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Kathy Shaffer
September 13, 2023
David, I sense your wonderful spirit and uniqueness to this day. And you are missed as much as ever. I sense you are out there somewhere in the universe and I know that we will meet again. Thank you for what you contributed to all of us here. Kathy
Kathy SHAFFER
October 16, 2005
A year has passed and you continue to be greatly missed by those whose lives you touched. I love you and miss you as much as ever, and my heart still aches over you. You left memories behind which I shall cherish and keep in my heart until such time as we are together again. Thank you, my dearest David.
Kathy
Becka Goldstein
December 19, 2004
David,
I always remember the time we were sitting at the piano writing my first bass line together. Or all the times you were so happy to eat mum's tasty cooking. :)
(And I still remember the night when you and mum first went to the movies!!)
I miss you a lot, and I am glad you got to be my dad.
With Love,
Becka
Jamie Tobitt
December 19, 2004
To the Shaffer family,
I enjoyed working with David during his short run with Jump Jones. His talent for composition, arrangements, as well as his performance helped to lift the group to a higher level of musicianship. His work for the group is an invaluable gift that well leave a longlasting effect.
Jon Harford
December 19, 2004
David Shaffer was a good friend, a fellow musician and my neighbor.
He was a great player and a superb and caring music educator. Music was his living, but David never forgot about the art of what he did. He always gave his heart, soul and sweat to make the best music he could.
I am very grateful for having known and been influenced by David. I will always be grateful for the things he taught me.
My greatest sympathies to his family for their loss.
Shirell McGhee
October 25, 2004
Dear Kathy,
So sorry for your loss. Dave was a good friend of mine and my ex-husband's/brother back in the day (1970's). In fact, Dave Shaffer, Bill and Myron Oakes, Greg Poole were all in my very first band together and "swept" the competition (we voted for ourselves). He used to practice endlessly after graduating from SDSU- especially sax and oboe. The last time I saw him was in Yuma, when his combo had a gig at a restaurant that sold those "blooming onions." He has left his mark on this world, and it's a better place because he was here.
Sincerely,
Shirell McGee-McGhee
David Eiland
October 18, 2004
I never knew or met David, but I know his father and know him to be a great man,
and I wish to express my sadness for his loss. David, if you need me for anything let me know. May God bless you my friend.
John Davis
October 1, 2004
David was my best friend. I met David in 1991 as he and I started doctorates at U. of A. and we had some great times there in Tucson. We played together in the university orchestra and wind quintet, and also in a couple of show orchestras – David’s sense of humor coupled with his intense musicianship and professonalism set the bar for many of us there. I remember some great moments, like having a laugh together after being slaughtered by Prof. Murphy for our unorthodox analyses of Beethoven symphonies, “tailgating” with our musician friends behind Tucson City Auditorium after shows, or just simply hanging out. I was delighted when he was hired to teach at Berry College, where I’d been working for a few years already. Again, his humor and deep love of his art made him a favorite of students and colleagues alike. We got to play together again in groups like the Rome Symphony and Clocktower Jazz Orchestra – we enjoyed incredible mountain bike rides in the mountains behind the college, we got to shoot the breeze as we “tweaked” firearms out at the range. David was a dear friend to the rest of my family as well – we enjoyed many evenings of BBQ’d steak dinners, rented movies and conversations, with David taking special interest in “torturing” our then-toddler-aged boys. It’s impossible to sum up a guy like David. I’ll miss him always.
Katie Miller
September 29, 2004
David was essential to my Big band experience. Not only was he a fabulous musician and composer, he was an inspiration and a good friend. He was a great leader and added so much to our ensemble. God Bless.
Leah Goldstein
September 26, 2004
David Shaffer was my very first oboe teacher when I was in the fifth grade, inspiring and encouraging me through early trials with reeds and a music program too small for my voracious musical appetite. He had a brilliant sense of humor and was a wonderful musician--a great role model! When he left the Yuma area he helped set me up with my next oboe teacher at ASU, which led me to Interlochen Arts Academy, which led me to where I am today, an oboe performance major at the Eastman School of Music. Thank you, David, for sharing so much with me and my family and preparing me so well for the journey which I have embarked upon since having met you! You have truly been a blessing in my life.
Peter Goldstein
September 25, 2004
David was a great composer and musician. He is part of many lasting memories with many people, from his friends and family, to his "little oboist," to his wife and stepchildren. David will be forever missed.
Sire Joan
September 24, 2004
I didn't know David well, but he was a classmate and close friend to many I grew up with. I know he will be deeply missed by his family and friends and I wish them all comfort in happy memories.
Marilyn (Salyer) Sire
Sunnyvale, CA
Kathy Shaffer
September 23, 2004
The thoughts expressed here by David's friends are greatly appreciated. I knew David for over eight years. Though he travelled about, our communication remained constant over time.
David had said I was his long time best friend and confidant. I can say the same of him. We both said "extraordinary", "exceptional" and "wonderful" of each other. We had many beliefs, philosophies and life experiences in common. He shared his deepest inner thoughts and feelings with me. I loved him unconditionally, and he felt safe and content with that. I can say that we were as close to perfect soul-mates as is possible to be. One would never have guessed that he had a life-threatening illness because he was so happy. The fulfillment which remained so elusive to him for years
had finally become a reality at the last. He had found hope. Ironic, isn't it, when you are told there is no cure. But with love and a wife who trusted, respected and accepted him, with his new family, home, being among friends of many years, with no financial burdens, and with new goals and dreams yet unrealized he was motivated to new heights. He churned out compositions like never before and was writing a book. Some said he was the happiest and most productive that they had ever seen him. What a way to go, David! You made it! You finally did it! Now if I could just mend this hole in my heart....
Susan Barrett
September 23, 2004
I knew David only a short time. I met him on a Christmas job and enjoyed his playing so much that I invited him to come down to my house to play oboe quartets just for fun. We all had fun making music during those few get-togethers. My colleagues and I will really miss him and his oboe playing.
Myron Oakes
September 22, 2004
Dave was one of the funniest guys I have known. High school would not have been nearly as much fun without him. He always had a clever joke or response, and kept me both laughing and thinking. He was also a serious and good musician, and a good friend. From stage band to garage band, I enjoyed doing music with him. Every time I see a BMW 2002, Dave comes to mind.
Cecilia Vender
September 22, 2004
David was my bud from way back. We never really saw eye to eye on much, especially politics, but we did enjoy listening to music and watching old movies together. He had a great sense of humor and was always up for photo outings. He was the guy I always called when I needed someone to play with. He was my friend. I'm going to miss him.
Kathy Paulson
September 19, 2004
David was a childhood friend and will be missed greatly by all of us who grew up together in Escondido when it was still a small town.
Kathy Shaffer
September 19, 2004
This was my dear, sweet husband, whom I love so very much.
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