Jonathan Jay J.Jay "J.Jay" Heiden
1990 - 2020
Jonathan Jay (J.Jay)


Jonathan Jay Heiden, born January 29, 1990 (age 30), passed away on October 28, 2020 in Florence, South Carolina. After attending Charlotte Country Day School in Charlotte, North Carolina and then West Florence High School in Florence, South Carolina, J.Jay graduated in 2008. He then attended East Carolina University. J.Jay married Taylor Bryson Heiden on September 6, 2014. Whether you know J.Jay as a lacrosse player, truck enthusiast, or for his love of animals, J.Jay was a free spirit and enjoyed life through each of its seasons. If you truly knew J.Jay, he was warm, affectionate and loved. In addition to his parents, Dr. Larry Heiden and Robin LaVecchia, J.Jay is survived by his wife, Taylor Bryson Heiden, and son Benjamin (Benji) Laurence Heiden (age 5). He is also survived by his siblings Richard LaVecchia IV, Lola LaVecchia, Dr. Marc Heiden (Sherry), Derek Heiden (Melissa), and Nicole Sodoma, along with several nephews, nieces and cousins. He is also survived by his wife's family, Leigh and Robby Bryson and his three sister- in-laws. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Benjamin Laurence Heiden Trust at South State Bank.
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So seem real. Condolences.
Bryan Perry
January 29, 2021
Our condolences to the Heiden family for the loss of J. Jay
Fernando and Raquel Serrano
December 18, 2020
Dear Jay Jay, While I never had the opportunity to meet you, I have heard many stories about your life and varied interests from your dear mother, who loved you with her whole heart, that I felt I knew you. As a result, I realized that we would, have been great friends as a result. Unfortunately, we never had that opportunity. I am a great lacrosse fan and my son played lacrosse at Country Day a few years ahead of you and we would have had lots in common. I'm so sorry we never had that opportunity. Robin loved you so much and I just hope you realized that throughout your short life. May you rest in peace Jay Jay and we will pray for your sweet soul forever.
Michael D Riley, Sr.
December 1, 2020
I was a friend of JJay’s at ECU through the Delta Sigma Phi fraternity. JJay was a kind hearted person and was very passionate about his love for trucks and pitt bulls, especially his beloved Dozer. I was personally dismayed at learning the news of his untimely passing, and I have continued to pray for the Heiden family. It is my personal belief and hope in Christ that sustains me through the loss of such magnitude. To JJay’s family, I lost my younger brother when he was 16, and I know full well what the loss of a young family member feels like. Time will ultimately heal all things, but the road ahead will not be easy. Use this time to celebrate JJay’s memory and reflect on the good times you were able to share with him. And continue to share those memories with young Benji as he grows up. May God’s grace and peace be with you now and always.
Matt Peeler
November 15, 2020
My condolences to you and your family. May the God of comfort be with you all during this difficult time. (2 Cor. 1:2-4)
November 14, 2020
Our whole family sends heartfelt prayers for strength and comfort during this incredibly difficult time.
The Boan Family
November 10, 2020
Jj was a special kid.. .our family is devastated to say the least...there are no words...parents should not outlive their children....he is out there in the heavens now somewhere dancing with Grumma rose and doing calculus with papa julie....he can finally meet his namesake...we will be praying for everyone in our family especially uncle larry...we love jj.
Mindy heiden
November 5, 2020
Robin, Richard,Lola and Dr. Larry ,we are so sorry for your loss. J.J. was a special guy, he was always so sweet and kind. Our prayers are love are with you all at this time! Sincerely, Jim and Barb
Jim and Barb King
November 5, 2020
So sorry for your loss. Many prayers for Benji as I know he adored his dad.
Karen McPeters (Benjis 4K teacher)
November 3, 2020
Dr Larry, Dr Marc and families, our condolences to everyone for the loss of JJ, our prayers are with you all at this difficult time
Pauline Scripnick
November 3, 2020
To the Family, You have my sincere condolence during this profoundly sad time. Your Family is in my prayers. New to the area, JJ was among the first people I met. He was a joy to meet and do business with. He spoke proudly of his grandmother, the 1st Grand Matron of the Eastern Star in SC. We connected and had great conversations. He sent photos of his trip to Colorado and even thru texts he was personable, nice, kind, friendly and all of the superlatives described here by others. To his parents: The mourning of a Mother is the most grevious of earthly sorrows. My heart breaks for you both. Find solace in the fact that you raised a beautiful human. May the love and support of your family and friends cover you all. Rest easy JJ Heiden Be well...
Glaceria Mason
November 2, 2020
To all of J. Jay's family- We are heartbroken and so very sorry. Whenever J.Jay was present there was always so much fun and laughter! He wil be so missed. As many have mentioned in their tributes his magnificent smile will live on in our hearts forever. May the memory of his smile comfort all of you during this difficult time. Rest in Peace J.Jay.
Tracy and Julie Young
November 2, 2020
Our prayers go out to the entire Heiden family at the loss of J. Jay. Dr. Larry, Dr. Marc, Derek Nicole and Benji may you gain Strength from the Memories of the GOOD J Jay brought into the world. May G-d's Love support you and the ENTIRE Heiden and LaVecchia families in your LOSS of your son, brother, father. His GOOD Name will live long after he is gone. Julia V. James, Beth Israel Congregation
Julia V. James
November 2, 2020
Our thoughts and prayers are with JJ´s family for their tremendous loss which is also a loss for all who knew him. Bill and I have so many fond memories of our boys playing lacrosse at Charlotte Country Day and the friendship they shared over the years. JJ always had the biggest smile. Our hearts are breaking for everyone who knew him.
Bill and Teresa Sturges
November 1, 2020
To JJ´s family, we are sad to hear about your loss. We have many fond memories of JJ from when we often saw him during his high school days at Country Day. He always had a beautiful smile. He was so funny, kind and respectful. You have our deepest sympathy.
Roy & Kathy Langley
November 1, 2020
Dear Dr. Larry and the extended Heiden family, Please accept my heartfelt condolences on your most grievous loss. May the many past good memories of your son, brother, nephew and father strengthen you now and in the coming days.
Tim Nauss
November 1, 2020
Sending my love and prayers to the entire family! JJ will forever be a part of so many wonderful memories for my family and me! My heart is full of sadness. I´m so very sorry.
Amy Grace
October 31, 2020
J Jay, you will be missed my friend! Your friendship, loyalty and humor will never be forgotten. My condolences go out to your family. You were truly one of a kind!
Taylor Carter
October 31, 2020
May the good Lord bring you all peace in this difficult time. You family is in our prayers and thoughts.
Bill, Jane, Nick, and Ashlin Schuster
October 31, 2020
Dr.Larry, I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
October 31, 2020
Robin -- I am heart broken for you. Please know that you remain in my thoughts.
Scott Ferguson
October 31, 2020
Larry, Robin and both of your dear families: I am so very sorry for your great loss. I pray GOD will wrap his healing and comforting arms around you, like only HE can. You all remain in my thoughts and prayers! Much Love, Tamika Malone
Tamika Malone
October 31, 2020
God strength to the families. God grant me the SERENITY to Accept the things I cannot Change COURAGE to change the Things I Can an the Wisdom to know the Difference. As God embrace each one for he's the one to trust an the one to lean on for understanding.May God bless each one today an beyond
J Gattison
October 31, 2020
I had to send out my deepest sympathy to y'guys because I couldn't have met ppl more nicer & caring then the both Dr. Heiden's. My heart aches for y'all . May God give y'all lots of strength in this difficult time!!!
Delores Porter
October 30, 2020
I taught JJay when he was in the third grade at Charlotte Country Day! I am so sorry to hear about his death!
Sarah Dargan (Cornejo)
October 30, 2020
When you feel like talking or texting, I am always available for you. With love, June and Henry Merritt Jr. Larry. We are so sadden with the news of the loss of your son. Bless be God.
Dr Henry & June Merritt Ft Lauderdale, Fl.
October 30, 2020
To the Family, I didn't know Jonathan except as Benji's dad. I know that Benji loves his dad more than anything. I imagine what you all are going through is very painful. It's not much but know that I am praying for you all. I will love on Benji when he is with me at school. So sorry for this loss. In God's time you will all heal.
Emily E Altman
October 30, 2020
Our love and prayers are with you all at this sad time.
Laurie Matthews
October 30, 2020
Dr. Larry, No words will take away the pain. I'm thinking of you and your .
Debbie Beckwith Watson
October 30, 2020
I cannot begin to imagine the pain you and your family are feeling right now. J.Jay and our son Robbie are the same age. May you find peace in memories .
Cindy McIntosh (widow of Randy)
October 30, 2020
October 30, 2020
Prayers for the whole family
Rev. Mary Finklea
October 30, 2020
Dr. Larry, Robin, and family, I am so sorry to hear this! My thoughts and prayers are with you!
Murriel Coleman Calcutt
October 30, 2020
Drs Larry and Marc, I'm so sad to hear of the passing of your son and brother. May God's live comfort your hearts.
Tony Reed
October 30, 2020
Devastated to learn of J Jay's passing. I have such fond memories of him when we carpooled to Charlotte Country Day School. He always had a smile on his face, and he was always well mannered whenever I was around him. I am truly sorry for your loss, and I can only believe he is in a much better place now. Rest in Peace, J Jay!!
October 30, 2020
Robin, Larry, Richard, Lola, Marc, Derek, Nicole... Sam and I are heartbroken for all of you. J Jay was such a special young man. Please know our thoughts prayers and love are with each and every one of you.
Sam and Sandy McGuckin
October 30, 2020
Sending our deepest condolence, May God Bless y´all in your hour of need
Rhett and Mary Butler
October 30, 2020
He will be truly missed!! We can not even believe it. He was a very good friend. & one happy, outgoing & loving individual!! Our hearts are broken! We loved this young man! We are praying for you all. So very sorry Dr Larry & the rest of the family.
Chapel Carter & Family
October 30, 2020
Robin & Family, I'm really sorry for JJ's death. May God give you all the comfort, the peace, the strength during this very sad moment. JJ has always been very sweet and kind to me. I'll never forget him. May he rest in peace, in the arms of God.
Sueli Teruya
October 30, 2020
May god give the family strength and comfort during the difficult journey ahead
Stanley Gaddy
October 30, 2020
Robin & Family~ We are wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your hearts. Keeping your family in our prayers.
Jeanette Elliott
October 30, 2020
To the family jj was one of my husband's best friends he will be missed truly .we love you jay .new world jay always ur legacy will live on
Crystal Bruno
October 30, 2020
Dr. Larry I once read noone but a parent can know the love that a heart holds.I know you are heartbroken Please know you and your family are in my heart and prayers keep your famiy close if you can it will mean so much in the days ahead
Linda Harrelson
October 30, 2020