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Jared Silva Obituary
Jared was born Jan. 24, 1961, the son of Dorothy Thurber Silva of Niantic and the late Robert M. Silva.
He was the owner and operator of Jared's Packy in New London.
During his youth, Jared was an avid member of the Boy Scouts and eventually reached Eagle Scout status, scouting's highest honor. He graduated from East Lyme High School in 1980 where he was a member of the varsity football team.
Sports were a passion of Jared's throughout his life, as he was a loyal fan of the Oakland Raiders and the New York Yankees. He was also a member of the Niantic Bay Yacht Club, where he enjoyed sailing and swimming. Jared loved all animals, especially his two Chow Chow dogs Tai-Ling and Maxine.
Jared was a devoted son, a loving brother, and a doting uncle to his niece and nephews. He was very gregarious and loved interacting with his customers of all ages and backgrounds, who he considered like family.
He will be remembered by all who knew him as a genuine, caring, and generous man whose wonderful sense of humor and friendly, non-judgmental nature made him a fixture in the New London and Niantic communities that he loved so dearly.
In addition to his mother, he is survived by a sister, Nancy and her husband, John Donovan, of Hingham, Mass.; a niece, Kaitlin Donovan, and two nephews, Patrick and Sean Donovan.
A Funeral Service will be held on Saturday, October 20th, at 11 a.m. at St. John's Episcopal Church, Main Street, Niantic. Burial will be private. Calling hours are Friday from 6 to 8 p.m. at the Neilan Funeral Home, 12 Ocean Ave., New London.
Donations in his name may be made to the charity of the donor's choice.
For obituary information, directions, or to share a note of remembrance/condolence with his family, please visit www.neilanfuneralhome.com
The Neilan Funeral Home, 12 Ocean Ave., New London is assisting the family the arrangements.
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Memories and Condolences
for Jared Silva
SLiM
October 27, 2007
My heart goes out to Jared's family. He was such a great person, he'd give anyone anything he had and not think twice about it. He was so caring and so nice. We'd often talk about my job and he'd always encourage me on days I was ready to give up to keep going. He was like family, a big part of the community. He'd stay open that extra 15 mins. for you if you just called him. He had the biggest heart ever. R.I.P. Jared, you're missed greatly!!
danielle h
October 26, 2007
Jared is a great man, he is a friend of mine and will always be. Til we meet again..........
betsy ballantyne froderman
October 25, 2007
Jared was my first love in high school. He was always laughing, joking and full of life. He taught me how to drive stick shift (much to his yellow bug's dismay!) He went through my own mother's death with me and helped me through so much during those high school days. I hate to say that we were not so close over the last years but I knew he would always be there for me because that was the type of gentleman that he was. My family would come and visit him when they came back to CT and i would always hear what was happening in his life. He was a big part of my latter teen age years..... I cant imagine him gone... but I will always remember his smile and laughter.... that is the way i'm hoping he is right now. My condolensces to his mom and sister and her family. Know this.... he was loved....
Amanda Lewis
October 25, 2007
Jared was avery kind soul.He had agreat sense of humor and he was generous even though he was having his own problems.I lived acroos from him for 12 years and he was afriend and always will be.Me and my family will miss him very much. Love Ya J!!!!!!!
Lenette Strong
October 24, 2007
A truly wonderful nice man, such a flirt! He will be missed and I pray he is in peace. My thoughts and prayers are with Jared's family at this time. This pain that so many people are feeling isn't going to diminish for a long time. Rest in Peace, Jared
janet woods
October 22, 2007
Jared had a great sense of community and of those he served proudly.
he told me once, this was his town, and he was going to make a difference,to the way New London was when he grew up.
He was not only a vendor of spirits, but, he believed in old New London.that made him am "old spirit". i thought it comical at the time, but now, it's not comical at all. My condolences go out to his family members; God must have needed him it sucks.i've been there. Family , keep together. You will see him again.
Jim Germain
October 21, 2007
I met Jared when he worked at another package store and was his salesman when he purchased his own store. I always enjoyed stopping in to see him to see him. He will truly be missed. My sincere thoughts and prayers are with his family at this tragic time.
Maurene Maynard McCredie
October 21, 2007
Jared was truly a "great guy". His smile and his humor will be sadly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with his family during this difficult and tragic time.
Teresa Esterley
October 20, 2007
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2007
James Barone
October 20, 2007
Please accept our sincere condolences on the recent demise of Jared. We trust that God will sustain you and your family during this most trying of times.
Jim and Madeline Barone
R Lee & Family
October 19, 2007
The God of love and peace
shall be with you...
2 Corinthians 13:11
---------------------------------
They say "life goes on"--
just give yourself time
to mourn and accept
and to heal,
Though none of that offers
much comfort right now
with the sorrow and loss
you must feel...
But deep in your heart
if you trust and believe
that memories and love
never cease,
You'll find God is waiting
and wants nothing more
than to offer you
comfort and peace.
---------------------------------
Rest In Peace, Jared
You will be truly missed!
john colgan
October 19, 2007
jared im going to miss your smile everyday.this is your favorite ice cream man. and i will ring the bells everyday while i go bye. you alway took care of people and they will remember you, and you will not be fogoten. god bless you and your family you are the salt to earth in my book,,...
Ivan Gonzalez
October 19, 2007
My deepest sympathy goes out to Jared's family. He was a great man. I'll miss all the conversations and debates we had everytime I went to his store. He was an absolute gentleman and I have no doubt that angels will lead him in! I'll miss you my friend!
Cheryl Burns-Sylvia
October 19, 2007
To the Silva Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you during your time of sorrow. Jared was a very kind person and will be sadly missed.
SHA
October 19, 2007
JARED YOU WILL BE MISSED. I'LL SEE YOU IN HEAVEN. RIP!!! GOD BLESS!!!
JESIKA
October 19, 2007
jared, you were such a happy person.you always could put a smile on my face, as well as many others! R.I.P.
Scott Weaver
October 19, 2007
I've known Jared since he first bought the package store in New London. We shared many discussions about small businesses with much advice from Jared. He was most fluent in his relationship advice. Jared was not just your package store nice guy, he would become your friend. He was genuinely concerned about the lives of his customers and would start the discussions, "How's the boat? How's the girlfriend?" I only hope that I asked him about his life's situations as much as he did mine. If we could all be a bit more like Jared, perhaps these senseless tragedies will stop. We will miss you neighbor, friend. I'll see you next on the Great Sea with Margueritas in hand, a toast and a hug.
shatara j
October 19, 2007
my deepest sympathy goes out 2 jared and his family. jared was 1 of the friendliest, coolest guy youll ever meet!! very kindhearted who lent his hand out to anybody in need!!gone but youre neva eva be 4gotten jared much luv to the silva family until we meet again
kathleen silvia
October 19, 2007
JARED WAS TRUELY A ANGEL SENT FROM ABOVE I CLEAN MY FRIENDS HOUSE EVERY WEEK AND I WOULD STOP IN TO SEE HIM AND JUST TO SEE HIM SMILE AS SOON AS I WALKED IN AND TO GET ONE OF HIS BIG BEAR HUGS MADE MY DAY I WILL MISS HIM ALOT AND KEEP HIS MEMORY ALWAYS AND FOREVER MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO HIS FAMILY JARED I LOVE YOU HONEY UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN
s l
October 18, 2007
I didn't know Jared very well but he was the type of person who would welome you into his store whether he knew you or not. This is truly a tragedy and my thoughts and prayers go out to his family. His sweet smile will be missed in New London
P.J.
October 18, 2007
WHEN WE MEET AGAIN, DRINKS ON ME HOMEY! YA HEARD. R.I.P. JARED! 1.
T M
October 18, 2007
To the Silva Family,
May God keep you all close to him in your time of sorrow. I am so sorry about your loss, the communtiy has lost a great man and he will be missed, but not forgotten.
Teresa Esterley
October 18, 2007
Jarad will surly be missed by many...
sorry about the loss
June Sylvia
October 18, 2007
Jared was a truly genuine and caring person with a kind heart and kind smile. I will remember the many special times at Harringtons Pub. My heart goes out to the family.
Greg and Fran Lutzen
October 18, 2007
To the family of Jared. Jared was a wonderful, caring, kind and gentle individual with a keen sense of humor that could immediately endear him to anyone. Jared shared many moments with me and my family on our deck in Niantic, in Newport, and at our daughter's wedding. He was truly a good friend and we will miss him dearly. We hope it is comforting to you that he had so many people who cared for him. Godspeed, Jared, and may you rest in peace with the Lord.
Patti (Chambers) Antilli
October 18, 2007
Many memories of Jared come flooding back to me this week, each one brings a smile to my face. I've known Jared since we were kids, from school to youth group at St. Johns. Whenever I would run into him in later years, he'd always remember me. To me he will always be remembered as a fun-loving, easy-going guy who never had a bad word to say about anyone. You'll be missed my friend. My deepest sympathy to your family and all those you have touched throughout the years.
Tiffany McCollum
October 18, 2007
Jared was truely a great person. he had a great personality that New London will forever miss. Squire st wont be the same without you. My Sympathy and prayers go out to the family.
Scott and Jackie Schelkly
October 18, 2007
We will remember Jared with a smile. Our thoughts and prayers are with his family.
Margie Gordon
October 18, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with Jared's family and friends. He truly was a special person.
KERRI P.
October 18, 2007
JARED WILL BE REMEMBERED HE WAS A VERY KIND AND CARING PERSON MY HEART GOES OUT TO THE FAMILY.
Stacy
October 18, 2007
MY prayers are with Jerads family.
I miss him so much,His big bear hugs, his smile, He will never be forgotten. RIP my friend.
Ray Hamilton
October 18, 2007
Dear Mrs. Silva, Nancy ‘n’ John, Kaitlin, Patrick, and Sean,
Understanding the hole someone so loved and loving leaves behind, pray this helps some wee bit...to allow...enable...the grief! So truly sorry to hear about Jerry...he was a hero, God love 'im... not the kind that often makes the media, but the everyday kind that, instead, makes the kind of universal impression indicated by the other night’s vigil…and the countless stories we shared there!!! He was heroic in his inspirational way; he was heroic in his loving acceptance…in his ready smile…and in the legacy that bonds us in remembrance.
When my mother died, even after a years-long battle with cancer, I was shattered by the loss…inconsolable…she was my mentor! I like to think that I got my character from my father, but my mind and its capacity from m’dear sainted mother!!! BUT, "If your faith assures you she's in heaven, then what are the tears all about?!?" The answer lies below.
SELFISH TEARS
(I EULOGIZE MY BELOVED MOTHER - MARCH, 1989)
Today we cry...must admit they're selfish tears.
You see...our faith assures your journey's done.
But it's not for you we mourn, at all, my dear;
It's for those of us you've left behind...alone!!!
We share your joy...share your happiness at rest,
Your painful fears now for forever stilled.
You've fought the good fight, passed the final test,
But you've left behind a hole that can't be filled!!!
So, until we each rejoin you some someday,
And, while your memory buoys us through those years,
We'll miss you...but continue on our way,
And, from time to time, we'll cry our selfish tears!!!
Ray Hamilton ~*~ [email protected]
(c) March 19, 1989
Our sincerest condolences and prayers...
(-=< Ray ‘n’ Mindy >=-)
Andrea Simmons
October 18, 2007
Jared was truly the meaning of the phrase “one of a kind”. I could see that the few seconds of interactions, quick hellos and smiles from perfect strangers is what he lived for - he didn't take anyone for granted. I've never known anyone to have such a genuine concern for all others’ well being. It's surprising enough when you meet someone that they can remember your name the next you see them. Jared would remember that you were having a bad day by just the look on your face from the last time he saw you and care enough to ask you if things got better. He would remember that you told him you went to a football game three weeks before and ask you ‘how’d the game go?’, or ‘how was your vacation?’, ‘how’s your health condition…you feeling better lately?’ He would remember things I didn’t even recall telling him…but that’s just it…he always LISTENED AND CARED. I didn't even know Jared that well but at times I felt like he was a long time friend. I admire him, his outlook on life, his generosity and his sparkling spirit. I’ll never forget the perfect stranger that became someone I will dearly miss. My prayers and deepest sympathy are with his family and friends, I am so sorry for your loss.
John Grandchamp
October 18, 2007
Jared's kind, caring, and genuinely compassioniate demeanor were the things that set him apart in what has become a skeptical, selfish, and otherwise judgemental society... His loss has removed one of the bright spots from what is now an increasingly colder world... Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time... May you find peace in the lives he has touched...
Daniel Jones
October 18, 2007
My Condolences to Family.
Jared .... a high school friend who often helped people including me and shared sailing stories at NBYC.
He will be missed.
Regards,
Dan Jones
Christy Cassidy
October 18, 2007
My deepest condolences to the family. Jared was an awesome guy who meant a lot, to a lot of people. My fiance, and I are hosting a benefit in his memory Email me for information.
Tracy Roman
October 18, 2007
Jared you will be missed more then you'll ever know by so many people who loved an cared for you so much...It is with great honor that i had the chance to meet you and get to know you in this lifetime...To the Silva family my prayers are with during this time of sorrow...I am sure Jared will be keeping us safe watching over all of us...RIP my friend...Till we meet again...
Julian & Carmalyn Keefe
October 18, 2007
My sincere sympathy for you and your family. Jared was one of a kind person, always happy, always willing to help you; He will be missed by so many, he will never be forgotten. May God help you thru this tragic time.
Athena Cone
October 18, 2007
Deepest sympathy from the bottom of my heart. A polite young man with a smile on his face, that is how I remember him.
dave and shelley dowden
October 18, 2007
were so sorry to hear of the loss of jared he was one of the most caring person to always help out a friend or a stranger he will be missed by all.
Christine Mandry
October 18, 2007
I remember Jared when I was in my teen years. He gave great advise and was so caring when it came down to his customers. As I got order I felt he was a great mentor to me and help me with what you called my life crises. Jared is terribly missed, speaking for my whole family who new him as well. It wouldn't be the same now that he is in Heaven. I wish many blesses to Jared's family.
Jeri Duefrene
October 18, 2007
To Jared's family. I am very saddened to hear of your loss. I couldn't believe it when I heard the news this past weekend. Jared was a good man that I have known since 6th grade. Every time I saw him he was smiling and that was a gift. He will definitely be missed. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Teri & Frank Oberg
October 18, 2007
Although we didn't know Mr. Silva, our most heartfelt condolences go out to family and friends at the loss of such a wonderful person.
Mark H. Harvey
October 18, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
kerry watters
October 18, 2007
jared was such a sweetheart i loved going in to his store he use to make me smile when i was mad or upset he know what i wanted everytime i went there he will be missed my prayes are with his family we all love he
Mark Minucci
October 17, 2007
Jared was always first to lend a helpful hand. His compassionate personality and gentile soul set Jared apart from most.
I have great memories growing up with Jared. We attended the same schools, participated in Boy Scouts together, and spent many summers sailing in Niantic Bay.
Jared, rest in peace.
Heather Shallcross
October 17, 2007
To Jared's family. I am sincerely sorry to hear of Jared's tragedy. I pray that your hearts will be cured by god and your families and the New London Community, as well as life long friends he had. Jared I have not been to your store alot, but when I have went you were always so kind. You were helpful, welcoming, and very sweet. I wish there was another way. Wish it all could be different. R.I.P. You were a loved by so many people.
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