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John Hessman Obituary
Suddenly on Wednesday, August 10, 2005, JACK HESSMAN of Silver Spring, MD. Devoted husband of Jami Lee (nee Ostrander); father of John F. III, Jordan P. and Patrick J.Hessman of Silver Spring, MD; son of Marion (nee Casey) and John F. Hessman, Sr. of Rockville, MD; brother of Kevin (Penny) Hessman of Silver Spring, MD, Mary Alice Maloney of Las Vegas, NV, and Katherine (Richard) Absher of Huntingtown, MD. A celebration of life will be led by Reverend Richard Dickerson at Immanuel's Church, 16819 New Hampshire Ave., Silver Spring, MD on Wednesday, August 17 at 1 p.m. Inurnment private. In lieu of flowers, donations in his memory may be made to the youth sports league of your choice.
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John Hessman
August 10, 2020
15 years, How can one man still leave such a void for so many.
DS
August 11, 2017
Miss you...
August 10, 2015
10 years ago today I lost my best friend. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you. Prayers go out today to the Hessman family and the hundreds of other people who's lives this special Man has touched. Love you and miss you Bud !
Jami Hessman
June 18, 2015
Remembering you this father's day and wishing you could be here, especially for your boys. Please put in a special prayer for us up there. We all need it!
Love you forever!
Alyson Poss Fiala
April 3, 2015
Jamie and your wonderful family that I knew so long ago. I am so sorry for your loss. No words can ever make it go away. I found his death accidentlly, looking for Kevin. It has been many years and I remember all of you so dearly
Jann Mouer
September 6, 2013
Jack, don't know why but I was thinking a lot about you today. Maybe because I saw Jordan this weekend, and he sure looks like you. I miss you trying to make me mad, me trying to make you mad, and your pool parties, and your smile. Be well, be well, wherever you are. Hopefully, it's always summer there, no need to tow.
Jami Hessman
August 29, 2010
It's been 5 years my love but for me time has stood still. My heart is heavy longing for you. You are my first and last thought of every day. My only comfort are our beautiful boys that have turned into handsome bright men like their father. I can see you in them everyday. I'll miss you forever. I'll love you forever!
Jami Hessman Hessman
August 29, 2010
Fare thee well
My own true love
Farewell for a while
I'm going away
But I'll return
If I go 10,000 miles
10,000 miles
My own true love
10,000 miles or more
And the rocks may melt
And the seas may burn
If I no more return
And you see
Yon lonesome dove
Sitting on an ivy tree
She's weeping for
Her own true love
As I will weep for mine
Oh come back
My own true love
Stay a while with me
For if I had a friend
All on this earth
Then you'll be a friend to me, my dear
Oh come back
My own true love
Stay a while with me
For if I had a friend
All on this earth
Then you'll be that friend to me, my dear
You'll be that friend to me
Then you'll be that friend to me, my dear
You'll be that friend to me
Jeanne Cooper
August 16, 2010
Jack, there are no words for how much you are missed and the void you've left in all of our lives, especially Jami's and the boys'. God must have had something really important for you to do up in heaven to have caused this heartache from your loss. We'll always love you and cherish our memories with you.
joAnn Lamp-Moore
August 11, 2010
Jack......you are always in our thoughts and prayers..we miss you..you will never be forgotten
Annie Sites
August 10, 2010
We miss you more than you could ever imagine! We love you!
Melissa Mouer
October 13, 2005
Jack, I don't know how to say good bye. It has been 2 months since you left us and I still can not put my thoughts into words. I look at your picture everyday and my heart hurts.
I miss you pushing me as you walk by or putting extra food on my plate when no one was looking, then commenting on how hungry I was.
You were such a warm hearted and generous person. You actually paid $100.00 to dance with me at my wedding. Your thoughtfulness and generosity will never be forgotten.
To Jami, John, Jordan, and Patrick I pray that God mends your broken hearts and you can see the blessings in everything. Jack was an amazing husband and father. He thought the world of all of you and wanted nothing but the best for you.
Jordan and Patrick please continue to be proud of your father and never forget what an amazing person he was. He will always be with you in your heart, please never let that go.
Jack, I love you and miss you and I promise to be there for your family if they ever need me.
Robert & Ann Thompson
September 19, 2005
We were shocked to hear of Jacks death today. We remember fondly the late night motorcycle rides to Dennys for breakfast when Jack & Robert got off night shift at Montgomery County. We enjoyed their company and have fond memories of those days. He will be missed.
Christine Schoonmaker
September 14, 2005
So sad and shocked to hear about Jack. Our thoughts and prayers are with the Hessman family as they go through this difficult time.
Our sincerest sympathies,
Christine and Jennifer
Barb McCormack
September 11, 2005
Jack, It has been one month and one day since you have been gone. I have thought and searched my heart and soul for something to say in that time. I am banking that they do have email in heaven and you can read this. My heart goes out to Jami and the boys as you well know! I love them all and will do all I can to help them and protect them. While we only had what seems to be such a short time together, I learned in that time how very much you loved Jami and loved all your boys!! You taught them to be strong and gave them support whenever needed. You prepared them to be survivors without even knowing what the future held. Thank you for that!! Thank you for supporting Jami in her quest to find her "sister" that didn't know she existed for so-o-o-o long. Thank you for being such a wonderful person and Husband and Father!!!!!What a great time we all had in the few years together!! Thank you for giving her a birthday party when she least expected it and in your words to me "she needs it she has been down lately" It is a memory she now has to hold on to along with so many more. She and the boys have great support from her Mom and Dad to her sister, Jeannie, and Kevin and Penny and so many more that I do not know or cannot name! We will all be there for them!!!! To Jami, John, Jordan and Patrick, I love you and will always be here whenever the need arises! Your Husband, and Dad was a "Great Man! May the memories carry you through the times ahead and eventually give you a sense of peace and calmness that you are so deserving of!! Love to you all!!!!Barb
andrea rander
September 7, 2005
I am deeply saddened to learn of Jack's demise. My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire family whom I have known for years. I'm hopeful that good memories will help to sustain Jaime and her children as well as Jeannie and their Mom and Dad at this difficult time.
Page Rander
September 4, 2005
Jami & Boys:
What a shock to hear of your loss. It seems like ages ago that Jeanne, Terry and I were little brats, teasing you and Jack. My heart hurts for you and the boys because I know all too well your pain. It's okay to have 'mourning' moments. Don't expect them to stop. But, at the same time, try and move forward with wonderful memories and push the boys to go forward to continue a legacy their father can be proud of. I will keep you in my prayers.
God bless,
Jeanne Cooper
September 2, 2005
Jack became my brother when I was 12 years old. He could be a real pain in the neck but we sure did love him. He was a phenominal man, friend, brother, father, son and husband. Our hearts are broken. Jack added so much to our lives and the world has lost a good one. Our loss is heaven's gain. Jack was larger than life and I guess he just became too big for this world. I just wish we could have had him with us longer. I pray that Jack's wonderful spirit that touched our lives will live on in us and we'll always have a part of him with us. I'll miss you Jacky Wacky. I loved you.
Mary B. Mullen
August 30, 2005
So sorry to hear of Little Jack's death. My memories are of him as a little tyke, in the '60's.From what I read, he grew up to be a good man.
Jami Hessman
August 28, 2005
John (Jack) F. Hessman, Jr. was born October 28, 1959. He was married to and beloved by his wife Jami for 21 years and was the father to their three sons, John F. III, Jordan and Patrick. His family and friends will always hold him in the greatest admiration. Jack was a guardian angel to those who needed him most.
First and foremost, Jack was a devoted husband and father. He met his wife on her fourteenth birthday, and she was the love of his life ever since. A joyful father, he supported his children in all extracurricular activities — especially sports, which he dearly loved. Active in his community, Jack believed in "giving back" whether it was the Christmas-in-April program or sponsoring and coaching his sons' sports teams. He was a man of great integrity, confidence and sincerity in all matters and was proud to have instilled those qualities in his children.
A born entrepreneur, while in his twenties with a young family to support, Jack risked a career change and left the Washington Gas Co. to start tow business. Through 24/7 dedication and hard work in partnership with his wife, his business grew to support the local police departments and county contracts. One of Jack's greatest joys was to work side by side with his eldest son John. Jack hoped to someday work as well with his younger sons in other business ventures.
Professionally, Jack was a friend and adviser to both local and nationwide towers. He was always on call to lend an ear or offer advice. He made it a point to end his conversations with "You're a good man" showing his appreciation and confidence in others. No tow job was ever too big or too small for Jack whether it be a tree that needed to be pulled in his best friend's yard or a helicopter crash that needed to be recovered from under water: Jack got the job done.
To sum up this life, Jack's life, is difficult: how do you describe the charisma and vibrancy of this man who played hard and worked harder? In his last hours here with us, Jack was with friends and family, doing what he loved and loving his life. Let Jack's legacy be that he showed us a life lived fully no matter where he was: in his industry, with his colleagues, in his community, in his neighborhood, with his family and in his home.
Thank you, Jack Hessman for being the "good man" that you were, a good man who left a lot of joy forever in all of our hearts.
Jami Hessman
August 28, 2005
I wish they had e-mail in heaven so we could tell you how much we love you and miss you and need you
that you were my best friend and the love of my life
you were so good to me
so I could tell you it's okay and we'll be alright
so I could tell you how proud you'd be of your children
how John is picking up just where you left off
how Jordan is taking care of John
how Patrick is taking care of me and
how our dog helps me sleep at night
so I could say thank you for always looking ahead to prepare for our future
and tell you how perfect you cut the grass and
how you were always my designated driver, my dinner and movie partner
and how much it meant that you tried to make all the kids games
and tow those Rideon busses in between
and know that Tom forgave you for yelling at him when he sent you to the wrong address
and how you gave so much to everyone and didn't always get the same in return
to say that it's okay you left your underwear on the bathroom floor
and always tried to catch me coming out of the shower
and Oh, by the way, Dave got to all the leaky faucets I was always nagging you about
I wish they had email in heaven so you could instruct John how to do a recovery whether he liked or not
and you could know how much it meant to John when he caught your proud glance at the end of a job
and tell Jordan how much fun you had watching him play basketball
and how much he hated but loved when you pounced on him every morning to wake him up
so we could talk about how proud you were of Patrick for doing so well in school and
wondered if he had any of your genes
I would tell you I know how much you loved me with all my imperfections
and that now I can steal your pillows which I'll treasure
and how much I appreciated you answering the phones at night so I could sleep when you were so tired
so I could tell you how handsome and strong and good you smelled
and tell you how safe you made us all feel
I wish they had e-mail in heaven so you could continue to tell all the towers across the nation how to run business
so I could tell you I'm smoking your carton of cigarettes --every last one --while using your computer, which by the way is much faster than mine
and how my new favorite room of the house is your smoky office
I think you had so much energy this world could not contain you so God created something greater for you to do
I could go on forever in my mind and heart and will forever my love
You ARE a good man Jack Hessman
We'll love you forever
Joy Lazaroff
August 24, 2005
My heart goes out to the Hessman family. I hope that with time the pain of the loss they feel when they think of Jack Jr. turns to smiles at the memories.
JR Mouer
August 19, 2005
Jack Hessman was a BIG man.
He had big hands and big feet, and sometimes a big head.
He was a big competitor, and encouraged big plays with the kids he coached.
Mostly, though, he had big shoulders and a big heart.
Jack loved BIG stuff:
Big Red gum and Big Gulps.
Big trucks, big bikes; any big engine he could work on in his big garage.
He built a big house with a big pool and had a big comfy chair.
Someday, Jack would have gotten around to
building a bigger office and going on a big vacation.
He dreamed of a big boat – or maybe just a boat he could put big money into.
Jack Hessman was definitely a man who could give BIG attitude,
and then charm you with a twinkly blue-eyed wink and a big ****-eating grin.
Jack had lots of big things to be proud of like his big cheesy mustache and big Buddha belly.
But Jack was most proud of his big passionate marriage to a woman who gave as good as she got and his three big sons: John – his dream come true, a big partner and a man with big confidence; Jordan – the man he taught to look at the big picture and to pursue big dreams; and Patrick – the boy with his big sweet soul and a big bright future.
The only way to conclude is to share a big thank-you to Jack for his big presence among us.
- from Jack's memorial service
Patti & Bear Littleton
August 19, 2005
Jami, John, Jordan and Patrick you are in our thoughts and prayers. If any of you need anything, please let us know.
kevin coleman
August 18, 2005
your in our prayers sorry to hear about your loss. kevin and lisa coleman, tow truck buddies!
Jennifer Hallmark
August 17, 2005
My thoughts and prayers are with Jack's family during this difficult time. I taught Jordan and know Patrick from working at Banneker Middle School. Jack will be greatly missed but his spirit will live on with his family. My deepest condolences.
Annette Labrie
August 16, 2005
Jack-I will always remember your smile, your laugh...you are one of the sweetest men i have ever known. A wonderful father, husband to Jami, person in general.You always made my family feel loved and welcomed us with open arms. I admire you so much for the person that you are and the person that you have become in heaven. I was not only the flower girl in your wedding 20 something years ago, but i love you and your family as my own. I am so sad, but know that your family is loved and we will take care of eachother-just as you did. My deepest simpathy to the Hessman, Cooper, and Ostrander family.Con amor para siempre(with love always).
Carlos & Dawn Negron
August 16, 2005
Jack will always be in our hearts and our thoughts and prayers and with Jami and the boys. We love you all.
Steve Kerpelman
August 16, 2005
I am saddened at the loss of Jack. We have been friends since High School, and I have many good memories of him. I cannot write them all here (or I would run out of space), but the most important one is, he would be there if you needed him. I was fortunate to have him as a friend, and to have seen and talked to him just prior to his untimely death. Upon hearing of his death, my 9 year old daughter said "I am glad I saw him last week". That shows the effect he had on people. Our thoughts will be with Jami, John, Jordan and Patrick.
JoAnn Lamp
August 16, 2005
I always knew when Jack would call
he would say "hey Sunshine!" then I would reply "whats up today Mr "J"."
He would reply "just a poor man tryin to make a dollar...."
My thoughts and prayers are with Jami, John, Jordan & Patrick, may God and His angels help you through this time of loss. Love you all.
Michael Margetis
August 16, 2005
I would like to express my heartfelt sympathy to the Hessman family. As a Ride-On Coordinator for 15 years I was with many a broken down bus that Jack responded to. It was always a pleasure to work with him. A great guy. -Mike M.
Jann Mouer
August 16, 2005
Jack, wherever you are please know that we are taking good care of Jami and the boys and that they are all taking care of each other. We miss you... Jann
andrew hessman
August 16, 2005
I babysat Jack and his brother and 2 sisters. He was a charmer with a strong persona. When he was three I had a staring contest with him to show who was boss - all other means did not work. The contest lasted almost an hour. I think he looked away to give me a break. I'll never forget him and that day. Goodbye Jack. Someday we will meet again. Love - Uncle Andrew
Thomas Mullen
August 16, 2005
Our prayers are with the family. regards the Mullen's
Chris Colburn
August 16, 2005
I attended St. Jude's with Kevin, know Jack and Marion, and knew Jack through a mutual friend.
Please accept my condolences. I will keep the Hessman family in my prayers.
Chris Colburn
andrew hessman
August 16, 2005
I babysat Jack and his three siblings. He was a charmer with a strong persona. When he was three I had a staring contest with him to show who was boss - all other means did not work. The contest lasted almost an hour. I think he looked away to give me a break. I'll never forget him and that day. Goodbye Jack. Someday we will meet again. Love - Uncle Andrew
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