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HELMS Cynthia Helms Cynthia Helms was gathered on April 12, 2019. She was born 95 years ago in Maldon, England. She joined the British Navy during World War II at 18 and served as a WREN. After the war, she emigrated to the U.S. with two toddlers and her then husband Dr. Allan McKelvie, settled in Washington and became a U.S. citizen. The rotating stack of 30 or so books on the sideboard in her front hall is evidence of her never-ending (never sated) curiosity. The books -which she gave away as fast as she read them--touch on subjects from the popes, to birds, to the presidents and the Rolling Stones. She was energetic. At 85, she drove to Pennsylvania to knock on doors for Barack Obama. She routinely blocked out time for events of interest, whether it was bridge at Guy Mason, a reception at the Supreme Court, or a panel discussion on foreign policy at Brookings. She directed her energies to projects that would have an impact on the community and on individuals who might make our life better. She worked as producer and host of the weekly Radio Smithsonian. She started Concern, Inc. with a wonderful group of independent minded women, founded and sponsored fellowships at the Iraq Women's Fellowship Foundation and WorldWIDE, served as a member of the Selection Committee White House Fellows and the Harriman Fellows Advisory Committee, and on the boards of the Freer and Sackler Galleries, World Resources Institute, Friends of the National Arboretum, and the National Fund for the United States Botanic Garden. She supported individuals and institutions, including contributing substantial support to DC Prep Public Charter School, a portion dedicated as seed money for a library named in her honor. She was quietly competitive, achieving a Bronze Life Member of the American Contract Bridge League. In 1968 she married Richards Helms, then Director of Central Intelligence. In 1973, they moved to Iran, where he served as ambassador. Her time in Iran inspired her to write two books. She eventually published a third. They had a wonderful marriage (though at times Dick would have to tolerate wearing an overcoat inside to keep warm, as she kept their house as cold as the one she grew up in). She has been looking forward to joining him. She is survived by four children who have stayed close, living in Washington, DC, Jill McKelvie, Roderick McKelvie (Claire), Allan McKelvie (Darina) and Lindsay Eakin (Terry), and a stepson, Dennis Helms (Meg) of Princeton, NJ. She has 13 grandchildren and 15 great-grandchildren. Donations may be made in her memory to the CIA Officers Memorial Foundation, ciamemorialfoundation.org. We are planning a gathering for family and friends on Tuesday, September 3rd, followed by a reception. We will welcome any brief remembrances of Cynthia from those present.We are planning a gathering for family and friends on Tuesday, September 3rd, followed by a reception. We will welcome any brief remembrances of Cynthia from those present.

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Published by The Washington Post from Apr. 15 to Apr. 16, 2019.

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brian anderson

July 7, 2019

I met Cynthia during a trip to Antarctica in 2003, she was with one of her grandaughters and had been widowed only the year before. She liked my Scottish accent and my Sean Connery impression and we hit if off right away. What a wonderful lady, we had such good chats and fun together during our trip. Well into her 80's Cynthia surprised me by jumping hand in hand off a zodiak into the Southern Ocean with seals swimming close by. The water was very cold but what a woman, she survived the freezing water and even managed to laugh about it. Was a joy meeting this remarkable lady, albeit for only 2 weeks.

Greg Craig

May 9, 2019

I am sad to hear that Cynthia Helms is no longer with us. She has been a longstanding and important presence in my life, and I will always be grateful for her friendship. I count myself very lucky that I got to know her. What a wonderful family she has left behind, and my deepest condolences to you all.

Chris Whipple

April 21, 2019

I am so sorry to hear this news. What a wonderful woman she was. I thoroughly enjoyed the day I spent with her a few months ago, researching my book on the CIA directors. She was full of wonderful stories about Dick Helms, whom she obviously adored, and vice versa. My sincere condolences.

April 17, 2019

Warm condolences to your family. May you find comfort in the promise of seeing your loved one again. John 6:40

April 17, 2019

Grief can be so very hard, but our special memories can help us to cope. Remember them today and always. 1 Corinthians 15:26.

N. S.

April 16, 2019

My deepest sympathy to the family of Cynthia Helms. May you be comforted in knowing that our Heavenly Father cares for you. He will give you strength and courage to cope with your loss. Psalm 94:17-19

April 15, 2019

My condolences, to the family,
When your hearts and minds are over-whelmed the God of all comfort will be with you Psalms 94:19

April 15, 2019

With deepest sympathy to the family and friends of Ms. Helms. May "the love of God" and heartwarming memories of your dearly loved family member and friend give you comfort beyond measure. (1 John 4:9)

April 15, 2019

Sorry for your loss. May God give your family peace and comfort during this difficult time. Isa 66:2

Clara Berryhill

April 14, 2019

A interesting, accomplished and avid bridge player, she was a smiling, helpful member of the Guy Mason Duplicate Bridge Club. She will be missed by the directors and players.

Janet Duke

April 14, 2019

Cynthia was an amazing woman- smart, fun with a great wit. I loved playing bridge with her at Guy Mason and will miss her.

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