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Fay, Dr. Joseph J. LOUDONVILLE Dr. Joseph J. Fay, 82, passed away on December 8, 2019, and, by no fault of his own, left his family and friends devastated. This will not be your ordinary obituary. Joe would have hated a lengthy diatribe filled with monotonous educational achievements, philanthropic endeavors, and professional accolades. I, his wife Ellen, lost the love of my life. I'm going to give you a glimpse into Joe's life the way he'd like it to be remembered. Oddly, I wrote this obituary as I watched the Screen Actor's Guild Awards on January 27, 2019. I was thinking about our mortality as Alan Alda was receiving his Lifetime Achievement Award and how my husband would want to be remembered someday. Joe would certainly be laughing at this point, as we always joked that Alan Alda was my secret crush. I can hear Joe now, "Great, hun, you were watching Alan Alda and thinking about my demise? How thoughtful!" Truthfully, Joe would understand, and to be honest, I wrote mine that evening too. Joe was a physician for 43 years. He cared very deeply for his patients. Joe came from very humble beginnings and yet, put himself through college and medical school. A guy who barely passed high school, Joe was inspired in the Navy to go further. After putting himself through college, Joe then went straight into medical school in Lausanne, Switzerland where all the coursework was taught in French, and afterwards went onto graduate from New York Medical College. He married, had three fabulous children, and then life changed. Unable to cook for himself, he went onto find the woman of his dreams, me. Joe adored his family. He cared for others and rarely asked for anything in return, except for a good peanut butter and jelly sandwich and/or a fried egg on toast, a scotch on the rocks with a slice of orange, the location of his glasses, and the god damned password to his IPad. I once gave him a silver bell to ring if he needed anything. This was a choice I quickly regretted. Joe loved to travel, play golf and tennis, and boat on Lake George. He wasn't particularly good at any of them, but he had a decent day job. He was an accomplished, competitive marksman and, believe me, I have the boxes of trophies to prove it. His strong belief in the importance of a life lived with the ones you love over material possessions was only handicapped by his love for his 1992 Corvette. Admit it, you thought I was going to be all sweet and sappy there. Finally, and most certainly not least, Joe is survived by his ever charming wife, Ellen; his loving sister, Vivien; his first born, and ever so handsome and muscular son, Joe Jr. (Kati); his brilliantly talented and successful daughter, Genevieve (David); his caring and unstoppable daughter, Alicia (Bart); his passionate and hardworking son, Britton (Jamie); and his incredibly devoted and talented son, David. Joe also leaves behind two ever so loving granddaughters, Sierra and Maddy; three strong and handsome grandsons, Taylon, Noah and Kyle; and some pretty freaking awesome nieces, nephews, and even grandnieces and nephew. Also mourning the loss of Joe is the Dewars' Company. Godspeed my love. You gave me the best 37 years of my life. You will be forever cherished, missed, and I shall not only ever love you, but I promise to enshrine your ashes for as long as they match our decor. Joe and I had something extraordinarily special. Thank you for indulging me, reading this, and understand that this was the only way I could truly express the broken heart I am feeling at this moment. There will not be a public service, Joe hated a crowd. It is the holidays, enjoy and embrace your loved ones. For our family and friends, please don't send flowers! Instead, please consider a contribution to your local Animal Shelter in Joe's name. That would certainly bring a smile to his face. Condolences may be posted at ajcunninghamfh.com.



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Published by Albany Times Union on Dec. 10, 2019.

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Brenda Hayes

June 19, 2025

Dr. Fay saved my arm when I was 12 years old. I was hit by a small pickup truck and broke one of the bones in my arm right in half. He tried pins but they were doing more damage to my arm. Then he put in a metal plate with screws. I am so thankful to him and have always talked highly of him. He gave me the gift of not loosing my arm and driving guards crazy with the metal detectors. Thank you so very much from deep in my heart . Oh and you could of warned me bout the giant staples .LOL

Mary Charlene Gottschalk

February 5, 2021

Dr. Joe was a very good surgeon, and my whole family always went to him : he always knew what to do to have us feel better. He will be greatly missed. We will pray for him, and always keep him in our prayers.

Rodrigue T. CHARLES M.D

December 19, 2019

Dear Ellen
What a wonderful send off for a wonderful human.!
My deepest sympathies to you and all his family.!With great sorrow I learnt yesterday (12/17/) of his passing.So many of the young devoted physicians from the late 1960s at the Albany Medical Center have preceded him . May Mother Earth receive them in her Infinite Bosom!

Ann Taylor

December 17, 2019

My absolute favorite doctor ever! In 1986 I was 18 and he diagnosed my herniated disc. I did not want to take time from school for surgery. I was going for a perfect attendance award and had it going from 5th grade to 12th. He completely understood and commended me. Dr. Fay kept me comfortable from Jan-June and then as soon as finals were done he got me in for surgery. I was in tremendous pain but he did all he could to make me hold it at bay for 6 months and because of that I won that award. Fast forward to 2009, I returned fearing a herniated disc, same disc. He diagnosed it and I was operated on again for it. All those years later (23) he still remembered my attendance award. He asked me about it and said it was the first time he had ever seen it and he had not seen it since. After that I would see Dr. Fay for various other minor issues. My family absolutely LOVED him. We were HUGE Dr. Fay fans and will always remain as such. You were very lucky to have this wonderful gentleman in your world. The loss is significant and my sincere sympathies. Please know his memory remains alive and well, as all of these condolences conveys. Wonderful man that was highly respected and genuinely loved by his patients!

December 14, 2019

Dear Ellen.
We have such fond memories of a very kind man who treated Bob at Lake George, because, "no sense in coming all the way to Albany." They sat down like old friends, instead of new acquaintances, because Joe was like an old shoe, comfortable and easy to get to know. We'd see you walking the dog, or the dog walking you, and were sorry the season was so short, so we could get to know you better. Wish the world today had more Joes, it would be a kinder place to live in. With sincere sympathy.....Rita & Bob Whiteman

Elizabeth stewart

December 13, 2019

To Dr. Fay's family, I am truly saddened to learn of his passing!!! He was an amazing human being. You were all lucky to call him Dad, Brother,Husband and Uncle. I have worked with this dear man at my side since I was the ER nurse at Albany Memorial and he was moonlighting. What a fun time. He took wonderful care of all the broken bones with all my children, especially David. You are in my prayers Joe. Have a great time in Heaven, Lord knows you deserve the rest !!! Beth Stewart RN

Jill Assini Williams

December 12, 2019

Bravo Ellen! That tribute paints a beautiful picture of your beloved husband.So very sorry for your loss.May your wonderful memories keep him close to your heart. He was a joy to work with.

Barb Mahan

December 12, 2019

I lost my dad on Dec. 2nd. He was 97 and I got him out at least once a week for a gin and tonic in a tall glass!! God forbid the poor server brought it in a short glass. Anyway, I'd like to think our guys are hanging around together. They sound very similar. I wish you and your family a peaceful holiday.

Marzia Elgani

December 12, 2019

I happened here by chance. Thank you Ellen Fay! What wonderful words, how lucky you both were! Dear God, please let there truly be a heaven. I would love to have the pleasure to meet this man! Bless you and your family.

CJ Stevens

December 12, 2019

Fay, I don't read obits, and certainly not a stranger's. I don't know why I stopped to read your tribute to Joseph but, once I started reading, I couldn't stop. You've made me regret that I never met him, and that we don't have more Josephs in the world.

Deborah McGee

December 12, 2019

I was not acquainted with Dr. Fay nor any of his family, however after reading his amazing obituary I feel like I knew him quite well! Ellen, thank you for your loving celebration of your beloved husband's life and for sharing him with the world! Your words truly made my heart smile! Sending prayers for you and your family at this sad time. God bless you all.

Amy Platt Connolly

December 11, 2019

It was a privilege to read this tribute to an amazing man.
My heartfelt condolences to his family members.
Sincerely,
a grateful patient

Leah

December 11, 2019

I don't know you or Joe, but this is one of the best obituaries I've ever read. I am glad I was able to read about such a wonderful man, with such a devoted family.

Bob Lilley

December 11, 2019

Ellen,
Thank you for the wonderful view and insight your words painted. Joe indeed was one of the kindest men I have had the pleasure of knowing. I mourn for the loss for your family and hope you can take consolation in the joy and kindness he shared with all. He will be truly missed.

Carol Lanzara

December 11, 2019

I am so sorry to hear of Dr. Fay's passing. More than 30 years ago Dr. Fay fixed my daughter's broken arm. I have never forgotten his compassion and kindness towards her. She was a preschooler at the time. In the waiting room she told him "I like you Dr. Fay. You fixed my arm." Everybody cheered. Dr. Fay picked her up and gave her a kiss. That is the Dr. Fay I will always remember. He was one in a million.

December 11, 2019

I don't know either one of you - but this was the most beautiful obituary I have ever read. I smiled through tears and can only wish and hope that people get to experience the love the both of you had along with your appreciation for others. You are an amazing woman Ellen and I can only hope to one day meet you.
Thank you for sharing!
Karen Wolff

Marsha Anthony

December 11, 2019

I don't know Dr. Fay or Ellen. I just happened to come across this obituary and it filled my heart. It put such a soft touch on the reality of death and losing someone you truly love. I hope to think about death less fearfully thanks to your sweet words of remembrance and ability to remain humorous. Rest on Dr. Fay and keep being you Ms. Ellen.

george ohagan

December 11, 2019

My knee and I had nice long history with Joe. Ellen and family, I'm very sorry for your loss. He was one of a kind.

Mary Stasolla DeNofio

December 11, 2019

My condolences. This made me smile through tears...and I did not nor do I know you or the Doctor. We should all have what it seems the two of you had together in this life!

Lori Peplowski

December 11, 2019

Please accept my deepest sympathy. I do not know your family, but can see how truly exceptional you both are. Your story is beautiful, truthful and a realization of how time spent happy is a gift.
Sincerely,
Lori Peplowski

JoAnn VanSlyke

December 11, 2019

So very sorry for your loss. How lucky you both were to share such a "Wonderful Life". May those memories sustain you and your family throughout this difficult loss.

Al & Jo Anne Burrill

December 11, 2019

I was deeply touched by the obituary. I don't know any of you but wanted you to know that the words I read were from the heart and very moving. Our world needs more Dr. Fays and a loving family like his. With our deepest sympathy.

Anonymous Times Union reader

December 11, 2019

Absolutely the best obituary I ever read. I chuckled throughout. Please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. Dr. Day sounds like he was a great guy to be around, and it sounds like you have some wonderful, happy, and humorous memories. Peace to your entire family over this holiday season.

Mary Young

December 11, 2019

As the saying goes.."Leave them with a smile"
Sorry we never met...We loved a lot of the same things in life.

Shine on in heaven!!!

Mimi Franchini

December 11, 2019

Dear Ellen & family,
All God's blessings at this most difficult time. You described a man I didn't know very well in a most captivating and beautiful
obituary.
May memories bring you peace. My love always.

John Kearney

December 10, 2019

My deepest condolences. Joe was not only my surgeon twice ( his quick action and expertise saved my right arm), he was a friend. I had the pleasure of teaching him to SCUBA dive. We both shared a love of Lake George. Rest In Peace, my friend.

Robert Redmond

December 10, 2019

To Joe's "ever charming" wife, Ellen, and the family of Dr. Joseph J. Fay,

It was not my privilege to have known Dr. Fay personally, but the obituary notice prepared by Ellen definitely resonated with me, as it would with others, because of its focus on those "intangibles" in life that provide meaning and purpose: love, respect and commitment. As I proceeded from passage to passage, it was abundantly apparent that the relationship between husband and wife transcended the mundane aspects of human existence to a higher plane of appreciation for each other as soul mates in their journey through life. This was a love in its purest form that will be an inspiration for everyone touched by this couple along the way.

It is hoped that the memory of happy shared times together will provide a measure of solace during this most difficult period. Please accept my sincere condolences.

Bob Redmond

Joan Renner

December 10, 2019

My condolences to Dr. Fay's family.
You were all so lucky to have had him in your lives. Ellen, thank you for the obit you had the foresight to write ahead of time when you could honor him the way you did. Dr. Fay was my doctor when he first operated on my knee in 1994 and for years after. He definitely was my favorite doctor of all time. I always looked forward to appointments with him because he always made me laugh. But also, I couldn't wait to see his ties. All cartoon characters. He was also an awesome doctor. One of my last visits with him a few years back, I needed a cortisone shot in my knee. He looked at the scar and asked "Who did THAT to you?" I told him it was him. He said no way. I said I think your right, I think it was your grandfather. He laughed. I have great memories of him and will cherish them. Thank you for bringing them to the forefront again with your sense of humor. I am sure he is smiling down at your obit and the guests entries.

James Flynn

December 10, 2019

Soar with the Angels Papa Joe. Had the extreme honor to have operated with him at Memorial Hospital in the mid '80's. A true Gentle-man. With honor, Jamie Flynn (Jeremy)

Andy

December 10, 2019

Dr. Fay took care of my knee from infection 7 years ago and saved my leg and possibly my life. He took a special liking to me and I'll always remember him as one of the finest doctors I've ever come across. Prayers for your family may he rest easy.

Tony Treffiletti

December 10, 2019

Doctor Joeseph Fay Lived at Park Hill Apts. Same building. When I needed shoulder surgery, He performed and I was perfect, then He met Helen and guess what back into the hands of Dr. Fay ACL/MEDIAL MENISCUS REPAIR! HE DID SUCH A GREAT JOB I returned to top competition in one year, and ran faster than I ever had. Tops in the state , I believe only because of His methodical form as a Surgeon! Not only that but He had a great professional bed side mannor and we became pretty good friends. This kind of character dose not come along often. I am very sure Joe will be missed by His contemporaries and much more by His Family. Just a wonderful person and a "GREAT DOCTOR/SURGEON" DOCTOR FAY GAVE ME TWO SEPARATE CHANCES PHYSICALLY, SECOND ONLY to no other physician ! Glad to have benefited from His sterling history of orthopedic practice. Thanks Doctor Joe, rest in peace and God Bless the Fay Family. A patient and friend , Tony Treffiletti.

William Koren

December 10, 2019

So sorry for your loss Joe, haven't seen you in a while and I hope you can find some light in this time of grief.

Bernadette Pedlow

December 10, 2019

I extend my sympathy to Dr. Fay's family and friends. I was the evening charge nurse on E6 Ortho Unit at Albany Med beginning in 1968, and then head nurse until 1974. Dr. Joe Fay was one of the most patient and nicest surgeons with whom I was privileged to work over the years. Patients and staff always appreciated him for his time spent giving good care and for sharing his good humor. Rest In Peace!

Pat

December 10, 2019

I was a patient of Dr. Fay's in 1990 and again in 2006. He was one of the most extraordinary doctors I've ever met. I am truly sorry for your loss.

Lainey Laferriere

December 10, 2019

Thank you, Ellen, for sharing your love of Joe with all of us. Your story made me smile and laugh this dreary morning, and I get the sense that your husband would have liked that he brought a smile to the face of a stranger.

Theresa Montanye

December 10, 2019

Dear Ellen, I do not know either of you and for some reason the small glimpse of the beginning of your husband's obituary caught my attention and compelled me to open. Bless you for remembering your husband the way he wished it to be. This is a true testament to the wonderful relationship and deep love for each other you both shared. It brought a smile to my heart.

Judy Whalen Klapp

December 10, 2019

Stellar obituary for a gentle man. I had the privilege to work with him for several years. I commend you for the honest obit filled with love, respect and humor. While I never had the opportunity to know you or your family, I send sympathy and cyber hugs.

Mary Ann Millett

December 10, 2019

I am sorry for your loss of , Joe. I never met or had an appointmrnt with him, but I loved reading his obit. It sounds like a wonderful life and family fun times. God Bless you, and not soon, but I am looking forward to reading yours. Joe passed away, but you brought him to life. Tx for sharing.

AJ M

December 10, 2019

Celebratory, what a fitting memory.. nice MASH up of thoughts !

Susan Hoblock deVoe

December 10, 2019

The obit was a very fitting tribute to a wonderful man. My thoughts and prayers are with the entire Fay family for this devastating loss. I have not seen Dr. Fay (I would be weird to call him Joe) in quite a while but I have many great memories of him and the entire family.

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