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Martin Darling Obituary
Jody Darling, age 55, died on December 21, 2009 at the Troy, PA Community Hospital after a courageous battle with cancer. He was born on July 21, 1954 in Montour Falls, the son of Stanley Martin Darling and Helen Jean Couch Darling. He lived in Odessa and Corning, was a master carpenter and a member of Carpenters Local 281. He enjoyed scuba diving, fishing and boating on Seneca Lake and he liked to ply he Mandolin. He was known for his sense of humor and his love of life, family and friends. He is survived by his companion Barbara Workman, daughters Alexis (Eric) Starns and Ashley Daring, granddaughters Evelyn and Charlise Starns. He is also survived by his mother Helen Darling, brothers Thomas (Lil) Darling and Jack (Francine) Darling, sister Anne (Tim) Hull, stepmother Joyce Darling, stepbrothers and sisters, nieces and cousin Chari (Joel) Krenis and several other cousins. Jody had many friends including his lifelong friends Randy Johnson, George Thompson, Gavin field and Joe Corby. His father Stanley and a special cousin Jan Ann McGarry predeceased him. Calling hours will be from 12-2 PM on December 30, 2009 at the Vedder and Scott Funeral Home in Odessa, NY, with a memorial service immediately following a 2 PM. Friends and family are invited to after a celebration of his life following the service at the Montour Falls Moose Club. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Cancer Resource Center of the Finger Lakes, 612 W. State Street, Ithaca, NY 14850.
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Memories and Condolences
for Martin Darling
January 12, 2010
My Dearest Jody….I love you with all of my heart. It took me 40 years to find you, but I thank God every day that he put us on a course that allowed us to meet and share our lives for the time we had. Even though it was not nearly long enough I am blessed that I could be a part of your life. Jody, without you I would never have experienced the Love of a “Soul Mate”. Your love gave me strength beyond measure. I always told you that whenever I had a bad day all I had to do is think of you and it brought a smile to my face and weightlessness to my mind… you still do! I have so many wonderful memories of you. You taught me how to live and now you have taught me how to die… gracefully. You are my hero…so brave and unafraid of anything. Through all that you endured you always kept your sense of humor, your beautiful smile and that twinkle in those big brown eyes. You touched my life and my heart forever and that is where you will always be. I know you are with me in spirit everyday! Until we are together again for all eternity, I Love you my sweet, RIP~Your Buttercup…Barb
Charlie and Anne Barton
January 9, 2010
Fond memories of Jody. Visiting the Darling household as a teenager. Trombone section in the OMCS band. Parties at the house as we all "grew up". Boating and skiing on Seneca Lake. Jody and Barb pulling up to the dock at Peach Orchard-a big bass on the line.
From a Springsteen song-
They say you can't take it with you, but I think that they're wrong
'Cause all I know is I woke up this morning and something big was gone
Gone into that dark ether where you're still young and hard and cold
Just like when they built you brother, they broke the mold
Sincere condolences to Barb, the Darling family, and to everyone who knew and loved Jody.
January 1, 2010
Hi
So sorry our loved one has left us but so glad he is not in pain any longer.
I reflect back to his first years on this good earth as a baby, as I baby sat him and the others often. May our thoughts and prayers comfort the family.
Lois Ann Halpin
Kate Sirrine
December 30, 2009
I didn't know Jody, but have known Tom and Jack, especially, for many years. I was too timid today at his service to read the poem that I will include here:
O ye whose cheek the tear of pity stains,
Draw near with pious rev’rence, and attend!
Here lie the loving husband’s dear remains,
The tender father, and the gen’rous friend;
The pitying heart that felt for human woe,
The dauntless heart that fear’d no human pride;
The friend of man-to vice alone a foe;
For “ev’n his failings lean’d to virtue’s side.”
It IS a hard time, Jack...stay in touch.
Sue Davis-Tripp
December 29, 2009
My deepest sympathy to the Darling family. I have such fond memories of Jody while growing up in Odessa. All of the musical activities in HS and that special twinkle in his eye made him so special! Deanie, Tom, Jack, and Anne; remembering Jody will always bring a smile to my face. My best to Barb and his children.
Dave Jilson
December 29, 2009
My geniune condolences to the Darling family. Jody, like the rest of the family, will always have a special place in my heart and memory that will never be forgotten.
Steve Defendorf
December 29, 2009
Jodi, Lets eat and get outa here, that's what he'd say and that's what he did. I loved him dearly so long Jod
we'll be seena ya in the after life.
Mike Rowley
December 28, 2009
Though it has been many years since I have been in touch with Jody and his family, I think of him often and it always brings a smile. These memories include all the wonderful times at Peach Orchard Point - chicken barbeques, croquet, Frisbee, boating, skiing. I will always remember playing trombone with Jody in the Odessa alumni Dixieland jazz band when we played at the Glenora jazz festival in the mid '70s. He truly enriched the lives of those he touched. My deepest sympathies to Barb, Jack, Tom, Anne, Helen and family - God Bless.
Kelly Spaulding
December 28, 2009
Barb and family,
My thoughts and prayers to you at this difficult time. Jodi was a one of a kind and will never be forgotten. Barb you were his angel that took care of him on earth and he will be your angel that will look over you and his family in heaven. May your wonderful memories ease your pain.
Kelly
Mark Pederzolli
December 28, 2009
Barb and Family we are so sorry for your loss he was a great guy and a good freind to me i will miss him we always had a good time when ever we saw each other Barb words can not describe the respect i have for the way you took care of him i am sure there is a place in heaven for you next to him God bless you
December 27, 2009
I remember Jody as a young boy growing up in Odessa. I had the good fortune of meeting again a few years ago. He had such a spice for life. His great smile and sense of humor will be missed.
RIP Friend
My heartfelt sympathy to Jody's Family.
Helen Harvey Covert
gavin field
December 26, 2009
To Barb, Family and our friends, no words can express how Jody's life has enriched mine and Jane's life as much as our friendship with him. From our days on the HS football field to our many memories on the St. Lawrence river and A-Bay and Syr. His family always made me feel as one of them. I'm sorry for our loss, but he is in peace with god and looking over us and still making us smile and laugh for which he was the best. LOVE GAVIN & JANE
Stacey Lavarnway (HA @CMC-SSSU)
December 26, 2009
BARB AND FAMILY- I am so sorry to hear about Jodi. I can't even tell you how much Jodi touched my heart. He was one of my favorite patients and no matter
what mood he was in, he always found a smile for me. He was very courageous and never gave up. I know that he is in a much better place then we are in and he is watching over you. God bless all of you and love you all. my prayers are with you.
December 26, 2009
Dear sweet Jody...we will miss you and your awesome sense of humor...what fun times we had! You were a great brother -in-law, uncle, and friend..Annie& Ray Price and Emily and Abbey Darling
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