Arlene Marilyn Shmaeff
Jan. 3, 1941 - Oct. 23, 2013
Arlene passed away peacefully at home, surrounded by family and friends, after an unsuccessful but very courageous battle with a terrible form of lymphoma. She loved family, she nurtured close friendships and she built community. She was an educator, a mentor to many teachers and artists, and an artist and profound critical thinker herself. She collaborated with passion and intelligence in designing strategies for teaching and learning. She struggled for social justice and the environment. She inquired deeply into the spiritual dimension of life and encouraged this same inquiry in those around her.
Arlene grew up in Los Angeles, and graduated from Fairfax High School and UCLA. She taught in public elementary schools in Los Angeles and the Bay Area and at a progressive school in Philadelphia. She received a Masters of Arts in Education Administration at San Francisco State University in 1977. She left the classroom to become Education Director at the Museum of Children's Art in Oakland (MOCHA, 1994-2010), where she developed programs and curriculum and trained teachers in using art in the classroom to foster creativity and inclusivity, in the project approach, in critical thinking and in emotional intelligence. Later, as a consultant, she continued training and mentoring teachers in many settings. She believed fervently in public education as a matter of inclusivity and equity. She consulted and presented workshops for educators in many colleges and education systems. The teachers she trained and the students they taught learned to believe in themselves and give witness to their lives through their journals, their art, and their music. In a time of cutbacks, Arlene fiercely believed that a just society is built on public education, where there is a need for the arts as creative expression as well as a primary ingredient of learning.
As an artist, Arlene created many paintings, collages and installations. She had gallery shows, but also enjoyed sharing her work generously with friends, and they now hang on the walls of loved ones. Seeing life itself as a canvas, she always insisted on beautifying the environment around her, whether that be her home, the classroom, the forest, or community spaces. She was known for her keen eye and knack of straightening pictures on the wall. She hiked in nature daily with her dog Max, grew a gorgeous garden, and created beauty everywhere, be it with cut flowers in the bathroom or through her loving smile and charismatic ways.
Arlene loved family and friends and would leave no stone unturned to enrich their lives. She leaves behind her husband of 32 years, Terry Kupers, her son Hyim Jacob Ross, her stepsons Eric Kupers (and his husband James Wagner) and Jesse Kupers (and his wife, Karin Graves and their children, Shiloe, Chloe and Judah), her brother Bob Shmaeff (and his wife Osie), her beloved niece, nephews and cousins, her godson Josh Weiss and her goddaughter Bessie Weiss.
There will be a Memorial at 6 PM on Saturday, November 9 at Kehilla Community Synagogue, 1300 Grand Avenue, Oakland, CA 94610. Bring food and drink to share. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions are welcomed at the East Bay Regional Parks Foundation.
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Harvey Freed
November 17, 2013
Even back in High School, Arlene always knew what had real value and what was just fluff. She was the best.
Harvey Freed
Katya Gerwein
November 10, 2013
I'm so sorry to hear of her death as was my mother, Karen Weiner. I have many warm memories of Arlene from my childhood. May her memory be for a blessing.
Katya (Weiner) Gerwein
Leah Korican
November 6, 2013
I'm so sorry about her passing. Arlene was an amazing mentor to me. She inspired me as a teacher and an advocate for arts education. I'll carry her inspiration forward. May her family find comfort and healing.
Eva Pettersson
November 6, 2013
Dear Arlene, May your journey into the Mystery be colorful and peaceful. I'll miss your sweet face and interesting points of views at our monthly reading group. With Love and Gratitude, Eva
November 1, 2013
Arlene was a treasure and we are all so very lucky to have had her in our lives.She remains in our hearts and with that, she will live on as we keep her wise and astute words in our daily routines.
Wendy Shmaeff
October 29, 2013
My dearest Aunt Arlene, you have been a treasure in my life since the first time I met you. You touched my heart with your amazing spirit and zest for life. I will be forever grateful for your words of wisdom, inspiring me to be a better teacher and person. I will miss you more than words can say....
October 29, 2013
Wow! What a shock. I am so sorry to hear she is gone. Peace be with her family.
Susan Cassidy
October 28, 2013
Arlene. Amazingly kind, enthusiastic, gracious, and open-minded. She has worked, as Ellen said, with us for about 4 or 5 years to help bring a richer experience to our children. For her loved ones, please know how important she was to us whose lives she touched. Thank you. You are in my heart and mind.
October 28, 2013
I'm so sorry to hear about your lost. May God comfort you all. 2 Cornthians 1:3,4
Ellen Franz
October 28, 2013
It is impossible to imagine the world without Arlene in it. She has worked for several years now with the staff at Bayside/MLK in the Sausalito Marin City School District, helping us to bring the arts to our students. Her ongoing presence will be greatly missed, yet her spirit and ideas and love for life will continue to be part of us, each and all.
—Ellen Franz
October 27, 2013
I am so sorry to hear of Arlene's passing and my heart goes out to her family and loved ones. She was and continues to be an inspiration to me as an arts educator, wonderful mother, and outstanding person. Blessings to Arlene and to her family.
Trena Noval
October 27, 2013
Arlene was such an amazing presence and force in this world. So hard to believe she has passed, but the light of her spirit will live on in all of us who had the honor and pleasure of knowing her.
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