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Fred DaMert

1946 - 2015

Fred DaMert obituary, 1946-2015, Kentfield, Marin County

BORN

1946

DIED

2015

Fred DaMert Obituary

Frederick Allen DaMert

July 5, 1946 - July 17, 2015

Fred DaMert- husband, father, inventor, business owner, light wizard, sunset/moonrise photographer, enthusiast of all things outdoors and artful, flew to the rainbow in the sky July 17, 2015, he was 69 years old. He grew up in Piedmont, California and spent his life living on all sides of the wonderful San Francisco Bay. Fred was a social man with a passion for hiking the High Sierra's, cycling on Mount Tamalpais and sailing the San Francisco Bay; his life was cut short due to ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) which he contracted from his military service. He often said going to the Vietnam War was "the best gift in the worst package" because it taught him to appreciate and love every moment once he returned home. Despite his limited physical endurance from the illness his smile and positivity never left, and he always dreamed of returning to the mountains he once rode. He taught us to live past the suffering of seeing him sick and just enjoy being alive together now. Fred passed away peacefully in his home in the Kent Woodlands and is now smiling warmly in our hearts.

When he returned back to The Bay after serving, oh how lively he lived! He grew out his post-war buzz cut and his once straight hair turned into a free-spirited curly fro. He attended Merritt College and SF State where he studied anything that ended in Â'ology'. In 1973 living in San Rafael he created a prism out of acrylic. Accidentally he took the mold out too soon and the prism bent into an arc creating a rainbow shape to match the color. This inspiration sparked the beginning of what was to be a 40 year long career creating educational toys and gifts with his company based out of Berkeley, The DaMert Company. From solar system mobiles, glow-in-the-dark star stickers and brain teaser puzzles, his products, and beyond that, his personality, ignited anyone who came in contact with the same imaginative awe he was experiencing.

We'll never forget how Fred's love always shined stronger than the pain. He was a spirited man thanks much in part to his grounded and loving, as well as, DaMert Company business partner and Ph.D. Rocket Scientist wife, Gail DaMert, whom he is survived by. Fred passed on his wildness and dance moves to his son and daughter, Brian and Sara DaMert who (and he would be the first to tell you if you met him) play in rock and roll bands together called The Tambo Rays and WATERS. Fred is also survived by his artistic sister Mary Ann Cleary and Bay Area Radio Hall of Fame husband Michael Cleary, along with his niece Kelly Castaneda, her husband Francisco and their son Sebastian, and his niece Amanda Chase, her husband Matt and their son Drexel. They will all admit Fred was always the best person to sit next to at family gatherings due to his quick wit and funny stories.

Fred was a kind man who only wanted to love, inspire and make others laugh and enjoy themselves as much as he enjoyed life himself. Even facing this debilitating disease not once did his smile vanish, it only grew bigger and bigger and brighter and brighter. His final months alive were full of happiness, cheer and wine surrounded by friends and family. He lives within those who's lives he touched so passionately and lovingly, and will always be thought of at any sight of natures beauties. A life celebration is being planned for end of August; contributions in lieu of flowers may be donated to ALS Association Golden West Chapter. Thank you Fred for showing us to dream beyond this reality.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Jul. 24 to Jul. 26, 2015.

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John Cooper

July 18, 2021

I met Fred during his brief time working as an auto messenger for Bank of America. Our mutual love of photography put us together after work. and he introduced me to his "Spectarc" product launch. I have had the prism he gave me since and it has hung in many windows, from Montclair to three other stares and three European countries. The people that visited my home always asked about the prism which gave me an opportunity to remember and talk about Fred. He was one of many people I lost touch with during my 22 years of job relocations. I never ended back in the Bay Area, but it would have been wonderful to share life stories and travel experiences with such a remarkable spirit. I´m now 78 and losing the likes of Fred never gets easy. I do have my prism to make smile and remember him.

Tad Swida

May 12, 2018

I owe Fred a book, lent to me in 1970-something, it spent years in a box that I finally unpacked after many moves. He had wanted it back, and ludicrously late as I was, I figured it was at least worth the gesture of sending it back. So I looked Fred up some months ago and that is how I came upon this obit, a surprise because I always thought of Fred as, well, eternal. I had been a fellow messenger at Bank of America, and fell into Fred's orbit, as a prismer of sorts, running around the Bay Area placing prisms in stores as best I could. It did not amount to much, just a handful of stores picked them up, although I did get into the Nature Store. Work and play were entwined, running around Sutro Baths, Oakland hills, partying, hanging out at Bob Shultz's across the street from the warehouse, with Manney the photographer, with Jimmy and Elaine, climbing up those inside warehouse stairs to the loft, a Fred contraption of pine boards, coach bolts and lots and lots of Hot Glue to see how Gary Ferguson's latest prism castings were doing. There was the sailboat, of course, and the slope soaring RC gliders he flew. And his epic Army stint stories complete with helicopter training, and Good Soldier Shweik-like escapade to Germany, stuff I truly appreciated because I was in the same insane Army and knew how it all worked, and understood how much finesse and courage it took to be Soldier Fred. But here I was, too late to return the book, and saddened I let it drop. Then last night Fred came to me in a dream, so strangely real that I had to reconcile his passing with his presence, and thought well, a mistake was made and Fred is alive and it was a really happy thought, and so we talked, we were in Fred's parents' house in Piedmont, sitting across the dining room table, and so, "What have you been up to Fred?" and "Oh not much, and you?" and we small-talked, he in his eternal corduroy jeans, earth-toned t-shirt, and those unruly curls and it felt so warm and friendly to see Fred again. And in the middle of it all he dropped small piece of personal advice that was Fred-like low key , but so spot on that I did a double-take because we had not been talking about it and how did he know? And then I woke up and Fred was gone. I miss you Fred, it is only in retrospect that I truly value people and events that seemed trivial and matter of fact back then, and I think this is where we are different, because you had the knack of valuing it all back then. Thank you for everything Fred, and I do value the advice you gave me. Knowing you made life richer.

Michael Bartosewcz

January 19, 2017

It was always amazing to be with Fred. He had a very quick wit, he was way faster than me. And, Oh My God, he was so so funny!! I miss you Fred!

John Cooper

March 6, 2016

Sad passing of a remarkable and wildly imaginative man. I met Fred at Bank of America where we worked as messengers together. I spent many hours in his warehouse studio in SF helping to polish his first prism design, one of which has hung in a window everywhere I have lived since the 1970's. The creative energy and love in the world is diminished without him, but his spirit remains.

Jack Alpert

December 6, 2015

Sailing with Fred, doing almost anything with Fred was wonderful. He could handle the things that scared the rest of us into submission.

Jim Garber

December 4, 2015

Fred, you will be missed! What an amazing mind & contagious cheer. I feel so blessed to have worked with you and fortunate that I had the chance to share some of your wonderful products with so many kids. And thanks for the tip about the signal light on top of Mt. Diablo. You were always full of tidbits and trivia. Vaya con Dios! Jim Garber, Discovery Toys

Annette Ahlmann

November 12, 2015

That's not a shooting star, that's just Fred sparklng-up the sky as he did our lives when he walked among us. My gratitude to him for his mentoring and the joy he brought to all of his collegues through his endeavors. Many students may not know his name, but they know his products which inspire curiosity and induce a love for science.

Leisha Rios

August 19, 2015

Gail and family I am so sorry for your loss. Fred was an awesome, unique man. I was blessed to have known him, his kind, generous, inquisitive spirit.

August 19, 2015

What a beautiful tribute to a creative soul - Gail and family please accept our heartfelt condolences to you and your family -he was too young to lose.

July 27, 2015

I am so sorry to hear of Fred's death. He was such a positive person, always willing to lend a hand, tell a funny story and keep in touch with his photos. He was also very proud of his children and such a generous soul.
I will miss him.
Lesley
Fig Garden

Here is one for you, Fred.

Jeannie Ray

July 27, 2015

It is true that any time I see a rainbow my thoughts are of Fred. I loved how he would marvel at rainbows, sunrises and sunsets and then photograph them so he could share it with everyone. In health and through his illness his smile was constant. I am so thankful for my friendship with Fred and his beautiful family.
Rest in Peace Fred. Enjoy the rainbows from above.

July 27, 2015

A great talented kind and generous man, friend,
who loved his family will be missed by everyone who knew him

Joseph & Trish Mangiafico

July 27, 2015

Dear Gail & Family: Trish and I were saddened to hear of Fred's death. With deepest sympathy for you and family on your your loss.

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