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Peter Behm Obituary

Behm, Peter S. CASTLETON A beloved husband, father, brother and friend, Peter Behm passed away quietly in the early morning hours of June 18, 2013. Although his time with us was cut far too short by his battle with cholangiocarcinoma, a rare form of cancer, the sheer quantity of lives he impacted with his unwavering and principled personal and professional commitment to service, justice and basic human kindness makes his 65 years seem even shorter in comparison. In 2012, Peter retired from the New York State Commission on Quality of Care. His 29 years of employment at CQC and position as senior investigator of abuse among vulnerable populations made him both witness and key player to the agency through its most formative years. His expertise and leadership helped establish protocols and effect policy changes which protect New York State's mentally and developmentally disabled population to this day. In 2011 Peter was greatly honored when he was tapped to join a select governor-commissioned panel in reviewing the state's performance in caring for its vulnerable populations, a project which culminated in the revamping of care provided and the creation of New York's Justice Center. Known for his keen but sensitive approach to victims and their families, his unique blend of skills as a professional social worker and private investigator saved many lives and reinforced the importance of advocating for those who cannot. Peter extended this warm heart and standard for excellence in his personal life as well an athlete all his life, Peter was as recognized for his prowess on the tennis courts and golf course as he was for his friendliness in the clubhouse and his eagerness to pass his skills on to others. A man who never sought any extravagance or accolades, it was simple pleasures that brought him the most joy; being with family, tending his gardens, a round of golf, oldies music and handicapping horse races. The principles that guided him live on in all those whose lives he touched. Son of the late Karl and Mildred Behm, predeceased by a brother, Joe Behm. Survived by his wife, Vivian; daughters, Mildred and Marielle; and siblings, Karla Behm, Susan Walrich, Rita Spata, Richard Carpenter and David Behm. A wake will be held on Sunday, July 21, 2013 from 5 to 8 p.m. at Ray Funeral Home, 59 Seaman Ave., Castleton and a memorial service on Monday, July 22 at 10 a.m. at Holy Spirit Church, 667 Columbia Tpke., East Greenbush.

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Published by Albany Times Union from Jul. 20 to Jul. 21, 2013.

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Mark Worobey

August 1, 2013

I had the pleasure of knowing Pete on the golf links. A true gentleman and kind soul. The world was a better place for having Pete in it

Suzie Walrich (nee Behm)

July 29, 2013

Peter and Daddy have finished the front nine and are headed for the snack bar to relish on a couple of tube steaks and a coke. If I can keep this image in my head whenever I think about you than maybe one day I'll be able to smile again. Your life was one incomparable strength after another - right to your passage to heaven. I could not have asked for a better golf partner/teacher while you could certainly have asked for a better putter! We shared chicken pox, measles, mumps, whooping cough, skinned knees, belly board burns but you always beat me at music trivia. I shall miss you every single day of my life - save me a spot at the putting green - I'll need another lesson.

David Behm

July 28, 2013

Never at a loss for words, I am hard pressed to not repeat our final conversation before you left for a better place. I have been honored and blessed to have you for my brother, and will always cherish everything we had together. Until we meet again,I will continue to Wax the Dolphin,and think fondly of you whenever I hear Beach,links,toss,HRD.Pool,Pong,B,Hoops,Shoes,Strainers,Tunes and Dry sand. You really were the greatest, all my love, Face.

Debbie Hartnagel

July 26, 2013

Dear Vivian, Mildred and Marielle,
You are in my prayers and thought. I'm so sorry to learn of the passing of your husband/father. He was a very good man and did a lot for a lot of people. He will be missed.

Beth (Mann) Elliott

July 25, 2013

My heart goes out to family and friends! Peter was a wonderful person. We were classmates in elementary school from 1st to 6th grade! It was so great reconnecting with him at the Mollie's Fund event a few years ago - he hadn't changed a bit...still friendly, caring and fun loving.
I know that he "lives on" ...

July 23, 2013

Dear Vivian,

May God's love surround you during this difficult time. In your sorrow, remember that God is always near.

Love,
Dot Henry

Carmella Pfohl C.S.J.

July 22, 2013

Dear Vivian, Mildred and Marielle,

Please be assured of my prayers for you at this very difficult time. Your
husband and father was indeed a very good man. May he rest in peace.

God Love You,
Sister Carmella Ann C.S.J.

jack biggane

July 22, 2013

Such a solid guy and a wonderful family.
Gifted athlete. One of the best Garden City had to offer. Loved by many, evidenced by so many friends attending his wake yesterday. You will be missed and always remembered.
Jack Biggane

James Garofallou-Hogan

July 22, 2013

I had the pleasure and privilege of working with Peter during my tour at CQCAPD. I'm grateful to have had the opportunity to get to know Peter and learn from his wealth of knowledge and experience. My sincere condolences to his family.

Ann Rue, RN Case Mgr

July 22, 2013

Mrs. Behm and family. My deepest sympathies for your loss. You will forever have a guardian angel watching over all of you! God Bless you...

Tiffany Kelly

July 22, 2013

Milly & Family,
I'm so sorry to hear of your dad's passing. I remember as a kid coming over to your house and your dad was always so nice to me. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Thinking about you...

Nancy Hiller

July 21, 2013

My deepest sympathy to Peter's family. Over many years my agency had to contact Peter at all hours of the day and night. Peter's professionalism and concern for those he served was just the same at 2 a.m. on a Sat. night as it was at noon on a work day. Whenever a difficult situation arose, we relied on Peter. It is a huge loss for all who knew him.

July 21, 2013

Sending my deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband and father. An angel will be watching over you.
Lynda Essenter

Erik Lindell

July 21, 2013

Our deepest regrets to the Behm family. Pete was a great person, warm, friendly, and kind. What a nice guy.

July 21, 2013

One of God's finest. You will be missed dear friend. Love to you all. Stephen Trinka and family

July 21, 2013

My condolences to Peter's family. He was a great man. I always enjoyed playing a round of golf with him at Evergreen and Burden Lake.
Dan Nichols

Annamae

July 21, 2013

Marielle and family , I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope you can find some comfort in your memories and peace in your hearts.

kate McManus

July 21, 2013

Yes Peter I made a grammatical mistake in my entry. You elicited laughter from me, you taught me well!

Rose Viggiani

July 20, 2013

My condolences to Peter's family. May he rest in peace.

Keith and Donn Lynn Rosenberger

July 20, 2013

Vivian and Family,Please know our prayers are with you at this time.

Keith and Donna Lynn Rosenberger

July 20, 2013

To the family of Peter please know our prayers are with you at this time.

Dom Testo

July 20, 2013

My eyes are filling as I type this. Peter was one in a million. Always a joy to be with. If you were in his company, he lifted you up. It doesn't surprise me that his professional life resulted in helping others less fortunate. He was so young at heart it doesn't make sense that he's not here. As an all-star husband and father, he spoke often about Vivian and his daughters during our time at EverGreen and Burden Lake. A bright light has left this world.

Craig Freis

July 20, 2013

One of the finest men I ever knew. Such a tragic loss.

Inge Zimmeam

July 20, 2013

It is so hard to believe that Peter is no longer with us. He was a man who stood fast to his beliefs and was a fierce advocate for those who could not advocate for themselves. My heart goes out to his family who have to deal with such a terrible loss. You are iny prayers.

Gregg Salvaag

July 20, 2013

What a guy. I will miss his distinctive voice,sense of humor and wonderful laugh. Nobody did more to help and inspire others.We all should learn to be better from a guy like Pete.He fought and never gave up and that is really hard to do.My sincere sympathy to all of you in the Family.I know how bad this hurts.God bless you.God bless Peter

Kate McManus

July 20, 2013

May your memories, faith, friends and family support you in your loss of Peter. Peter was a tough boss from whom I learned alot, but he also was a wonderful friend and guardian angel. My family and I will never forget his wonderful support during my battle with cancer. Peter would call every week and would not hang up until he made me laugh. There were times I told him, I didn't have any laughter in me, but that did not deter him and the next thing I knew he said something that illicited laughter! I still have Peter's butterfly plant that he gave me at the beginning of my illness - it has now become two plants and they sit on my front porch and are huge, beautiful and draw many comments from those passing by. Rest in peace Peter you will definately be missed.

Kate Bishop

July 20, 2013

I was so sorry to hear of Peter's death. Having worked with Peter for many years the obituary fully captured his commitment and high standards to ensure both the protection and the improved lives of vulnerable New Yorkers. Peter particularly focused efforts on children and youths who relied on public systems of support for their upbringing . I never had a conversation with Peter where we didn't exchange updates on our families and Peter always spoke with pride about the accomplishments and activities of "his girls" . During difficult times Peter was always a quiet support to co-workers and friends, a true gentleman . When I faced an untimely and heartbreaking loss Peter brought me an Irish shamrock plant that was grown from a cutting of a plant he had grown for years. After nine years we still have the plant and I always think of Peter and his kind heart and personal support when I see it. I will continue to think of Peter as we nurture the plant and strive to carry his commitments forward.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

July 20, 2013

Peter was a brave man with a very supportive family by his side. May God give his family strength to deal with the difficult days ahead.

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