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for Roger Feldman
Dan Brown
July 2, 2004
Barbara and all,
To put in words .. No it is a sound from my heart that can best explain what Roger was to me. Warm, Faithful friend, brother, steadfast protector of my sister. Knowing that my sister is so loved by her spose always brought comfort to my soul. That is what I loved him so much for. And, oh so missed... See Ya'll all on the other side, Danny
Natalie Roush
June 29, 2004
To my Dear Friend Barbara...
I have, with heavy heart, been thinking about you as I go about my life. To be without your beloved is the hardest... Roger was so dear to you.
Listening to all the silly stuff you two did over the years was such fun for me. Now, You will be into another way of living.
It is hard, even now, for me to be alone, but I do love it. Now is the time for memories... and sweet they are. With the dozens of grand-children and friends, including your children, your life, hopefully, will fill with love and be content.
It is a different time of life. Many of my friends are having difficulty adjusting to a life alone without their partner by their side. We are all seeming to branch out on our own to new pursuits. Hopefully, you will eventually become OK with your life again.
My cowboy boot birdhouse still makes me smile as I pass it each day.
All my love to you, old friend.
Natalie
Pat & Brian Mason
June 25, 2004
Dear dear Barbara,
My thoughts are too deep, & my words too inadequate to pay sufficient tribute to your dear Roger. Forgive me, I cannot match some of those wonderful things people have said already - I simply have the profound thoughts, and we both feel privileged to have met him. We had only been in his company for 5 weeks - enough to rate him as a wonderful man and husband. How we wish we could have had his company for longer.
I said 5 weeks, but that was your two visits to us in the UK, and to that we have to add the time we were with you in Snoqualmie - so memorable. We have always reminisced about that stay - now we have only memories of it, of you both, to feed our emotions - sad ones just now. The day of his memorial service will be a day of great thought and emotion - thereafter, should we not celebrate his life? We are enriched for having known him, that is for sure.
Much love now and always,
Pat and Brian xoxo
Margaret Johnson
June 22, 2004
June 1, 2004
What a lovely idea to do a memorial book for Roger.
I printed out the pictures of your children - handsome group. Don't you feel blessed to have such a grand family. I wish I had a couple more, but I have to be content as the two I have are absolutely the greatest.
Well I will add a short paragraph for Roger...
Several years ago, I met Roger when we visited their home for a week. I was so impressed by his handy- work talent. And equally impressed by his wonderful hospitality to two country cousins he hadn't even met.
When he found out I didn't have an answering machine - guess what, I went home with one. I just thought that was the nicest thing. Well, he was a lovely man and will certainly be missed by all who passed his way.
Barb: please edit if need be - I'm not the writer that the rest of the Shelleys are. And honey, have courage, I know the ceremony will make you so proud.
Your loving cousin,
Margaret Shelley Johnson
Oregon, Illinois
No need to edit, dear cousin; it's a lovely tribute. Barb.
Jerry & Kathy McCullough
June 17, 2004
We extend our deepest sympathy to you, Barb and family, in the loss of Roger.
A good friend to Jerry for many years. From one junk collector to another - may heaven hold hidden treasures for you.
Peace,
Liana Mainzer
June 17, 2004
Grampa,
You know that I love you and will miss you so much, but I hope you also know that you are my HERO. My very own real life superhero. Ever since I was a little girl, I have held you on a pedastal above all the other men in my life. And as I grew up, you never fell from that place of adoration in my heart. You taught me by your example what it meant to have honor, to be trustworthy, and to to love unconditionally. You will forever be the standard I use to judge what a good man should be. Thank-you for your valuable lessons and most of all for your love. I am a better person because I had you in my life and you will be in my heart always. Love, Liana
Glynis Newman
June 16, 2004
God saw he was getting tired, A cure was not to be. So, he put his arms around him, and whispered,"Come with me." With tearful eyes we watched him suffer and saw him fade away. Although we loved him dearly we could not make him stay. A golden heart stopped beating. Hard working hands to rest; God broke our hearts to prove to us he only takes the best. I got this from my Dad before he passed away 2 yrs. ago Love to you all Glynis
Jim & Olive Cruden
June 16, 2004
We probably knew Rog the shortest time of everyone but nevertheless considered him a true friend.
He had a gentle warmth that reached out to everyone.
We have fond memories of "penny" card games when we all got together and Roger's quiet glee when he won.
We will miss you, Rog.You fought a good fight. We look forward to meeting again in our eternal home.
Diane & Dale Day
June 14, 2004
Roger was a very kind and gentle person. When we met Barb and Roger in Vancouver for lunch our granson Jonah was with us. Jonah was very shy and quiet. Roger was very patient and towards the end of the meal Jonah's crayon rolled across the table to Roger. Roger rolled it back to Jonah. That gesture "Broke the Ice". A man never stands so tall as when he bends down to help a child. Roger is missed by all of us.
Erin Neighbors (Kobernik)
June 14, 2004
Grandpa Roger
Selfless giver
Steady and faithful
Your love flowed like a river
Strong and quiet
Always there
From the beginning
You could always bear
Whatever came to you
Whatever came to us
You could fix it
In you we could put our trust
Always patient
Ever loving
Father, grandfather
Grandma's honey
We all love you
'Cause you love each one
No one forgotten
True, like the sun
If you felt pain
You didn't let it show
Solid like a rock
Until you had to go
You were rich in life
A truly rich man
Not by the world's standards
But by the master plan
A life of adoption
You took us all
All just children
And you took the call
With such a big heart
You lived your life
An unforgotten man
An unforgotten wife
So, though you're gone
And were still here
We'll be with you soon
When we meet in the air
I love you Grandpa, we all do
Ken Little
June 14, 2004
Well, Pa, we made it this far, didn’t we. Now what do I do without you? Watching a ball game, petting a dog, eating bacon, watching a sunset, touching a piece of fine wood, handling an old toy, finding a treasured piece of junk, using an interesting tool or gadget, talking to an inquisitive child…. For the rest of my life I’ll look at so many things in a different and wonderful way because of you. Thank you for loving me as your son and helping me along the journey toward becoming a whole person and a better man. I’ll forever remember all the little ways you touched my life. Thank you for your quiet generosity, your humble, accepting, and long-suffering example of what a real man is. You honored me by enveloping my family with your love and respect. Thank you for that. Thank you for hugging me and telling me that you loved me. You were a simple, imperfect man who discovered the perfection of love. I’ll always cherish that twinkle in your eye and your final words to me. I miss you so much already. Love, Kenny
Sharon Simons
June 11, 2004
In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson:
To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children...to leave the world a better place...to know even
one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.
And Roger did so richly succeed in all ways. He was always there for all of us in whatever way was needed. We are so very rich in memories, beginning with his marriage to Barb under our giant Hemlock tree. What a perfect day that was. Every room in my house has something he made for us, from spider webs to Christmas needlework pictures. I remember a wonderful Humpty Dumpty costume he designed and made for my daughter, Stephanie,out of chicken wire and plaster of paris. He could always come up with whatever was needed. He had a wonderful imagination. He coul also keep a persons confidences. He was the very best of friends and will be sorely missed forever. Mahalo and Aloha Roger. Martin and Sharon Simons
Charles & Janet Little
June 10, 2004
Roger was a caring and considerate person. The world needs more folks like Roger!
The wrens inhabiting his "watermelon" birdhouse just outside the window are part of his on-going legacy.
The needlepoint Christmas scene on our wall is a reminder of his many talents.
The family was very fortunate to have you Roger!
Sharon Davis-Snyder
June 10, 2004
Although I never had the opportunity to meet Roger, I know from those closest that Roger was an extraordinary person whom I would have loved to have known, a wonderful husband and a friend to many who loved him dearly in return for his endearing qualities.
I look forward to meeting Roger in Eternity. My dear Barbara and family. you are in my prayers for the 'Peace that passeth all understanding" at this time. May our Lord give you comfort and surround you with his arms of love to help heal the loss in time.
With love,
Your cousin, Sharon
Sharon Davis Snyder
Susan Bates
June 9, 2004
God gave Roger arms big enough to take in our entire family. We all loved him so much and he will be terribly missed. He was a father to many, a brother to others, and a best friend to all. He has indeed laid up treasure in heaven with all of the hearts that he touched while here on earth.
He and Barb loved their thunder storms, and here in Montana we have some really awesome ones over the mountains. One night, the two of them took their cups of coffee, and at 2 in the morning went out to the shop and sat in the open door in lawn chairs enjoying the "light show."
He had a wonderful sense of humor, and even when ordering a carrier for his portable oxygen tank he told them to "rush" it over as he wanted to go bowling. The next day he told Barb she hadn't given him a kiss that morning. She told him she didn't want to give him her bronchitis, so he suggested she give him a kiss on the forehead. As she leaned down to do so he quickly licked his hand with a wet tongue and then reached up and wiped it on her lips so she'd feel "kissed." She threatened him with her cane, but we were all having a wonderful laugh.
As he was ofter heard to say:
"ROGER GOOD GUY." Amen my brother
Barbara Feldman
June 9, 2004
How I shall miss my beloved husband, lover, confidant... He leaves behind a beautiful legacy of unconditional love and acceptance. I'll never forget you, Sweetheart; we'll meet again in Eternity...
Your Barb
Wayne Little
June 9, 2004
Roger was one of the best men I have ever known. In his steady quiet manner, he impacted my life, the lives of everyone around him, and I am sure, a myriad of lives we know nothing about in very powerful and lasting ways. I feel honored to have known him.
Craig Nuttal
June 9, 2004
Farewell Roger, an original, an individual, a masterpiece. Celebrating that; your uniqueness overflowed the quiet times. Every start is important in the sky.
Lorraine Mainzer
June 9, 2004
Roger did not know how God used him. There is a story I love about a water bearer in India who had two large pots, each hung on each end of a pole, which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it. The other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master's house. The cracked pot arrived only half full.
For many years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water in his master's house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do. After many years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. "I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you."
Why?" asked the bearer. "What are you ashamed of?"
"I have been able, for these past years, to deliver only half my load. This crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master's house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don't get full value from your efforts," the pot said.
The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, "As we return to the master's house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path." Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some. But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load...
The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of your path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you've watered them. For many years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master's table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house."
Each of us has our own unique flaws. I am a cracked pot. I'd guess we're all cracked pots in some way. But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. There are a lot of unique flaws and unseen qualities in people like Roger adding value to Life. Remember to appreciate all the beautifully flawed people in your life every single precious day that you have them. Thank you Roger, for being a cracked pot, for feeding my soul and letting God use you to water the flowers along my life's path.
Kate Nelson
June 9, 2004
I love you and miss you Dad
Margie & Ed Pickett
June 8, 2004
In his loving, quiet, good humored way Roger touched our lives and our hearts. He was a beloved Brother, always ready to lend an ear or a helping hand if needed. and we shall miss him sorely. Go with God Roger. Love you, Margie and Ed
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