Benjamin Robert Iliff

1990 - 2019

Gales Ferry – Our beloved Benjamin Robert Iliff, 28, made his unexpected transition on Friday, Jan. 11, 2019, after a long and courageous journey through the challenges associated with substance use disorder and the disease of addiction. We are grateful for every moment of Ben's life and for the many ways he helped us learn about the disease, but also about acceptance, unconditional love, patience, compassion, gratitude and understanding.

Ben was born Feb. 13, 1990, in New London and graduated from Ledyard High School.

It is impossible to capture a person in an obituary. Ben was funny, kind, polite, helpful, eager, intelligent, interesting, creative, artistic, articulate, silly and lots of fun. He was a gifted artist; music, drawing and painting were his passions. He was a gift to all of us and was adored as a son, grandson, father, brother, nephew, cousin and friend.

After the birth of his son, Kaleb, Ben tried hard to discover himself and his spiritual connection to the pure positive energy that could help him take control of his life and begin to create a brighter future for himself and his family. Until he drew his last breath, we believed that he would overcome his disease and make the life for himself that we knew he deserved. Ben is no longer limited by his physical form, and it is clear that we are more connected to him now than ever before. We take comfort in knowing that Ben is surrounded by infinite light and love, free from the obstacles he often encountered along his journey here.

Ben is survived by his son, Kaleb Maddox Iliff; and his son's mother, Kaleigh Mitchell; his father, Robert Iliff and step-mother, Deborah Iliff; his mother, Ceci Iliff and her partner, Pat Frankopoulos; his brother, Daniel; sister, Sarah; his maternal grandfather, Daniel Monaco; and his paternal grandmother, Lillian Iliff. He was predeceased by his paternal grandfather, Robert S. Iliff Sr; and his maternal grandmother, Louise Monaco. He is also survived by many aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends who will miss him dearly.

We appreciate beyond measure the outpouring of support and love. In response to the often-asked question, "Is there anything we can do?" or "Is there anything you need?" we respectfully request that in lieu of flowers, a donation be made to TheCharityChallenge.net, PO Box 594, Gales Ferry, CT 06335. The funds will be divided between Ben's son Kaleb and TriCircle, Inc, a local non-profit organization dedicated to creating real, long-term solutions for individuals and families who are affected by substance use disorder and the disease of addiction.

Please join us for calling hours from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. Friday, Jan. 18, and for a "Ben Style" celebration of his life at 11 a.m. Saturday, Jan. 19, both held at St. David's Episcopal Church in Gales Ferry.