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Mary Pitts Obituary

Mary Pitts

To our enduring sadness, Mary Santoro Pitts unexpectedly but quietly passed away on May 24. Mary was a touchstone and central force for her loving and devoted family, and also for her many friends. Born in New York City on October 2, 1940, to Annarosa (Mamoliti) and Nicholas Paul Santoro, she grew up in Tenafly, New Jersey, and received her higher education at Hood College, NYU and Columbia. After earning an MA in teaching French at Columbia, she spent a year at the Sorbonne, where she deepened a lifelong love of France and French literature. In her early years teaching French at Mayfield High School in Ohio, she inspired a number of now internationally distinguished university faculty to pursue their careers in education. She was, in addition, a photographer of internal landscapes and portraiture. She earned an MFA in Photography at San Francisco State University, studying there with prominent Bay Area photographers including Oliver Gagliani, Lisette Model, and Don Worth. Her work includes a series of Mothers and Daughters, which was shown in the Bibliothèque nationale de France in Paris.

For the past 25 years, she focused intensely on the San Francisco Botanical Garden, for many years as a docent and for the past ten years as a member of the SFBG Society's Board of Directors. Mary was passionate about the Garden's role in teaching ecology and biodiversity, and its being a living museum of plants and trees. She loved the seasonal beauty of the Garden, nearly unique among the world's botanical gardens for the breadth of its collections of plants from around the globe. She led innumerable walks around the Garden for interested visitors and botanical groups and included memorable stories about the plants themselves, their features, propagation and interrelationship with the other plants and the animals around them. She both believed and taught the 'web of life'.

Mary is survived by her husband Lawrence Pitts; her daughter Jennifer Pitts, son-in-law Sankar Muthu, and grandchildren Lucia and Nicholas, who live in Chicago; and her son John, who lives in London; her nieces Alyce Santoro, Anne Pitts Londergan, and Caroline Adams Pitts; and her nephew Michael Pitts.

Mary was a joyous, generous, excited, engaged and loving wife, mother and friend. All of us whom she loved and who loved her miss her dearly.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made in Mary's name to the San Francisco Botanical Garden Society.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by San Francisco Chronicle from May 30 to May 31, 2020.

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Monica Schwalbenberg-Pena

May 14, 2025

I babysat for the Pitts family when Jennifer and John were little. Mary was such an interesting, kind and funny person. I remember that she told me an anecdote about how she painted her grandmother`s dentures when she was a little kid. although I am late in my condolences, I send them nonetheless.

Aghjayans

July 1, 2020

Our family met Mary a year ago. She had invited us to visit the Botanical Gardens for a tour during the spring bloom but unfortunately due to the pandemic everything closed and now she is in a better place.
Rest in Peace dear Mary.

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Ashot Ghazaryan

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William McCarron

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Lynne & Perry

June 3, 2020

We met Mary a few years ago. She and Larry picked plums for jelly and mostarda at our Sonoma Ranch. She had invited us to visit the Botanical Gardens every year but unfortunately we never had a chance. A very nice lady. We will miss her yearly visit.

Burt P Johnson

June 3, 2020

My connection to Mary after high school was limited to class reunions where she was among those I most looked forward to seeing. In addition to her warmth, humor and down-to earth personality, she had a dignified and almost regal quality that I greatly admired. I will miss her.

Paul M Millard

June 2, 2020

Mary was the best. I grew up with her in Tenafly, New Jersey. I doubled with her at our Senior Prom and kept in touch during her years at Hood. We had a lot in common as we both attended the Sorbonne, in Paris, though not at the same time. She was very helpful to me when I moved to California. My wife and I even got to attend one of her personal botanical lectures. She will be missed.

Steven Grand-Jean

May 31, 2020

Mary was the very best. Enough said! Steven Grand-Jean

Susan Weidenfeld

May 31, 2020

I was part of Marys French class at Mayfield High School in the late 1960s. She was a teacher of remarkable excellence. I am so sorry to hear of her passing. Im so very grateful for the opportunity to study with her.

Abby Chapman

May 31, 2020

Mary will be dearly missed. She was all things mentioned above, and more, to this long time neighbor. A cuisine queen! An invite to her kitchen or a meal, always special. A cup of tea, a chat, her interest in Antiques, our children as playmates. Memories are forever. To family, friends, my love and sympathy.

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