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Valeria
July 6, 2025
Just had a burst of memories about you while here on Sardegna, wish you were here just like our days at the Doral.
Alan Andreini
January 19, 2019
Miss you Matt. Give us strength as we carry on with you in our hearts.
John Adams
May 19, 2016
I knew Matt at Middlebury. He was a year behind me and walked onto the swim team not really knowing how to swim fast. He was an amazing athlete and by my senior year I was forced to swim in his wake. I'll always remember his smile and his stories. I can still recall his story about deciding to peel out in an icy parking lot, how he quickly regretted the impetuous act and the mock screaming sound he made as he reenacted the comic scene. Matt was truly one of a kind.
Heather Dorf Rawlings
July 6, 2014
Not sure why, but thought of Matt today. remembering his smile, his sense of humor, and the light that he brought into every room. Wanted to let you know that he's not forgotten.
David Lissek
April 27, 2014
A prayer of peace in honor of Matthew's birthday. We recite the Kaddish and light a candle each year to commemorate both his birth and the day Matthew passed:
Oseh Shalom B'imromav, Hu Yaseh Shalom Aleinu V'yichol Y'Israel V'imru Amein.
Damon Sacco
August 14, 2013
Matty, I am in Kona now and wishing you were here, but then again I guess you are with us here in Kona. Will be thinking of you.
Tami Larson
August 12, 2013
Matty,
You have been on my mind so much lately. Im really missing you, your spirit and passion. So few in this world on so many levels what you had. Ill be seeing you in our next life. I love you.
February 11, 2013
Yes we do miss you, son. If only we could watch you riding like a champion, running so effortless, swimming with such strength or talking like an Aussie from the outback or a Cuban Al Pacino, if we could see you dancing with life and smiling with us. Yes we miss you, but remember everything you are love, compassion, and someday we will reunite. We miss you and love you, too.
February 9, 2013
I miss you, Matty!
February 9, 2013
Matty, I miss you so much. Thinking of you and still grasping onto this feeling there has to be a way you can't be gone if I could only find you wherever you are and pull you back!! I'm sure I found you in an instant once listening to certan music over a year ago. Wherever you might be, man we wish you didn't leave where we are!
Diana S
September 6, 2012
Thinking of you, Matt. Gotta qualify for Kona in the next two years, help me out!!
Maryann McIver
August 15, 2012
miss you matty
d
October 1, 2009
heading over to kona, matt. c ya there!
D
October 19, 2008
We did it Matt!
You are the MAN!!!!!!!!!
It was incredibly windy on the bike to Hawi, but I drafted you all the way back to Kona for T2. Shhhhhhhh. ;-)
Big mahalos to you and your parents.
Let's regroup soon for Kona 2009...
D
September 25, 2008
To Matt's Mom (and Dad),
Matt's gonna finish Kona strong...again... and we're gonna cross the line together.
"Never forget..."
:-)
Gloria Cevallos
September 18, 2008
To D(Hawaii),
Matt always wanted to return to Kona, and it warms my heart to know his spirit will be there with you.
Matt's mom
D
September 17, 2008
Got my Kona slot, Matt!
See you there, my friend.
D
January 16, 2008
Aloha Matt,
Thanks for your inspiration.
Piper Walker
January 9, 2008
A year has past...I have no idea how. I am still not ready to say goodbye. So, until I see you again;
My dreams are open for you to visit.
My heart open to sharing memories of you with others.
My soul joyus to reunite with you when the time comes.
You are missed, every day, you are missed, always.
David Lissek
January 4, 2008
On this first anniversary of Matthew's passing, we remember a tremendous man and grieve his terrible loss:
O-seh sha-lom bim-ro-mav, hu ya-a-seh sha-lom alei-nu Ve-al kol Yis-ra-eil, ve-i-me-ru: a-mein.
He who makes peace in His heights, may he make peace upon us and upon all Israel, Amen.
Stephen Sahaj
December 21, 2007
Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
My deepest sympathy to you both on the loss of your son. I have been friends with Matty since childhood, but the times I remember most are the years when we approached adulthood. The hours upon hours we spent riding our bikes together where some of the best days of my life. I can still remember the day when I broke my clavicle, and Matt was there to pick me up and get me home. From that day, till years later when he participated in my wedding, Matt and I were true pals. His influence on my life, even today has me living just up the road from his beloved Boulder, Colorado. I feel blessed to have known Matt, and will miss him greatly.
Antoinette Guy-Anwar
November 7, 2007
Dear Gloria & Moe,
As the holiday season approaches, my heart goes out to you, your family & all of Matty & my mutual friends. The holiday party scene will be missing one if it's brightest stars. It was one of our most favorite seasons of the year in San Fran (other than Halloween). I have countless memories of attending all the "holiday parties" and seeing Matty looking like he just stepped out of the GQ Magazine. Me and my girlfriends loved running into him & getting our "Matty seal of approval" on our gowns and outfits. I went with him to Giorgio Armani when he picked out that Purple Velvet Dinner jacket (I know several folks that will read this know the one I am talking about)! Everyone constantly told him "only YOU can make that jacket look so good". He took men's fashion in San Fran to a whole new level.
I met Matty over a decade ago in the city with "Dave the Banker" aka David Lissek. He and I formed an instant "brother/sister" bond that lasted the test of time. I met you both when you bought your house in the city. He was so excited to have you nearby. I will forever charish all of the wonderful memories we had together (highes & lows). He touched so many people, I was devasted when I heard of his passing. I hope that he found the peace he wanted. I last saw Matty in South Beach, late summer/early fall of 2006. I had been living there for a year or so and was out one evening at a place called Mint. I saw him from a distance, thought I was mistaken, then I heard him yell over the loud music "Antoin is that you?" By the time I screamed back "Matty, no way", he had jumped across 2 tables and swooped me up in the air and spun me around like a rag doll! We hugged each other tightly and laughed..repeating "oh my god, I can't believe it's you" at least a hundred times throughout the nite. We met the following day for lunch, recounted so many of our incredible times together, then he flew back to San Fran. It was the last time I spoke to him and I am so thankful that I was able to see him in his full glory one last time. He was so happy when I saw him. May you find comfort knowing that many of his friends will be thinking of him & missing him greatly this holiday season.
Tom Breznitsky
October 17, 2007
Best wishes to family & friends of Matt Cevallos in the time of their grief.
Joanne & Cas Jakubik
October 16, 2007
Dear Gloria and Moe,
We were so sorry to hear of your heartbreaking loss. Matt was such a beautiful boy...so full of energy and life.Even as a child he had the most amazing smile. We have so many wonderful memories of the boys "hanging out" together.They really did have a great childhood. Matt always made us feel like he enjoyed our company as much as he did Jeff's.He was one of a kind ! The image we have of Matt is hearing the door bell ring and seeing Matt there smiling and ready with a hug. You and Matt will be in our thoughts and prayers.
Pat Smith
October 16, 2007
Gloria and Moe,
I am deeply saddened to learn of Matt's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
ANDRES CRUZ
October 15, 2007
Matty
It is very difficult for me to write about you, I cant avoid to break down, I miss you much. Miss you’re loud laugh. You’re unique voice, kindness, leadership and overwhelming love.
We lived amazing times; we played, cried, talked, partied, laughed, argued and helped each other. I know lots of people, but you’re intensity was unique. I know that I will never see that again. I have so many memories with you that will take with me to my grave.
We used to call each other “primito lindo” “beautiful cousin”. You were always there for me and I was always there for you.
Time goes by but I can’t forget you’re smile, charisma, speed and brightness.
I have felt what you felt, we both shared the same weakness, and know that whatever happened wasn’t you’re thinking. I don’t have a clue when am I going to stop crying inside me, I do know that there is God, there is life after dead and that you are still laughing and waiting for me. I will see you, in the mean time will grief and miss you.
Andres Cruz
Jeff Jakubik
October 15, 2007
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
I am so sorry to hear of Matt's passing. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. I was lucky enough to have Matt as one of my closest friends growing up in Scotch Plains, NJ. My fondest memories are playing baseball, tennis and raquetball with Matt. We also shared the same favorite sports teams and attended many Yankees and Giants games together.When I think of Matty the words that come to mind are energetic, competitive and loyal.I'll always remember that great infectious smile. I feel blessed to have shared my childhood with Matty. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
Joseph L. (Joe/Joey) Smith
October 12, 2007
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
I am deeply saddened by Matt's passing. Please accept my sympathy for your loss. I cherish my childhood memories of growing up with Matt in Scotch Plains-Fanwood, NJ, which include walking to school, playing sports, Yankee games, Saw Creek and Halloween. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
MattyC & MamaC
September 19, 2007
Matty & PapaC
September 19, 2007
Matty & Sam
September 19, 2007
Matty discussing the mating of the blue-footed boobies
September 19, 2007
Matty in Galapagos - More imitation of life
September 19, 2007
Matty in Galapagos - Imitation of a lizard
September 19, 2007
Middlebry graduate going West
September 19, 2007
Middlebury freshman
September 19, 2007
September 19, 2007
September 19, 2007
Nicole Walter Conniff
August 8, 2007
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
I am so deeply sorry to read of Matt's passing just this week as I received the Lawrentian. He was one of my absolute favorite people at The Lawrenceville School. I started at the school in its first year of coeducation and although I was only in 10th grade and he was a older, wiser 12th grader (smile), we were friends. Matt had a smile that would light up a room and the great energy to encourage you to be a better person. Although we lost contact after graduation, I have always held a special place in my heart for Matt and his wonderful friendship that helped me through the tough first year of living away from home, surviving the rigorous academic program and developing new friendships.
Please know that you both and Matt are in my thoughts and prayers. Your son was a truly remarkable person and I feel so blessed to have known him.
Dr. Thomas Jacobsen
August 3, 2007
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
I remember Matt from Saw Creek in the Poconos growing up as a young boy. I remember him as a polite, caring, athletic young man. He was clearly a great athlete and rememeber never winning a tennis match against him. I remember our times as pleasant ones and always looked forward to seeing him on the weekends. You both were always the consumate host to me and I remember you always taking me and Matt to brunch after a game of tennis. From what I have read, Matt's athletic ability continued to flourish as he did. I stumbled across this page in a moment of nostalgia just browsing the net for old friends. Needless to say when the first hit came up and I saw Matt's picture I felt a huge pit in my stomach. I recognized that smile immediately; it was the same smile he had when we used to joke around and use the term "papas fritas" for french fries. Words cannot express my sympathy for your family but take solace knowing that Matt is in good hands. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
Torry Loch Ballard
July 21, 2007
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
I was so sorry to learn of Matt's passing this week when I received a copy of the Lawrentian. The last day has been very emotional for me and I just wanted to reach out to you and tell you what Matt meant to me and how sorry I am...
Being a member of the first class of girls to attend Lawrenceville was a little intimidating for me. I tend to be a little shy and reserved in new situations. As a young child and teenager, sports were always my love and refuge. After playing basketball one afternoon, I met Matt in the weight room at Lawrenceville soon after we started our senior year. I remember how friendly and silly he was and how I immediately felt comfortable talking with him. We became fast friends and in a few short months I considered him one of my life's best friends. This first impression stayed true throughout our years of friendship. Months and years passed at various times when we lost touch but it was always so easy to pick back up where we left off. He was always there to encourage me and look after me in that brotherly way of his. Whenever we were together, he'd always put his long arm on my shoulder and walk with me. I always enjoyed hearing of his latest ventures personally, professionally and athletically.
Through Matt (or "yos" as we all affectionately referred to him), I met Peter Kraft whom I dated for several years. A group of us stayed at your home in Scotch Plains after our prom in the Spring of 1988. Albeit a brief meeting with you, it was evident where Matt's strong and good character came from... I also remember fondly a visit from Matt when Peter and I spent a summer working in Martha's Vineyard. We spent many days on the beach working on our tans and Peter and I offered our opinions to him of the passing ladies.
My husband and I celebrated our 12th wedding anniversay this past July 15 and we were reminiscing about our wedding. Matt's presence meant more to me than any other guest. I was unsure of whether or not he was coming, but in true Matt style, he jumped on the red eye from out West to attend our wedding later that same day. Right before our ceremony started, I caught a glimpse of him smiling at me and I felt a surge of joy that he was there- it all felt so right and complete at that moment. There truly is nothing better than the presence of a dear, old friend to cheer you on and to be by your side. How I felt at that moment is how I remember Matt.
The last time I saw Matt was when he was passing through New Orleans. He spent the day with my husband, Paul, and me. That was a special time for me because Matt and Paul got to know each other for the first time and they hit it off. Had we all lived closer to each other, I think that he and Paul would have really enjoyed one another.
I always remember Matt's birthday because it is 2 days before mine. Throughout college we would almost always touch base on April 28th to wish each other a happy birthday and catch up. After my first child, Brooks, was born on April 25, Matt's birthday held more significance because it fell right between our birthdays. Again this year, I thought of him in April and wondered what he was doing...
I must admit that I feel a ton of regret that we did not keep in touch more recently. I sent a Christmas card to him this past December to an address I found online. I can only hope he received it (it wasn't returned) to know that I was missing him and thinking of him. I also tried emailing him over the last few years but couldn't ever seem to keep up with where he was... I am also heartbroken that I did not know about his death to attend his service. Please know that I would have been there had I known...
Matt's spirit and friendship will live within me until I see his smiling face again. This world has truly lost a good soul. I hope that hearing about the joy he brought to so many people will offer you some comfort. I am truly, truly sorry for your loss and will keep you all in my prayers.
God Bless you, Matt.
My warmest regards,
Torry Loch Ballard
Cheray Unman
July 7, 2007
I still can't believe that my dear friend Matt Cevallos has left us so young in life. We shared so many dreams together either through work building Creditland, Big Sky Ventures, our investment in Microcast Network or about the current loves in our life. Matt was so loyal and honest to me and I always knew he was my fierce defender and really understood me behind my conservative and reserved exterior; it was hard for me to always communicate like Matt could so easily. Matt was one of the most strategic minds I knew and we would spend hours analyzing a capital raise, a investor pitch for our projects or a way to feed the wall street analysts how to position our projects. I knew no one better at this then Matt and he had a rare talent to create sincere enthusiasm for technology startups with investors . I left my Investment Bank because of his conviction that I should build Creditland versus my own startup and what a journey that was.!! The drama and legend of our Creditland startup..it is the stuff movies are made of if any of us shared the inner complexities of that time in history.
As many know Creditland.com didn't make it in the technology boom and either did Microcast..both Matt and I were devestated and the market meltdown left few stepping stones to jump back in the game again. Many of us like Matt and I had to take new journeys while the financial markets recovered and the pain of the losing the dream was in many ways like losing a child you loved dearly..I wanted this to be documented becuase the loss was so much more then losing the liquidity event ;this was our focus for several years and we loved who we worked with and the dream we were building. You have to love your startup dream to be crazy enough to do it. Live hungry and foolishly I heard Steve Jobs say one..and this is how we lived during that time...We didn't sit on the sidelines we were in the game to win..
Many saw Matt on the outside as being dramatic, flamboyant , fun and fearless ..and he was like noone I have ever meet. I just want the people who knew the social side of Matt that the work side was even more amazing and if harnessed he would of been a dramatic player in finance. Just to harness that great passion that always drove him in so many directions.
I want the friends of Matt to remember his heart and forgive him for leaving us so soon . I miss you so much Matt and I promise not to let the dreams die.. candles always lit for you ,,your dear friend, Cheray
June 18, 2007
"Life was meant to be lived. I lived."
June 18, 2007
June 18, 2007
Moe Cevallos
June 18, 2007
Eulogy January 10, 2007
Among the many expressions of sympathy Gloria and I have received, one simply said…. “NO WORDS WILL EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR MATTY”; another from a small child of God said….”I am so sorry that your son has died. I am very sad that he died, even though I did not know him.”
So, I will try to briefly tell you about our son, in his own words. These are positive affirmations he wrote in an exercise that he did just days before we all lost Matty.
I like myself because, “I keep trying to do the right thing.”
I do: “most sports and competitive games” very well.
“My family and a handful of great friends” loves me!
I have been told that I have pretty “hands”.
People say I am a good “business mind”.
I have a natural talent for “numbers, math and math games”.
The two things I do best are “communicate” and “show up for friends.”
I am most happy when “I spend time laughing with friends & family”.
So, here we are, and I ask myself – did I know Matty?
The first time I saw him, a newborn through a plate glass window at Fort Ord Hospital I noticed his long, perfectly beautiful fingers and told people so. As a man, Matty loved to take care of his hands.
As a boy he excelled in soccer, baseball, skiing and as a man became a formidable tri-athlete. When Matty played baseball he was an All-Star. When one of his teammates reached the Major Leagues, as a man, Matty would say to me…. “Dad, remember Jeff always hit it over the fence and I always hit the wall” and we would laugh. He loved to laugh with friends and family.
When asked to identify two of his positive traits, he said: “caring and sensitive toward other people and strong morals”. Matty was always trying to do the right thing.
Not long ago, Matty parked his car on one of our San Francisco city streets and later, as he backed up to leave, he accidentally tipped over a motorcycle he did not see. Matty was distraught and stayed until the owner of the motorcycle returned. He apologized and assured him he would pay for any repairs. He waited and did the right thing.
All of us surely have memories that will affirm, perhaps, that we knew the real Matty. In fact, two recent memories are very vivid for me as I knew our side of Matty.....(The U2 concert story in the LA Staples Center......the song “Sometimes You Can’t Make It On Your Own”….the bond of father/son and concert/friend). Most recently, when Matty was celebrating his 36th birthday we had a chance to go to a baseball game. It was a special day again, as “birth”-days always are. The visit to the food stand,,.....the “Bobble-Head” doll,.....the surprise singing,.....the smile/slight embarrassment.....the bond of father/son and friends.
In prayer, I know Matthew would ask God to release him from all his fears. And so I pray along with Matty his prayer to God:
“My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me, every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from here to do your bidding. Amen.”
On behalf of Gloria and I, thank you for being here in this “Celebration of Life” for our son, Matty.
Tami Larson
May 23, 2007
Gloria and Moe,
I just wanted to thank you both for bringing such a beautiful spirit into this world. Matty had such an impact on so many lives. As I read through all of these new entries it is such a reminder of this. It was very healing spending the afternoon at your home on Matty's Birthday and learning even more about him I never knew. The story he wrote when 11 was such a testament to who he was.. his intense caring for others started at such an early age. I felt Matt's presence more than ever that day and felt the most peace I have since he left us. He is watching over all of us now and especially both of you. I pray that the peace Matt now knows and the continued sharing from all those he touched and "infected" with his spirit will bring you comfort and eventually peace as well. .......You are both always and will always remain in my prayers.
God Bless you Matty.. You are loved and never forgotten..........
Tami
Mana Pirooz
May 14, 2007
Could Not Save You
You my friend were always there
In times of sadness and deep despair
You listened to me talk and cry
You sat beside me eye to eye
You commiserated, you shared, you knew
You made me feel like you’ve been there too
And all along I soaked it up
Storing it all in my mental cup
But selfish and ill; what I never knew
Is with all your love, I could not save you
I hope you knew right at the end
That you were always my dear friend
And I loved you much and held you dear
And prayed to god to relieve your fear
I didn’t think he’d take you there
To be with him instead of here
But I guess he knew right from the start
How to relieve your aching heart
I will miss you till the day I die
And I can’t promise not to cry
But something that I know is true
Is that I can still feel you
When I am sad or deep in prayer
I notice your warm presence there
It gives me strength to carry through
Even though I could not save you
In memory of Matty
D
May 3, 2007
Matt's confidence, smile and Ironman swagger inspired me to get into triathlons to overcome my health problems.
Now, I'm gunning for Kona thanks to you, Matt. You're a champion...
With aloha,
D
Katie Callahan
May 2, 2007
Matty will be missed dearly.. On his Birthday this past friday I had to be at work. I would have loved to meet with all of you to enjoy that day, and share stories, but I am thankful that this has been posted so we can all tell stories of our dear friend. I was lucky enough to have met that loving wonderful man, and I have so many memories of him. From east to west, norcal to socal.. Matty will be missed by us all..
Moe Cevallos
April 29, 2007
Dear Friends and Family,
Your notes and memories are life sustaining for us and also help many who remember our beloved son, Matthew.
Friday April 27th would have been Matty's 37th Birthday and we have faith that he is in a peace and joy unknow to those of us who miss him everyday.
We gathered in Mill Valley to dedicate a granite stone of grey, in the shape of a rugged bench and to remember Matty. It was easy to think of him amongst the beauty of the flowers and the sunshine.
Friends and family prayed, smiled in remembrance and knew that other birthdays past were equally marked with love for Matty.
Please continue to stay in touch with your generous sense of loyalty, compassion and, most of all, the love which Matty shared with each of us.
God bless,
Moe and Gloria
Robin Holmquist
April 27, 2007
Happy Birthday Matthew:)
xoxo Robin (Bob)
David Lissek
April 23, 2007
Matthew Cevallos
1/10/07
It was coincidental that my travels brought me home to Mill Valley this past Saturday – just two short days after hearing the tragic news that my friend Matthew Cevallos had passed away.
I decided to make a stop along the way, and found a space in the frenzied parking lot near the toll plaza of the bridge. How many times did Matt and I either run or ride our bikes over that bridge together? As I walked along the sidewalk and started heading towards the South Tower, I tried to take-in everything that was happening around me. The sun was shining brightly, and the city just glistened beautifuly in the afternoon.
I started thinking about the early days of our friendship as I walked by all the tourists. I met Matthew at the golf range in Mission Bay over 13 years ago. At that time Matt was living with his girlfriend, and sharing a flat in Pacific Heights. He was a software analyst at Robertson Stephens, and I came to learn quickly (because he loved to tout it so much) –he raced triathalons. She also trained heavily, and seemed nearly as fit and muscular as Mathew. Since they both were wearing golf shorts, and Matt was in the habit of shaving his legs - my date and I kidded about who’s legs were smoother…
The girls hit it off, and next thing I new I was stuck talking to this animated New Yorker with the shaved legs. We talked business and athletics in between turns at hitting range balls, and a week or two later there were a flurry of double dates. We had made some new, and very interesting, friends. At that time I had no idea how much this man would affect my life.
I passed a fashion shoot on my walk out onto the bridge last Saturday. There was a young model there with a photographer and a few people assisting with lights. In all the times we had run that bridge – this was the first time I’d ever seen a high fashion model in a dress and boots get photographed. I thought to myself that Matthew would have loved seeing this scene, and undoubtedly would have either known the model and the photographer – or would have been driven to meet them before we could have gone on.
Matt loved fashion, and when he put his mind to it there were few people in town that could out-class him. At my wedding he stood up and delivered a toast in an exquisite, black velvet dinner jacket and wool tuxedo pants. Not only was his wardrobe impeccable, but his delivery of the toast was enlightened. When Matt presented, his pitch was delivered with absolutely thoughtful refinement. Matthew was a performer – whether it was a wedding toast, a road show investment banking deal, or an attempt to pursuade his friends to follow him to the ends of the earth. He would organize his thoughts, build a case, and then deliver the close with his powerful vocabulary and focused conviction. I often wondered where his presentation skills were honed, and never really had a chance to ask him. In the back of my mind I always figured it was a result of growing up, and then working, on Wall Street…
At my wedding reception Matt spoke about our deep and longstanding friendship, and how important being part of my family was to him. As we all know, Matt’s family and friends were his paramount focus, and I considered him part of mine…
As I walked towards a spot on the east railing I thought about how many people Matt had brought into my life over the years. Not only had Matt served to introduce me to my wife, but most of his ever-expanding sphere of friends became my friends, as well. How many of us here today have wondered – especially recently – whether we ever would have met one another had Matthew Cevallos not served as sort of a human bridge building relationships and connecting the pieces of his world to one another?
Mathew loved his family and friends, and he constantly thought and talked about the things he could do to help those he loved deal with their own trials and tribulations. When I returned to Califonia in 1999 to take a new job, Matt quickly offered me a place in his small apartment in Sausalito. I will always be grateful for his help at that very difficult time in my life.
I am Jewish, and Matt shared many holidays with both me and my family. One year, when he was in Miami he joined my parents and brother for a Passover service at my parent’s home. Also visiting was a portion of my father’s family that had just recently moved to the US from Argentina. My mother still talks about how wonderful that sedar was, as Matt served as an interpreter with his multi-lingual skills – translating so that about 10 people who had just met could share a dinner and get to know each other.
In the Jewish faith, we believe that those who pass live on on the acts of goodness they performed, and in the hearts of those who cherish and revere their memories.
It is absolutely apparent that Mathew Cevallos will live on in many, many hearts by those who cherish his memory. We will recall stories of the outrageous gold lamee pants he wore on his birthday one year, the funny hand waving that would take over his arms when he listened to house music, and how often he referenced Pulp Fiction quotations in his everyday conversations…
I will remember him for many acts of goodness he performed, and I will cherish those memories. Let me share a moment with you that occurred during the SF Marathon of 1996.
The marathon started on the Marin side of the golden gate bridge, and Mathew, Joan, and I posed for pictures in the pre-race fog of a cold Sunday morning. Mathew had decided to run that race as a favor to me, and there were 3 months worth of long runs that we took together to prepare for the marathon. Out of nothing but shear friendship and love, Mathew ran side-by-side with me for 24 of the 26 miles in the marathon. As the course wound it’s way through the city and out towards Ocean Beach, my stamina began to fade – even though Matt still had the attitude of a racehorse being held back from full gallop. Matthew ran up to water stops, and ran back with fluids so that I would keep moving. He was afraid that if I stopped running, I wouldn’t be able to start back up again. He was probably right.
The pain was becoming unbearable, and I could barely make out his words of encouragement. “Come on DL, you can do it. Dig deep and keep moving. You can do it”. I said, “I know, Matty, but I’m going to have to get through these last two miles myself.”
He understood and headed out in front of me for the finish line. Our pace at that time had gone from about 8 minutes per mile for most of the race, to about 9 ½ minutes per mile.
I hobbled into Kezar stadium and made my way around the track to the finish line and a couple of silver space blankets for warmth. Matthew was there chatting with all our friends, and told me he finished in a full sprint at about 5 minutes per mile. I will always be grateful that he stayed by my side and ran a 26.2 mile marathon that he could have finished about an hour beforehand had he run his own race. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, physically, and I never would have finished it without his coaching and emotional support.
There is a prayer that we recite to memorialize those loved ones that have passed. For me, it is almost inconcievable that Jeremy and I are now going to say it twice a week until the anniversary of my father’s passing in July 31st – once for my father, and once for Mathew.
I recited this prayer, the mourner’s kaddish, this past Saturday afternoon while standing on the bridge and looking out at the city:
Yitgadal v'yitkadash sh'mei raba b'alma di-v'ra
chirutei, v'yamlich malchutei
b'chayeichon uvyomeichon uvchayei d'chol beit yisrael, ba'agala
uvizman kariv, v'im'ru: "amen."
As I walked back down the sidewalk towards my car with tears welling up in my eyes, I began to think about what a tremendous loss we all suffered when Mathew left us. We are here because we loved Matt. We reveled with him in his successes, and suffered restless nights of sleep when we knew he was in pain.
Y'hei sh'mei raba m'varach l'alam ul'almei almaya.
Yitbarach v'yishtabach, v'yitpa'ar v'yitromam
v'yitnaseh, v'yithadar v'yit'aleh v'yit'halal sh'mei
d'kud'sha, b'rich hu,
My life would have been much less vibrant and rich had I not known Matt Cevallos, and I’m just not sure it will ever be the same without him here to discuss our families, relationships, mutual friends, skiing, golf, business, and our futures.
l'eila min-kol-birchata v'shirata, tushb'chata
v'nechemata da'amiran b'alma, v'im'ru: "amen."
Y'hei shlama raba min-sh'maya v'chayim aleinu
v'al-kol-yisrael, v'im'ru: "amen."
G-d bless you Matty Cevallos. We will never forget you, and your life will live on in so many hundreds of ways for each of the people you touched and who had the honor to call you their friend. We all pray that you finally found your peace.
Oseh shalom bimromav, hu ya'aseh shalom aleinu
v'al kol-yisrael, v'imru: "amen."
- David Lissek, 1.10.07
Kate (Albin) Lindberg
February 28, 2007
Dear Moe & Gloria –
I am so sorry for your loss. Matt was such a wonderful person and he had such a positive impact on my life. I am thankful that we were such close friends in college and that we were able to reconnect this past year. I wanted to share with you my favorite memory of Matt:
It's from when we were traveling across country together by car when he was headed to Boulder for the summer to train for triathlons with all the big names in the sport. You know how Matt never does anything half way...he was bound and determined not to miss any workouts even during the 2 day trip out west. So we zigzagged our way across the country so that he could swim in public pools filled with kids that were not always set up with lane lines along the way and run on public tracks where he'd ask me to time him doing sprints. It all seemed reasonable until… one section in the very flat stretch of the Midwest…I can't remember if it was Ohio or Iowa, but I do remember driving behind Matt as he rode his bike on a rural road at approximately 15 mph for almost 2 hours. Only Matt couldn't miss 2 days of biking!
My thoughts are with you both.
Frank Winters
February 20, 2007
Dear Gloria and Moe,
There are no words that can express how sadden we were to hear the news of Matty’s passing. And there are certainly no words that can take away the hurt that you must feel. I know Matty was such a source of pleasure and delight for you both. We are praying that God can find a way to help heal your broken hearts.
Glo, over the last few days, I’ve been thinking about the talks we’ve had over the years about Matt growing up and his life’s undertakings. The swimming, the biking, the triathlons, Lawrenceville, Middlebury, Boulder, the Ironman, his entrepreneurial adventures, and, of course, the girls. You always spoke with such pride in your voice, as most Mom’s do. I know you were, and should be, very proud of Matt. His life may have been short, way too short, but he certainly lived it. Far too many people “endure” life, but Matt Cevallos “lived” life! What an awesome legacy.
Of the things that come to mind when I think of Matty, the most prominent, is his smile. For some reason, in every image I can conjure up of Matt, I see that big grin of his. He always seemed to have a smile on his face and a story to tell.
One of the memories of Matt that gets me laughing comes from a weekend that you guys had invited Debbie and me up to your house in the Pocono’s for a get together. Matt must have been about 15 or so at the time. We were sort of huddled around the kitchen with the music playing, and on came the James Brown tune, Living in America, from the Rocky movie that was out at the time. Matt came swinging out of the bathroom with a brush in his hand and proceeded to do a fantastic imitation of James Brown, with the strut, the spins and all of his grunts and groans. God he had us laughing. And when he was finished, there was that big grin on his face. Loving life.
Debbie and I want you to know that you are both in our thoughts and prayers.
Frederick Lawrence
February 13, 2007
Dear Moe and Gloria, sending my deepest sympathies to you. I will always have good memories of our time together as roommates. Senior year at Middlebury gave me a composite look of Matt - so funny, so smart, and someone treasured friends and who loved others passionately. He was blessed both intellectually and physically.
I will miss the guy that was my opposite in so many ways - the city boy to my country. Someone who would always be singing, exclaiming or shouting infectiously as CC Music Factory or Seal played extra loud. We had our song - "Da Homey - he does what he wants to do. Says what he wants to to." His studying would be pedaling on the stationary bike, eating cereal and watching the Tour de France. And I'll never forget how he took only one year of Italian and we spoke it together - with him knowing more than I did even though I spent about 3 years studying the language! He spent more time in front of our mirror than a hairdresser's model - attending to his skin and grooming meticulously. Cotton balls all over the place and his apothecary's cabinet of balms, salves, and lotions. And at that time, I was a farm boy from upstate Vermont that didn't even know about Kiels....
When he had his bike accident at the end of Midd, I remember how concerned I was for him. For this to happen at the end of our year. But I knew that we went from being roommates to friends. I remember graduation and the photos in front of our dorm. And I knew that we would stay in touch somehow.
He was the guy that would try to dress me up in Miami at the Delano before we hit the town - seeing if I could fit into his Polo purple label and putting mousse in my hair which made me look like some backstreet boy dancer that didn't make the cut. I dance like a madman but Matty made me look frozen in place. He was always creating the energy in a room - the solar disco ball. But then, I would wake up to the click of a camera with colors and light everywhere. And the bed that I was sleeping in was covered in flower petals that had been meticulously gathered throughout the hotel. Matty and his friend standing there laughing. And then we would be eating jumbo shrimp at the side of the pool - with me still trying to wake up and Matty flexing his way into the part of the day, already a king.
He would always find ways to give a compliment. He would exclaim - "look at the Homey. Studying his Chinese history. Does what he wants to do. And now he's going to Mongolia to teach them about democracy...Da Homey." He had so many talents but he also recognized and appreciated those of others.
He taught me to always laugh and not take things so seriously. To appreciate people's differences and know that they could still share so much. That one can never care too much or care about too many people. And most importantly, that one should never give up on someone. I guess the best we can do is to make sure his unique energy lives on and that we help spread it to others in the appreciation of his memory and the special ability he had to make so many people feel like they belonged in his world.
Mana Pirooz
February 7, 2007
Moe and Gloria,
I am signing in because I think of you and Matty often and wanted you to know you are in my thoughts. I love you both and pray for you each time you cross my mind.
Love,
Mana
Meredith Whitney
January 26, 2007
Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
My sincerest condolences to you for the loss of your son. I knew Matt from Lawrenceville and later ran into him professionally when he was working for Creditland. His positive energy was incredible. Clearly, you both did an extraordinary job raising Matt as he was warm, engaging, smart, and always kind. He left a fantastic impression on people and now leaves so many who will miss him. Matt's fire burned bright.
Nancy & Bob Sava
January 26, 2007
Our deepest sympathy to you and your family. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. Our prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Tami Larson
January 22, 2007
Eulogy
When Moe Cevallos, Matthew’s father first asked if I would say a few words today.. I was overwhelmed with a plethora of emotions; Flattered, confused, worried I was the wrong person to convey what so many others could with ease, especially since though Matt and I were extremely close at one time and could practically read each others minds, we had not spoken in over a year…………
The past several days however led me down a path that when I finally sat down to write down my thoughts, I felt overwhelmed with his presence. It was though he was standing right in front of me with his infectious, heckling laugh, outrageous body language he used while trying to express his emotions as though his passion was too strong for the physical and emotional limitations this time in eternity imposes on our souls. Looking back, I ponder if maybe Matt was just a visitor from a place where fear and limitations don’t exist and just sent to infuse as many people as he could with his fearless ability to live like we all wish we could but can’t………
So after spending the past several days, weeping, laughing harder than I can remember in years and rekindling friendships with other beautiful souls Matt connected me to, I found myself ultimately dumbfounded by how much I didn’t know about Matthew and awed by the countless people that were infected by him… I use the word infected because whenever it was that Matt “infected” you, it became apparent that they have yet to come up with a vaccine to prevent it or antibiotic that can cure it…
I have many incredible stories I would love to share with all of you that represent the purity of Matt’s soul, his unconditional devotion to those he loved and cared for, the sacrifices he made, the tears he shed for people he knew and didn’t know, the way in which he always lit up a room and if we all look deep enough, left an imprint on our hearts. I will allow those stories to be told by many that have them to share later this afternoon at the reception… I will share one thing… There was a common theme amongst all those I spoke with this past week. To sum it up and not justly…...
Matt had a way of making people feel alive like no other just by being present and almost lifeless when he left.
Some of us joke about how often we would hear people say, “Where’s Matty.. Have you seen Matty, How’s Matty, and now, I miss Matty……
Matthew Cevallos was 36 years old when he made his departure from this life but as I look around this room, I am convinced more than ever that age is irrelevant because look what he accomplished.. He may not have lived the way we think everyone should but again, that’s irrelevant. Imagine the world had we not been blessed with knowing him… It’s almost as though he had a mission from the beginning and it was fulfilled, not for him but for us and then his work was done….. Look at the person next to you…. how many of us were connected through Matt, how many of us lived and still live with more passion now after knowing him…
This world was too small for your enormous spirit Matt…Rest in peace your work here is done..
You will always live in my heart.
Tami
Annia Raysberg
January 20, 2007
I've only known Matt for a few months, and I wish I got to know him better. It's amazing how many people knew him and loved him, and how many lives he had touched. I hope he is in a better place now.
Brenda DeNinno
January 19, 2007
I never met your son, but, after reading his obit and speaking to his Aunt Barbara, I felt compelled to offer my sincere sympathy at this tragic loss.
Jeff Steele
January 18, 2007
Dear Moe and Gloria,
It is with the deepest sadness that I learn of your loss. I met Matt only once, but it was apparent to me how special he was. I remember particularly when he decided to go to Middleberry and the implications of that decision. With the greatest thanks for all that you have done for our organization, and the gifts which which you passed on to Matt, I know that there are many, many brothers who are saddend by your loss and will have you both in our prayers.
Maureen/Joe Sullivan
January 17, 2007
We are sorry to see a life cut short. Please accept our deepest sympathy.
Lori Venegas
January 16, 2007
I'm so sorry to hear about Matt. I can only hope he is in a better place, quiet and peaceful with no burdens. We had so many fun times in San Francisco, Sausalito, Miami, Tahoe, Disco Bay, by land, by sea. He had a gorgeous, infectious smile, and voice that i will always remember. He called me Lou, and my sister Bob.
Sweet Dreams Mathew. We won't forget you.
Love,
Lou
Robin Holmquist
January 15, 2007
Matthew, Matthew, Matthew...... as I always called him. I love you & hope you are in a place that brings you peace. I met Matty over 10 years ago & shared many special times and memories with him. I even taught him how to drive his boat. There are too many things to list but I'm very saddened to lose you. Always your friend:) Bob xoxo
Charla Cooper
January 14, 2007
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos: I am so sorry for your loss. Matt and I became friends only recently. He certainly was charismatic and loved, honest and brave, and we shared many challenges and gifts. We recently took a long walk together. You have so much to be proud of.
While we are sad and will miss him, I just know he is in a better, happier place. My heart goes out to you in this time of healing. God Bless You, Charla Cooper
Virginia Pedraza
January 12, 2007
Dear Mauricio & Gloria,
We feel a tremendous sadness for your loss and want to extend our heartfelt condolences. As parents of an only child, we can not begin to imagine the pain that you are both feeling. We truly sympathize with you during this difficult time and want you to know that we care and are here for you both. Matthew was an impressive young man and we will remember him always. You are in our prayers. Love, The Pedraza Family (German, Doris and Virginia)
Wingate Hopkins
January 12, 2007
My condolences go out to the family and friends of Matt. He and I were co-captains of the ski team at L'Ville. His energy and enthusiasm were matched by no one. Please, if you have a friend you haven't spoken with in awhile, pick up the phone or send an email. You'll be happy you did. You never know what tomorrow will bring.
Athena Talmadge
January 11, 2007
Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
My heart goes out to you. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.I only knew Matt for a short time, but I'll never forget him, or his smile. God Bless you both!
Sean McDermott
January 11, 2007
My deepest condolences for your family. It has been a while since I've seen Matt but I will always remember him for the great times we had at L'ville, especially living across the hall from him sophmore year. He was an awesome guy and my heart goes out to everyone that knew him.
Maria Dangond
January 11, 2007
My deepest condolences to Mr. Mrs Cevallos. Matty shared wonderful things about you both. Much love, Maria.
Maria Dangond
January 11, 2007
Matthew was like a brother to me... we shared many good and sad moments for the past 5 years... I'm so sad to know that he's gone. He'll always be in my heart. I love you Matty!
Donna Logue Wolfe
January 11, 2007
Please accept my sincere condolences on the tragic loss of your beautiful son. Susan O'Keefe, my dear friend, has shared with me over the years, the joy and pride you enjoyed in Matt. Please know you are in my prayers.
Paul & Kristin Penney
January 10, 2007
Moe & Gloria,
We are deeply saddened by your loss. May the memories of Matt comfort you both in this most difficult time. We hope he is in a more peaceful place.
Andre Teixeira
January 10, 2007
Matty: Wherever you are right now, I just want to say, once again: I Love You!
The world just lost a wonderful person but I am sure the heavens are welcoming a great soul.
We will miss you terribly, my man!
Andre (& Mona)
Windy Brown
January 10, 2007
This world won't be the same without Matty. He touched so many people with his humor, love, and compassion. Matty and I shared the same birthday. I am very sad the yin to my yang is gone.
Jacki Dooley
January 10, 2007
Dear Mo and Gloria:
Our hearts go out to you during this very difficult time. Nicole and I wish we could be there to comfort you. Matthew left a lasting impression on everyone he met. I remember the first time I met him, he was so young and energetic and that smile.....We were all fortunate to have known him.
Love, Jacki and Nicole
Patrick (aka Pat) OHara
January 9, 2007
Moe, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Matt was a good man. I just lost a close family member, so I know your pain. Please accept my deepest condolences. You & Mrs Cevallos have my support. I hope to talk with you soon.
Jayne Jones
January 9, 2007
Mr. and Mrs. Cevallos,
I am so sorry for your loss. Matt was a kind,good, human being. He was well liked and respected. My prayers are w/ you and your family.
Sincerely,
Jayne Jones
Tiffany Gradin
January 9, 2007
My Deepest Sympathy goes out to the Cevallos family. And with that I would like to say this to YOU Matty! We became friends at a very turbulent time in my life. When I didn't know where I was going and the path I was on surely led to nowhere. You would always take me aside and remind me ( when I forgot) of what a special girl I was and that I could do better. And you would always say "You can do anything! And those moments when you don't believe in yourself; just remember I believe in you"
Matty, Thank You for believing in me when I didn't. You will always have a special place in my heart. I will miss you and Goodbye.
Jennifer Young
January 9, 2007
My deepest sympathy for your loss. Matt and I were room mates in Sausalito several years ago and he was like a little brother to me. He recently joked that we even fought like brother and sister!
I was fortunate enough to have him back in my life over the last year and spend time with him. I will miss him terribly and love him always.
Richard Felix
January 9, 2007
To his family....Life is so fleeting...so precious...Matt was a great spirit and really had the greatest joy for life....and love for people... It was an honor and a pleasure to know him. I will miss him and pray that all the love that everyone has for him reaches him wherever he is and comforts his family forever.
Paul Farris
January 9, 2007
I am terribly sorry for your loss. I had the chance to get to know Matty over the last several months. He was a wonderful person and will be dearly missed. My heart goes out to his family. All my love, Paul
Stephanie van Berkum
January 9, 2007
Matty was a very near and dear friend to my friend Carol. His friendship brought her great joy. He will be missed. Prayers are with your family.
Charlie Barnes
January 9, 2007
We first met Matty as a young boy and he captured our hearts. We watched him grow to manhood and reach & surpass every goal that he set for himself and move way beyond anyone's expectations.
Matty, we know that you have wings on your feet and are flying past hardship and any trials that are in your path.
Via con dios
Cheryl Barnes
January 9, 2007
My heart goes out to you both. I know that your extraordinary capacity for love and faith will see you through this difficult time. Concentrate on the good times and the joy Matty brought to everyone he touched. Much love, Cheryl
Damon Sacco
January 9, 2007
Please accept my deepest sympathies. Matt was a great friend and neighbor, he will be greatly missed.
Maureen Geer
January 9, 2007
I know that words are of little comfort in your loss but I can tell you that with time there will be sweet memories and those will never leave you. You were, and are, loving and supportive parents and Matty was fortunate to have you both. You are remembered in these difficult days in a very special way. Love, Maureen and Howard
Nkechi ..
January 9, 2007
Moe, My deepest condolences to you and Mrs. Cevallos. He is deeply missed by our mutual friends. May your memories and our memories of him bring you comfort. Matty's life accomplishments were an inspiration. Please trust that you now have an angel by your side. May God Bless You during this difficult time. You are in my daily prayers.
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