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Roger Thomson Marmet "Tom"
On October 24, 2018, the Washington community lost Tom Marmet, beloved son of Roger and Betsy and brother of Sally Marmet. Tom was doing what he loved, volunteering at So Others Might Eat, a community-based organization that helps the poor and homeless in DC. Tom was an exceptional and compassionate human being who modeled integrity, respect, and care for others. Tom was a 2014 graduate of Maret School, and recently graduated with Honors from the University of Vermont. He was a loyal and dependable friend who was committed to a life of service and nonviolence and making the world a better place. Tom is also survived by his devoted grandparents Sandy and Sally Thomson, his loving aunts and uncles and 12 cousins. Tom will be missed by all who knew him, but never forgotten. A memorial service honoring his life will be held at St Albans Church, 3001 Wisconsin Avenue, Washington DC 20016 at 2 p.m. on Monday October 29, 2018. In lieu of flowers, please send donations in Tom's honor to So Others Might Eat or Everytown For Gun Safety.
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Memories and Condolences
for ROGER MARMET
Louisa Hoyt-Key
November 13, 2018
Dearest Roger, Betsy and Sally:
Words cannot express our grief over this senseless act. We know the "Phoenix" will make something of this... So much love to you from all of us,
Louisa, Ken, William, Caroline,
Henry and Charlotte Key xox...
November 6, 2018
Roger, Betsy and Sally - sending you all my sincerest condolences. The service at St. Albans was so moving - so much love so much support for Tom and all of you. Roger your words were amazing and inspiring - I agree it helps to talk. Keeping you in my heart and prayers. Joyce Romano
November 1, 2018
Dear Betsy and Tom and Sally, We are simply stunned by the sadness of this senseless event. Tom was loved and admired by his whole Maret class and by anyone who knew him. As Marjo said, he was kind to everyone, he always helped out, and he was the glue that held the class together. We were out of town for the service, but we know you're surrounded by this whole community who loves you and supports you all. We stand with you and we will be here to walk through this great sadness together. Love, Amy and Mark Tercek
Paul Leonard
October 30, 2018
Roger, Betsy and Sally, we are so sorry for your loss, but we feel fortunate to have known Tom and your family. He was a truly positive force in the world and left the DC community a better place. He was a wonderful young man and showed it in so many ways. We knew him as a great teammate to Nicky at Maret and a kind young man to everyone he met. Roger thank you for your wonderful remarks at the service for everyone to find a way to contribute the way Tom would do. We are thinking of Tom and all of you. The Leonards - Paul, Susan, Allie and Nick.
Alexis Jetter
October 30, 2018
Dear Betsy, Roger and Sally
As you so well know, Tom was one of my daughter's closest friends -- a gentle, kind, funny and endlessly compassionate young man whose mere presence made you smile, even if you hadn't felt like it a second before. I used to love watching him watching her, a slow smile spreading across his lips as she talked. We all loved him dearly, even those of us who didn't get to know him as much as we would have liked during his far-too-short time on Earth. He was killed by a stray bullet, after leaving work helping addicts find work and feeding the homeless. Not a self-righteous bone in his body, no patronizing sense of charity. Just the real thing. We weep for you and hold you close today, on the day your family buries you. But your spirit, your smile, and your beautiful, beautiful eyes will stay with us.
With love and deep sadness
Alexis Jetter, for Evann Orleck-Jetter, Raphael Orleck-Jetter, and Annelise Orleck
pat bahn
October 29, 2018
I live in NE DC, quite close to the community center he served at and to where he left our world. He seemed like someone dedicated to making the world better. Our community is worse off. I am sorry for your loss.
Honduras summer program, Maret, Summer 2011
Molly Taylor
October 29, 2018
Marmet family,
My name is Molly Taylor, and I met Tom the first summer I was hired at Maret. I helped on the Honduras summer program, and Tom was one of our students. I am heartbroken to hear of this tragic loss. Tom made an impression on me as a kind and thoughtful boy, at the time just a freshman in high school. I am so impressed with the young adult that he grew to be, and his dedication to helping others. I am so sorry for your loss. I have attached a picture I found from that summer with Tom in it--I believe it was taken toward the end of the trip, and it looks like we had some treats to celebrate.
I am thinking of your family and of Tom, and sending love.
Analice Schwartz
October 29, 2018
Betsy, Roger, Sally and family.Our hearts are very saddened. As Gabe and I celebrated Tom's life today we left with a sense of deep loss and at the same time hoping to keep the light he left in this world to be shining through our deeds and love to others. Sending our deepest condolences.
Jane Prelinger
October 29, 2018
My deepest condolences.
Alexis Jetter
October 29, 2018
Tom was one of my daughter's closest friends -- a gentle, kind, funny and endlessly compassionate young man whose mere presence made you smile, even if you hadn't felt like it a second before. I used to love watching him watching her, a slow smile spreading across his lips as she talked. We all loved him dearly, even those of us who didn't get to know him as much as we would have liked during his far-too-short time on Earth. He was killed by a stray bullet, after leaving work helping addicts find work and feeding the homeless. Not a self-righteous bone in his body, no patronizing sense of charity. Just the real thing. We weep for you and hold you close today, on the day your family buries you. But your spirit, your smile, and your beautiful, beautiful eyes will stay with us. With great love, and profound sadness, Alexis Jetter for Evann Orleck-Jetter, Raphie Orleck-Jetter, and Annelise Orleck
Jackie and Peter Dunn
October 29, 2018
Betsy, Roger and Sally, There are simply no words to express how very sorry we are for your unfathomable loss. We are keeping your family in our thoughts and prayers, and hope that you may find some comfort in the remarkable way Tom touched and inspired so many. We will always remember the beauty of the sun shining on you all over Lake Champlain. Sending you much love and our deepest sympathies.
Jonathan Copeland
October 29, 2018
To Roger and Betsy,
May you be surrounded by the love of friends and family--to hold you, to support you, to provide you with comfort and strength.
love,
Jonathan and Carly Copeland
October 29, 2018
We are here to pay our respects, tremendous love to you and your family.
Rosa Miller
Deena Kotlewski
Patrick Maguire
October 29, 2018
He was a kind person and deserved better.
Lori Cochran
October 29, 2018
Betsy, Rodger and Sally,
Anyone who knew your family has been consumed with sadness and shock this week. I wish I could be there for support today. Please know that your entire family is in our thoughts and prayers. Tommy's life was short but his impact was huge. Let all of us carry on a piece of his intense compassion to help those less fortunate
October 29, 2018
May you and your family find comfort in God's love. John 3:16 states this love and hope for the future. As you draw ever closer to God, may you find comfort in his words..
Rachel
Scott, Susan, Luke, Audrey and Natalie Stegman
October 29, 2018
We are with you today as you celebrate Tom's beautiful life and his dedication to serving others. Love, prayers and support from your friends who share in your sadness today.
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