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James Michael Desmond

1934 - 2022

James Michael Desmond obituary, 1934-2022, Washington, DC

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1934

DIED

2022

James Desmond Obituary

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James Michael Desmond

James Michael Desmond of Bethesda, MD died peacefully at home with his family by his side on March 22, 2022. Born in Malden, MA on June 11, 1934, he was the son of the late Jeremiah and Elizabeth (Whooley) Desmond. Jim is survived by his wife of 53 years, Cecilia Burns Desmond, his children James (Petra) of Poolesville, MD, Timothy "Tod" of Bethesda, MD and Carrie, of Washington, DC, his grandchildren Joshua, Noah and Lily, his sister Eleanor Spencer of Tuxedo Park, NY, and his brother Richard Desmond of Raleigh, NC. He was predeceased by his brother Gerald Desmond of New York, NY. He is also survived by his brothers' children, Richard Desmond (Susan) of Eugene, Oregon, Robert Desmond (Elizabeth) of NC and Lena Golze Desmond (John Briggs) of New York, NY and a host of other relatives and friends who he loved as family.



Following his graduation from Boston College in 1956, Jim served in the United States Navy. During the Kennedy Administration he began his federal career and arrived in Washington, DC for a 60 day detail. He never left. Instead he found positions and life long friends serving at the Civil Service Commission, the Smithsonian Institution, the Department of Commerce and the Department of Energy. Over the decades Administrations changed with elections yet as a civil servant Jim was a proud member of The B Company whose motto is, "We'll be here when you come and we'll be here when you go." Upon his retirement from federal service in 1984, he worked in house for Martin Marietta Corp. and Lockheed Martin Corp. as a lobbyist. After retiring from Lockheed Martin Jim opened James Desmond Consulting to continue lobbying but at a slower pace.



Notwithstanding his federal career, Jim's energy led him to seek other endeavors in a totally different environment. After Jim's friend Michael O'Harro established the Junior Officers and Professional Association (JOPA) in 1964, Jim became Michael's partner in the enterprise. JOPA was a private club that held parties at hotels and bars where junior officers, young professionals and young women could mingle, dance and drink beer. The rules were that members had to be single and 21 to 35 years old. Men paid $3 at the door. Women got in free. A good time was had by all. In fact, Jim and Cecilia met at a JOPA party at the Willard Hotel in 1967.



The success of JOPA led Jim and Mike to open the Gentlemen II in 1967, which is credited with being the first singles bar in the country. In an early example of his lobbying skills, he was instrumental in changing the no standup drinking blue law in DC which contributed to the success of the Gentlemen II and other bars in the city. The partners opened the Beowulf in 1972, Tramps in 1975 (the first disco in DC) and Champions in 1983 (the first sports bar).



Jim's parents were born in Ireland and he was proud of his Irish ancestry. Following the fine Irish tradition, he was a renowned storyteller and could bring the house down with one glorious story after the other. The stories changed in the retelling but were always finely crafted regardless of the spontaneous edits. His table at gatherings of all sorts was the table having the most fun. He made friends wherever he went and was always there for them in times of need. These innate traits helped him become a well-respected lobbyist with many long-time friends on Capitol Hill including Members of Congress, their staffs, and fellow old-fashioned, shoe leather lobbyists.



Being an avid hunter and fisherman also contributed to his success. He spent countless hours with his many good friends on the Chesapeake Bay and in the fields and on the rivers of Maryland's St. Mary's County and its Eastern Shore. But that did not keep him from traveling all over the United States and Canada to find good hunting and fishing (Argentina too). However, no place was dearer to his heart than Southern Maryland, the Land of Pleasant Living where he spent years enjoying the land, admiring the beauty of St. Jerome's Creek, and having good times with great friends at Courtney's Restaurant.



Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at the Church of the Little Flower, 5607 Massachusetts Ave., Bethesda, MD 20816 on April 6, 2022 at 12 noon. A reception at Clyde's of Chevy Chase, 5441Wisconsin Ave., Chevy Chase, MD 20815 will follow the Mass.



In lieu of flowers please consider a donation to Nyumbani Children of God Relief Fund at nyumbani.org or a charity of your choice.

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Published by The Washington Post on Apr. 1, 2022.

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Lucy Baldessarini

August 25, 2023

To the Demond Family:

I just learn about Jim's passing so sad. He was such a wonderful person. We had a lot of good times together at my Uncle Sil's home in Bethesda.
Please accept our condolences.

Fr. Bill George, SJ

February 14, 2023

Jim was a most honorable man and true friend. He was a loyal American, loving his family, country, church and friends. I truly miss him and think of him often. Terrific husband, father and friend. May he enjoy the reward of a life well lived.

Jack Dugan

April 7, 2022

Goodbye,Jim: I am sure there's not a dry eye in Skibereen.Thanks for the good stories that made us forget all the grudges!

MaryLynn Qurnell

April 5, 2022

So honored to have know Jim---a beautiful person

Michael O'Harro

April 2, 2022

"Don´t walk in front of me ... I may not follow
Don´t walk behind me ... I may not lead
Walk beside me ... just be my friend" ~ Albert Camus
To all our friends, the people who worked with us over the years, and the fans and customers of all of our various businesses it is very sad concerning the passing of my dear friend and business partner, of almost 60 years, Jim Desmond. Jim did not receive all the publicity that I did over the years but be assured that as my equal partner we would not have been the success we were without his shared imput. Jim was simply the finest man I ever knew! God Bless on your journey to Heaven. Miss You my Irish Brother.

H.Jones

April 2, 2022

Dear Desmond, please my condolence and take courage, throw your burden on God, and he will sustain you during this difficult time.

carmelo "mel"cottone

April 1, 2022

Jim was more than a friend to me, he was like the brother I never had. He was not only my friend but my mentor and was there for me in many ways. I will miss him .

Jack Bagley

April 1, 2022

Prayers and many wonderful memories of dear friend, Jim Desmond.
RIP.

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