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Julie LaMotte
November 7, 2025
Happy Heavenly 83rd Birthday to my beautiful Momma! I saw Tracy this morning and we talked all about you and how much we miss you. Dad and I went to lunch to celebrate YOU and reminisce about all the things we love about you. Life without you these last 15 years have not been the same. Our lives were forever changed when you left this earth. Our faith assures us that you can hear us, that you know how much you are loved, and that we'll see you again when God calls us home. Until then, I will never let your grandkids forget you. I will continue to talk to you all the time and ask you to watch over us. I will continue to smile when I think of you and all the shenanigans we got into. We all miss and love you so much, Mom. Muah!!
Toola
September 28, 2025
Dear Mom,
It's been 15 long years of sending Heavenly hugs through the clouds and I still can't believe it. You are missed and thought of each and every single day and you will be until my last breath.
Today is a beautiful fall day and I will wrap myself in that warmth and think of you and all the memories we shared. I give thanks for you and the amazing wife, mother, and grandmother that you were. We were the lucky ones.
I love you, my beauty. Always and forever.
Toola
Mike and Matt Thyne
September 23, 2025
I know we weren't related by blood, but I remember the kindness you showed my brother and I during some tough years. When I saw the email pop up today, I thought I'd drop you a note. I can still remember your laugh (it made everyone smile) and my one shift at the Shish kebab stall at the Renaissance Fair. I didn´t exactly pull my weight that day, but you took in a stride. Thanks for treating us like part of your family.
Julie LaMotte
November 7, 2024
Happy Heavenly Birthday, my beauty! 82 today...WOW! Sure would love to be celebrating with you. You are thought of, loved, missed, cherished and always always always in our hearts. I hope you are doing all of your favorite things today with all your favorite people who are with you. We send our biggest hugs and love to you, my bestest girl. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox Toola.
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With love, Toola.
May 12, 2024
Happy Mother's Day, my love. I tried to keep busy today so I wouldn't dwell on how much I miss you. I also tried hard to think about all the wonderful things about you. Thank you so much for everything. You were the best mom to us kids and the most fun grandma to your long awaited grandkids! I hope you know how much you are talked about and loved by us all. Life is not the same without our Barbie doll and we all feel the void. We love you forever and always Momma. xoxoxo
Love, Your Baby Girl
November 7, 2023
Dear Momma,
Happy Heavenly 81st Birthday, my love! We were at dinner last night celebrating Dad and Sophie's upcoming birthdays and of course, we had a toast in your honor and did lots of reminiscing about YOU. We were singing some of the songs you used to sing to Soph, Tommy, Luke and Ellie. That brought us lots of smiles and we laughed a lot too. You were amazing and the the best Mom and Grandma anyone could ever hope for.
We love and miss you so very much and we thinking of you more than normal on this special day of yours.
Always and Forever,
xoxoxox
Julie LaMotte
September 28, 2023
Dear Mom,
I sit here 13 years later still unsure of what to say. My heart aches to be with you, talk with you, laugh with you, travel with you, cook and bake with you, and pretty much everything else with you. I'm sad because I love you so much and I never expected to lose you at such a young age. I wasn't ready then and I feel cheated. I am comforted that you're with our Lord and free from all suffering. I know that you were there to welcome Auntie and Andrea home.
I will forever feel blue on this day. September 28 is the day that my life changed forever. Know that I love you with all my heart and I will miss you until the day I am called home. Sending hugs and lots of love through the clouds and up to heaven. It's all for you, my love.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Your baby girl
Julie Boolie
May 14, 2023
Happy Mother's Day, Mom! It's been 13 years this September that you passed away and Mother's Day is still a tough one to get through without you here on earth. I know you're introducing Andrea to all of our loved ones - especially our Grandparents. I feel better knowing you're together and showing her the ropes.
It's been a difficult 4 months for the Absey's as we lost Aunt Marlene in December and Andrea in April. We miss you all so very much and will love you forever and always.
Continue to be with us in spirit. Guide us and let us feel your presence. Help us on the sad days (because there are still plenty of those) to get up and put one foot in front of the other. Life goes on and we must to.
Tons of hugs and lots of love to you on this Mother's Day. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
LOVE ALWAYS, TOOLA
November 7, 2022
Happy Heavenly Birthday, my beautiful Mom! Today you would have turned 80 years old. I can hardly believe it. I know that you're celebrating this milestone with your loved ones who have joined you in your eternal rest. Cousin Janet is now with you and I'm sure that was quite the reunion for the two of you. Catching up on everything that has happened over these past 12 years probably took place at the casino in the sky with lots of good food and a few cocktails to boot!
Know that we celebrate you on this very special day and you can bet your bottom dollar that you will live on forever in our hearts. I love you immensely and will always continue to keep your memory alive.
Hugs and kisses to my bestest girl. xoxox
Love always and forever, your baby girl.
September 28, 2022
Hello my love. September 28 will always be bittersweet. It's the day we lost you 12 years ago. We love you. We miss you. We will never ever forget you. Continue to shine your light upon us and guide us from above. We will always need you Momma.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Love Always from Your Baby Girl
August 22, 2022
Oh Momma! You're on my mind more than usual today because it's our special day. Yep, I'm 52 years young today and learning to appreciate all the blessings my life brings. I share my day with you and, as I do each year, I thank you for bringing me into this world. I know it was a grueling labor and delivery but you handled it like a champ! Continue to send us your love and bless us from above. I love and miss you more than I can say. xoxoxoxo
Your Baby Girl
June 16, 2022
Happy 60th Anniversary, my love! Dad and I talked first thing this morning and reminisced about your wedding day all those years ago. We all love and miss you so much, Mom. It's so hard not having you physically here with us to celebrate these momentus occasions. But we know you're with us in spirit. I like to think you and my grandparents celebrated this beautiful wedding anniversary in Heaven. Such a joyous day!
Your first born grandson graduated from high school recently and we'll be celebrating with a party on June 25 at MaryAnn's. He's grown into such a fine young man - I know you're very proud of him. I reminded him you'll be with him on that stage when he receives his diploma. Lots of life has happened these last 12 years. Some good and some not so good, but through it all we continue to feel your love and presence. Continue to guide and watch over us and keep the signs coming. I'm always looking for them and it makes me feel so at peace when I see them!
Hugs and love to my beautiful girl. Always and forever.
~ Toola Boola xoxo
Love, your baby girl xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
December 31, 2021
Happy New Year Mom! We all thought about you and talked about you at our Christmas gatherings. It's still so hard to believe that we've celebrated 11 years of holidays and special occasions without your physical presence. Thank God for the memories...and there are so many! We laughed and cried while remembering you and how much you loved the holidays. You always went out of your way to make them the best for each of us and I want you to know that they were fantastic. We especially miss your "rebate" stocking stuffers!! Those were classic and keep us laughing and reminiscing to this day.
Thank you for giving the best of yourself to us always.
We love you. We miss you. We send hugs and kisses to Heaven. Always and forever you will be my very bestest girl.
xoxoxoxo
September 28, 2021
My Dearest Mom,
You passed away 11 years ago today and I still cannot believe it. Where has the time gone? I feel as though you have missed out on so much but then I need to remind myself that you are with us in spirit. Every. Single. Day. You walk beside us and you partake in everything that we do. This comforts me and helps to mend my broken heart.
It is the rest of us left behind who grieve for you. We are the sad ones. We are the broken ones. We miss you like crazy and wish so badly we were together here on earth. But we're not. So we continue to hold our heads high, move forward in this life, and always do our best to make you proud.
So on this 11th anniversary of your passing, I say thank you to a remarkable woman who I call Mom. You constantly put Dad, us kids, and your beloved grandkids before yourself. You sacrificed so unselfishly to make sure we were happy and had everything that we wanted. For that and so much more, I will forever be grateful and sing your praises.
You are my love and my best friend ~ nothing will ever change that. Our bond cannot be separated or broken. It will last for eternity just as my love for you. You mean the world to me, my Momma.
Love always and forever,
Your Baby Girl
Toola
June 16, 2021
Happy 60th Wedding Anniversary my beauty! I talked to Dad this morning and we reminisced about that special day all those years ago. You both were practically babies but you ventured out into the world and were determined to make a wonderful, fulfilling life together. You created an amazing and loving family of 3 kids and spouses, along with 4 pretty fantastic grandkids. We love and miss you so very much Momma and I know you are sending a little extra goodness our way today. We will always celebrate June 16 and the very special day that it is. LOVE you to pieces. MISS you to pieces. ALWAYS and FOREVER. XOXO
~ Forever your baby girl
August 22, 2020
Dear Momma,
It's my 50th Birthday today and I can hardly believe it! I always think of you daily but even more on days like today. Thank you for going through that awful and long labor ~ I share and celebrate this day with you, my love. Missing you terribly but praying that the amazing memories outweigh the void of not having you physically here with me.
Planning on a day on the lake and then dinner out soon. It'll be a low key but lovely way to celebrate.
All my love and thanks to you my beauty. Continue to show me your signs ~ I'm always on the look out and I see them. Don't ever let them stop.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
~ Toola Boola
July 7, 2020
Dear Mom, I was looking through old family photo albums recently and it brought back so many amazing memories of my childhood! I had forgotten how much entertaining you and dad did and that you loved every minute of it.
There were pictures of every birthday party for everyone...not just us kids. There were First Holy Communions, Confirmations, Proms, Graduations and so much more. With three little kids in tow, there were pics in front of the ice castle in St. Paul all those years ago and trips to Paul Bunyan Land, Lumbertown, Gull Lake, all those wonderful Christmases and the list goes on and on. We were all so happy and didn't miss out on a thing. You and Dad made sure we had it all and in just about every single photo, us kids were dressed so darn cute and my long hair was always fixed adorably!!
I want you to know how much I appreciate all of those moments in time. I thank you so much for always going the extra mile to make sure we had it all. With 3 young kids, I'm sure you and Dad were exhausted ~ but you'd never know it. There was nothing we missed out on and that's not such an easy feat. You are the best of the best and we love you so deeply and are eternally grateful for it all.
Love forever and always, your baby girl. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Julie Boolie
June 16, 2020
Dear Mom, Happy 58th Wedding Anniversary! You were thought of by all of us today knowing this is your special day with Dad. It was bittersweet to hear about your wedding day all those years ago. Dad said you were married around 9:30am, then went to Como Park Conservatory for pictures, then out to lunch with Grandma and Grandpa Absey and Levenberg, and then ended your fabulous day as Mrs. James Absey at your reception which began around 6p. Sounds like an amazing full day of wonderful!! Dad and I had an anniversary dinner tonight in your honor...we know you'd approve of the menu...pizza, broasted chicken, and antipasto salad from Skinners. It was delicious and certainly fitting as that trio was always one of your favorites. We love you more than we can say and you are missed today and always.
p.s. Thank you for teaming up with the big guy and helping me through the scare at the doctors office today. Life is good.
Love you always and forever. xoxoxoxoxoxo
~ Love your girl.
May 10, 2020
Happy Mother's Day, my beautiful Momma! I hope you are having a fabulous heavenly celebration with Grandma Bessie and Grandma Vi. If I know you three, you'll be cooking up a storm~all of your famous recipes that we enjoy. As always, I love you SO much and I miss you SO much. Wish I could literally wrap my arms around you and hug and kiss you till there's no tomorrow. Guess I'll have to settle for doing that in my dreams.
Thank you Mom for going the extra mile, for always being on duty, and for always giving so unselfishly of yourself to us~your family. We can never begin to repay you. We will always love and miss you, our superstar.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
~ Your baby girl xoxoxoxo
November 8, 2019
A day late and a dollar short is the saying! Your heavenly birthday was yesterday - 77 years old. I was thinking of you and wishing your the most wonderful Birthday, Mom. Dad and I are having mass said in your honor on Sunday and then we're going to breakfast. We will celebrate your life. We will talk about you, smile, laugh, and probably cry too. We love you Mom so much.
Always and forever...
~ Julie Marie
September 27, 2019
Dear Mom,
Here I sit, 1 day before the 9th anniversary of your passing, and I feel so many of the same emotions I did when you took your last breath. The hurt and the pain of losing you so early in life never really goes away. I think I just get a bit better at hiding my grief. You were my best friend and I miss every single thing about you. Knowing I could count on you for anything meant the world to me. You made such an impression on the people you came across because that's just the genuine kind of person you were. So beautiful, caring, fun, and smart. Folks loved being around you because you made them feel alive. You lived life to the fullest and always made time to go the extra mile for our family. Thank you my love for all that you did for everyone around you. My life forever changed when we lost you and I know there is nothing I can do to fill that immense void. My job is to carry on and live my life in a way that makes you proud.
So tomorrow, September 28, I will celebrate YOU and all that you stood for. I will reflect on all the memories of us together and I will smile from ear to ear. I will eat some of your favorite foods, I will look at your picture book, and I will talk to you and ask your advice on life.
My heart will forever love you. Fly high my beauty and continue to shine your guidance upon us. xoxoxoxoxo
Your baby girl
August 21, 2019
Dear Momma,
I'll be celebrating my birthday tomorrow at the State Fair ~ one of your favorite places! I know you'll be walking with me in spirit on my special day. You can bet I'll have some of the yummy treats you've enjoyed so much.
Want to thank you for everything you went through to bring me into this world 49 years ago. Can't believe I'm at this stage in my life...almost the BIG 5 0 !!! Just became a Grandma for the 5th time. Baby Winston Francis LaMotte was born yesterday and we are already so in love with him!
Hoping you can feel my heavenly hugs and kisses, Mom. Love you soooooooooooo much and miss you sooooooooooooooo much.xoxo Life is just not the same without your physical presence.
Your baby girl
May 13, 2019
Hi Mom. This is the 9th Mother's Day without you and it still continues to be a tough one for me. I like to think of you celebrating with my beautiful grandmothers in Heaven. That always makes me smile. xoxo
Thank you for being the bestest, most loving and generous Mother around. I know you felt my love and heard my wishes for you. So thankful for the memories we made together as I rely on them to get me through the sad times.
Love forever and always. xoxo
~ Julie Marie
December 26, 2018
Merry Christmas, Mom. Hope you know how many people love you and talk about you so often. This time of year is always bitter sweet for us. The holiday baking, present shopping, wrapping, and family gatherings are just not the same without your physical presence. Remember ALL those gorgeous cookie plates you and Grandma Bess would make at Xmas time? Grandpa Art would always say they were too pretty to eat...but once he did eat them, he's say they tasted as good as they looked!!
You always did so much for the rest of us especially during the holidays. Even when you were exhausted, you stayed up extra late or got out of bed really early in the morning and worked your magic because you wanted everything to be perfect for all of us. Well my beauty, it was PERFECT. Thank you for going above and beyond. You were amazing and it's because you poured your heart and soul into everything you did, that we have the absolute best memories - especially of the holidays. The roasted almonds, the strudel, the baklava, the nut store, your Bridgeman's hot fudge, your fabulous Xmas Eve dinners, the gifts, your perfect wrapping job (with homemade bows), your endless hours of giving to others to make their day special ~ I could go on and on. THANK YOU for everything!
Merry Christmas, my love. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
~ Toola Boola
November 7, 2018
A Heavenly Happy Birthday to my beautiful Mother! My wish for you is that you're having a glorious time with all of our loved ones who have joined you. I'm sure every day in Heaven is wonderful but hoping today is even more so.
You're my bestest girl and I love and miss you soooooo much, Mom. Hugs and kisses on your Birthday and always. xoxo
September 28, 2018
My Dearest Mom,
How can this possibly be??? It's been 8 long years since you were called home and I still have trouble accepting and understanding this. Actually, I'll never understand.
I hope you know how much a part of me that you are - I look like you, I talk like you, I use your phrases, I have your sense of humor too, and I even drink HOT water and I like it! You're in my conversations so often and are thought of each day. I close my eyes and I see your beautiful face and hear your voice - especially your laugh. It's all crystal clear and it makes me feel good. It makes me smile. I dream of you frequently and go to bed hoping/asking you to come to me again in my dreams.
A lot has changed over these last 8 years, but one thing that will never ever change is how much we all love and miss you, Mom. We go through the motions of life because we have to. We adapt to being without your physical presence because we have to. It never gets any easier, but we forge ahead anyways.
Continue showing me your amazing signs - I see them all and I will never stop watching for them. I always tell you that I keep you busy working double and triple time being our guardian angel and helping us stay on the right path in life. Thank you for that...your job as a wife, mother, grandmother, and friend is nowhere near over. With our deepest gratitude we appreciate YOU and all that you do for us from Heaven. Love to my wonderful Mom always and forever.
~ Your Baby Girl
xoxoxoxo
Love from your toola
August 30, 2018
Hi Momma! Thought about you a lot last week on my birthday. I hope you know the immense gratitude I have for you and all that you went through 48 years ago on August 22. You brought me into this world and you and Dad have given me the best life full of happiness, guidance, and love.
You mean everything to me and I love you more than I can say. I really really miss you Mom and don't think I'll ever understand why God took you away from us so soon. You will always be my bestest girl and my beauty. xoxoxoxo
Love, your baby girl
June 16, 2018
Hello my beautiful Mother! First off, Happy Belated Mother's Day - still a difficult day for me even after almost 8 years. Know that you were on my mind and in my heart. I felt you close to me and I saw the signs you sent. Especially the lone goose at the cemetery.
Today marks your 56th wedding anniversary...so...Happy Anniversary my love. Dad and I miss you so much, but especially today - your special day. I can imagine the joy and pride that your parents (and Grandma/Grandpa Absey) felt on this day 56 years ago. Their gorgeous daughter got married to a great guy!!
A wonderful life was ahead of you, Mom. You were an amazing wife, mother, and grandmother who gave so unselfishly to your family. Always going the extra mile to make certain we were all happy. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!! You are my world and I love you more than I can say. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
your baby girl
March 22, 2018
Sweet, sweet mama - it's been a while since I've written. I know you've been busy on God's welcoming committee in Heaven. You've gained three of our dearest friends recently: Mike Perry, Paul Blaeser, and your Godmother ~ Pat Beaubien. Naturally I was sad when I heard of their passing, but then I realized how wonderful it must be for you to be reunited with them again in our eternal home. You sure are amazing Mom and I love you deeply forever and always.
~ your bestest girl!
November 7, 2017
Happy 75th Birthday my love. Thoughts of you are all around today especially. I know there's a big celebration in Heaven for your Birthday and I'm sure you're loving every minute! We miss you Mom. We love you. We wish you special happy birthday hugs and kisses - you are everything to us and you always will be. Life will never ever be the same without you here. Continue to send signs that you're all around us. Dad and I saw the Birds of Paradise at church on Sunday and instantly I knew you were there with us. Thank you for everything you continue to do for your family. Love you always and forever Mom. You are absolutely the BEST.
xoxoxoxoxo
Julie
Your Baby Girl
September 28, 2017
Dear Mom,
On this 7th Anniversary of your passing, I continue celebrating your life and reflect on what you mean to me. You were an amazing wife, mother, grandmother, and friend. You were a social butterfly who had the gift of befriending everyone you met. You were well known for your talents in the kitchen and hosting great parties. You were kind, devoted, and loving. You were full of laughter ~ smiled brightly and often. You were a gift to us all and I treasure every single trait about you. I will always miss you. I will always thank you. I will always admire you. I will always love you. I will always want you back. xoxo
Toola Boola
August 22, 2017
Hello my sweet Mother - today's our special day. 47 years ago I put you through a grueling 24 hours of labor...all I can say is sorry Ma! I celebrate today with you by my side. It's been a beautiful day so far with birthday wishes from all my friends, co-workers, and family. I sure feel extra loved today and the older I get the more I realize how lucky I am to have such amazing people in my life. I am truly blessed and thank God each day.
I love you Mom always and forever. Continue to give me signs that you're all around. I've seen so many of them this summer in particular. I see the butterflies, the eagles, the rainbows, the sunrises and the sunsets. Just like you told me, I see all things beautiful and I know it's you. Thanks for reminding me of that.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo to the best Mom around.
Your baby girl
xoxo Your Baby Girl
November 7, 2016
Happy 74th Birthday, my love. It makes me feel so good when I think about the kind of celebration that's going on up in Heaven for YOU! Honestly, I smile and giggle knowing who you're with and I'm sure you're eating the most wonderful chocolate cake made by Grandma Bessie.
As always, you are though of, loved, and missed by all of us. Time will never change that, Mom.
Dad and I had mass said in your honor yesterday for your Birthday. We saw the Birds of Paradise on the altar...we know that was your doing...we know you are with us...and that is just the kind of reminder we need from time to time, so THANK YOU.
I love you so much.
Mary Mansur
September 29, 2016
Oh Barbie life sure sucks without you in it. I bet you are shaking your head a lot at some of the stuff going on. Wish you were to talk about Trump. We'd be laughing and drinking cold beer. I miss you more and more each day. Thanks for leaving Sniffy to me:) She's okay...........
I have to get to work:(. Write more later.
Scary Mary
Toola
September 28, 2016
It's been 6 long years since I've held you Mom. I want to throw my arms around you and squeeze you like there's no tomorrow. I close my eyes and I can see you so vividly. I can hear that laugh of yours and that almost always makes me smile. You will forever be missed and loved because you were one of the greatest and everyone feels that way.
Thank you for being so special and giving so unselfishly of yourself to all of us. You are my love.
xoxo
xoxo Julie
August 22, 2016
It's my Birthday today, Mom...thank you for bringing me into this world and always making me feel special. Love and miss you forever.
Your bestest girl
August 13, 2016
Hello my beauty. Thinking of you more than normal lately and missing you like crazy.
Got together with some of your best girlfriends last week and it was really, really nice. Truthfully, the party got started once the stories of YOU came rolling out! The laughs and tears overcame me, but reflecting afterwards, it all brought me some much needed comfort. I heard some old classic stories and heard some new ones that I can't believe you didn't tell me about! I hope you know how much you are LOVED and MISSED by all your wonderful friends who cherish you. Your memory and spirit will always live on in me and the rest of the family and in everyone else who admired you and called you friend.
I am so proud to be your daughter. Love, love, love YOU!
Toola
December 6, 2015
Thanksgiving came and went. As always, you were sorely missed. Now on to everything Christmas. Spent the entire day yesterday in the kitchen (thinking of you and Grandma Bessie) baking, baking, and more baking! Strudel was 1st on the menu, along with peanut clusters, turtles...and most everything we used to make together. Miss you always, but especially as the holidays draw near. I reflect on the memories we've made during this season. They help keep me sane and make me smile more than you'll know. Thank you for being the BEST Mom ever and for giving me all those wonderful memories. Who'd ever think I'd need them so early in life? I sure didn't. Love and hugs to you, my beauty. xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxo
xoxo Julie
November 7, 2015
A very happy 73rd birthday to my beautiful Momma. I'm certain you've had quite the celebration upstairs (including a piece of Grandma Bessie's famous chocolate cake) and you're probably winding down the day with a nice seat at the casino!
Oh how I would give anything to be able to pick up the phone and talk to you. I have so many things I want to ask you and tell you. I want to hang out and shop with you like we used to. I want to have you over to our house for dinner. I want to do Christmas baking with you. I want YOU back. Miss you, Mom.
Hugs and love to you on this special day and always.
August 22, 2015
Happy Day, Mom. You endured 24 hours of labor with me and I thank you for that. You certainly are one tough cookie and I love you more than words can say.
Julie Marie
xoxo
Hugs and Love Always, your Toola.
June 16, 2015
Hello Mom, Happy 53rd Wedding Anniversary! Dad and I had a mass said in your honor this past Sunday. It was so nice to come together and talk about your special day all those years ago. How excited you must have been and how excited my grandpas and grandmas were...It sounds like a joyous day for everyone involved. We love you, my dear, sweet beauty and think of you daily and especially on your anniversary. Continue to watch over us all and help steer us in the right direction.
Julie
May 10, 2015
Hello my love, Happy Mother's Day. I can barely look at your picture as it hurts too much today. Know that you are loved and missed each and every day, but especially on this special day honoring you, Mom. I thank you for giving so unselfishly of yourself throughout your entire life. You always put Dad, us kids, and the grandkids first - always. You are my hero and I admire you more than you will ever know. Sending extra hugs and kisses for you, Grandma Vi, and Grandma Bessie - I love you all.
Love, Toola
April 5, 2015
Oh my love, how I miss you. Tough day today. Another holiday come and gone without you. Happy Easter, Mom. Keep watch over us and guide us on the right path.
Love from your baby girl
December 25, 2014
Merry Christmas, Mom. I miss you.
The holidays are bittersweet without you...I do my best to put on a good show. John asked if I baked any of your famous spritz cookies (which I did) so I'll be bringing him some of those next week. You have been such a great example to me my whole life and most of what I do is what I've seen you do. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, does it?!
Know that I love and miss you so much, my beauty. You're never far from my mind and you're always in my heart.
November 7, 2014
Dear Mom,
Happy 72nd Birthday, my love! It's a cold, gloomy day today - but I'm sure it's a beauty up in Heaven. I smile when I think of you celebrating with all of our loved ones...I know it's a dandy of a good time! Big fat hugs to you. I love you. I miss you. Forever in our hearts, momma.
xoxoxoxo
Julie
Love, Toola
September 28, 2014
They say with the passing of time it gets easier, but I'm not so sure about that. These past 4 years without you have been some of the most difficult of my life. Learning to adapt to a 'new normal' without you is still a nightmare. It's something I thought I wouldn't be dealing with until you were a very ripe old age...but God had other plans. For now, my memories will have to sustain me as I remember YOU in all your beauty. As always, I love and miss you to no end. You are my bestest girl and I thank you for everything. xoxo
Julie
August 22, 2014
Today we will celebrate together...THANK YOU for giving me the best gift ever. I love, love, love, love, love YOU my beauty. xoxo
June 16, 2014
Happy 52nd Anniversary, Mom. Daddy and I went to Mass today that we had said in your honor to celebrate your Wedding day all those years ago! We both love and miss you to pieces ~ but we know you're with us each and every day. We're sure you enjoyed YOUR beautiful day in Heaven.
xoxo
Your Toola Boola
Julie
May 11, 2014
Happy Mother's Day, Mom. Sending hugs through the clouds to you and my Grandmothers. Knowing you're together with them, brings me a great deal of peace. I love you and miss you like crazy.
YOUR Nurse Ratched
March 19, 2014
To My Bestest Girl,
Having a tough time lately...missing you like crazy. Still feel like losing you was a bad dream. How can this be? Love, love, love you.
Your Toola Boola
December 25, 2013
Merry Christmas, my love. Thinking of you more than usual this time of year and missing you tons. I'm sure you had a wonderful Christmas with the Big Guy upstairs...that makes me smile.
I love you, Mom.
Hugs and kisses.
Julie
November 27, 2013
Happy Thanksgiving, Mom. I spent the day cooking all of your fabulous recipes for tomorrow. I'd be lost if it wasn't for you and all the time we spent together in the kitchen. I learned so much from you and I thank you for being one of the best 'cookers' around! It is because of you I feel so comfortable in the kitchen...I think you'd be pleased sitting at our dining room table. Thanks for everything, Mama.
I love and miss you so much.
Julie
November 7, 2013
Happy 71st Birthday, Mom! I'm sure the celebrating has already started and you're having a wonderful day up there. Know that we all miss and love you so much and that you will always be in our hearts. Feel my hugs and kisses through the clouds...they're all for YOU!
Much LOVE to the best Mom ever!
Julie Boolie xoxoxoxo
September 28, 2013
Mom,
For the 3rd year I sit here and wonder what I could say that's any different than what I've already said a billion times before. I can't come up with anything new. The fact is I love and miss you more each day. We've all had to learn to adapt to life without your physical presence and that has not been easy.
My beautiful Mother ~ you mean the world to me and I continue to ask for your strength and courage. I am so proud of you and am so lucky to have had such a wonderful Mom to guide and shape my life.
I hope for a peaceful day today to reflect on your life and celebrate the marvelous person you were. The memories I have of you are unlimited and bring me such joy.
Know that you are in my heart always and your legacy lives on.
I love you, Mom.
August 31, 2013
Dear Mom,
I'm worried about our guy. Give him the strength he needs to get through this and help me so I can hold it together.
Love to you, my bestest girl.
~ Toola
Mary Mansur
August 23, 2013
Hey Girlfriend
I still haven't found the missing checks. Do you think if I "clean" I might find them? How I wish I could talk to you and hear you laughing at my antics.
I'm not going to the fair this year. Like you say: "It's hotter than a hors dream". I can't deal with the weather and it's not the same without you. I think of you daily and miss you.
Scary Mary
August 22, 2013
Happy Day, Mom. Thank you for giving me the best gift ever. I love you to pieces.
xoxoxo
Your Baby Girl
Mary Mansur
June 17, 2013
Barbara Ruth
Now I can't find my last book of checks. HELP!!!
Scary Mary
Julie
June 16, 2013
Happy Anniversary, my love. 51 years ago today you married your best friend,"The Mr". What an exciting journey to look forward to. Your whole lives lay ahead of you and the possibilities were endless. You did well, Momma. Very well.
Thoughts of you on this special day, Mom. It's a beauty out there today - according to Dad, much like it was on June 16, 1962. You were a gorgeous bride and you made Grandma and Grandpa so proud...You made Dad pretty darn happy too!
Love to my bestest girl.
Julie
May 12, 2013
Dear Mom,
Happy Mother's Day. I miss you and love you so much I can hardly stand it. Life without you here has been difficult to say the least. But I see you every morning in the sunrise ~ the beautiful pinks, purples, and orange colors glazing the sky always make me think of you. That's the best way to start my day and I thank you for that.
I find myself acting and talking like you more and more and the older I get, the more I resemble you. I hope you know that you are my everything, Mom, and I want to thank you for always putting us 3 kids first. You sacrificed so freely for us and never asked for anything in return. You are the best Mom and the best friend a girl could hope for. I am grateful to have had you in my life for the 40 years I did ~ but I will always want more time with you.
I love you, my beauty. Give a big Mother's Day hug and kiss to Grandma Vi and Grandma Bessie for me. We miss you all so much.
Mary Mansur
May 9, 2013
Barbara Ruth
Guess what I did?
I finally bought a new car. White Ford Escape. You would love it. I'm going to show the Mister over the weekend.
I finally did it.
Now where do you think my house phone is? I lost it Sunday morning and can't find it. I can just hear you and the Mister laughing and shaking your heads.
Somethings will never change.
Went to Turtle Lake Saturday night with my neighbor and had fun. The last time I was there was with you and Sandy. Remember I dropped the bucket of change. I played Wheel of Fortune and the gal next to me won 500.00 on it. Why can't I ever win?
Back to work I go. Please send me a single as to where the pecking phone is.
Love and Miss you
Scary Mary
Love from your Bestest Girl
February 21, 2013
My Dear Mom,
We just got back from our honeymoon cruise and it was wonderful. Your birds of paradise were right there with us. I saw that beautiful arrangement and knew it was you. The experience brought back so many great memories from 23 years ago ~ I'm greatful we were able to share that together.
As always, I miss you and love you more than you can imagine. Come visit me, Momma...I'm waiting.
Julie
December 24, 2012
Merry Christmas, my love.
Still so hard to believe this is Christmas #3 without you. I made many of your famous recipes for our X-mas with the kids and grandkids over the weekend and everything turned out great. It brought back such wonderful memories of you and me cooking in kitchen and getting ready for the festivities. You were one of the best cooks I knew and I thank you for leaving me with all of those delicious recipes you collected over the years. You were the best Mom a girl could ever hope for and you were my best friend. Heck, you were the best in my eyes at everything you did. You were amazing.
Big hugs and kisses to you, Mom. I love you, I love you, I love you. May your Christmas in Heaven be as wonderful as I imagine.
~ Julie
November 21, 2012
What a gorgeous sunrise this morning, Mom. I couldn't help but think of you when I saw it. Despite having a lot to be thankful for, I feel like crawling into bed, pulling the covers over my head and not moving for days on end. I think I'm allowed to give myself some grace and take time to regroup, don't you think?
Missing you like crazy as the holidays draw near. I'm trying desperately to remind myself that you're in the place we all strive to be someday. You're with friends and family you held so dear. You're most likely gambling 24/7 and laughing and smiling like there's no tomorrow. Things couldn't be much sweeter for you, my love and I'm grateful for that.
I'm tapping into your strength and courage as I have so many times before. Wrap me in your arms and promise me it'll all get a little better.
You meant everything to me - you were so great. We sure had lots of laughs, Baby Rutz. I will never forget what we shared.
Much love to you, Mom, on this Thanksgiving. Gobble Gobble.
Mary Mansur
November 8, 2012
Happy Belated 70th Barbara Ruth
I worked overtime and we had food day. All crap like you would have said. I skipped the store bought treats and really understand when you would tell me not to bake when no one else does. Well I hear you now sister. I am done. Only bake for the people you really care about. Have to make a lot more moneu so I can buy a car. In celebration of your birthday I just might pick up my messy house. Hope you spent your birthday at the casino.
Love and miss you girlfriend.
Scary Mary
Toola
November 7, 2012
Happy 70th Birthday to my Momma. I'm sure you're having one heck of a celebration up there surrounded by everyone who loves you. For those of us separated from you, well, it's so tough. Remembering your special day today with smiles and a warm heart. I will have a piece of birthday cake in your honor to celebrate a beautiful life so well lived. You are my bff and all I can say is what I've said a million times before ~ I love you, Mom and think of you every single day.
XOXO
Mary Mansur
October 8, 2012
Barbie
We did it!!!
Everyone said when Julie walked down the aisle it was like looking at you. She was a beautiful bride. It was an honor to have been by her side thru all the planning. I cried alot of happy/sad tears for you and could hear you say "Jesus Christ Mary get a grip on things" And you would have asked me why did I not take that bottled water off the railing during the ceremony. I know you would have noticed it. I did grab it at communion. Sorry about that little glitch. Your grandchildren were adorable and precious. And the "Mister" held up good. Some other thoughts I know you saw and it cannot be written. You had the best seat in the house.I miss you so much. Thank you Thank you for your Family. They/you have always treated me like a member of the family even when I said no thanks. Damm I have to work now, and please help me to get the strength up to CLEAN MY HOUSE.
Also thank you Annette for keeping this Guest Book opened. It was a pleasure to finally meet you.
Love you Barbara Ruth
Scary Mary
Your Girl
October 5, 2012
Today's my big day, Mom and I know you're with me, holding me tight as usual. Everything's ready and in order and I couldn't be happier. I'm ready for this next chapter in my life and I'm blessed with a fabulous guy soon to be my husband. Give me the strength to keep it together and make you proud.
We're going to celebrate this day like no other and I'll make sure to have a vodka gimlet in your honor.
All of my love to you, my dearest.
Cousin, Janet
September 30, 2012
it has only been TWO years. It seems like a life time that my cousin, friend, sister all in one has been gone.
No matter how long it has been, missing you doesn't get any less..
XOXO
September 28, 2012
To my Love ~ here I sit, year number two and I still can't belive this. I see your face and hear your voice and that laugh of yours like it was yesterday. I feel you with me now more than ever, Mom, and that brings me such great joy. You are missed and loved by everyone who knew you. The life of the party, the belle of the ball is what you were, Mom. People gravitated toward you to be a part of it and you welcomed them with open arms. You were the kindest, most loving person; always putting others before yourself. I miss you something fierce...I miss every single thing about you. My life is rich in blessings because of you. You are one of the best things that's ever happened to me and my heart is yours. You will always be my bestest girl, my svetlana, my Barbie Doll, my beauty, and my love.
Janet Olson
September 26, 2012
September is the hardest month. Never a day goes by without thinking of you. Can't believe it will be three years and miss you like it was yesterday.
You were a amazing person !!!
Cousin, Janet
September 26, 2012
September is a hard month ! Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. Can't believe it will be three years and still miss you like it was yesterday.
September 24, 2012
Hey Barb's girl! I want to come to your wedding, but I left the response at home. I am living in a little cabin for a year in Grand Marais. I sent an email to the address I had for your Dad. it didn't come back, but I don't know if you got the message. I thought of your Mom a lot, and I LOVED reading your's and Mary's posts. I miss her a lot too, especially when we go out for dinner with the girls. She was so special! You are her Julie Boo! Love. Pat B.
Luv, YOUR girl
July 26, 2012
Oh Mom, how I MISS you.
I LOVE you.
10/5/12 is the date. Be with me.
Julie
May 13, 2012
To the most wonderful Mother ever. Your smile and the sound of your laugh keeps me going through the rough times. I know your spirit is with me every minute of every day working that good old Barbie magic of yours. I pray to be as strong and confident as you as I continue to move forward in this journey. Love you always and forever.
Happy Mother's Day, my beauty.
Mary Mansur
February 9, 2012
Barbie
Wish you were here to share in all the wedding stuff. I am so blessed that Pepsi is including me in on everything. I know if you were here I would still be included. We talked about you the whole time and laughed alot. You sure bought so much joy and laugher in people's lives. I'll bet Heaven is rolling over with your silly antics. I miss you so much.
Scary Mary
Your Toola Boola
February 8, 2012
To My Bestest Girl,
I've come to the conclusion that no matter how much time passes, my heart will never mend. They say I will learn to adapt to a life without your physical presence. For now though, I want to call you. I want to pick you up and go shopping. I want to tell you a silly story and laugh like we used to. I WANT YOU BACK, MOM. Wish it were as simple as that.
Love and miss you more than I can say.
Mary Mansur
December 23, 2011
Oh Barbie I miss the heck out of you. I miss listening to you tell me that next Christmas you're going on a cruise and screw all the baking and shopping. I'm with you! I stopped to see the Mister last night and your house looked so nice, but it was missing you. I even got out of the chair but then I didn't have it opened. I got fatter and I think I would still be in the chair with the Mister shaking his head. I miss you I miss you I miss you. Merry Christmas. I'll eat a Pizzelle for you.
Love and miss you
Scary Mary
Love, Julie
December 23, 2011
Merry Christmas, Mom. Can't begin to tell you how much I miss you. In many ways, this 2nd Christmas without you is just as difficult as the 1st. Nothing is the same...
I remember what a joyous time the holidays used to be. You and Dad scrambling around the days before Christmas making kibbe and baklava, delivering your cookies, and all of that wrapping that seemed endless. You sure put in the midnight oil to make sure everything was perfect ~ and it was.
We did a little baking and tried to carry on some of those same traditions, but it is so darn tough. This just wasn't supposed to happen, Mom. At least not yet. Not so soon.
Guide me, Mom, and help me get through the rough times. I've got you working overtime, don't I?
Patrice Blaeser
December 16, 2011
Barb - How can it be that we are starting the second Christmas season without you? Mom and I talk about you often and we try so hard to remember all the funny crazy memories we have of you. We laugh and then like a fresh wound it hits us again that you are gone and we still can't really believe it. You were so huge in our lives, I don't think we will ever stop missing you. I am sure you are in heaven laughing and having a good time. I bet you are finding all the great bargains and eating all the best food and loving every minute of it. I know some day God willing we will see you again. In the mean time we will remember your laughter and love and we will try to keep moving forward. You are always in our hearts.
Love,
Patrice
Mary Mansur
December 16, 2011
Ho Ho Ho Barbara Ruth!!!
I REALLY MISS YOU A TON. Haven't got my Christmas stuff together. I can hear you saying "Jesus Christ" Lazy Mary will you get up, and then I can say "I did it".
I'll be busy making pizzeles this week thinking of you and Teddy. Making the mint brownies and the salted nut rolls for the Mister and Julie this week also.
I have to do some work now and will chat later with you. Wish you could respond.
Love you buddy
Mary
December 15, 2011
Barbie, The kids and I came over to the house to meet Julie and make Christmas cookies, and noise, and drive Grandpa crazy! I could hear your voice in my head the whole time, telling me to make the nut clusters smaller! Julie was trying to screw up your cookies too...We really miss you and know that you are watching over us. And don't worry, we are looking after Jim, just like we promised. Love, Mary Ann, Sophie, and Tommy
Julie
November 25, 2011
HAPPY THANKSGIVING, MOM. We stuffed the turkey with your famous bread dressing and it turned out almost as good as yours...You taught us well.
Trying hard to celebrate the Holidays just as you would want us to, but it sure isn't easy. It's these special days where I miss you even more than usual. Continue to guide me, Mom, and give me the strength to take it day by day. I so want to feel the joy of this season and by doing so, make you proud.
I love you and miss you sooooooooooooooooooooooo much.
Janet Olson
November 8, 2011
Happy belated birthday, sister.
As you know it is a belated birthday wish as you were with me yesterday at the casino. We even won but like usual us two gave it right back !!!! We had fun like always, didn't we ???
Miss you so much, love you snd think of you every day.
I know you are making everyone laugh up their. They all love you being with them but us folks down here MISS you a ton.
Your cousin,
Janet
Mary Mansur
November 7, 2011
Barbara Ruth
Happy Birthday in Heaven. I suppose you're at the Casino winning BIG. I miss you very much. I can't tell you how many times I want to pick up the phone and tell you to switch TV chanels and then the Mister can tell you to be quiet. Oh how I miss all that. And thanks for sticking sniffy on me.
The Christmas tree is up... and you're picture is looking at it.
Have you taken my Dad and Grandma Barcita grocery shopping yet? That outta be a hoot. Love you and miss you so much.
Scary Mary
Julie
November 7, 2011
Happy Birthday, Mom. Thanks for making it such a beautiful, sunny day...what a great way to celebrate YOU.
All my love.
Julie Marie
October 25, 2011
Mom,
It has been the first long and difficult year without you, but I'm putting one foot infront of the other, just as you would want. I hope you know how much of my life you've shaped and I owe who I am today to you. You have brought me such great joy, Mom, and I have learned so much from you. Lifelong lessons about compassion, generosity, and happiness. You were a rare beauty who had it all ~ and that's why this has been so tough.
Forever in my heart, Mom. I love you, Barbara Ruth. xoxoxo
~ Your bestest girl.
Ruth Andrews
September 24, 2011
To Jim, Joe, John, Julie and to Chuck: Thank you so much for providing the guest book for Barb to all of us. It has been a great way for me to get to know her better, as well as all her family and friends. It even helped remind me of my relationship to Stephanie Garvida, as she mentioned that our grandparents were brother & sister. My love to all of you.
Stephanie Garvida
January 6, 2011
I had not seen Barb in many, many years. I was saddened to see this obituary, only this morning. Her Grandpa Levenberg and my grandma, Rachel Kloner were brother and sister. God be with you. Cesar and Stephanie(Wolfson)Garvida
Patrice Blaeser
October 14, 2010
Jim, Joe, John and Julie: It has taken me until today, to figure out what to say to you. I have so many memories of your entire family, from living a few doors down in the "old neighborhood." I remember being out east on a family vacation when Jim called my relatives to inform us that Julie had been born. We were all so excited, my mom and dad had to cut the vacation short to get home to see this new baby. I remember babysitting Joe, John and Julie and later working with all of you at the Renaissance Festival. Working with Barb at Herbergers was "fun." Everyone who met Barb loved her and claimed her as a friend. Likewise all of us that have known Barb will always miss her laughter, her smile and the wonderful personality that was unique to her. I will never forget Barb and Jim playing hosts at our wedding reception with Julie our junior bridesmaid. I remember Barb often as I cook and entertain since so many of our favorite recipes are those that Barb shared with me.
I know that we will all always miss her. But I take comfort knowing that as I reflect on all these memories, there is so much laughter and that helps to dry the tears. Stay strong, stay close and know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
To Barb's brother Chuck - I just have to add - you did an amazing job of the eulogy. You nailed her personality and captured for all of us the "essence of Barb". Thank you for sharing those beautiful memories with us.
Hugs to all of you,
Patrice (Blaeser) and James Butenhoff
October 9, 2010
Thank you, Barbara, for your sweet spirit and loving kindness... we all miss you here, will see you again, and rejoice that you rest in the arms of your Father in heaven, free of pain. My sincere condolences to Jim and all the family.
Diane Cottrell
Ruth Andrews
October 8, 2010
Chuck,
I felt I got to know your sister Barb a lot better because of all you spoke of in your eulogy. I thank you for sharing your cherished memories with all of us !
Though great distance separated us, whenever I spoke with my cousin, Barb, she immediately made me feel like the closest of friends ! I could see that same spirit of inclusiveness when you talked about her welcoming you into her older, teen crowd. What a very special person !
My love goes out to you and all your family !
Cousin Ruth
Tanya Matheny
October 7, 2010
Absey Family, I got to meet Barb during her stay at united hospital, Though it was short and she was not feeling her best, I still met a wonderful "Spunky" woman, and a great loving family, My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Dorothy Westbrook
October 4, 2010
Ruth Andrews sends a message from her mother, Dorothy Westbrook:
Barbara was such a lovely person, and I was so sad to hear of her passing. She was very friendly and welcoming, and she always had a warm smile for everyone. She will be greatly missed by all.
Aunt Dorothy
October 3, 2010
Dear Jim, Julie and family,
Words cannot express the sorrow of losing Barb. We will always cherish the many memories we have of her.
Love, Mickey and Lee
October 2, 2010
Jim, John, Joe, and Julie, We were so sad to hear Barbara had passed away. She was a great woman who brightened the lives of all that knew her. I am thankful that my wife and children were able to meet her and experience "the glow" that was Barb.
- Joe, Marian, Rachel, and Rebecca Fine
October 1, 2010
Jim, Joe, John, Julie, Chuck and Family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Barbara was a beautiful gentle person who was loved by all. May the memories of all your wonderful times with her be a comfort to you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Cousin Barbara Cook and Family
Courage Center
October 1, 2010
On behalf of the staff at Courage Center, please accept our condolences on the loss of Barbara. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Michelle, Thomas & Emilie Horvat
October 1, 2010
Jim, John, Joe & Julie; We are so very sorry for your loss. What a wonderful woman! One thing was a guarantee, if we were with her, we were going to laugh. She will be missed at holiday parties & always. I will be forever grateful to her & you Jim for taking such very good care of my brother. I love you both for that. & Love you much John.
Tom King
October 1, 2010
Jim and family, our deepest sympathies and prayers for you all on Barbara's recent passing. What a wonderful and warm person she was. Her smile would light the room, and make everyone else smile. She will be missed by all who knew her.
Our thoughts are with you all.
Tom and Ruth King
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