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MARTHA DITMEYER Obituary

DITMEYER MARTHA STARK DRAPER DITMEYER "Marty" 1942~ 2017 Marty Ditmeyer of Alexandria passed away peacefully at home on September 2, 2017, following a nearly four-year fight with ovarian cancer. She was born on October 16, 1942, in Boston to Dr. Charles Stark Draper and Ivy Willard Draper of Newton MA. Doc Draper was known for leading the MIT Instrumentation Lab team that developed the inertial guidance system that took the Apollo astronauts to the moon and back. Marty graduated from Newton High School and received a BA in history in 1964 from the University of the Pacific, Stockton CA, and an MA in history in 1966 from Boston University. She then worked as a paralegal on space law issues with the law firm of Haley, Bader & Potts in Washington DC before joining the Communications Satellite Corporation (Comsat) as manager of its office in Geneva, Switzerland. Upon returning to the US in 1969, Marty joined the staff of MIT where she worked on several programs including the Undergraduate Research Opportunities Program and Project MAC, where her office had a terminal to access the ARPANET, a predecessor of the Internet. While working for the MIT Alumni Association, she started dating Steve Ditmeyer, an MIT graduate and a railroad man. When they married in 1979 at the MIT Chapel, they embarked on a life that resulted in them living in Anchorage AK, Washington DC, St. Paul MN, Fairway KS, Boise ID, and Alexandria VA, where they finally settled for the last 22 years. Upon returning east with her children grown, Marty worked for the National Academy of Public Administration where she oversaw the final production of all the academy's reports during her 13 years there. She retired from NAPA in 2010. In recent years, Marty served as president of the Zonta Club of the Arlington Area, was active with several groups at the Hollin Hall Senior Center, did water aerobics with the Water Ducks at the Mount Vernon Recreation Center, and was active with Christ Church's Stewards of the Dirt (SOD) gardening group. Marty was a dear friend to many, a voracious reader, and an avid gardener. She was a true force of nature who will be greatly missed. Marty is survived by her husband Steve, daughter Anne Stark Ditmeyer of Paris, son David Stark Ditmeyer of Alexandria, brother James Stark Draper of Newton MA, cousins, three sisters-in-law, and numerous nieces, nephews, grandnieces, and grandnephews. Her parents and her brothers John and Michael predeceased her. The funeral service for Marty will be held at Christ Church (Episcopal), Alexandria VA at 11 a.m. on Saturday, September 9, 2017. Her ashes will be buried in the church garden, and a reception will follow in the church's Meade Room. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made in Marty's name to the Ovarian Cancer Research Fund (ocrfa.org), Girls on the Run (www.girlsontherun.org), and the Christ Church Foundation (www.historicchristchurch.org/give/christ-church-foundation). In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made in Marty's name to the Ovarian Cancer Research Fund (ocrfa.org), Girls on the Run (www.girlsontherun.org), and the Christ Church Foundation (www.historicchristchurch.org/give/christ-church-foundation).

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Published by The Washington Post on Sep. 7, 2017.

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Bill Millar

September 18, 2017

Dear Steve and family,
May you be comforted by the thoughts and prayers of your friends in difficult times such as these. May God bless each of you and may you only remember the good times you had with your wife/mother.
Sincerely,
Bill Millar

Susie Williams

September 17, 2017

Deepest condolences to the Ditmeyer family and the Draper family. Marty was a rich and generous woman and a beautiful human being. Every time we had contact was very meaningful to me. Rest in eternal peace, Marty.

Fred Leif

September 13, 2017

Dear Steve and family:

We are saddened by your loss. Reading her life story demonstrated an amazing woman. But, you all know that. Wish we could have met her. Steve is part of my railroad family and offer him hope for peace as he manages through this terrible loss. Condolences to all. Fred Leif

September 12, 2017

Dear Steve, Anne and David,
Our sincere and deepest condolences to you all. Our thoughts are with you during this sad and difficult time. We will miss Marty but we are happy to have known her as our very good friend for many years and to have been able to meet again in Geneva only a few months ago.
Sincerely,
Erika and Rolf
Geneva

Peter DeVeau

September 11, 2017

Dear Steve, Anne, and David, We very sad to learn of Marty's death. She was most unforgettable. We remembered her during the Eucharist at the Cathedral yesterday. Wish we could have been with you on Saturday.
Peace,
Peter and Mary DeVeau

Margo Sheridan

September 8, 2017

God be with your family. I know that you are safely in the Lord's hands.

Kathryn Murphy

September 8, 2017

Friends, family, faith - all will provide strength and comfort during this difficult time. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers too.

September 8, 2017

Our sincere and deepest condolences to the family on the loss of your loved one. Please know those we love remain with us for love itself lives on, and cherished memories never fade because a loved one's gone. Those we love can never be more than a thought apart, for as long as there is memory, they'll live on in the heart. May the God of comfort sustain you during your grieving process.

KELLEY

September 8, 2017

MAY THE THOUGHT OF KNOWING THAT FAMILY AND FRIENDS SHARE IN YOUR GRIEF BRING YOU A MEASURE OF COMFORT.PLEASE READ PROV 17:17

Melvena Crump

September 8, 2017

To the Ditmeyer Family,

May God wrap his arms around you all forever!!!

Melvena Crump and Family

Joye Rutherford

September 7, 2017

I grew up with Marty starting with and progressing through Brownies, Girl Scouts, same homerooms in high school , her wedding and our last visit was at our 50th NHS reunion.
Marty's open warm smile says a lot about her.She will be missed by her loving family and long remembered by her friends.

Annie I.

September 7, 2017

May the hope of seeing her again in paradise ease the pain you feel in your heart. She will be missed by all.

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