we can sit and take a moment with Dad. I'm looking forward to seeing you again.
I love you Honey always. You are my best friend. I miss you so much.
Always your wife,
Cheryl

Cheryl

February 15, 2007

Hello My Valentine!! Big kisses and hugs for you from me. I love you Brad. I miss you so much. I thought about you all day Valentines Day. I even bought some New York Steaks thinking of you; they look really yummy. And I'm sure there will be enough left over for lunch material. I'm also sure Bradley will eat enough for both of you, and I'll enjoy one for you too.
Wish I could have gotten this to you on the 14th, I couldn't get to a computer; you're here in my heart, honey. I made copies of our first picture from Valentines Day 1983 together and that special one from our wedding June 4th, and I kept them with me all day yesterday.
I am so grateful for the love and life we shared. I'm taking care of the kids for us both with God's help.
All my love always,
WeeFee

(Mom) Alma Gillespie

January 21, 2007

Brad my beloved son, yesterday was a hard day for me, you would have been 44 years old. It is so hard to express just how much I miss you in our lives. Sometimes I just have to smile and think of you and how you were so dedicated in your work and making a wonderful living for your family, you were just so talented. Other times I just want to hug you and tell you everything is alright and how much we love you, I would give anything just to be able to do that again. Sometimes it is just so hard trying to understand why you had to leave us so soon, so many unanswered questions. Brad I know just how much you love your children, they meant the world to you. You left your legacy in them, they will always be a part of you. There is never a day that goes by that you are not thought about, when you died you took a piece of my heart. Brad I know that all the pain and hurt is gone from your life now and you are at peace. With all my love son forever.

Cheryl

January 20, 2007

Good morning and Happy Birthday to you my dear husband. I always love and miss you but on this day in particular my heart is full of love for you. I'm so grateful you are with God. I'm grateful for the life we shared, our children,and all the memories that go along with our 23 years together.
I had hoped for many more but I wasn't in control of that. You left a wonderful legacy honey and we all miss you.
Katie and I finished splitting the wood yesterday and guess what? Your baby Katie Marie (yes, your little Katie Bug)jumped in your Silverado backed up to the woodstack and started unloading the wood onto the stack at the same speed you used to do it. I got a kick out of her. She's 16 now and itching to get her drivers license. She is busy with music too and right now is working privately with Erin at Sunsound Studios learning to play guitar and writing songs. She has already recorded 2 original songs her teacher wrote after she brainstormed with Katie and the other 2 students. It has been fun to watch Katie blossom and find out what gifts God has blessed her with.
Jen is well and working with Dr. Robinson who says Jen is the best dental assistant she has ever had.
Bradley is working hard, just like his Daddy. December was a tough month for Bradley. He got a bad cold, then head to toe poison oak, then food poisoning, and finally as he was warming up for the first basketball game, badly sprained his ankle. That was frustrating for him. They are taking motor homes down to Pleasanton for the big motor home show today and he has that cool Camaro to work on like you guys always talked about. He has all kinds of automotive projects going honey. Reminds me of you.
I am busy with the worship team for Celebrate Recovery. I feel pretty inadequate for the leadership cuz I'm not the best musician in the world (that's really understating it) but I believe I am doing what God would like me to and He always saves what we are doing and makes it nice. The music is such a blessing to everyone at CR including me. Did you know what name we chose for our band? "Work in Progress" WIP Worship Team. It fits perfectly. The only thing we are missing is a drummer! It would have been great if you could have done that like we talked about. I'm also busy with the house, substituting, and alterations.
We are all going to Tofanelli's for dinner tonight to celebrate Vicky turning 24. Remember, you and I met 4 days before she was born and you let me drive CJ out at the Lark sand dunes which even surprized you cuz you never let anyone drive it(it was because we were destined to be together). I will be thinking of you honey. I love and miss you Brad. "What A Day It Will Be"

Marian Richards

January 18, 2007

Brad we miss you so very much. We know you are with our dear Lisa, (your cousin) who came to you in March after you were gone. It is so hard without you both. We miss you more than we can say. My heart is still breaking. You both gave us so much in the time that you were here. I know that you both are very happy where you are. The Lord is watching over you two together. One day we will be together. The Lord loves us and wants us to be happy. Our hearts will never forget the Love you have shown to us as your parents. Love to Cheryl and Alma and our families. Love you Aunt Marian

Allison Jones

January 18, 2007

Through God's unbelievable grace, we will get to see you again in glory!

Susan McGuire

January 16, 2007

Well, Brad, now that there has been a little time for reflection, I'm so grateful to your Mom for providing this way of sharing my memories with others who cared about you. Thinking you are really gone from our presence here often brings tears to my eyes, feelings of sadness at missing seeing you, having known your struggles here on Earth, and not knowing you would leave so soon. I think how great it would have been if you could be in "WIP", our little band, because you really liked the drums and singing.

I never knew anyone like you ... always so willing to lend a helping hand. I still have little reminders of that. Your goofy side was always a kick: the little sayings, and voices, and your amazing energy. You and Cheryl had that in common and you can be assured that wonderful trait was definitely passed onto your goofy kids!

You also had a really serious side that I had to tease at times to get you to relax. And, you were very empathetic and kind. Admirable traits for any man.

Just yesterday as I helped Cheryl and Katie stack wood at the house, I was carrying a load to the wood ring on the porch and felt you doing it too, in the fast pace you always had. I can't help but absent-mindedly think at times that I might pass you on the way up or down the road to your house or working at the RV Center or out in the yard.

To me you've left special memories and feelings. Now on those occasions when thoughts of you pop into my consciousness, I often take pause to think about the purpose of life and the only thing that is really truly important ... our relationships with others ... and God's helping and supernatural presence right there in the middle.

I'm grateful you were a part of my life and I miss you Brad! I look forward to one day seeing you very happy and healthy in heaven with our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus the Christ.

Love you,
Your sister-in-law,

Noreen Barnett

January 16, 2007

Have known Brad and Cheryl and kids for almost 10 years. Brad was always friendly and willing to spend time with us when we visited...which was quite often when we were all homeschooling.

Best memory of Brad was when he was skinning a recently shot deer in his garage. He figured my husband would be interested in watching and maybe helping...NO WAY! My husband...the quintesential city boy. We all thought he was going to pass out when he saw the carcass hanging from the rafters...he left after viewing it for only 5 seconds. Later that night, Cheryl cooked up some of the meat for us to taste. When I handed a pea-sized portion to my husband, that green-in-the-face look came upon him once again. Sorry Brad, guess you never had the chance to turn Steve into a mountain man.

We miss your smiling face and energy. We will all see you again someday in the Lord's presence.

Happy to be in Portland, November 2004 we'll never forget it.

January 11, 2007

Cheryl and Brad on Spirit Cruise Ship 20 years married. We are in front of Harvard Glacier.

January 11, 2007

Our last family picture Christmas 2004. Bradley, Brad and Cheryl in back. Jeremy (Jens fiancee now), Jen and Katie.

January 11, 2007

Brad is proud of this 31.5 lb. King Salmon he caught in 2001 good thing I didn't mess up with the net! Isn't it great.

January 11, 2007

Bradand Bradley with his 5x6 buck near our home in Nevada City 1999

January 11, 2007

We went to Portland for a Family Life Couples Weekend to Remember Nov 2004. It was awesome.

January 11, 2007

Family on Alma's side at Grandma Settlemoir's funeral 95 (back row) Shaun & Shelly, Lisa, Katie with Uncle Steve. (middle row) cousin George, Brent,-, Joy, Marian, George. (front) Derek,Cheryl, Brad, Alma, young Bradley,-,Jenny.

January 11, 2007

2001 Visiting Crater Lake OR. Katie, Bradley, Jen, Brad, Cheryl.

January 11, 2007

Brad and Cheryl 1 yr. anniversary hiking at Dosiewallops, WA.

January 11, 2007

Brad with his 3 babies Katie, Bradley, and Jenny 92.

January 11, 2007

Watching Denver Broncos game with Katie on lap, Jen in back, and holding Bradleys hand 1991

Cheryl Heward

January 11, 2007

Thank each of you so much for your kind words and concerns for us. My dearest Brad is in heaven with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Brad was a wonderful man. He was creative, industrious, the best mechanic I've ever known,a great fisherman and hunter,liked hiking especially if he was on the trail of a mule deer or elk, enjoyed singing and playing drums,a good cook and made great venison jerky and smoked salmon,kind and sensitive, had a great sense of humor and there were many silly/fun little things he said and did that we will always remember. He was a good, loving father,a passionate and faithful husband and my best friend, fishing buddy and confidant. I will love you forever Brad and know you will watching over me and your children who you loved so much and will be there to greet me when God calls me home.
Your wife, Cheryl

Beverly Powers~Brown

December 24, 2006

Wow, I just dont know how to express my self on how bad I feel about Brad, I have not seen him for atleast 20 years but, I did see him almost everyday while we were growing up. Living in such a small town everone there seems like family to me. Brad was one of my best friends, and although I have not seen him for so long, he has always been in my heart. My deepest sympathy goes out to his family.
Beverly Powers Brown

Laura Howland Vreden

December 23, 2006

To Brads Family,

It seems like only yesterday this memory I hold so dear when babysitting for Alma and Jay of Brad with a chair pulled up to the kitchen sink which he filled full of water and had me time him holding his head and breath under water preparying for his baptism.

Many many years later our family (Howlands and other relatives) were having a picnic at Coppeton Park. To my surprise here came Mike with Brad at his side. Mike said to me "Remember Brad". I was so happy to see him, hug him, tell him how sorry I was to hear of the loss of his Dad and to hear how all of you were doing.

He, Mike, Darrel, Mindy and myself shared stories from the Lark days. I shared my memory of his preparation for baptism and aksed he if remembered. He was a little embarrassed and laughed and laughed.
It's funny how as an adult we are embarrased by the sweet and innocent things we did as a child.

It broke my heart when Mike tolded me he has passed way.

I know Brad had a good heart and loves you all very much. God loves him, he too loves God. I believe in my heart that they are both watching over you and showering you with comfort and love.

I am so sorry,

Laura Howland Vreden

Angie Martinez

December 22, 2006

Dear Alma, Shelly and Steven,

I am so sorry for your loss. I had no idea that he had passed away. I am also very glad that you put a memorial in the paper. It seems like yesturday that I was at your house in West Valley. I know that it has probably been over 20 years since I have seen or talked to any of you, but all of you, especially Brad, hold a very special place in my heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you, I know you will be with him again someday. Shelly, I know he is watching over you.

Sincerely,

Angie (Nelson) Martinez

Darrel Howland

December 22, 2006

I've always considered Brad to be one of my older brothers. You left us way too soon, Brad. However, I know we’ll meet again some day. I love and miss you Bro! And, as you and I share the same birthday, I will celebrate your life every year - That's a promise.

Roxanna Naylor

December 22, 2006

Dear Alma: I did not know Brad had passed away. I am Betty & Elden Beckstead's daughter. I know that he is being taken care of by Jay and my dad (who passed away January, 2005. Please call me at 953-5573. Would love to talk to you sometime.

Mike Howland

December 22, 2006

Brad was a great man and friend. I'm glad to have grown up with him and will always be greatful for his friendship and the ways he influenced my life when we were young. Thank you Alma, for running this memorial here in Utah. Most who knew Brad here, don't know he's gone and will hopefully see this memorial.

Well old friend, I hope when my time comes, you, my dad and your dad are there to meet me.

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