Richard Douglas Gray-Scolari

Richard Gray-Scolari Obituary

Richard Douglas Gray-Scolari

It is with great sadness that we announce the passing of Richard Douglas Gray-Scolari. Rich died peacefully in his sleep on November 8 at his home in Los Angeles.

Rich was born in 1964 in San Jose, but considered Humboldt County home. Rich often had a hard life, dealing with a birth defect in his legs that kept him going to Shriner’s Hospital throughout his youth. Yet Rich always had a kind nature and a loving heart. With his love of all music, in his early 20s, Rich and his brother Xeff started a D.J. company called Soundtrax, and together they provided entertainment all around the county.

In his adulthood, Rich moved to San Francisco, and then later to New York to work as a systems analyst for the Red Cross. He then moved back home to Eureka, where he met the love of his life, Kenneth Gray. Together they moved to Glendale, and Rich became very active in the theatrical arts at Glendale Community College, where Ken was teaching. At the time of his death, Rich had been assistant directing a production of West Side Story.

Rich was a very special person and will be deeply missed by all of us who had the gift of knowing him and loving him. If you knew him, you loved him. Everyone loved Rich.

Rich leaves behind his husband, Kenneth Gray-Scolari; his parents, Frank and Carol Scolari of Eureka; brother, Steve and sister-in-law Toni Scolari of Carlotta; sister, Linda and brother-in-law Cliff Powell of Eureka; brother, Xeff and sister-in-law Meri Scolari of Eureka; sister, Carolyn and brother in-law Brandon Barnhart of Eureka; Godmother, Grace Wilkinson of Eureka; and many loved nieces and nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends.

In celebration of Rich’s life, friends and family are invited to a memorial service Saturday, November 15th at 11:00 a.m. at Sacred Heart Church in Eureka.

The family requests that in lieu of flowers donations be made to The American Foundation for AIDS Research www.amfar.org or the charity of your choice.

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Published by Times-Standard on Nov. 13, 2008.

Memories and Condolences
for Richard Gray-Scolari

9 Entries

Dan Alivia

November 26, 2008

Dear Ken and Scolari family:

Stacey and I always looked forward to visiting your home, filled with peace and solace surrounded by the beautiful forest. Both you and Rich always made our day! This came as a shock to us as well, and our thoughts are always with you and your family.

david woodward

November 23, 2008

dear ken and scolari family,
rich was a good friend to me for over 20 years. we did a lot of things together. we would talk on the pone all the time. we would hang out in eureka when he was here. he got me to move to san francisco. he would visit me there. when he moved to new york i went to visit him. i moved to l a area and rich was there. we would go to north hollywood our disney land. we allways had fun hanging out. we would sit around and watch moves our listen to music both of which he had alot of. i was always trying to find something he had not seen our heard. it was verry hard. i will miss him very much we both went through alot of things together i am sorry he wont be here for more.

Diane Larkin

November 19, 2008

Dear Linda and family,
We send our love and sympathies to you and all your family for your recent loss. Take care.
Diane and Dan Larkin and girls

Sherrie Dunn

November 14, 2008

Dear Ken and the Scolari Family,
It is so hard when we lose some one so close to us and unexpectedly. My thoughts are with you during his time. Rich knew he was loved....

Julie Timmons

November 14, 2008

So very, very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Jon Fretland

November 14, 2008

Dear Family,

As some one that has seen all the kids grow up we are saddened that Rich has passed away. Our thoughts and Prayers go out to you at this time. We pray with time the hurt will be less painful. We expect our children to lay us to rest and not the other way around. Love The Fretlands

Kathy Luther

November 13, 2008

Scolari Family,
I was so sorry to hear about Rich passing. I remember him from years ago, he was always so friendly and fun. I wish I'd had the pleasure of talking to him more recently. I hope you are able to find comfort in knowing that you are in the thoughts and prayers of so many people whose lives were touched by Rich. God bless you all.

Jody Casserly

November 13, 2008

Dear Ken and the Scolari family,
I was shocked to hear of Rich's death. I had just seen Rich and Ken last Tuesday at their home. We were talking about how well Rich was doing. I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to know him over the last two years, and will miss him. Ken, please call me anytime.

Humboldt CSD

November 13, 2008

Dearest Scolari Family,

It is with deep heart-felt sympathies that we send you are sincerest condolences. To loose a child is one of the most difficult things asked of some of us. We truly wish you comfort, acceptance, and peace as you process your grief.

Warm regards,
HCSD Board of Directors and Staff

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