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David Orr Thayer M.D.

1949 - 2020

David Orr Thayer M.D. obituary, 1949-2020, Longmont, CO

BORN

1949

DIED

2020

David Thayer Obituary

David Orr Thayer, M.D. of Boulder, CO passed away peacefully at home Thursday, February 13, 2020 at home in Boulder, CO following a courageous three and a half year battle with glioblastoma multiforme (GBM), an aggressive form of brain cancer. Although his family and friends mourn David's death, they celebrate the love, life, and passion he applied to every day of his life. Born in Erie, PA to William Thayer and Ethel (Spence) Thayer on February 11, 1949, David graduated Suma Cum Laude from Strong Vincent High School in 1967. After attending Grove City College for a B.S. in Chemistry, David attended Jefferson Medical College, Thomas Jefferson University, in Philadelphia, graduating in 1975 with an M.D. and specializing in OB/GYN. Following a residency in St. Francis Hospital and Medical Center in Hartford, CT, he joined a practice in Cortland, New York. David and his family moved to Boulder in 1985 where he opened his own OB/GYN private practice, The Thayer Group for Women's Care. Caring for thousands of women and delivering countless children until 2000, and then practicing gynecology until 2016, David devoted himself to quality, evidence-based medicine to treat the whole, individual patient. He was a pioneer in working with midwives in Boulder County, and later with his work with the DaVinci robot. His heart was broken in having to close his practice of more than three decades after getting his cancer diagnosis. He continued to provide consulting services until months before his death. David leaves behind many who loved his spirit, intellect, and special zest for life, including his devoted wife, Charmaine Haravey, children from his first marriage to Carolyn Marino, David Marino Thayer (Niwot, CO), partner Ashley Grace, and grandchildren Bennett Oliver Thayer (5/18/17) and Rosalie Giada Thayer (1/18/19); daughter Emily Rebecah Spence Thayer (Grand Junction, CO), partner Andrew Lukasiewicz, and grandson Jaxson Gennaro Orr Lukasiewicz (12/6/19); older brother William L. Thayer (Carole Murphy), and younger brother Allan R. Thayer (Shelley Owens) all of Erie, PA, and mother-in-law Charlotte A. Haravey, of Boulder. He leaves behind nieces Kim Clear, Lesley Nelson, Laura Orlando, Kristen Hyromak, nephews Brain Thayer and William Thayer, and all of their families, including many great nieces and nephews. David loved his family, friends and patients. He left an indelible impression of compassion with those whom he met. He loved adventure travel, skiing, biking, hiking, dining, and a good cocktail with friends. He battled his cancer with courage and good humor until the end. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to Planned Parenthood or the Humane Society of Boulder Valley. A celebration of life will be planned by the family for March in Boulder.

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Published by Longmont Times-Call on Feb. 16, 2020.

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Alana Hayden

February 10, 2025

I still think of him often - and his wonderful smile and quiet sense of humor. A shame he had so much more to give and to given too.

Alana Hayden

February 10, 2024

Yes only my doctor ONLY ONLY not really so many years later it breaks my heart to know he is gone. Not that many people touch me (oops) like he did but he got my sense of humor and always laughed as I did when he knocked on the door before an exam - HOW FUNNY THAT WAS - he got to saying Avon Man can i come in!!!!!!!! What a great loss -

Alana Hayden

February 27, 2022

I do not know what made me think of Dr. Thayer but i did, googled and shocked and really upset. I moved to L.A. about 8 years ago so didnt know he was sick. I cannot begin to tell you how upset I was. We had a 'special' relationship - humor even tho he was my doctor. He was wonderful, funny, compassionate and i can hear his soft spoken voice just now. I am so sorry for ALL our loss. I cannot believe how this touched me.

Diana Rangl

November 24, 2020

I am so deeply saddened about Dr Thayer’s passing. I have always considered him to be the best doctor I have ever had! He has made such a difference in the world and has touched so many lives! ...I will always remember you. A life well lived...

Carrie Beckton

July 22, 2020

Oh Charmaine he was such a great person and great Dr. I will never forget him or you and teaching me alot. Was thinking of you guys and ran across this. I'm so sorry, my condolences are with you all. I know it's been 5 months. I had no idea. May you RIP Dr Thayer!

Carrie Beckton

July 22, 2020

Oh Charmaine he was such a great person and great Dr. I will never forget him or you and teaching me alot. Was thinking of you guys and ran across this. I'm so sorry, my condolences are with you all. I know it's been 5 months. I had no idea.

Frank Kucer

May 10, 2020

Dear Charmaine,I am deeply saddened to be notified of Davids passing, when, today, I opened Jeffersons alumni correspondence. I send my heartfelt condolences to you and your family.David and shared a special bond-we were fraternity brothers at both Grove City(Kappa Alpha Phi) and at Jefferson(Nu Sigma Nu and Kappa Beta Phi)-probably having set a record for being triple brothers-rest in peace my dear BROTHER-YOU fought a gallant battle...Frank Kucer.

Barbara Wolpoff

March 14, 2020

I have never had a doctor I respected more. The love and support of family and friends will help you through this difficult time.

March 1, 2020

I remember Dr. Thayer well.
I was a patient in Cortland where he practiced.
He was very well liked and sought out by many OB/GYN patients.
Dr. Thayer has been missed in Cortland.
Dr. Thayer made a difference and broke the mold of doing things "the old way".
RIP Dr. Thayer

Student counsel treasurer at Strong Vincent High School... Carlene to his left also passed with cancer in November.

Roxanne Smith

February 27, 2020

Dear Bill, Carole, Allan and Shelley,
My deepest heartfelt sympathy to you with Dave's passing. He fought a long hard battle and kept his positive attitude throughout it all. He was a special man and helped many throughout his career. He loved the outdoors and truly enjoyed life. His passing has left many with fond memories. May God bless all of his family.

February 24, 2020

Allan,
So sorry to read about the loss of your brother, David. My condolences to you, Shelly and the rest of your family.

Phyllis Pope

Amie Kuntz

February 24, 2020

He was a wonderful doctor and was an amazing co-worker. My my thoughts and prayers are with his family.

Lynne Fernandez

February 24, 2020

He was an amazing man who will be missed by many. He was intelligent, kind, generous, and courageous. I am so grateful for all he did for me and my family.

Andrea Roberts

February 24, 2020

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Shirley Smith

February 22, 2020

Dr. Thayer was my doctor. A compassionate, talented, lovely human being who gave me a new lease on life. I am most grateful for his care and the gifts he gave me. My deepest condolences to his family.

Christie/David Northrop/Yaffe

February 22, 2020

Our deepest condolences to David's family. He will be missed by all.

Robert (Bob) Brown

February 19, 2020

Charmaine, Bill, and Allan,

Deepest sympathy on Dave's passing. Dave and I went back a long way including grade school, junior high, and high school. Many great memories. I was fortunate to have spent some quality time with Dave and Charmaine at our 30th reunion. Enjoyed following his hiking and biking adventures on FB; Dave was always active. I was unaware of his illness.
Again, my sympathy to you and your families.

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Rick Walsh

February 17, 2020

Allan,

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family during this time of sorrow.

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