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John Grayson Grimes (Age 87)
John Grayson Grimes of Frederick, MD, died on Friday, April 14, 2023. Born October 29, 1935 in Lewistown, MD, son of the late Ira Staley Grimes and Wilma (Burrier) Grimes. Survived by his wife, Constance J. "Connie" Grimes; two daughters, Tammy Schubel and Terree Long (fiancé Joe Ketterman); three step-sons, Daniel Offenbacker (Martha), Michael Offenbacker (Trisha), and Stephen Offenbacker (Brittany); four grandchildren, Sean Schubel (Katie), Rusty Long (Beth), Randi Wenner (DJ), Joey Ketterman (Angie); eight great-grandchildren, Hailey, Michael, Kaitlyn, Alyssa, Kira, Parker, Morgan, and Maddux; four siblings; Sity Grimes Roach (Don), Ruthie Grimes McKinney, Jim Grimes (Elsie), and Bob Grimes (Carolyn); numerous nieces, nephews, good friends and colleagues.
Mr. Grimes was the Assistant Secretary of Defense for Networks and Information Integration (ASD NII) / Department of Defense Chief Information Officer (CIO) in 2005. As a member of the DoD senior executive service (SES), he held senior technical and staff positions with the National Communications System, Defense Communications Agency (predecessor to DISA), and the U.S. Army Communications command following his military service in the U.S. Air Force.
The family will receive friends from 2 to 4 p.m. and 6 to 8 p.m.on Wednesday, April 19, 2023 at Stauffer Funeral Homes, P.A., 1621 Opossumtown Pike in Frederick, MD, where a celebration of his life journey will take place at 11 a.m. on Thursday, April 20, 2023. Interment to follow at Mt. Olivet Cemetery, Frederick.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Prostate Cancer Foundation, 1250 Fourth Street, Santa Monica, CA 9040, pcf. org; Lewistown United Methodist Church, 11032 Hessong Bridge Rd., Thurmont, MD 21788; or Wounded Warrior Project at support.woundedwarriorproject.org.
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Memories and Condolences
for John Grimes
Andy Ozment
April 30, 2023
John was an amazing leader and public servant. We all owe him a debt of gratitude.
CAPT Key Watkins, USN (Ret)
April 24, 2023
Many great men walk this earth but few leave foot prints the likes of those John G. Grimes has left us. John led several generations on paths to success through kindness and generosity of wisdom and spirit. He had the vision to see the tremendous potential in all of us - his aspiration was to make us great too. It was my greatest honor to be your senior military assistant and friend; you are a warrior, hero and brother in arms. John, I love you and I miss you so much. Forever and always, Key
Dr. Jonathan M. Branker
April 23, 2023
John was a pleasure to work with and a great mentor. Rest in peace and condolences to the family.
Caroline Pirtle
April 22, 2023
My thoughts and prayers are with Connie and family.
Marilyn & Bob Witcher
April 22, 2023
John was a true gentleman, a wonderful friend and a highly-respected professional. He will be missed by all who knew him. Our sincerest condolences to his entire family.
Marilyn and Bob Witcher
Evelyn DePalma
April 20, 2023
So sorry to read. John Grimes was one of a kind. I worked with him and for him and I respected him very much. He was a true patriot. His loss marks the end of an era.
Jennifer Napper, MG USArmy (Ret)
April 19, 2023
Mr. Grimes was a true gentleman and I learned a lot from him when he was the DoD CIO. We traveled around the Pacific theater together visiting US military and allies. He always showed how much he cared about our people. He mentored so many of us. May God bring you peace during this difficult time.
Cliff Mangum
April 19, 2023
Mr. Grimes was a truly amazing gentleman. He was admired and respected and it was a honor to know him. John was an exemplary professional and human being. He will be missed. Deepest sympathies to his family for the loss of an exceptional man.
Christa and Joe Labow
April 19, 2023
To Connie Grimes and the Grimes family, Christa and I want to express our deepest sorrow for the loss of our dear friend, John Grimes. We will always remember John as kind, thoughtful and appreciative of Christa's neighborly help when he served at the White House and the Pentagon. We will miss our frequent telephone chats. John will always be in our memory as a good neighbor and true friend.
John Mills
April 19, 2023
A joy to work for
Kay Whitten
April 18, 2023
My sympathy and prayers to John´s family. He was a true gentleman and friend to many. Matthew 5:4
Laurie & Rich Wolfe
April 18, 2023
Terree & Joe,
Rich & I are so sorry to hear of your fathers passing. You all will be in our thoughts and prayers. My the lord comfort you with peace and love.
John W Milton
April 18, 2023
An absolutely great person and colleague. I learned a lot from him and was great to be able to call him my friend.
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