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Alexander Forbes Obituary

Alexander Forbes
October 5, 1969 - April 16, 2021
Olympia, Washington - Alexander John Forbes was born in 1969 and died in the spring of 2021. Alex was a writer and a sailor, a scholar and keeper of traditional wooden boat ways, a horseman, a small plane pilot and a mountain climber, a patternmaker, a woodworker, a logistician and a teacher. He was a lover of language and story, of beauty and quiet. He was an inventor and an explorer of worlds.
Alex grew up on boats. For years his summer job was ferrying folks between Southwest Harbor and Greenings Island, Maine, aboard the lobster boat Annie T, he was a rigger on the team at Mystic Seaport that recreated the Amistad, he served aboard the tall ship Californian, he skippered the classic schooner Voyager from Morocco to the Caribbean. And he was known for his own boat—all along the Downeast coast and the length of the Salish Sea people who didn't know Alex personally knew the unforgettable sight of Bucephalus coming in under sail, or walking away with a race the smallest of her class had no right to win, or executing a graceful figure eight to get a better look at another pretty boat.
Alex paid attention to how things are made and what they mean—boats, clocks, stories, adventures, friendships. To him, loving something meant taking care of it, and he developed an extraordinary range of skills and knowledge in order to do right by the various people, places and passions he collected over the years. When he couldn't find a fitting he needed for Bucephalus, Alex taught himself patternmaking and was so good at it, the foundry wound up hiring him to produce rare and one-of-a-kind pieces. Introduced to a passion for the outdoors through The Athenian School, Alex scaled Aconcagua in Argentina, sea kayaked off the coast of Baja, and spent seasons climbing in the Sierras and in his beloved Death Valley. He went on to teach at the National Outdoor Leadership School and he returned to Athenian for many years to do logistical planning and field work for their wilderness program, leaving as lasting a positive impression on the school as it did on him. He first trained as an EMT at Meeks Bay Fire Department in Lake Tahoe and later also served as a member of the VFD in Southwest Harbor, Maine, helping to create an independent fire "station" on tiny Greenings Island. Wherever he went, in all these capacities and many more, Alex made deep and lasting connections.
He listened to the people others talk over—awkward children, old people, skittish animals. He learned a lot this way and it also made him an exceptional teacher. Generous, patient and encouraging, he was known for sharing the wealth of his knowledge, experience and humor in deep or passing conversations on the dock, in his shop, or as "Pitsligo" on the message boards for various esoteric interests and arcane crafts. Alex hardly ever accepted an invitation, but if you asked for a favor or information, he always responded at the very least with a well-researched referral. We all have stories of the irreplaceable part Alex played in our lives and we'll all be a bit adrift without him.
It is notable that Alex didn't draft his own obituary. He took care of just about every other detail and everyone knows he was a great writer. Maybe it was because he couldn't bring himself to tout his own accomplishments; though objectively the list is too long and varied to do it justice here, Alex was allergic to hyperbole and could poke a hole in any compliment. Maybe he valued ability more than accomplishment. He was most able. Until he was not. Then he left this world.
Alex is survived by his parents Peter Forbes, Patricia Nelson and Eric Nelson, his sisters Anne de Marcken and Allegra Forbes, Anne's spouse Marilyn Freeman, his aunt Pamela Forbes and uncles Michael Forbes and John Marsh, cousins Sophia McLane and Charles Marsh, by a few essential others including Erica Forbes and Mary Elizabeth Forbes, by a small handful of very close friends, and by a vast network of cherished acquaintances.
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Published by The Olympian on May 2, 2021.

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Mary Elizabeth Forbes

July 9, 2021

May the Supreme Being grant you Fair Winds and Following Seas, Alex: and that your spirit have eternal Peace.
Sincere condolences to all the family.

Kate

May 3, 2021

We live across the street from Alex and crossed paths many times down by the road when he’d come to get his mail. The first day I met Alex we chatted for 45 minutes in the driveway and he invited me in for tea to continue our conversation. I grew up here on this property and we always got to talking deeply about time and life. He told me about some of his adventures but knowing how humble Alex was I never heard over half of the amazing things he’d done in his life and it brought me to tears reading what a craving for meaning Alex had. What a beautiful tribute. The last few times I saw Alex left me unsettled and to hear of his passing truly shook my world. I didn’t know Alex very well but we are all human. And we all struggle blindly through life. I’m honored to have known him and I will be missing our future woodworking endeavors we had chatted about together. The morning after his passing I was looking out the window down his driveway and I watched a fawn passing through letting me know he’s okay. My deepest condolences to all of you, grief is just love with no place to go.

Climena and Ocean

May 2, 2021

I had met Alex only a handful of times at Boston Harbor Marina where he kept his lovely Bucephalus after waiting something like 7-12 years for a mooring. He was lovely, intuitive, kind, and had an absolute undeniable sweetness about him. Every time we would see each other on the dock we would make time to have a small conversation. When he hauled Bucephalus out for the season he let my partner and I stay on the mooring he had waited so long for, for free. His kindness and generosity was so absolutely meaningful to us. Though we only have met this wonderful man a handful of times, we had exchanged many words over email. Let it be known that we will think about Alex forever, his generosity and his delightful demeanor. Needless to say he gave off untouchable vibrations of light and positivity. He will be so missed and I am just so glad to have ever crossed paths with such an amazing human. My condolences to his family and friends. I can only imagine how much his family and friends are hurting. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you Alex for being a sensitive soul that touched our lives, even if it was brief.
-Climena and Ocean

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