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Jan Calichman
January 23, 2025
I love you & miss you EVERY DAY!!! There´s so many things I want to reminisce about. It was always us two. I was very blessed to have you as my brother. See you on the other side.
Jan Calichman
September 12, 2022
It´s been 9 years. How is that possible? You´ll always be in my heart-ALWAYS! I love you so much & I miss you every day! Please watch over me & guide me. Till we meet again.....
Jan Calichman
October 2, 2020
Happy Heavenly Birthday, Steve! We'll be toasting you tonight. I know you'll be with us. Love you always! Cheers ♥
Jan Calichman
September 14, 2020
We had a nice memorial cookout in your memory Saturday and we toasted to you. I know that you were with us. It's been 7 years since you left and I miss you every single day. Hope you're playing golf on the other side. Love you always! XOXO
JanCalichman
August 31, 2020
Not a day goes by where I don't think of you and miss you. Love you forever ♥
Jan Calichman
September 12, 2019
It's been 6 years. I miss you so much. Thank you for watching over me and I look forward to seeing you on the other side. Love you always ♥
Jan Calichman
September 12, 2018
Thinking of you today - the 5th anniversary since you left us. You're in my thoughts every day. I miss you & love you.
p.s. thank you for the baseball xoxox
Jan Calichman
July 27, 2018
I love you and miss you so much!
Jan Calichman
October 2, 2017
Happy 62nd Birthday in heaven. Time seems to fly, yet it seems like it's at a standstill. I miss you more than words can say. I think about how I would have taken your place in an instant - I wish I had a chance to tell you that. I'll love you forever and it breaks my heart that you're not here. Thank you for the love and the laughs you've given me. All my love. Jan
Jan Calichman
September 12, 2017
I can't believe that it's been 4 years since you've been gone. I think of all the good times and the laughs we had and know how blessed I was to have a brother like you. You'll always be in my heart and I'll love you always. Thank you for watching over me. xoxo
Jan Calichman
July 6, 2017
Miss you every day! Love you always!
Jan Calichman
April 10, 2017
I miss you - your smile, your laugh, your sense of humor and your brotherly love. Love you always!
Your loving wife Carol
May 25, 2016
It is 3 years since we found out that you would be leaving me. I still vividly remember that happiness ending moment when the doctors came in and told us that they could do nothing.
I have to go to Fairhaven every week and always remember how we laughed when we took the 1 mile exit from 24N to 495N and thought that they should put a Dunkin Donuts on the exit!
I stand on the deck every morning and look around at the plants and trees that we've planted over the 30 years and see how much they've grown. I look at all the projects and all the things we built over those 30 years and can't picture leaving our home.
Not a day passes that I don't cry because I miss you so much. I can't find a reason to keep going alone day after day. I'm so looking forward to being with you again.
I love you more today than I did when I lost you. My love continues to grow with every memory I have. Coming as soon as I can!
Jan Calichman
October 2, 2015
Happy Birthday Steve - I love and miss you so much!
always a ham
February 20, 2015
goofy Steve
February 20, 2015
beachtime
February 20, 2015
neighborhood friends
February 20, 2015
Steve's collage
February 20, 2015
happy visit
February 20, 2015
Happy times
February 20, 2015
Kris & Steve
February 20, 2015
1978 or 1979
February 20, 2015
Jan Calichman
February 20, 2015
Miss you & love you always ¢¾
Mickiewicz Club
February 20, 2015
Steve, Kris, mom & me
February 20, 2015
Kris & Steve 1981
February 20, 2015
memorial to Steve
February 20, 2015
fun times
February 20, 2015
Steve loved baseball
February 20, 2015
our family
February 20, 2015
Steve & me
February 20, 2015
always laughing
February 20, 2015
February 20, 2015
Steve & Russ
February 20, 2015
me & Steve
February 20, 2015
Auntie Viv, Steve & nana
February 20, 2015
Steve, Jan & dad 1973
February 20, 2015
mom, Steve & nana 1973
February 20, 2015
Steve & Dutchess
February 20, 2015
1978
February 20, 2015
the family 1976
February 20, 2015
Steve & mom
February 20, 2015
mom, Steve & dad
February 20, 2015
Our 25th anniversary with Danny & Michelle
October 9, 2013
Nancy D'Arcy
October 6, 2013
I'm so sorry to hear of Steven's passing. I too work at Cisco at the Bxb campus and would pass him Steve in hall or ride the elevator with him. May you find peace in the wonderful memories you have.
Tom Orlowski
October 5, 2013
I had hoped to someday be able to relax on the porch on West Island with Steve and Carol in our retirement but it was not meant to be. I wish Steve and I had spent more time together but work and life got in the way. I thank him for being a good husband and son-in law and all that he did for family.
My favorite recollection of Steve was back in 2006. We had an Orlowski get together. I was not sure if Steve was going to come but he did and when I greeted him I asked what made him decide to come. He said, "I was told there would be Bloody Mary's". There were! RIP Steve
Tim Nolan
October 4, 2013
Carol,I am so sorry to hear of Steve's passing.I am deeply saddened and disappointed in myself in that I lost track and had not had much contact with Steve in the last two years. I had no idea he was sick and just recently heard about his passing. Steve was one of the wittiest and caring people I have ever known. He had an awesome laugh. This may sound funny but on occasion I find myself laughing the same way he did and it does make me smile and think of him. I will never forget him and thank God for having the pleasure of being his friend. May God bless you and your family.
Bro & me
Dennis Mather
October 3, 2013
Steve was 5 years younger and always wanted to do things with the BIG kids growing up. Even though we sometimes didn't talk for months, because of distance, when we did it was as if we had never been apart. Always upbeat and with a witty sense of humor who could hold his own even with his big Brother. His calling was to find his best friend which he did with his wife Carol and never regretted a moment he shared with her. I don't know why God chose to take such a kind and generous soul, loved by many and liked by everyone so early in his life. Perhaps to make a path for the rest of us when our time comes. As I always told him "I love you Bro" and he would respond with "I love you too". May you be healed, in peace and watch over Carol, I will truely miss you. I love you Bro.
Brian and Becky Cordeiro
October 1, 2013
Steve and my husband Brian were high school and college buddies. I had the pleasure of meeting Steve when Brian and I met. We've been out of touch for many years, but as we've read through these messages, two things brought Steve into sharp focus: Steve's wonderful infectious laugh, and his kindness and gentleness. Our very deepest sympathy to you, Carol and to the family.
michelle dubois
October 1, 2013
Our entire family sends heartfelt thoughts and prayers to you.
Steve was a one in a million friend that
will be missed forever,
Our love,
The Dubois family
Day 1 of 32 years
Carol
September 30, 2013
My best friend left on 9/12/13 and he's never coming back to me.
I can't tell you how much it hurts to lose someone who was your best friend before being your better half. I think that's why we had a one in a million marriage and we both knew it. When we'd talk, we both hoped that we would be the first to go ... I lost. The whole purpose in my life is gone and not a day goes by that I don't miss him SO much. I would have given anything to be the one that left. He went through so much since 2/12 when the brain tumor was first discovered ... brain surgery, gamma-knife procedure, lung surgery twice and being told he was cancer free. During the 18 days that he was home again, he started having trouble swallowing and talking and then we were told that the cancer was back with a vengeance and was now terminal. Radiation every day for 3 weeks, chemotherapy for 2 months and he never lost his smile. He broke my heart when he told me that he didn't want to die. What do you say to that? Neither one of us knew, so we just held onto each other as tightly as we could and cried. The only thing that kept me going was his brother Dennis who dropped his life in Pensacola, FL, ran his business long distance from Massachusetts and drove up in his camper to help in May. He would walk with Steve, work with him to exercise to keep Steve strong and keep his spirits up, have long talks to keep his mind working, go to R.I. Hospital on every trip, even the daily radiation, and was such a comfort when I could do nothing but cry. He would take Steve on "field trips" to Ocean State Job Lot which, for some reason, became Steve's favorite place! He just left to return home after giving me 5 months of his life to make both mine and Steve's bearable. Just as wonderful were my sister, Sheila, and nephew Joey. Just when I thought I couldn't take care of Steve, they were here to administer nourishment and meds through his g-tube, keep him company to give me a break, keep him clean, also accompany us to R.I. Hospital for doctor's visits, radiation and chemo. They also allowed me to get some sleep by staying overnight so many times. I always promised Steve that he wouldn't go to a nursing home and they helped me keep that promise until the end when Joey watched him take his last breath. Such wonderful family members we both have. The hurt and sadness at losing Steve is unimaginable. All of the wonderful messages that have been left are true, only touching a small part of who Steve is. I love him so much, both as a friend and husband and I still can't imagine a life without him. All of my happiness has been taken from me, and I don't know why. He was such a terrific husband there will never be another Steve. I think that I will miss his silliness and laughter most of all. I can tell you that nothing in this world will ever hurt me as much as losing the love of my life.
Sheila Orlowski
September 25, 2013
I couldn't have asked for a more caring, loving and devoted brother-in-law. He was one in a million, even if he didn't laugh at my jokes! I consider it an honor to have spent much time caring for him before his passing, as he did for my Mom before God called her home. Our families will sorely miss him and his wonderful smile, especially my sister, Carol, who was the ying to his yang. I will love him always!
Cuhna Laural
September 25, 2013
My deepest sympathy to my dear friend Jan in the passing of your beloved brother Steve. To the entire Mather family... you are in my prayers. May you cherish the memories of Steve and keep him in your heart forever for then he will always be with you. ?
Jim McCarthy
September 20, 2013
My deepest condolences to Carol and the Mather family. I had the privilege to work with Steve for many years. But he was also a friend. Steve was a kind and gentle soul always willing to help where ever he could. What I remember most is the great laughter we shared.....his laugh was infectious. Steve was dedicated to his family and a valued friend. I'm very saddened by this news.
Srini Nimmagadda
September 17, 2013
It is a shock to come to know that Steve passed away. He was an amazing person to work with, and we worked closely at Cisco for years. Our condolences for the Mather family
Sue Nolin
September 17, 2013
Dear Carol,
My heart aches to know of Steve's passing. I'm so sorry for your loss. Steve was a wonderful member of the fun team that worked together at Netlink, Altiga and Cisco. I can so easily remember his laughter and camaraderie. Please know that there are many of us who are remembering him now. My prayers are with you and your family.
Brian Anderson
September 17, 2013
My condolences to the entire Mather family. Steve was a colleague at Cisco and we had the pleasure of working together for a number of years. He was a pleasure to work with and we shared many laughs together.
Jennifer Dube
September 16, 2013
It was a shock to hear of Steve's untimely passing. His Cisco family will miss him. Our hearts and prayers are with you.
Jennifer Kroon
September 16, 2013
I've known Steve for most of my 14 years at Cisco Systems and was so saddened when I learned, this morning, of his passing. Working with Steve, and getting to know him over the years was such a privilege -- he was super smart, generous, very fun, and funny. I, and all his many friends at Cisco, will miss him greatly. My sincere condolences to Carol and the rest of Steve's family and friends.
Debbie Daly
September 16, 2013
I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. Steve was a colleague of mine from Cisco who I had the pleasure to work with for a few years in Boxborough. He was very much respected and known as a great, kind man. My heartfelt sympathy to his wife, family and friends for this great loss. May he rest in peace.
Judy Meserve
September 16, 2013
My condolences to the entire Mather family, especially Jan. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Treasure your memories of Steven, they will get you through these difficult times and bring a smile to your face when you least expect it.
Sincerely,
Judy Meserve
Such style and grace!!
September 14, 2013
Such style and grace!!
September 14, 2013
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