Stanley Fetterman Obituary

Name: Funeral service for Stanley Fetterman
Start: 2018-01-28T22:00:00.000Z
Location: Eternal Home Cemetery

Stanley H. Fetterman

March 29, 1934 - January 26, 2018

Our dearest husband and father, Stanley Herbert Fetterman passed away early morning Friday, January 26, 2018 at the age of 83. Our hearts are broken as we have lost the kindest, most gentle, caring soul.

Stan was a devoted and caring husband, father, grandfather and friend. He had a sweet and gentle nature and was always willing to lend a hand. He was often smiling and interested in knowing more about his friends and their families. He was a loyal friend and continued to see his school age friends throughout his life.
People were drawn to Stan for his warmth and sincerity. He was a simple, mellow and sensitive person who will be sorely missed by those who loved him.
A native San Franciscan, Stan grew up in the Sunset and attended Lawton elementary school, Presidio Junior High and Lincoln High (class of 1952). He attended Stanford University and after serving in the Army medical core in Puerto Rico, he graduated from San Francisco State University as an accomplished accountant.
Stan was an avid baseball fan and ace pitcher while at Lincoln and was given a baseball scholarship to Stanford University and was then drafted by the Pittsburgh Pirates. While he did not pursue a baseball career, he did work as an accountant for various companies, most importantly family businesses with his brother Charles.
Stan is survived by his devoted wife, Wendie; his children Janine (spouse Grant) and Kevin; granddaughter Audrey; brother Charles (Chuck)(spouse Lesley), nieces and nephew Heidy Feinberg, Jeff Fetterman, Natasha Terk and Lisa Buchanan; many cousins and lifelong friends.
Funeral services will be at 2pm on Sunday, January 28 at Eternal Home Cemetery, 1051 El Camino Real, Colma, CA. A memorial will follow at approximately 3:30pm at Peninsula Temple Sholom, 1655 Sebastian Drive, Burlingame.
We'd like to thank our amazing, loving and devoted caregivers, Mesake Laiseni and his family. Your family are angels.
The family suggests donations to the Alzheimer's Association (alzfdn.org) or your local blood bank.
Stan, we love you and will always miss you.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Jan. 26 to Jan. 27, 2018.

Memories and Condolences
for Stanley Fetterman

4 Entries

William A. Dee

October 13, 2020

I just read the eulogy that is offered for Stan on this page and have to say it is 100% spot on! I worked for Stan in 1988-89 as a computer programmer/consultant, or I should say worked WITH Stan while he gave me my start as a programmer, and helped me launch a successful career as a developer that spanned almost 40 years!

I will never forget that dreary, rainy New Year's eve day in 1987..sitting alone and depressed in my dingy mobile home, perched aside Mt. Diablo in the east bay. At that time, I was a struggling neophyte in the world of IT progamming, self training and trying to find my way. Then, the phone rang and in a fit of giddy gallows humor, I answered, chirping "Sparky's Bar and Grille!". It was Stan, so polite and yet sensing the gag, playing along with it. "Well, exuse me, I was hoping to find the gent who is a TAS Accounting expert who was recommended at this number. So sorry to bother you!".

After some furious back pedalling from my greeting, and more than a few snickers from Stan, I humbly informed him that while indeed I was familiar with his system, I was not a programmer and not able to help him modify it. Stan retorted with "Well, you are now!. I need you to C'mon over to the city and help me out of the jam my former programmer has left me in!". And from that moment on my life was changed forever.

Working with Stan provided me with some of the fondest memories in my professional career. Stan taught me a few things about programming (truthfully I should have been paying HIM), but most of all, about LIFE as well. I remember one day Stan mentioned said he had to leave early because it was his 23rd wedding anniversay, and from his loving words about his dear wife even a blind man would have recognized the devotion and love he shared with his wife and family.

Stan was the guy who gave me my first nickname as a progammer, "Computer Dude".. which later was shorted to "CD". Stan was SOOO patient! There were times when I would get stuck on a problem, and spend hours puzzling over it. Then the day would end and I would feel so bad about wasting his time. And he would just smile and say, "No worries CD..just think it over during that long wait crossing the Bay Bridge, and it will come to you". And sure enough, it almost always did.

Truth be told, I sensed there were many days when Stan would wistfully glance from his office over in my direction, wishing he could drop his burden just for a few moments, and saunter over to join me in my work! And it came to pass that one day he actually did come to my rescue in solving a coding challenge I was pondering related to the DAG (Day At a Glance) Scheduling Program we were working on.

I will always remember Stan for what he was every day I knew him: kind, gentle, brilliant, good.

I know it's a bit late..Stan has been gone for almost three years and I just stumbled across this page today, but my heart goes out to his family and anyone else who knew him. I just wish I had known him longer!

Bill Dee
925-323-5590
[email protected]

jeffrey and marsha mechanik

January 25, 2020

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

jeffrey mechanik

March 29, 2018

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

Ron Gaggero

January 27, 2018

Saw Stan pitch against a future big bonus pitcher named Ed Chereghino at Funston field one night in the early 50's. Chereghino later signed with the Yankees for $ 100,000(big money) as the stands had many major league scouts in attendance. Stan out pitched Ed that night with stellar control and a steadfast determination. Stan was a good pitcher and a gentleman. Rest in peace. Ron Gaggero

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