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Mike Orosz
April 29, 2025
John (General Gong) and I became scuba buddies 2005-2006. The afternoon prior to his trip home, we went on a last hurrah reef dive in about 45 feet of warm Caribbean water. On that memorable day, we saw lots of reef fish, sea turtles and other beautiful fish and corals. John was so easy going and had a the spirit of an explorer. He was young at heart and willing to do adventurous sporting things on a whim (as much as a whim an Army General can do things on). I specifically recall, his personal scuba gear was packed up and shipped out but he was able to easily borrow equipment from myself and others to have some last minute fun. I was sad to have lost touch after that year, but as people in the military tend to do, we get assigned elsewhere and sometimes lose touch for a period of time. I found this obituary several years ago and was saddened at the time, and did not write a note. I thought of John today for no particular read and wanted to follow though with sharing a memory to his likely wonderful family. John it would have been great to know you today particularly when it would be so nice to have had a friend and mentor to visit during my frequent travel to California. Rest well, while cut short, you lived a pretty amazing life.
Khawaja Ahmed Butt
July 27, 2024
I and John became friend at Guantanamo Bay, Cuba while we both were stationed there. He became close friend of mine when I invited him at my residence there at dinner. As an American Muslim I was proud to have such an amazing decorated Asian/American high commanding US Military soldier who was professional in his field and proud to serve with his line of command in U.S. Army. I am gonna miss him forever.
Todd Evans
August 21, 2019
a chance to serve.. John was a great leader in the 240th Support Battalion he treated everyone so fairly and their families too
Richard Hathcock
July 27, 2019
I miss the General, he was one of the good ones. he set an example for all to live by.
Sharon Lewis
July 27, 2019
Always in our heart ,always on our mind.
Dennis Merritt
February 8, 2018
Johnny Gong, worked with you at Camp Swampy USPFO... sad and shocked to hear of your passing. Really loved your Chinese calendars.
Soldier, Rest.
Dennis Merritt
CW2 CALARNG, Ret
Herald, CA
1LT Johnny Gong, in my computer room at the old wooden USPFO for California. Taken in the early 70's at Camp SLO.
CWO Gary Miller
April 30, 2014
Gary and Debbie Miller
April 29, 2014
He was a CPT and I was a SGT (later a CWO) in the Cal Guard, we both played the guitar, our families were friends back in the mid/late 70's. I remember having a dinner or two at his and Betty's house, that he was refurbishing on his own in Morro Bay. Lost track of him and Betty until this day. I have thought of him and Betty often over the years. Johnny was a Great American, a Patriot, and a friend - our deepest condolences..
Steve Dolgin LTC (RET)
April 8, 2014
I had the pleasure to serve under General Gong. He was a outstanding leader and mentor and a kind person. I salute you for your service to our country and your caring about our soldiers.
Khawaja Butt
February 4, 2014
John, you are gone, it is something which I did not want to know. I had been looking for you John since 2006, after you retired and went back to your home state "The Great California", but unfortunately I got very busy and felt myself as I am an ignorant and a selfish friend who did not do much to keep in touch with you. But John, you might have been gone so far where nobody has returned but John you have not gone out of my memories, you would live there forever as my Best Friend and Mentor. I will miss you for rest of my life. I wish somebody from your family can contact me and make share my memories which we both had about our childhood life's similarities and we used to talk a lot.
R.I.P. Brig. Gen. John Gong, "Honor Bound to defend Freedom".
Betty & Barry Rabson
August 16, 2012
John was a mentor, a friend, a man of his word, and a fellow Christian. He was a leader that could be firm, yet gentle at the same time.
John promoted Barry to Lieutenant Colonel and asked him to emcee his celebratory dinner upon his promotion to Brigadier General--we have the utmost respect for John and heartfelt condolence for Betty and family.
We'll see you in Heaven, John!
CW2 (Former LTC) Barry A. Rabson and Betty J. Clarkson 805-208-9991
Alan Forrest
August 14, 2012
From the Family of CW4 A.B. Forrest.
Our condolences.
August 12, 2012
When my mom worked in Morro Bay she would see him in the store on occasion and tell me about their converasions. I had hoped to talk with him when I finally retiered and returned to SLO.
David H. Forrest, LTC USAR
August 8, 2012
My thoughts and prayers for the Gong family. I knew John when he worked at Camp San Luis Obispo, My Father and Mother knew him well and often spoke of him highly. Last time I saw him was in Fresno and got the chance to talk with him for a few mins. He will be missed. SFC (ret) Kerry Drennan
Wayne Lim, USAF Ret
August 8, 2012
Betty, Christie & Harmony,
Deepest sympathy on the loss of a Great Husband and Father to you. No words can truly express the sadness we feel. However, I have fond memories of John and how I first met him. It was lunch at the Imperial Palace, with Betty,John, and your folks, when Shirley and I were engaged. I remember Uncle Sid saying, "he's a Captain in the U.S. Army, as I was a Staff Sergeant in the Air Force. When Uncle Sid mentioned his rank, I snapped a salute and John broke out with a huge smile and shook my hand, and he had a firm hand shake. John struck me as quite an intelligent person, a person with a "can do" attitude, and it is reflected with his prestigious rank of Brigadier General! General Gong could not attend my military retirement ceremony but he sent a letter of congratulations, that was read at my retirement. Everyone was impressed that such a distinguished General Officer from the State of California sent me that letter of congratulations. I will miss General Gong, my Cousin John; but he lives within our hearts because of the love we have of him, and he lives because of our cherished memories of him.
With high regard and respect for a fellow Veteran! Betty, Christie and Harmony; may peace be with you in cherished memories of this Great person,Husband, and Father.
Carolyn Painter
August 6, 2012
Dear Betty and family,
It is with great sadness to hear of John's passing, he was such a special person in my husband Chuck and my life. John and Chuck spent a part of their Army National Guard Military Career working together at the USPFO. Chuck thought of John as one of his favorite friends and coworkers and felt a deep respect, admiration and appreciation for him. Chuck and I had attended ceremony's for John when he was promoted and we were proud and honored to be there. BG John Gong had also been my boss when I was working for the USPFO and I also have a deep respect and admiration for him as a boss and friend. BG John Gong was instrumental in helping with my late husband Chuck's funeral. I am truely sorry that I wasn't able to make the service as I am out of town presently. BG John will truely be missed.
Sid Bartholow
August 5, 2012
Dear Betty and family,
I am so sad because of the knowledge of John of Johns passing, and for the past three days I cannot get him off my mind. As you know, I was his First Sergeant for the last four years that I was in the California National Guard. That time period was the most enjoyable of my thirty year career in the Army and NG. He was a great leader, who always was concerned about his people. He always "Set the example". I will never forget that Sunday morning, when he called me into his office and told that there was a great Army training film on at the Fremont theater in SLO. The name of it is, "Saving Private Ryan" and our Detachment should see it on that Sunday (Drill Day)..... and we all did, and it was great training. What a man he was......I shall never forget him, for he is a great inspiration....Your "Top"
Lorie Noble
August 4, 2012
My deepest sympathies to Betty, Kristie, and Harmony. I am truly saddened at the loss of this great Army General, John Gong exemplified the Army Values; Loyalty, Duty, Respect, Selfless Service, Honor, Integrity, and Personal Courage. It was my honor to have worked with him at USPFO and to call him a friend. I'll never forget the "great Toro Creek bathtub move"- it was funny. He once wrote to me "Friends don't die." Rest in Peace my friend.
August 4, 2012
Betty, we were so sad to hear of John's passing. I have fond memories of our time spent getting Sara and Harmony settled at San Diego State University. He will be greatly missed.
Sue & Brad Wilkinson
August 4, 2012
I was so sad to hear of John's sudden passing and sorry I could not attend the service. His great smile and buoyant spirit will be sorely missed by the entire community. His contributions to the Chinese community and the city of San Luis Obispo are deeply appreciated. I would like to express my sympathy in person to the family. Jan Marx, Mayor of San Luis Obispo 781-7752
Allen Anderson
August 3, 2012
Our hearts go out to you at this time and in the days ahead.
After working with BG Gong when he was at USPFO I was lucky to have him as my friend and boss when he came to Camp Roberts MATES. He was always looking forward for the Guard. BG John Gong you “did good”.
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
MSG Allen Anderson USA(R)and Mary Jo
Brooke & Mia manfredi- llanez
August 3, 2012
I was very saddened to hear the passing of my cousin john. I remember last seeing him at my cousin tawnys wedding. He always had a smile on his face and was so nice to everyone. I am very sad he won't be at my wedding this October. I was unable to attend the service today due to my work schedule. Praying for Betty, christy and harmony, god bless.
August 3, 2012
I worked for, with, and around BG Gong for most of my career. I am proud to be able to say he was also a friend and mentor. He was somebody any soldier, even us lower enlisted types, could go up to and just talk to. His door was always open and his number was in speed dial. I was honored to be an 'invited guest' to both his promotion to BG and his retirement dinner/ceremony in which he mentioned me by name in his retirement speech. I was proud to be a SGT that helped keep him moving forward. To Betty and the girls, he was a great man that will be remembered forever by many of us. We share your pain. Love to the family.
SGT D'Hana Davis, US Army/CAARNG (ret)
Chris
August 3, 2012
General, you and Major Noble can now share a special time together reminiscing about the days gone by.
Rest in Peace my friend.
I miss you both.
Jasmine Zhou
August 2, 2012
My sincerest condolences to Betty and their family. He was such a nice and enthusiastic person. We will miss him very much.
Gary Fang
August 2, 2012
My deepest condolence to Betty and the family. My heart go out to all of you. Our Chinese society will always remember we once had such a great leader. we will always remember the time when he played Paff the Magic Dragon with all kids in the Chinese New Year Party. May the family find peace in this difficult time, we are with you.
Rob Martin
August 2, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers go out to Kristie, Harmony & Mrs Gong. Always remember the great memories shared together as a family. You now have an amazing guardian looking down on his girls.
-The Martins
August 2, 2012
Thank you for your service General.
L. Lemen, 1LT
ADA, US Army
Sandra Freeman
August 2, 2012
I worked with John at the USP&FO at Camp SLO. He was one of those whom I truly liked and admired. My deepest sympathy to his family, he will always be with you in your hearts and memories.
1SG Jaurez
August 2, 2012
To Betty and Family,
Our deepest sincerest condolences. Everyone is deeply saddened on your lost. GEN Gong was a great boss and all of us who worked for him thought the world of him and will miss him very much. I know this is a difficult time for you, however, if it is any consolation, GEN Gong was very much admired and respected.
Please accept our deepest sympathy to you and your wonderful family. May you all find the strength and courage to get through the days ahead.
Our thoughts and prayers will be with you.
Scott Murphy
August 2, 2012
My sincerest condolences go out to Harmony, Kristie, and Betty. I will miss and never forget John Gong. There was always an aura that was instantly palpable when being in John's presence. This aura was that of a driven leader, a patriot, a devoted family man, and a real gentleman. He will be deeply missed.
herman/patt kong
August 2, 2012
John, may your achievements be etched in the memories of all that passed your way. great men are measured by their achievements, not their physical stature thus you are a giant among us. herman and patt kong
August 2, 2012
Dearest Betty and Family.
Those we love don't go away,
They walk beside us everyday,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.
With Heartfelt Sympathy,
Cousin to John & Betty,
Betty Lom Gong of Loveland, Colorado
Sharon, Tom Lewis
August 2, 2012
Circle of family and friends, is never broken, "Hand in Hand, Heart to Heart"
John in to the arms of the Lord, there you will dwell until we all meet again.
Mai Wilson
August 2, 2012
My deepest condolence to Betty and the family. John had touched many of our hearts and he will be missed.
Freddie & Wendy Gomez
August 2, 2012
We remember the times that John used to play his guitar and sing to all the kids out at Camp SLO. We have such wonderful memories. Our heart and prayers go to the family.
Joyce
August 2, 2012
May the family find peace & comfort in their good & wonderful memories of him. RIP
August 2, 2012
During this most difficult time, my heart, thoughts and prayers go out to Betty, Kristie, Harmony and family.
Also to the numerous friends he leaves behind.
Most Sincerely,
Trudy from Morro Bay
Janice Wang
August 2, 2012
My deepest sympathies to the family on this truly untimely passing. John will be missed.
August 2, 2012
From all the members of the California Council of Chapters and the 35000 other retired officers in the state I can only offer a Bravo Zulu for a job well done.
Our sympathy and prayers go out to the family.
John Sammons
President
CALMOAA
Wendy George
August 2, 2012
One of the highlights of my time at the City of San Luis Obispo was working with John on the Iron Road Pioneers sculpture. Without his leadership, this beautiful piece of art would never have been completed. My heartfelt thoughts go to Betty and his family.
BIll Reals
August 2, 2012
John you will be missed, and I appreciate all the work that you did for CAL MOAA on the Central Coast. My prayers go out to you wife and family.
Bill Reals
Past President
CAL MOAA
August 2, 2012
Sir Thank you for being a Great Leader...
The Guard has loss a Great Man and one of our Best General's. May our prayers go out to you Betty and Family. May the Lord keep you in his arms at this time of your loss, that he gives you peace from your saddness. And may your Heart be filled with happy thoughts with all the great times you had for so many years together.
With our Love and Thanks...
MSG Terran E Jesse Jr and Jeannie Jesse
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