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Anthony Trapani III

1964 - 2022

Anthony Trapani III obituary, 1964-2022, Bay St. Louis, MS

BORN

1964

DIED

2022

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Edmond Fahey Funeral Home - Bay Saint Louis

110 S. Necaise Avenue

Bay Saint Louis, Mississippi

Anthony Trapani Obituary

Anthony (Tony) Trapani III
April 19, 1964 - September 19, 2022
Bay St. Louis, Mississippi - His brothers say he was their mother's favorite. As the oldest of three boys, they were all a source of pride and joy for her. And when Anthony (Tony) Trapani III passed away at the young age of 58, it was the same day his mother had passed 19 years ago.
Tony was a one-of-a-kind personality. When he was in the room everything changed. He lived life to the fullest always stepping just a little bit over the edge. He worked hard and he played hard, never giving up an opportunity to get out on the Gulf for exploring, fishing and just having fun. While out exploring, he would find treasures of driftwood, hauling back what most would see as a worthless piece of wood. To him, it was a canvas for a treasured work of art. The art he created now hangs splendidly in the main dining room of his home away from home, Trapani's Eatery.
He and his business partner Jolynne Trapani opened Trapani's Eatery on the Beach in the Bay in 1994, and they have been serving up the best Coast cuisine and hospitality for nearly three decades facing one disaster after another, determined to keep the restaurant open under all circumstances. After Katrina, they opened a temporary restaurant in March 2006 on Highway 90 and in an unexpected effort to bring a bit of island flair to the Highway, Tony planted a palm tree right at the entrance. It would be years before they could build back on the beach, but through patience and determination to "never leave the Bay" they reopened the Beachfront restaurant in 2012. They would often say, we do what we do for the love of our children, Grace, and Joseph.
A graduate of St Stanislaus in 1982, and from Southeastern Louisiana in 1993 with a communications degree, Tony was happiest when he was in the kitchen. If there was a food competition, he was a sure bet to bring home the first-place trophy. His passion for food as a natural born chef, led him to start the restaurant, now the oldest seafood restaurant on the Coast.
Tony believed his employees were his most important asset. He would often say, "you are nothing without your employees." He loved his employees, and his employees loved him. Some, like Shawn Hess, have been with Trapani's for more than 20 years.
Tony never met a customer he didn't love often sitting down at their table offering advice on what to order. And his customers came from far and wide to have their fill of Paneed Trout Eatery, Fried Green Tomatoes with Sauteed Crabmeat and Hollandaise, Fried Eggplant with their famous red gravy and best chargrilled oysters on the Coast. Everyone has a Trapani's favorite and Tony was right at the center of the dining experience. Even Jimmy Buffet, who lists Trapani's as one of his top ten favorites, can't stay away for long.
Tony was a family man. This is where he held his greatest joy, taking his children Grace and Joseph out on the Bay with their friends and his family to teach them the ways of coastal living. Because of his love for wildlife and the water, they say they had the most incredible childhood. He was a true conservationist concerned with protecting the waters of the Gulf and serving as one of the first presidents of the area's Coastal Conservation Association (CCA). He was an entertainer either through his practical jokes, storytelling or stepping up to take the mic while a local band played at the Blue Marlin Bar upstairs. His personality was bigger than life.
He is preceded in death by his beloved parents Carol Jean Carver Trapani and Anthony Trapani Jr. He leaves behind his partner Marsha Vargas, his children Grace Camille Trapani and Anthony Joseph Trapani IV, mother of his children and co-founder of Trapani's Jolynne Trapani, his brothers Christopher Frank Trapani (Becky, Christopher, Jenna, Carol Ann, William), and Cary Trapani (Casey, Andrew, Maddie), his best friend and first cousin David Kenny (Cindy), and many nieces, nephews, cousins, and friends.
Tony's love for the Bay is unmatched. An icon of the tourism industry, he left his mark on the heart and soul of all he met and loved, and he put the Bay on the map as a sought-after tourism attraction for the Coast.
Arrangements are being made by Edmond Fahey Funeral Home. In lieu of flowers, the family asks for donations to be made in his memory to the Coastal Conservation Association - Bay Chapter, P. O. Box 3916, Bay St. Louis, MS 39521. Visitation is at Our Lady of the Gulf Catholic Church on Wednesday, September 28th from 10am – 1pm. The Christian Mass will be at 1pm followed by the burial at Gulf Coast Memorial Cemetery on Longfellow Drive. Honoring his memory, Trapani's will be closed on Tuesday, September 27th and Wednesday, September 28th.
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Published by The Sun Herald on Sep. 25, 2022.

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JoAnn n George Norton

September 19, 2023

When. Eating at Trapani´s over this year. We shared stories with strangers n family about Tony. His aura is in your restaurant. God bless his family n friends.

Just Another Rock-a-Chaw

March 4, 2023

The Trapani Files -- March 1977 ... Tony loved the Bay because Tony was the Bay. More than forty-five years later, I remember a Friday afternoon so well that proved it true.

St. Stanislaus had emptied with its usual weekend rush to the busses for boarding students going home as the campus slowed to a lovely crawl. A veritable prince of the city of Bay St. Louis from an early age, Tony, a day student, was still on campus -- Tony, the easiest guy to find, was always on campus.

Tony asked me if I wanted to go sit on the long pier in front of the school -- the pier that had replaced the grand one destroyed in Hurricane Camille. We walked across the highway, onto the pier and made our way to its end to have a seat, our feet hanging over the Bay's calm waters that day. It was so nice and chill, just hanging with Tony an hour before sunset. That friendly connection of school pals relaxing over the Bay seemed so automatic looking back on it. The conversation? Well, it was everything from side-splitting laughs to pauses of pure peace. He was at home with that magnificent body of water and made everyone feel at home too.

The Bay was -- and remains -- Tony's.

I couldn't put that into such sentiment then as a seventh grader, just as I'm realizing now that sometimes -- even if but for a moment -- we are closer than we think. Years and distance have passed and passed, but memories of Tony come back as I learn of his passing.

He was just the nicest, funniest, coolest, most astute guy, and his greatness was in the works all along. We're talking about a rare breed of individual who will never be forgotten.

One day, hopefully, a statue of him will overlook the Bay -- the Bay of Trapani.

Next in the Trapani Files -- A day at the Tracks (the railroad tracks by the school) when Tony and friends made the birds fly.

In lasting remembrance of The Great Trapani,

Just another Rock-a-Chaw

February 18, 2023

Tony was a classmate at St. Stanislaus and he was a class act then -- a caring heart, a wildly happy disposition and a rollicking sense of humor.

For his community, he would become a true pillar and legend. For anyone crossing his path, he was always and quickly a better part of their day. For classmates and friends back in the day, he was a guaranteed smile, that smile from the heart that was just so Tony. For me, as I learn of his passing five months since and thousands of miles away, he remains a beacon of love, hope and respect. He leaves us an imperative to live the best life possible, just as he will be so sorely missed. A straight-up character of an American original and a stand-up guy of exemplary character as a man, there will forever be only one Tony Trapani. Only one - the one and only Tony Trapani.

With profound sadness,

Wanda McEwen

December 6, 2022

I worked with Cary. My momma & I loved going to Trapani's before Katrina, the fried green tomatoes with crab!! The sunset martinis!! His driftwood art!! Just an amazing guy!! Momma left this world not long after Katrina, she hated seeing her beloved Coast torn up. I only got to go yo Trapani's once a few years ago. It was hard to be there, but their hospitality was the same & Tony was still the same great guy. My condolences to Cary, Tony's children & the rest of the family for the loss of such a great guy.

Wanda McEwen

JoAnn Merse

September 28, 2022

We grieve for you n your family. Still in shock. You helped Michael, our son while at St. s. Always Sat n talked to us about fishing n life with a smile n laughter. God took you early because you cook the best spaghetti. We already miss you. You were a generous man. Love, Joann, George Norton n Michael Merse

Terry Markel

September 28, 2022

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow. We will miss Tony's smile and jokes.
Terry and Lucy Markel

Sherry Kellahan

September 27, 2022

May your laughter filled loving memories of time well spent with each other help ease your sorrow. May God's everlasting love and peace hasten your grief. Deepest sympathy to you all.

Tina Apicelli

September 26, 2022

My condolences to his family, I've been cutting Tony's hair for a few years and will miss our conversations. Rest in peace ..

Allen Simons, Jr.

September 26, 2022

Rest In Peace friend ! We'll miss your cooking and the 'stories' !

Al & Terry Simons

Best Julie

September 24, 2022

Rest In Peace, Tony, you´ll be missed.
Jeff and Julie Best

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