Dr. Homer José Peña

Austin - Dr. Homer José Peña How fortunate we are to have been loved by Homer José Peña. We aspire to benefit from his example of how to live and love others. Our father was 92 years of age and passed peacefully at home in Austin soon after enjoying a bowl of ice cream on July 09, 2024. We'll hold on to his spirit and grace forever.

Here's how we'll remember him...

Family was first and meant everything. He was happiest when surrounded by as many family members and friends as possible. He was a simple man with hopes that people would do the right thing and treat others well. He enjoyed cowboy movies with John Wayne but wasn't the type to walk in a room with a powerful swagger. Instead, he presented strength with a mountain of integrity displayed by a gentle mannerism. He was gracious and patiently paid attention to your thoughts. He was honest and transparent. He was intelligent and succinctly articulated opinions with clarity and a response that sounded like "What would Jesus do"? We deeply love him, and he generously loved us back.

Dad was a loving husband of 66 years to our mother, Maria Del "Carmen" Peña, a caring father to Omer †, Sandra, Denise, Homer "Jay" Jr., Michael, and Veronica. He was a grandfather of 10 (Catherine, William, Elizabeth, Ashley, Dillon, Aaron, Tori, Colin, Lauren and Mateo) and a great-grandfather of 1 (Orson). Dad also embraced the extended family of significant others through his children. More people, more love, that made our family complete and brought laughter and joy to his heart and home. They include: Carl, Cinthya, Shannon, Dan, Jerris, and Claudia.

Our father was preceded in death by 2 slightly elder brothers, all with similar character, that he revered. They were Joel Peña and Heron Peña, and they passed in June and July of 2019 respectively. A most difficult and heart-breaking time for all.

Dad maintained a positive perspective without much complaint while dealing with the natural and indefensible decline in health. A special note of gratitude from the family goes out to our sister, Sandra, who took on the responsibility of acquiring the knowledge, skills and patience to provide the time for all of dad's medical needs, including the struggles with at-home daily dialysis for the last year and half. We will forever appreciate all you've done for the family.

In his retirement years, dad took up the only hobby in his life and thoroughly enjoyed studying the strategic art in the game of chess. He loved chess and played every day. He exercised his mind solving chess puzzles on his iPad and was always challenging someone to play a game.

He was also a stubborn man with steadfast opinions but never demanded. He wasn't apt to voice criticism to his family but frequently complained about misguided legislators. He annoyingly followed all rules but viewed our mistakes and difficult times with empathy and compassionate open arms. To simply say he was a selfless man is inadequate. His actions and mind were always directed toward the benefit of others with a moral courage.

He never cared for lavish or fancy items and never bought anything to indulge himself beyond a good book. He loved desserts and had a good-natured sense humor. He enjoyed sending us cartoons that appeared to make fun of himself in old age. He never cared for alcohol or curse words as a manner of expression. He carried himself as a gentleman. He worked at being better in whatever he pursued and demanded excellence of himself in even small tasks. If it's worth doing, it's worth doing right was taken to another level in his every day.

He never raised his voice in anger or to discipline. He guided with simple and absolute truths. He established a presence of respect and lead the family by example. He consistently demonstrated love with the simplest actions.

Dad was born to Alonso and Olivia Peña at his home with the aid of a midwife and raised in McAllen, Texas. The family of 5 lived in a shotgun style house designed with only 2 bedrooms and 1 bathroom. Instead of participating in athletics or organized hobbies, his youth was occupied by employment. After graduation from high school, he couldn't afford college and chose to serve in the United States Navy. He served during the Korean war from 1951 - 1955 and traveled the world. He was an Aviation Electronics Technician assigned to fly in a patrol plane tasked with various duties including searching for enemy submarines. In 1954, Patrol Squadron 23 (VP-23) with a crew of 10 was flying a B-24 aircraft over the North Atlantic Ocean when engine failure necessitated a crash landing 110 miles east of Nantucket Island, Massachusetts. At least five more things went wrong during the emergency, but my dad and all other crew members were rescued in the ocean. This harrowing experience created an everlasting bond among these young men who continued to keep in touch and reunite for the next 70 years. To emphasize this critical moment in one's life, the personalized license plate on dad's car reads "VP-23" in honor of their survival.

After discharge from the military, his service provided the benefit of financial assistance to help pay for college. Dad devoted himself to the opportunities that higher education bring. Many people are defined by the one occupation they commit to for a lifetime, but dad seized each job as an opportunity to achieve more and earn the next job. The first rung in the ladder of success for his professional career began as a math teacher at his alma mater, McAllen High School. While employed, he concurrently continued his higher education as a door to be opened that would provide the opportunity to pursue elevated goals. Overall, he attended 5 higher education institutes to gain a teaching certificate, Bachelor of Arts Degree, Master Degree in Education and ultimately a Doctor of Education Degree from the University of Houston. A long list of job titles in administrative education were highlighted by becoming President of Pan American University at Brownsville in 1980 and the Founding President of the University of Texas at Brownsville. He ended his career working for the University of Texas System as the Executive Director for South Texas Program Development in Austin and retired in 2003. This warrants repeating ... he started as a high school math teacher and impressively escalated to directing the goals of a system of universities. All his accomplishments were earned, not given, and well deserved from a dedication to perseverance.

We offer the following imagery that exemplifies the family's perception of our father: As a young and small child when my father stood directly before me, I tilted my head back and looked straight up. In my mind, he appeared to stand 12 feet tall. Then, as I grew older and was able to look my father directly in the eye, the respect he garnered from the quality and content of his character was impressive. And in my mind, he appeared to stand 12 feet tall. As my father grew older and the laws of nature reduced his height, and I was now taller than him, I appreciated the way he lived his life and treated all others. In my mind, my father continued to stand 12 feet tall. We will forever look up to him for guidance in our decisions.

Memory of the details from any specific meeting with others is often vague at best but the memory of how that person made you feel is easily remembered. Our father always greeted us with a tremendous hello and a heart-felt good-bye. The moment you saw his eyes you felt his sincere excitement and could hear the love in his voice. He offered the warmth and affection of a strong hug and a kiss that instantly made both of your days better. We'll always remember and became accustomed to, his consistent parting expression that always repeated the exact same sentiment, "Be good. Be brave. Be happy. And be back".

Our hearts are filled with pride that mildly alleviates the heavy pain of his absence. It was a comfort to say, "I love you". But now, our hero has passed, and it feels impossible to say, "Good-bye".

Visitation will be on Monday, July 29, 2024 from 6:00pm to 8:00pm with a 7:00pm rosary at Kreidler Funeral Home in McAllen. Funeral Mass will be at 10:00am on Tuesday, July 30, 2024 at Our Lady of Sorrows Church in McAllen. Interment will follow at Valley Memorial Gardens Cemetery in McAllen.