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Eric Bayer Obituary

Eric Kenneth Bayer On January 2, 2010, Eric Kenneth Bayer passed away. Born June 3, 1975 in Norwalk, Connecticut, Eric was halfway through his 34th year at the time of his death. A former east coast dweller, Eric spent many formative years in Maui, eventually choosing to make San Francisco his home. Eric was called to be of service to others. In the short time he lived in San Francisco, he reached out to and helped hundreds of people from all walks of life. The home he made on Fair Avenue became a community of artists, cooks, healers and musicians; many who credit him with enriching their lives and their spirit. In his work, Eric was moved to create programs that helped people help themselves. Closest to his heart were P.O.W.E.R. (Peer Outreach Workers Exemplifying Recovery) and Food for Thought. He was a graduate of New College, in San Francisco, and worked with the San Francisco Department of Public Health, CATS, Homeless Outreach Team. He is missed by many people including his parents Harvey & Judy Bayer, his sister Lisa Bayer and his partner Ashley Kish. A memorial gathering of friends will be held at Dolores Park Church, 455 Dolores Street, Tuesday, January 5th at 1PM In lieu of donations or flowers, the family is requesting that we begin Eric's vision of the Web of Kindness by offering time and assistance to someone in need.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle on Jan. 5, 2010.

Memories and Condolences
for Eric Bayer

23 Entries

Lorna Brod

December 8, 2023

I still remember you, you crazy howly. And miss you. I´m sure the angels have more time to recover on their laurels now that you have been there.

Heidi L

June 24, 2010

My dear friend, Eric, you will live on in our hearts and spirits....You'll never really be gone because of the ripples you created in your world while you were here. Love, Love, Love.

Jane Newhard-parks

February 23, 2010

Eric, what can I say I miss you. I miss your warmth, your touch, your great smile, your corny jokes, your patience and enthusiasm with Willow. I miss hearing how you think of things and I miss your counterpoint to my way of thinking. Thanks for all of it!! your partners in feet & food, Jane and Willow

Eric in London, June 2009

February 2, 2010

January 15, 2010

Eric, you are one of the most beautiful and shining people I have ever met. I feel so grateful to have met you, if even for a short time. My life is enriched and changed forever because you knocked on my door. Thank you. I will never ever forget you. Shine on sweet beautiful man, shine on. Aloha.

Jenn Holley

January 15, 2010

I feel so blessed to have met you during this last year, Eric. Wherever you are now, I'm sure the bright light of your soul is warming the stars with its brilliance, kindness, and unconditional love. Feeling very lucky we crossed paths my friend, and I have a feeling our paths will cross again. You are magnificent and I miss the shining light of you very much right now. Shanti shanti shanti Sweet boy.

Kim Coshnear

January 11, 2010

Eric was the real thing. He embodied loving kindness; he made it look easy. He talked about starting a "web of kindness," consisting of acts like reading a story or fluffing a pillow for someone in pain. How can we do it? Should there be a "web" site for people to post available times?

Carol Fruiterman

January 10, 2010

I am sorry to hear about Eric's passing. I did not know him well, but from what I have heard and read, Eric will remain in the hearts of so many people. Eric, you have left a wonderful legacy, and I understand that many are continuing your work. My thoughts are with Judy, Harvey, Lisa, and Ashley, as well as other family members. Love, Carol

Anthony Matyjaszewski

January 8, 2010

Eric, you were my best friend when we were growing up in Pittsburgh. I'm glad we had a chance to catch up and talk a few times over the past few years, but I'm sad that we will not have a chance to reconnect in person, like we had planned. You were a great person, and you taught me so much. I'll miss you, though I know that you must be in a good place right now. Check in on me from up above, every now and then. My condolences to your parents Judy and Harvey, and your sister Lisa.

Melissa Anderson

January 8, 2010

Eric, I loved you like many others. I will miss you like many others. I will carry your memories with me like many others. I promiss to keep practicing the many things I learned with you!! I hope this true also for many others.

January 8, 2010

Eric was my second cousin, and I only had the chance to meet him once at his grandmother Flo's funeral. I remember his friendly nature, and feeling like I couldn't believe this was my FAMILY member but I didn't know anything about him. I won't express regret, but rather conviction that his death will serve as a reminder to connect with family. Rest in peace, Eric, and may your memory serve as a blessing and comfort to your parents, sister and partner. Love, your cousin, Mara

January 7, 2010

Eric- we only met once but, boy, was it memorable. I feel so lucky to have shared a few hours with you and your friends in the house on Fair Ave this past summer. We (you, mainly) whipped up that great meal so unexpectedly while we laughed and laughed in the big kitchen, talked story in the front room, made some music, and all sat in the front yard staring at the stars, talking about nothing and everything (when I realized it was a regular occurrence for friends of all kinds to just drop by to see if you were around). We discovered we grew up only a few towns apart, ditched it for Maui, ending up in City by the Bay. Small world. I will always remember that great big grin and gentle, soothing voice of yours. Aloha - a hui ho.

Tina Bartole O'Keefe

January 6, 2010

How many times I have thought of you in the past 20 years. I will always remember your opening line. "Penny for your thoughts" You were my first love, my high school sweetheart & I will always cherish you.
I am still in shock to know that you are gone.
My thoughts and prayers are with your family and friends as they come to terms with this loss.
I will always love you.

Cesar Iglesias

January 6, 2010

Eric....you helped me find myself and you never knew it.I saw you as a big brother and i never told you, i would like to thank you for your love, understanding, support and all the beautiful work you did, all the lives you changed and the insight you left with me.

Irma Amador

January 6, 2010

Eric you will be missed but we keep the memories and hope they will get us through this hard time.

Love you.

Greg Musantry

January 5, 2010

Eric made a huge impact in my life as he did for many others. In my short stay on Maui, Eric became a loyal and inspirational friend very quickly. He displayed generosity, love, peace and hope to all that crossed his path. I will never forget him. Shine on Eric.

TaTaneka Thibeaux

January 5, 2010

My deepest sympathy and condolence goes out to the Bayer family. Eric was indeed a angel and will be greatly missed by those he touched. I am very grateful to have known him.

Denise Boaz

January 5, 2010

Eric, I was heartbroken when I heard of your passing. I've known you since you lived with Heidi, Erica and Josh on Maui. You are such an inspiration to Erica. Thanks for the crazy dinners I got to be a part of. You were one of a kind and will be greatly missed.

James Leonard

January 5, 2010

Eric, today we are all Eric Bayers because he showed us by his living example of how to love each other unconditionally. He refused to say no to anyone in need. He is alive in our hearts now and we must follow his example of how to treat each other with love, kindness, compassion, dignity and respect. We (our homeless) trusted him and we are sorry we burdened him with our pain from many years of abuse and mistreatment by people and family we trusted. He took our pains upon his shoulder and maybe, since he is such an innocent soul, he could not bear our pain any longer. WE LOVE YOU ERIC !

James Leonard
Your Friend. Thank you for saving my life, Sir! I am in your debt and vow to carry on the way in which you have shown us. Unconditional love for all without judgement. May we be half the loving soul that you are. We were blessed by your parents who brought you into this world to lead us to our salvation, literally.

Eric saves lives which is the best act of love one can share with another. Let us all act like Eric, every day in every way.

James Leonard
SF POWER Team Member

Angeles Amabilis

January 5, 2010

Death - the last sleep?
No, it is the final awakening.
~ Walter Scott ~

Eric was my friend and best co-worker.
Eric, always you are been in my hart.
Condolences to the family and friends
God Bless you.

Sharon Prather

January 5, 2010

Judy and Harvey, I am so very sorry for the loss of Eric and the uncertainity of it all. The Bayer family and all the people Eric's work has touched are in my constant prayers.--The Prathers

Harry Beharry

January 5, 2010

The hardest pain a parent can go through is when they loose a child especially at a young age as Eric at age 34. We at CATS send our condolences to the family, friends and love ones. Our prayers, love and thoughts are with you, Eric will greatly be missed. Harry

January 5, 2010

A bright and warm light has been put out. I love Eric and have been so proud to have him work for me. He truly "fed the souls" of many, and the tummies as well.Aloha Eric....Rann

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