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Mark Bender Obituary
Mark Gary Bender, 25, was taken from us suddenly on Dec. 3. Mark was born March 1, 1983, in San Francisco to Gary and Eileen Bender. He was an avid Giants and 49ers fan. Mark was a talented computer assisted drawing (CAD) developer.
He is survived by his loving family, parents, Gary and Eileen Bender of Vacaville; son, Jordan Bender of Danville; brother, Kevin Bender of Arizona; sister, Michelle Bender of Sacramento; and grandmother, Alice Bender of Vacaville. He will be missed by all.
A celebration of Mark's life will be held at 3 p.m. Sunday, Dec. 7, at McCune Garden Chapel, 448-6546.
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Memories and Condolences
for Mark Bender
Stacie Dull (Hester)
January 1, 2009
To All,
Even though it's been years since I've seen you Mark, just talking to you again brought back every old memory. From eating all our dinner to be able to eat whip cream to arguing over you singing that Coolio song over and over :-) We did and shared so much I just wish it could have lasted longer. I know you were a great son, brother, friend, and most of all Dad. You will be missed by everyone and know there is not one life you crossed paths with that you did not touch (Including mine). I love you and miss you!!!
Wende Hester
December 27, 2008
Eileen, Gary, Michelle, Kevin, and Jordan,
My heartfelt sorrow at the news that Mark has left this world; Stacie was in tears when she told me on Christmas day.
I can't even begin to imagine the loss of a child. Know that there are so many people who are praying for you.
I'll always remember the times we all spent together and how intertwined the children all were as they were growing up.
God Bless from all of us - Sean, Stacie, Wende
Kristina Howard
December 23, 2008
Mark was a wonderfull friend. We've known one another since our teenage years on the Hurricane where we shared the priveledge of Boatswain. I really enjoyed his company as we made a really good friendship. It was an honor to meet his son, Jordan earlier this year at the reunion, I know Mark will always be missed in those big soft eyes.
My prayers are still out there for his family and friends.
Margaret Curran
December 13, 2008
Dear Eileen
I am so sorry my heart and prayer go out to you, Gary and family.
Love your cousin
Margaret Cleary Curran
Amanda DeRenzi
December 12, 2008
He was the one person who kept me sane in my teenage years in the Hurricanes. When I was having any problems, he was always there to keep me grounded. I couldn't have asked for a better angel during those hard times, and I will always be forever grateful for his friendship through the years. He is one person I can honestly say has touched my heart so much that I will never be able to forget him. He will be missed SO much.
Nora Maanao
December 12, 2008
I am so sorry to hear of Mark's sudden death. I work at Alza and knew Mark when he was a security guard. We've spend a lot of lunchtimes together out on the patio, and I have nothing but good to say about him. He was such a nice person and has been missed since he's left Alza. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Lisa Fortunato
December 12, 2008
I have known Mark for 11 yrs now. I was 12 and he was 16 and we were in sea scouts. Throughout the years Mark and I have become very good best friends. We have gone through a lot together. I remember that our last conversation was about how good our friendship has matured. I remember a lot from sea scouts. He was such an ambitious young man. Then he went to the Army and he was a changed man when he came out. But it was a good change. And then he had Jordan (who I've had the pleasure to meet) and that's when I saw Mark become a Man. I love Mark with all my heart and I miss him so much. He has always been a good person and a good friend. I give and send all my love to Mark's family and I give them my condolences.
Mickey Morgan
December 10, 2008
I have wonderful memories of Mark from the years that I knew him. I had the pleasure of knowing Mark while he was in the Sea Scouts. When he was in the crew he was kind and friendly. He played a lot with my kids and they looked forward to cruises and Scout activities when they knew that he would be there. They were heartbroken to learn of his passing. He showed a calm manner and a sense of humor when he took charge of his crew and they loved him for it.
The Army was good for him and we on the Hurricane were glad to see him come back leaner and stronger and a better man. Thanks for his service.
My condolences go out to all of Mark's friends and family. He will be missed.
Terry Thrasher
December 9, 2008
Bender Family
I am so sorry for your loss. I knew Mark from Sea Scouts and I always liked him. He was a good kid.
John and Carol Chilson
December 9, 2008
To the Bender family,
I knew Mark when he was my Boatswain on the Hurricane. He was always a joy to have on the crew. He was a good boy and he grew into a good man. My heart and prayers go out to you for your loss.
Vanessa Strickland
December 8, 2008
Mark became a big part of my world here in Livermore... Even though I knew him for only the past year, we became close friends and he will be missed so very much! I'm glad I was able to see him Monday night before he left us... I pray for Jordan and his family often these days. Love to you all...
Carolyn Thomas
December 8, 2008
Dear Bender Family,
I cannot comprehend your loss. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you. My son Kevin and Mark attended school together and all of my children knew Mark through daycare. On behalf of myself, Kevin, Karen and Katie Thomas, our sincerest sympathies are offered to all of you.
Carolyn
Loren & Debby Groves
December 8, 2008
Gary, Eileen, Kevin and Michelle,
We were heartbroken when we read about Mark. Please know that you all have been in our thoughts and prayers. May God comfort you now and in the months to come.
Ken & Karen Stockton
December 7, 2008
Gary, Eileen, Jordan & Family, we are sorry to hear of your loss. May you find comfort & some measure of peace in the memories you have of Mark. You are in our thoughts & prayers. Love to you, Ken & karen Stockton
DeAnn
December 7, 2008
Kevin,
I'm sorry for the loss of your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Vikki Matlock
December 7, 2008
Dear Bender Family,
Mark and my son, Zachary Matlock were good friends through out middle and high school. I can not beging to say how sorry we are for your unimaginable loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Tom, Vikki and Zachary Matlock
Candice Hoff
December 6, 2008
Kevin and Family,
Words cannot express how deeply saddened I am for your loss. Although I did not know Mark personally, Kevin and I were good friends in high school. I hope that you find comfort in each other at this difficult time and cherish those memories of Mark that you hold close to you.
kel kel hey kel kel!
December 6, 2008
mark ,you always came to visit us even when you moved to livermore, so many excellent memories,my niner buddie! so happy to see you last week, it wont be the same without you. You and jordan are family!
love
kel kel
Shannon Collier
December 6, 2008
Kevin,
I"m so sorry for the loss of your brother. Our thoughts and prayers have been with you and your family.
Shannon & Kirsten
Lyda Brown
December 6, 2008
Gary, Eileen and Michelle,
My heart goes out to you.
Many prayers and much love to you and your family.
Liz Sauerwein
December 6, 2008
Gary, Eileen and Michelle,
Words cannot describe how sorry I am for your loss! I can't even imagine. Just know that he is ok and looking down on us from heaven. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you!
Liz Sauerwein
Dennis and Laura Abel
December 6, 2008
We have such fond memories of both Mark and Michelle from swim school days. Our hearts as well as our prayers are with your family. May your memories, eventually, fill a portion of the hole his parting leaves.
God's blessings on you all.
McCune Garden Chapel Funeral Home
December 5, 2008
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