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Stuart Wolfer Obituary
He called his children beautiful because they looked like their mother.
A blondish-brown-haired woman who married the handsome Stuart Wolfer - a brave, honorable man, all those things fathers and husbands should be and more.
He had three daughters under 6 who likely thought their daddy could conquer the world.
Today he is being mourned by his little girls, his wife, his parents, who live in Boca Raton, and by the many friends who have heard solemn whispers that Wolfer is dead.
They cry, asking why, as they remember this dedicated man.
"When he'd drop his girls off at school, he'd say, 'I love you, beautifuls!' He was truly, truly a special, unique, dynamic person," Lee Anne Wolfer said in a statement Tuesday. "He was loved."
Army Maj. Stuart Wolfer died Sunday while working out in a gym in the Green Zone in Baghdad.
He was one of two to die in a rocket attack and one of more than 4,000 U.S. troops to have died in Iraq.
Wolfer - assigned to the 11th Battalion, 104th Division based in Boise, Idaho - would have turned 37 on April 23.
He was the only son of Esther and Len Wolfer of Boca Raton, who are now grieving with family and friends, trying to make sense of it all.
Knowing that a soldier is in the Green Zone often comforts loved ones because many consider that section of Baghdad safe. It's heavily guarded. It's where U.S. officials live and work.
But it's a reminder that in a war zone, no place is safe.
Over the weekend, he had promised a longtime friend that everything was, in fact, OK.
He said so in an e-mail that Stephanie Lewis opened from her Philadelphia home on Sunday morning.
"All has calmed down," he said, "a lot less indirect fire. I was able to get to the Internet Cafe."
He thanked her for the package of goodies she sent and told her he shared the food with some soldiers from Pennsylvania.
Lewis wrote back, warning that one more box filled with cards and pictures was on its way.
She knew it would cheer him up because he sometimes felt lonely in Iraq.
Lewis ended her e-mail with "Stay safe."
Today, she wonders if Wolfer ever read it.
No one else in Wolfer's family has served in the military, and when he announced his plans to join, a close family friend in Palm Beach County immediately began to worry.
"I screamed bloody murder. ... But he really believed in patriotism," said the woman, who did not want her name revealed. "He was too fine a human being for this to happen."
Wolfer's parents were too heartsick to comment.
They volunteered with a national group that worked to get cellphones to service men and women so they could chat with loved ones back home.
Wolfer was born in Miami. His family moved to Dix Hills, N.Y., where they helped create the Dix Hills Jewish Center, when he was a child. Shortly after Wolfer's bar mitzvah, his family moved back to Florida, this time to Coral Springs, with Stuart and his sister.
He graduated from Taravella High School, joined the Army ROTC program while attending school at Washington University in St. Louis, and was commissioned as a 2nd lieutenant when he graduated in May 1993.
After marrying Lee Anne, he transferred to the Army Reserve and studied law at Loyola Law School in Los Angeles.
He was called up to active duty in 2004 and served in Kuwait for a year.
In his civilian job, he worked as a territory manager for Thomson West Legal, which provides legal and business information to legal professionals. He lived on a farm with his wife and daughters, Lillian Wade, 5, Melissa Lacey-Marie, 3, and Isadora Ruth, 1, in Emmett, Idaho.
Wolfer was a spiritual man who followed Jewish rituals on a daily basis, even in Iraq. He made requests for prayer books and other items Jewish soldiers needed, and every morning, even in Iraq, he prayed using Tefillin, leather boxes with Bible verses inside.
On his last tour, he was a pen pal to students at the Mirochnick Religious School of B'Nai Torah Congregation in Boca Raton and would share with them his experience of celebrating Hanukkah overseas.
Education Director Cathy Berkowitz said Tuesday that the students planned to send letters to Wolfer again this year. Now, they'll write to his parents.
Wolfer will be buried this week in Iowa, where Lee Anne's family lives.
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Memories and Condolences
for Stuart Wolfer
Debbie Sweatman
February 20, 2024
My heart is heavy for your loss. I can not thank you all as his family enough for the sacrifice you have had to endure for me. I did not know Major Wolfer personally I do feel a heartfelt loss for you all.
Val Baker
December 28, 2016
Just found this site, I have been remembering Maj Wolfer every April as I was there with him
COL Bettina R. Moncus
November 19, 2015
MAJ Stuart Wolfer will always remain forever in my thoughts! Just know that this old Soldier will never forget! I believe that Soldiers like you and so many others that have passed on before and after you should be remembered everyday not just Veteran's Day. With great respect and admiration I celebrate you!
COL Bettina R Moncus
February 20, 2014
To the Wolfer Family. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about STU. A great leader, Soldier and family man. Just know that he will always remain in my thoughts and prayers.
SFC Anthony Mike
February 20, 2013
After almost five years I have returned to Baghdad. Much has changed and I was blessed to see the SCOTT-WOLFER Gym on FOB UNION III. While it will never bring my friend Stu or COL Scott back it is a nice gesture. Lets hope that no other memorials for US Military members are ever erected in Iraq again.
Peggy Childers
April 25, 2012
April 6, 2012
To the family and friends of Maj. Stuart A. Wolfer:
Please accept my remembrance of Stuart on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
November 15, 2011
Thinking of you today.
Tony Averhart
August 6, 2011
To the family and friends of Maj Wolfer. I was with Maj Wolfer in the gym during the explosion and also first responder to him. The Major and I saw each other almost everyday and never really spoke only nodded to each other in passing in the gym. I knew of him more and more after that fatal day in April. To the family, I know now that he loved his wife and his kids very much. To his friends he always kept them close. He was truly a spiritual and giving man with his time. He touched the people closest to him and others that he didn't know. I wear a bracelet daily to remind me of him and will always wear it. I think of him daily and will never forget about him.
May 29, 2011
To the Wolfer family. I served with Stu in Kuwait during the 2004-2005 deployment. I was the Chief of Plans for Deployment and Redeployment Operations on Camp Arifjan. I had the distinct honor of working with Stu on a daily basis as he worked dilligently to ensure the safety and comfort of every soldier that passed through Capm Beuhring. Stu was one of the most professional Captains that I have ever had the pleasure of working with. With all of his academic achievements, he was amazing in his "common sense" approach to each mission or task he faced. He always fought for his soldiers and was extremely sincere in questioning any directive that just did not make sense. He was the Officer that met every deadline, but the one thing I will always remember about Stu is his ability to say to me..."Sir, that just makes no sense at all..." He a true leader with the courage to question things that made no sense. As I approach my retirement from the military after almost 29 years, I can truly say that Stu was the Best at what he did, and he did it because he loved his family first(we talked about our families daily), and his nation next. Stu is thought of daily by all who knew him, and we promise to continue to honor his ultimate sacrifice as he did what he loved. He was the BEST, and he made each of us Better!
LTC Albert(Al) Wilson, Jr.
L Neal
May 21, 2011
To the family of Major Stuart A. Wolfer:
Please know that just as your loved one remains in your hearts and minds; his sacrifice, and that of your family, remains with the people he died defending. Words cannot express the gratitude we feel for his bravery and selflessness, or the heartache we feel for your loss. God bless and keep you always.
Peggy Childers
April 24, 2011
April 6, 2011
To the family and friends of Maj. Stuart A. Wolfer:
Remembering Stuart on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
March 12, 2011
Remembering you and missing you.
Tom Cruise
November 11, 2010
I was assigned to Phoenix Base in Baghdad on the day MAJ Wolfer was killed. He was a great American who made the supreme sacrifice and the world is a better place because of him. My sincerest condolences on Veteran's Day to his beautiful family and friends. Tom Cruise, Brockton, MA
September 28, 2010
May the family and friends of Stuart A. Wolfer find comfort through God's word at Isaiah 2:4.
July 10, 2010
What a loss.
My deepest sympathies...rest in peace.
so very sorry.
SSG Mickey Cesar Argumedo
April 30, 2010
Thinking of you and your family today, and thinking of myself as well.
~~~~~~~~~
the good earth
This is a strange place for a lighthouse, Stuart –
with the endless leagues of hay,
the wheat shocks standing
unsteady in the fields.
We had mistakenly booked passage
on a dreadnaught, and served
stoking coals, but that was long ago, Stuart; the burns on my palms
have healed, and this century
finds me uncertain between tack house and tractor. The sky goes on forever here in Kansas,
a blue subsumed by an underlying blanket of insect drift. The irrigation machines are amazing
mile-long monstrosities which straddle the soil like somnolent gods.
When we were twice removed from this world,
prostrate before the furnace,
you told me stories of Idaho,
stories of children, told me
to grab onto my faith and save it
for the upcoming harvest
when others might need my strength –
I did, Stuart, I did, but this is a strange place for lighthouses and fallow dreams without you;
I just wish you could see them.
I do.
Peggy Childers
April 8, 2010
To the family and friends of Maj. Stuart A. Wolfer:
Remembering Stuart on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
7/104/4/104TH DIV (IT) 311TH COSCOM
February 18, 2010
WE MISS YOU STU...
YOUR LITTLE ANGELS ARE SO BEAUTIFUL...
SEE YOU SOON!
SFC FETTERLY, ROBERT
Danny Williams
December 27, 2009
December 13,2009
To the family of MAJ Stuart Wolfer, I only recently heard of your loss. I met Stuart when he was A 1LT assigned to the 311th COSCOM in Los Angeles. He was a fine leader and always had a smile on his face. He is in the arms of angels.
MSG RET Danny Williams, Claremont, California
Mark Wolf
December 13, 2009
Lee;
I saw that Jon Solem, Michael Tremblay and others who served with us in Iraq have added their condolences a long time ago. I remember communicating with Stu prior to him coming over. He was an inspired person, who wanted to make a difference. We all would enjoy it when you sent him videos of your daughters, which he would play for us.
Stu is missed by all of us who served with him. He will not be forgotten by us.
Sincerely;
Mark Wolf
December 11, 2009
Thank you for everything you have done Stuart, your memory will always live on.
Donavon Carrie
December 11, 2009
Lee,
I never had the honor of meeting MAJ. Wolfer. I wish I had. I knew OF him only through sharing a class with you at BSU, a class that mourned deeply when we heard of his passing.
I have thought often of MAJ. Wolfer in the year and a half since he was taken from us. I know a few things about him just from my brief interactions with you, Lee. Judging solely by the amazing woman he chose to be his wife and the mother of his children, I know he must have been an extraordinary man. I know that his love for his country and his faith must have been incredibly strong to have allowed him to be so many thousands of miles from the family he loved. I know that while he was in the military, serving this great country, he never heard the words "Thank you" nearly enough. Our soldiers can't possibly receive enough gratitude for the role they play in our freedom. And I know that, now that he's been taken from us, the words "thank you" just sound hollow and insignificant in the shadow of the sacrifice he's made. If only there was a stronger, more sincere expression of gratitude.
What I didn't know, after I ran into you on campus the semester following his death, was how to put all of that into words. So, I awkwardly hugged you and muttered some quick condolences and hurried away before I said the wrong thing. I’m sorry I didn’t know how to act around the wife of a fallen war hero. I just didn’t want to be another blunt reminder of the hole his loss had created in your life.
I hope the pain of your loss is not as terrible now as it was when you were first told. I hope your children know what a hero their father is. And I hope this message finds you, if for no other reason than to let you know he hasn’t been forgotten.
I'll leave you with just one more thing I know: I know you and your family will see him again, someday. When you do, tell MAJ. Wolfer I said, “Thank you.”
MAJ. Matt Conley
August 5, 2009
I was in Stuart's ROTC Battalion at Washington University and was commissioned with him. Although it’s been 16+ years ago I can still remember attending Military Science class on Thursday at the Academy Building with him. The one thing I most remember about Stuart, was that he was always late for class. Our PMS, Capt. Spindler, would always make it point to single out “Wolfer” for special attention when he eventually arrived. RIP Stuart.
Leah Nerenberg
June 4, 2009
My uncle was an amazing person and I will never forget him. I wish I could have seen him more often.
April, 06 2008 a few hours earlier everything was quiet.
June 2, 2009
Michael Gibson
June 2, 2009
Sir/Madam,
My name is Michael Gibson and I was in the same attack at camp Phoenix when your husband was killed in Baghdad, Iraq on April, 06 2008. I barely reached a bomb shelter my self when the rounds came in. I saw your husband before but did not personally know him, but will never forget that day for what I saw. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Bill
May 25, 2009
Rest In Peace. I did not know you in life but from all that I read you were an amazing person and that the world is a darker place with out you. I will never forget and I will always cherish your gift of Freedom.
Carmen Snuggs
April 14, 2009
I was very sorry to hear about Stuart's passing. I didn't learn about it until I read a Loyola Law School publication, and was sorry I missed the memorial held in his honor at the school. His death is still on my heart today, and that led me to this site. It is wonderful to read all of the kind words, and different stories of how Stu touched people's lives. How awesome is that. I have been blessed by this. God bless you.
Peggy Childers
April 10, 2009
To the family of Maj. Stuart A. Wolfer:
Stuart gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
John Hezeltine
April 6, 2009
Wow its been a year. I love you and miss you deeply my good friend. i promise you live on in everyone you ever met. you always found a way to touch the hears of everyone. i will forever be a grater man for having a part of you in my life.
Keri (Kimpling) Holdgrafer
April 6, 2009
I am so sorry for your loss. What an amazing person Stuart was. I still remember the first day I met Stuart Adam. It was our first day on the job with American Cyanamid. Growing up on a farm in Illinois, I had never met anyone quite like him!! What a breath of fresh air he was. He sure kept our training full of excitement. I still giggle when I think of some of the things our group experienced together. My heart is filled with sympathy for all of those hurting due to his loss. God Bless!!
Samuel Olawaiye
March 28, 2009
My thoughts and prayers go to the family of Stuart Wolfer. I served with MAJ Wolfer from 2004-2005, he was the logistics officer on Camp Buehring, Kuwait. He was a fine soldier and friend. I was deeply saddened when I heard the news.
At Home with the Lord...Eternal Rest be granted on to you
March 13, 2009
R. Stephen Hansell
February 25, 2009
I am so ashamed that I only just read my May 2008 Montana Lawyer and saw the news of Stu's death. He was so helpful and generous to me as my West Rep when I prepared for CLE presentations. God bless his spirit and the family. Ron (USMC RVN 1968-69)
To the Wolfer Family your in my prayers
Christopher Stiles
February 4, 2009
My deepest condolences to the Wolfer family and friends. My name is SSG Stiles from Los Angeles CA who was stationed with MAJ Wolfer aka Stu. I have a picture that was probably sent to you already of Stu if not let me know and I'll send it to you. Stu was a good friend of mine and he and I would work together on missions. At night we would go back to Black Hawk to our CHUs and talk about our plans when we redeployed. Like Stu I have three young daughters 2, 6, and 7 and when I look at them I think of Stu. Stu was not just a good officer and leader he was a good, kind man with morals and values one that all officers should strive to be. I'm going to really miss my friend Stu.
Sincerely,
SSG Christopher Stiles
[email protected]
T Starman
January 16, 2009
I offer my deepest condolences for your loss
Steven Argiriou
January 13, 2009
Stewart was a great man and a great soldier. He was a quiet and humble hero, a model for us all. He was very professional and very brave. I think of him often and how he died for the highest of causes, so that others could live in peace and freedom. All Americans and Iraqis owe him so much. I feel blessed to have known him, if only for a short while. I served with Stu in Iraq with MNSTC-I and have told my children of his courage, sacrifice and what a nice person he was.
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November 24, 2008
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steve muster
September 11, 2008
Stu was a great friend..i went to high school with him..i have fond memories of Stu. Although i am heart broken by his passing, i am proud of all that he was brave enough to accomplish.
Lindan Moya
August 20, 2008
I was in the 104th Division with Stuart, and although many of my fellow reserve officers have served in OIF/OEF, he is the only one I know that has been killed. This was his second tour, as he had already served while he was a Captain in Kuwait/Iraq earlier in the war. He was a great man and officer, his passing continues to sadden me.
MAJ Moya
CARLA MILLEDGE
July 25, 2008
I AM SADDENED BY THE DEATH OF YOUR SOLDIER. MY SON WAS KIA ON 10-05-07. SO I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. GOD BE WITH YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN PROUD MOTHER OF SGT. JOSEPH B. MILLEDGE SR
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
July 20, 2008
My heartfelt sympathy to the Wolfer family and friends in the loss of Stuart. I did not know Stuart, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. My heart was touched by the many wonderful/beautiful things written about you. Stuart you are my hero and you will NEVER be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace
Tom
"TO LIVE IN THE HEARTS
OF THOSE YOU LEAVE BEHIND
IS NEVER TO DIE"
~Robert Orr~
July 10, 2008
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Maj Wolfer and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
July 10, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Maj Wolfer!
June 15, 2008
Dear Lillian, Melissa and Isadora: Your daddy was my friend and he would talk about all three of you - always. Nothing meant more to him than you and your mommy. On Father's day, I wanted to remind you today, and everytime you read this in the future, just how much he loved you. I miss him and pray for you daily.
Your Dad's Friend
Rosemary Renger
June 13, 2008
I wrote a message shortly after Stuart's passing. He was part of my summer family as I would spend time with him at summer meetings. The first summer meeting is next Thursday and it will be extremely hard to attend the meeting without your smiling face to greet me.
You will be missed but you will be there in spirit as we all carry your spirit with-in us in the same way you shared your spirit with everyone.
I can't even
Linda Cano
June 5, 2008
Stuart, thank you for your heroism. May God comfort your loved ones and greet you with open arms.
Beverly Wolfer
June 1, 2008
It's not until now that I could actually write something here. I'm Stuie's sister. I want to acknowledge all of you who have written here about my brother. It means so much to read all the anecdotes about how my brother touched your lives - it does bring some comfort that he meant so much to so many people.
To me he will always be so special, he was not only my brother but my friend. My heart hurts so much for not having him here physically. I keep him in my heart and pray that his memory will continue to be a blessing for all of us that knew him.
This past Memorial Day was extremely meaningful for me as I truly recognized the meaning of the day -- a time to recognize all those who have made the ultimate sacrifice or to those who have/are serving so that we can enjoy the Freedoms we hold so dear. May G-d bless all our soldiers currently serving so that they may come home safely to their family & loved ones.
Leissa Wages
May 30, 2008
I was deeply saddened to just learn of Stu's untimely death. The news literally took my breath away.
All the testaments on these pages capture the core of his soul and what a very nice man he always was.
He was so very proud of his family. I think he called everyone he knew in the world each time a new child entered the family. And he knew a LOT of people! He was truly thrilled.
His death is just so sad. My deepest sympathy goes out to his family. He is one of those who will be truly missed.
Mark McLaverty
May 29, 2008
I knew Stuart as he would stop by my law office when working for West. He had such a nice demeanor and was a pleasure to work with. He often asked me to play cards at Todd Amick's house when he was in town in Missoula on his route. I am sorry I never did. He is an exceptional young man, proud of his country and his family. I will try to live a better life for my children and country because of knowing him. God Bless to his wife, children, and family and friends.
Mark McLaverty
Mike Zofkie
May 27, 2008
I just wanted to share my thoughts on a wonderful friend on Memorial Day…
I worked with Stu at West. I found him - as many others have pointed out - to be a great guy. He spoke fondly of his family and other's achievements while rarely of himself. He earned his living as lawyer, soldier and salesman, yet he cherished his title of Husband, Father and Friend. Stu always presented himself as a gentleman. He truly was a gentle man.
Please allow God’s mercy and love to fill the void left behind by Stuart’s passing. Psalm 139:16; David tells us that God creatred us and knew every one of the days of our lives before we were yet born.
God Bless Stu's family and each one who reads these tributes.
Karin Munksgaard
May 13, 2008
I worked with Stu at Thomson West for about a year. I was in marketing in Minnesota, and of the 450+ field sales and account reps I worked with, he was my favorite. I was responsible for marketing a product called Deal Proof and I simply could not have been successful without him. Not only was he the top rep for this product, but he helped others understand how to sell it.
He was passionate about our products and our customers. He had a tremendous work ethic and he acted as a true partner to his colleagues. He was proud of his company and had a unbelievably positive attitude. Not only did he cheerfully help out when asked - he continually, proactively looked for ways that he could help and support the company and his colleagues. I was always impressed with his professionalism and character.
I know that I only saw a glimpse of who Stu was as an individual, but that one side of him was enough to convince me that I am very lucky to have known him.
We will miss him here at Thomson Reuters!
Kim Wills
May 13, 2008
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
JAMES RING
May 10, 2008
GOD BLESS YOUR SOUL. THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT OF OUR COUNTRY.
Kevin Speis
May 6, 2008
I didn't learn of Stuart's passing until the week of his funeral from a mutual friend and it wasn't until now that I could make an entry here. Stuart and I were in ROTC together. He never complained about anything. It is ironic that on the week of his death that I came across a picture of he and I from our old Ranger Challenge team. Even though I hadn't seen him in over 10 years, his loss has deeply affected me. I am both saddened and proud at the same time. I know that his memory will never be lost on his beautiful girls.
In Memory of Stuart ~ ( Debra Estep )
May 4, 2008
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
The Wind on The Downs
“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”
(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )
Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….
“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”
I did not know Stuart, but I am remembering
his service. He is my hero. !
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The Other Side
i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.
can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.
i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side
the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)
“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008
Visit this link to hear the song.
The Other Side –
http://tinyurl.com/3o8gol
Sincerely,
Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom and MIL
Remembering The Fallen – Blog
http://tinyurl.com/3z8p55
Please contact me and I will email you back a copy of my
Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
Evelyn Cooper
April 30, 2008
Lee, I cannot express my sincere sorrow for your loss. Stu was a terrific human being and a model for all. I will never forget his smile and can-do attitude. He was the "positive" energy in our unit and a motivator among the troops. I am proud to have served along side him and will never forget his sacrifice. God Bless you and the girls - LTC (R) Cooper
April 27, 2008
To the Family and Friends of this Soldier:
I will stand in grief with this soldier's family to honor him. For every fallen HERO there is a bright star that shines in the evening sky to remind us of the cherished gift we were given – even if for too short a time.
My heart breaks again as I sign yet another guest book of another courageous young soldier who gave their life so selflessly. I wish I never found myself in a position to have to sign another guestbook for the rest of my life, but I promised Brent that neither he nor any like him would be forgotten and so I will continue until the day there is no longer the need.
We lost our son SFC Brent A. Adams on 12/1/05 and it seems like yesterday. I wish so badly there were things I could say to you right now to make the pain you are feeling go away, but I know first hand there simply are no words that will bring you the comfort and peace your heart aches for. Just know that you are not alone. My heart, thoughts, and prayers are with you all as you go through this tragedy moment by moment and as you mourn this loss.
We don't know each other, will probably never meet, but will forever be united in the loss of our Heroes. We have, unfortunately joined a group none of us wanted to join, an ever-growing group of families in this situation. May God grant you peace and strength to get through this and be able once again to smile at a memory rather than have only the tears that flow so easily now. To be so proud of your loved one and so saddened at the same time is a mix of emotions very difficult to deal with as our hearts both burst with pride and pain together.
I am sorry that I never knew your soldier personally. While they can never be replaced, neither will they ever be forgotten. You must trust that sometime, someday the loving memories you have will help to sustain you and help you go on. This courageous soldier will forever be your Angel watching over you all for the rest of your lives. It's what brings me some measure of peace and comfort and I hope it will you as well.
To his family and friends in pain, I offer this comfort: When you find yourself in that dark sorrowful place, think not only of how you will miss him, but instead recall the years, days, hours and minutes gifted to you by his presence. The one thing that cannot be taken from you is your wonderful memories that now will mean more than ever.
If you ever want to talk, I'm only an e:mail away and would love for you to tell me more about your Hero.
God Bless this soldier and family who gave all and God Bless legacy.com for setting up this site where families can so quickly share their condolences and prayers with others like themselves.
Proud Parents of SFC Brent A. Adams, KIA, 12/1/05, Ramadi, Iraq
Pam and Bill Adams, Lancaster, PA
Ben Wasson
April 27, 2008
Dear Wolfer Family,
I also met Stu at Ft Benning GA, What an amazing man, he helped me so much not only through lending me a helping hand but our talks we would have regarding life, family, and the military. I consider Stu a mentor but mostly my friend. I'm am truly saddened by your lost. I will carry him in my heart forever.......
KATHY ARMYSPOUSE
April 26, 2008
DEEPEST SYMPATHY FOR YOUR LOSS, FROM A MOTHER AND A WIFE OF TWO SOLDIERS DEPLOYED CURRENTLY....
gilbert tendler
April 25, 2008
To the Wolfer Family,
People like myself can not even fathom your loss but at least we can show our admiration that a person as great as Stuart gave his all for this great country
Jeanette shimkus, LCDR, MC, USN
April 24, 2008
To the Wolfer Family,
Words never seems enough at the time when a service member dies in the line of duty. I am sorry for your loss. You are in all of our prayers.
Joel Wolfe
April 24, 2008
I am terribly sorry for your loss. I knew Stu in law school and he came to our wedding. He was a great guy- funny, smart, and cared about everyone.
Ryan Duffee
April 24, 2008
Wolfer Family,
I briefly met MAJ Wolfer while at Ft. Benning, GA. right before he and I left. During this short period of time, all in all 10 days or so, the positive energy and optimistic attitude displayed by MAJ Wolfer inspired me in many ways. We talked on many occasions about many different things one of which being his family. His love and spirit will always be there. Yes, even when I heard him on the phone with his daughter he would always leave her saying, "I love you beautiful, goodbye". He will be missed. He was a great man and if I could develop that impression in a short period of time, well I can only imagine what those who have known him a long time could have learned and felt from his presence. God bless you all and you will be in my prayers.
SPC Ryan Duffee
CBHCO-FL
MG James W Comstock AUS (Ret)
April 23, 2008
Lee
I wish I had the words to express my feeling of loss. Stuart was more than just an Aide to me, he was my friend and in many cases the one that gave me sage advice and was wise beyond his years. I remember the decision you both made to get married and allowing me to be part of it. This world has lost a great man, a wonderful father,a true and noble soldier and he was my friend. God must have wanted a good soldier and a great Aide to have called him early. My prayers are with you and your daughters. If there is anything I can do please call me.
Jim McDermott
April 23, 2008
Dear Lee Anne:
It was my great pleasure to work with Stuart at Jelenko. I was also very fortunate to have met you at Loma Linda University when you accompanied Stuart to a dental school meeting in 1998. Because I live in So Cal as the two of you did at that time, I was able to work with Stuart frequently. It is very rare to meet such a bright, energetic, and honest person as Stuart. I feel very fortunate to have known him. It is important that everyone knows there are some truly good people in the world. Stuart was a great example of that. Reading about his work within his faith with other soldiers, being a pen-pal to kids back in Florida, and of his great love for you and the girls, only strengthens my thoughts of him. I frequently close e-mails to relatives and good friends in similar fashion, but I have never meant it more than now........"I wish you, and the girls, well!
Sincerely
Daniel's upsherin, with sister Esther and brother Aaron
Michelle Garland
April 22, 2008
It is comforting to read what so many of you have written about Stuart. I too am an old friend, one of the first people Stuart met when he moved to Iowa. We had just had "the flood of 93" and Stuart was ready to help my family in any way possible, as my father had a business downtown and we were staying there 24/7 to protect the place from looters.
My dad and his brothers slept there with guns until the havoc was over. Stuart would say "I'll get a bunch of my friends and we will go to help." When the flood waters almost hit the back door of my father's business, Stuart said "I'll gather my friends and we will fill bags of sand to put around the building."
Stuart my dear friend, you helped me during my grief of losing my grandfather. We would go to services together, and then go to visit his graveside at the cemetery. Now are buried about 400 feet away from him. It is surreal to imagine you comforting me 15 years ago at the time of my loss, and now you are buried next to grandpa.
I see your wife and children, they are beautiful, and I am so happy to know you finally found your besheret.
Miriam Nechama bat Shoshe Golda
Valerie Wyer
April 22, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
April 21, 2008
Lisa and Wayne Wells
April 21, 2008
Thank you Stuart for your sacrifice. May the Lord strengthen and hold your family close to His heart during this time of sorrow. Rest in Peace. From your fellow Americans.........
Julia Levy
April 21, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with your family during this difficult time. Stuart and I were friendly in High School and met through B'nai Brith Youth Organization. I have fond memories of Stuart from conventions and events. He will be missed.
Fr. James O'Neal
April 20, 2008
To the Wolfer Family:
Please accept my deepest sympathies for the loss of your beloved Stuart! I will say Kaddesh for him during Passover here in Korea. I will also pray for him from my Catholic tradition as well. Being a native Floridian from West Palm Beach, I know your hometown and it has lost a gentleman and a devoted soldier. Your loss is the Army's loss as well. G-d bless you and yours!
Sincerely yours,
Fr. James E. O'Neal
US Army Chaplain
USAG Humphreys
Pyeongtaek,
Korea
Suzanne MacDaniel
April 19, 2008
To the Wolfer family,
I know there are no words to say, except how sorry I am for your loss. May you hold Stuarts' memory in your heart and please remember he shall never be forgotten.
...For you every single soldier
Those who served so honorable
Your life was forever altered
While I’m home safe and free
I stand with grateful admiration
I stand respectful and so proud
I know I’m only a civilian
And I don’t even know if it’s allowed.
But I salute you; allow me the honor
to salute you with permission let me say
Even though I hold no rank know that from my heart
My humble gratitude comes from the deepest part.
I salute you.
Suzanne MacDaniel
A Proud Aunt
David M.Fisher
KIA 12/1/04 Iraq
don
April 18, 2008
Thank you for allowing MR Wolfer to serve our Country and help keep us free. I last my wife last week and can understand part of your sorrow. May God bless and keep you and your family.
April 18, 2008
WILLIAM GREENUP
April 18, 2008
I would like to give my condelences to the family of this great person that will be missed. STU was my OIC in the S-3 section in Kuwait. We talked about our kids and family everyday. It hurts because we had emailed eachother the week before. I will miss you my brother.
MSG William Greenup
Jim & Sue Olliso
April 17, 2008
We'd like to express our deepest sympathy. How truly sorry we feel. It is hard to know what to say at times like these. We can only begin to imagine the sorrow that comes along with losing someone so close to your heart. May cherished memories bring you peace and comfort. Please know that our hearts ache in unison with yours at the loss of this man, a hero who made the ultimate sacrifice for the values we hold so dear in America. Our thoughts are with you.
Douglas Naas
April 17, 2008
I was deployed with Major Stuart A. Wolfer in 2004-2005. He was a good friend as well as one of the best soldiers I have ever met. I am currently deployed to Iraq on my second tour. I am glad that I got the opportunity to go to his memorial service held in Camp Washington. He was loved by many and will be missed by all.
John Lothspeich
April 17, 2008
I spoke with, emailed and met with Stu a number of times on behalf of my firm. He was always a total pro and tremendous help. I recall one of our last visits where we had to reschedule due to the recent birth of his yougest child, Isadora. He was elated with the news. It was obvious to me that he was a tremendous family man in every way. This is his greatest legacy among many. My prayers are with his family. He will be missed.
James Yates
April 16, 2008
It was my honor to be a part of Maj. Wolfer's funeral detail. I'm deeply saddened for your loss. SPC James Yates, Des Moines, Iowa
Leslie Lackey
April 16, 2008
Major Stuart A. Wolfer was a Cpt when I had the great oppurtunity to work in the same office with him, he was my OIC. He was a guy that you can get in an argument one second and the next your the best of friends again (smile) Maj. Wolfer was.....IS a great American soldier, whom will be truly missed. Love ya much Adam (smile)
Sgt. L. Lackey
OIF 04-05
Camp Beurhing, Kuwait S-2
Todd Amick
April 16, 2008
Stu was a great person and a good friend. One thing that stood out about Stu was his incredible dedication. Work, family, friends, military service, it didn't matter. He always strove to do his best and had a remarkable ability to adapt to make the best of every situation. His life was a lesson to us all on how we can overcome life's obstacles and focus on family, friends, and living life to its fullest.
As long as we all remember what you were about and strive to do the same, the world will be a better place. Thank you Stu.
CSM Mark Massaglia
April 16, 2008
It was my privilege to meet MAJ Wolfer when he was assigned to our unit as we prepared to deploy to Kuwait. That he was unique and special was obvious to me within a few minutes of meeting him. But as our time together went on I learned just how special and talented he was. He was initially assigned to a job at which he would have excelled but bluntly told the commander that it would be a waste of his ability. He volunteered for and received one on the most difficult and challenging positions in our organization. He then proceeded to execute his mission with tireless dedication and incredible skill. In his position he often came into conflict with officers that outranked him and who were in powerful positions. If he knew he was right (and he almost always was) he would go toe to toe with those officers defending his position and the soldiers it would protect. I wondered almost every single day how we would have succeeded in our mission without him.
MAJ Wolfer was an awesome representative of Judaism. He was the first person of the Jewish faith that I got to spend a lot of time with and he was kind enough to share some of his religious customs with me. He invited me and several other members of our unit to participate in the Passover Seder for which he procured all the food and drink. I found the entire experience very interesting but I enjoyed most hearing his reflections and experiences from the Seders of his youth. He was always willing to share not only about his faith but his beloved family as well.
While I continued each day to be amazed with what an awesome officer MAJ Wolfer was I realized he was equally gifted as husband and father as a colleague and friend. I liked working with him. I liked being around him. He was unique, he was energetic, he was enthusiastic, he was confident and he made me confident in our ability to do our mission. I’m blessed to have had the chance to meet and work with him. I have thought of him many times since were in Kuwait. I’m sure I will continue to think of him as long as I live. God Bless his wonderful family in these difficult times.
Glenda M. Carter
April 16, 2008
To the family of Maj. Stuart Wolfer. I am very sorry for your loss of Stuart. I am also a Widow of War and a member of Gold Star Wives and The American Widow Project that supports the new generation of widows through www.americanwidowproject.org/ Please feel free to contact us at the above internet site or by calling 1.877.AWP.Widow This is a long hard journey and we are here to help. God Bless You and you will be in my prayers.
Boyd Vico
April 15, 2008
Stuart and I attended the same the middle school together. While we were never close friends, I always admired him for his confidence and easy-going manner at an age when most of us could barely muster the strength to make eye contact with somebody. After more than 20 years, I still have a vivid memory of Stuart perched on top of his desk with a big grin on his face and surrounded by friends. He'll be missed, but not forgotten.
Rick Sullivan
April 15, 2008
First, let me say how honestly saddened I am about your loss. I met MAJ Wolfer (Stu) when he was assigned to the 317th for their deployment to Kuwait in 2004. While I didn't go with the unit on that one and knew him only in the brief time I had with them before and after their deployment, I never forgot the words of wisdom he gave to a then freshly commissioned 2LT that couldn't stop calling him sir. "You need to lighten up," he said. And when I saw the powder puff girls linen on his bed and the instantly positive influence he had on that unit, I knew he was right. He was funny. He was professional. He is missed.
MAJ Chris Pribbanow
April 15, 2008
I am sorry for your loss, may God bless Stuart and his family.
I went to Officer Basic with Stuart and ran into him several times through out our careers. He visited me and we went skiing at Snow Basin, UT in 1995/96. He is a great person and he will be missed.
Col. Ret. Alfred B. and Judi (Wolfer) Aus
April 15, 2008
To the Family of Major Stuart Wolfer, we send our condolences and thanks for serving our country.
Bonnie Deahl
April 15, 2008
Dear Mrs. Wolfer, I learned of your husband through Stacy Carmen, my friend. She told us that she lost her cousin in Iraq. Your loss is ours too.
With deepest sympathy,
Sheila Kravitz
April 15, 2008
My daughter Stacey was a Taravella classmate and friend of Beverly's. Please accept our family's condolences on the loss of your beloved son and brother. May God grant you peace.
Safely Home
Michael Iezzi
April 15, 2008
Father we entrust our brother Stuart to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
May God hold Stuart in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. My deepest sympathy.
Kim Straker
April 15, 2008
It's said that some people come into our hearts and stay for a lifetime. From reading everything written about Major Stuart Wolfer, I can see that he was such a man. The impression that he left on people from so many walks of his life, from so many countries, is truly astounding. His love of, and devotion to, his wife and children shines brightly. From grade school through to the present, all speak of him with affection, with humor and with gratitude. He has the admiration, respect and friendship of those with whom he served - always an indication of a very strong and caring person.
My initial thought on reading of his death was sorrow that he'd gone leavng so much behind. After reading these pages, I feel saddened that I never knew him personally, but that I know him a little, and I'm sure that the world is the better for his time here on earth. To Mrs Wolfer and his daughters, I hope that the love, compassion and support that you see around you will give you some measure of comfort in the time ahead. To his parents and family, be proud of him - he was an honorable man. Rest in Peace Major Wolfer.
God Bless you, your family and your Nation.
Martha Beltran
April 15, 2008
I was honored to have served with Stuart in Los Angeles at the 311th COSCOM. He was so charismatic, caring, intelligent, and funny. A great friend. Stuart, I will always remember and cherish your memory. My deepest sympathies to his wife Lee and their daughters, my prayers are with you.
A mom of a Marine
April 14, 2008
To Maj. Wolfer's family..To his parents, to his wife and to those beautiful girls that will have to learn to live with their Dad's spirit...I am a mother of a US Marine who is the same age at the Maj. I know the pain and worrying a family feels when there is a war. My son was in Dessert Storm...I am praying for all of you that the good Lord gives you the strength in the days ahead to make it through the hard times..There will be many many hard times....There will be no more happy times..no more laughter and no more smiles for now...I know in time it will lessen...but your pain will never be gone....I lost my mom suddenly six months ago and my family and I are devastated....I know how you are feeling....I will include Maj. Stuart and all of you in my prayers..Prayer is the ONLY thing that will keep you together...
God Bless
Sanford Sadja
April 14, 2008
While the expression "stand down" may now apply to Stuart by some, we owe a life long debt of gratitiude to him for "standing up" when our Nation called.
Regardless of feelings about the conflict, Stuart accepted his duty as an exceptionally sacrificing and responsible American and has left a gaping wound within his family.
As true of so many unspoken, but grateful people, our hearts are with you, and him, throughout your days of sorrow.
With great respect,
Sandy and Rivka Sadja
yrbd
April 14, 2008
So sorry to here of your lost.
There will come a time when nation will not lift up sword against nation and they will learn war no more! Isaiah 2:4
God's kingdom is the only kingdom that will remove all this wickedness.
Matthew 6:9,10
Merrie F.
April 14, 2008
I only met Stuart briefly, but even in that short time, I could see everything that is written about him here is true. To his family, you have my deepest sympathies.
April 14, 2008
There is nothing that I can say or do to take away the pain or bring you peace in your time of sorrow, but I will offer you and your family my heart felt condolences. I also offer you my prayers that in time the pain will easy and the memories of your HERO will carry you through each day and night. I want to thank your HERO, for his/her selfless act of becoming a member of the armed forces, his/her willingness to defend the United States of America, all that we hold sacred and for the sacrifice that will forever be etched in the memories of all those who knew him/her. Though tears can never bring him/her back, we hope that our tears express our gratitude for the sacrifice that he/she made and our sorrow at his/her passing. I believe for every fallen HERO there is a star shining brightly up above to remind us of the precious gift we were given.
Your mission on earth is complete and you are now a member of GOD’s Heavenly armed forces. Stand down brave warrior and take your rightful place in Heaven with all the HEROES who have passed before.
I made a special promise to LE RON A. WILSON, a dear family friend who joined the Army with three other friends, one of whom is my son (Le Ron was killed in action on 07/06/07 at the age of 18) on the day he was laid to rest as I touched his coffin, that I would never forget him nor would I forget those that gave their lives for our country before him, with him and after him and so when I came across www.legacy.com, I thought what a great way to keep my promise to Le Ron, so I will continue to leave tributes in each guest book until the day there is no longer the need to leave these tributes to a FALLEN HERO.
REST IN PEACE, HERO, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!!
I would also like to tell you about a website, http://groups.msn.com/SSPSoldierPor
traits/homepage,
where some wonderful people will make wood portraits of your fallen Hero for free for the immediate family. I became aware of this site when I wanted to do something special for Le Ron’s mother.
PROUD MOTHER OF A U.S. SOLDIER
Currently stationed in Germany
Althea Barrett (Queens, NY)
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