R. Dobie Langenkamp

1936 - 2023

R. Dobie Langenkamp

By R. Dobie Langenkamp

FUNERAL

I request that there be no formal service, religious or otherwise.

Just because a man has died doesn't give him the right to take 3 or so good hours of a living person to sit on a hard pew and hear bromides and platitudes. I'd rather my friends play golf or weed their garden. (If you have three hours to kill on my behalf drop by and wash my widow's car.)

My family and friends may, if they wish, assemble at their own time and place to discuss those things that they feel worthy of remembering about me and passing along.

WISDOM AND CLICHES:

Here is the place where the OBWW's ("Old Bastards with a Watch" in my father's parlance) get to pontificate about what they have learned and what the younger set should heed. The vacuity of advice is demonstrated by the fact that many are self-contradictory.

---Look before you leap - He who hesitates is lost. --- A rolling stone gathers no moss. --- Bloom where you are planted. --- A stitch in time saves nine. --- Don't sweat the small stuff. --- Keep your feet on the ground and your head in the clouds. Other sayings (some of which I have made up for the occasion) meet the gold standard of truth: --- Be nice to the people on the way up you may need them coming down. --- Be honest, even if you suffer financially for it. --- Never inflict pain on another needlessly. --- Life is too short to pass up a good joke or a chance to make love. --- Never vote Republican. ---Whiskey has killed many, but it has saved more. --- Don't be stingy - there are no pockets in most shrouds. --- Eschew pomposity. --- Never confuse wealth with virtue, never confuse status with worth. --- Forgiveness is cost effective. --- A lazy man steals the time of others. --- Do some good while you are here.

THANKS

--- To Mimi and Bob Langenkamp, my parents who did so much. --- To my many coaches and teachers who helped me along the way, especially Coach Don Slagle, a warm wise bear of a man. --- To the Alfred E Sloan Foundation for my Stanford 4-year scholarship. --- To the Curtis Foundation for my 3-year Harvard Law Scholarship. --- To Tom Shannon who gave me my first legal job. --- To Dickson Saunders who gave me my first legal job in Tulsa and whose generosity and counsel assured my financial success in life. --- To Arch Edwards and George McIsaac for recommendations leading to position of Deputy Assistant Secretary at the Energy Department during the Carter Administration. --- To John Shages for his recommendation leading to my appointment as Deputy Assistant Secretary during the Clinton Administration. --- To Jerry Goodman for getting me into teaching and higher education. --- To my four children who brought me great pride and joy and showed us all how to live life with adventure and zest. (BEAR MEAT) --- To Uncle Dave Dobie the best partner and mentor one could have. --- To my first wife Mary Alice for our four children, her expert motherhood, and many good years. -- To Sandra Minger Langenkamp my beloved second wife – more than 30 years of good times and loving care. Finding her was one of my life's great breaks. -- To Oklahoma, where mobile homes, red dirt, cattle, old rusty oil equipment, incessant winds gave me a good perspective with which to view the world. -- To America, which embodies as much goodness and decency as any country ever has.

Robert Dobie Langenkamp,

born August 14, 1936

13th and Peoria

Tulsa Oklahoma

Temperature 116 Degrees

Died: January 21, 2023

61st and Yale

Tulsa, Oklahoma

Temperature 43 Degrees

Children, Heather Anderson and husband, David Anderson, Matt Langenkamp and partner, Stephanie Kovan, Daniel Langenkamp and wife, the late Sarah Langenkamp, and Lucy Goldstein and husband, Tom.

Other Family, his sister, Susan Langenkamp, Whitney and Ken Moore, Tim Downie and partner, Sherry Sides, and Allyson and John McKay.

Beloved grandchildren, the late Atticus, Isabell and husband, Bryce, Max, Allie, Oliver, Axel, Zoe, Andrew, Alexandra, John, Chelsie, Khloe, Payne, and Cade; great-grandchild, Oscar

Cremation provided by Moore Funeral Home, 9350 E. 51st St., Tulsa, OK

In lieu of flowers, please donate to Tulsa Botanical Gardens for plant name plates. www.moorefuneral.com