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Jeffrey Zappa Obituary
Jeffrey Aaron Zappa, age 42, of Chicago, IL, beloved husband of Rosario; loving son of Dr. Frank W. (Betty) Zappa and Patricia P. Zappa; son-in-law of Emilio Lopez and
Carmen Salinas de Lopez; fond grandson of the late Frank W. (Helen M.) Zappa; dear brother of Jason A. (Tamara L.) Zappa; fond uncle of Henry, Owen and Jack Zappa;
maternal grandchild of the late Ralph (Jane) Perry. Arrangements made by Toon
Funeral Home, 4920 Main St., Downers Grove, IL 60515. Interment private. In lieu of flowers, memorials to: Jeffrey A. Zappa Educational Fund would be appreciated. Send donations to the account of Rosario D. Zappa at Glenview State Bank, 800 Waukegan Rd., Glenview, IL 60025.
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Memories and Condolences
for Jeffrey Zappa
Sponsored by The Zappa Family.
Frank W Zappa
June 14, 2024
Today I am lost in memory of you and your brilliance of mind and the topics that we discussed, you added to my knowledge and awareness of life and so it continues because that has never ended. Love to you.
Dad
Dad
June 14, 2022
My heart is broken everyday, today is a source of sadness but also a source of remembered times shared.and places visited. You are in my thoughts daily.
Fern Dobrowski
June 21, 2021
I'm sure you never stop missing your son. I sure miss Don. Sorry for your loss.
May 28, 2014
July 2, 2011
Dear Uncle Jeff-
Owen and I are spending a couple days together in the Chicago area and, we have been thinking and talking about you. Owen is sending you these words--
I miss you so much I lay in bed and think about you love owen(7yrs old) and your mom
Portrait of Jeff by Kayla Perry
June 26, 2011
Portrait of Jeff by Kayla Perry created with love
June 26, 2011
It was always such fun to watch you interact with our family--we miss you!
Tom and Gail
Marla Hurwitz
June 26, 2011
We will always remember your gentle spirit and kind smile. We are here at your memorial gathering and what a nice turnout for you and for all the family of whose life you touched.
Love, Bill & Marla Hurwitz
June 26, 2011
Lauren Ancell
June 26, 2011
You are very loved and missed 6/26/11
Lauren Alyssa and Kaleb
November 9, 2010
My Dear Son:
I did light YOUR candle today. The days come and go, and I'm so weary at times since the change. I keep moving on, You know it is not the same. And when I'm alone, do YOU hear me call YOUR name? Do YOU see me smile thinking that YOU filled my life with wonder. Touched me with surprise, and I always saw that something special deep within YOUR eyes. Through the good times and the bad we always carried on. I will always hold onto the love and life we knew.
Happy 44th Birthday my son.
Love--MOM XO
Kevin White
October 3, 2010
Reviewing these entries, it is significant the gamut of emotions shared by us with Jeff’s passing. I continue to be moved by Jeff and his impact, as a son, brother, loyal family member, friend, and Father. Upon reflection of my relationship with Jeff, I would like to contribute some of my memories.
Although clearly saddened, as I write this, I cannot help but smile when I think about him. I remember listening to music while working on the Lincolnshire home and at various family celebrations, where we could have uninhibited discussions. We’d debate an array of subjects, 9/11, gun control, Jason’s hair, or some deep philosophically issues such as religion, which I was ill-equipped to offer much byway of retort. In particular, I remember those moments that Jeff would peer at me with those eyes and with his wry smile proceed to deconstruct what I believe to be a fairly logical argument. Then, there were times where Jason and I would lightheartedly spar with Jeff about his upcoming cinematic exploits as his alter ego, Tom Cruise, a long running joke that never seemed to get old, at least to Jason and me.
Jeff, you are missed and always loved, Kevin
Fern Dobrowski
July 26, 2010
Jeff will be missed by all that have known him especially his family, but his life will live on through his lovely daughter. So sorry for your loss.
Sincerely, Don and Fern Dobrowski
July 22, 2010
We all leave footprints as we travel through the paths of life. One thing for certain, we are all born innocent. I believed in Jeff!!! I was so proud of his determination to use his kindness and sensitivity to forge through his challenges in life. I admired his ability to appreciate and embrace all the unconditional love and positive forces in his life. Jeff has blessed us by leaving a part of himself in his precious daughter. And I definitely believe he has made Heaven a better place with his presence!! Claudia
July 20, 2010
Dear Jeff,
I sit here as I have many times before and still trying to digest the fact that you're not with us any more. What I can tell you for sure is that you are terribly, terribly missed by all who loved you. Although God had other plans, you left behind memories that no one can ever take away from us. I think of Alessia and the wonderful dad that awaited her. I know you're watching over her. I think of how smart & funny you were. It was great to finally see you come around and embrace being happy . We're proud of the man you had become and the great dad we all know you would have been. We love you and miss you very, very much!!!
Love,
Uncle Ken, Aunt Miriam Conner & Kayla
July 5, 2010
Brother,
You are always in my thoughts. I can't tell you how many times I reach for the phone to call you when I see or hear something that we loved to talk about, laugh about, or enjoyed together. Although I am starting to think of the great times we had together and smile, the sadness and emptiness remain. You taught me in life and in your passing you taught me to cherish time and experiences with those you love. I miss you and hope we can laugh together again in the end.
Love,
Jason
June 25, 2010
6/25/10
JEFF
Just want to say that I know you are in a beautiful place where pain and worries don't exist anymore and you will be always an angel for our daughter,you were a great, kind and giving person and we spent the nicest times together,I am so glad you took these memories with you and will be on my hurt forever.You used to tell me I will be a great mother and I work everyday for it,as long as God keeps me here my main purpose will be bring happiness and joy to Alessia's life.
God bless you
Love
Rosario & Alessia
June 20, 2010
6/20/10
My Dear Son:
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY
Your daughter Alessia Erin is absolutely beautiful. Although she can't see you, I believe in my heart she can sense your presence. You would have been an absolutely wonderful dad, your kindness, compassion, unconditional love, and guidance would have been so special for Alessia during her growing years. I believe you will be with her forever, to protect, care and love her. She will grow to know this and always turn to you, during "all her growing pains" for love, direction and guidance.
This is your first Father's Day, and it pleases me so thnking of the two of you together
Love
Mom
XO
June 15, 2010
6/14/10
My Dear Grandson:
I feel empty since you left. I miss our conversations, I miss your kindness and warmth. You always took time to talk to me and you made me feel good. You are a great grandson and a great man!
I love you,
Grandma Perry
June 14, 2010
What we have once enjoyed and deeply loved
we can never lose,
for all that we loved deeply
becomes part of us.
- Helen Keller
June 14, 2010
43 years ago you came into my life, my son.
And changed my life in so many ways,
You taught me unconditional love,
And what a mom should feel.
You taught me compassion in so many ways,
the kind only my heart truly knows.
You taught me to smile, and my love for you is endless.
I taught you, as you taught me
But time flew by much to fast and then you were gone.
It makes my eyes begin to tear, for if I would have known-
I would have held you even tighter,
I would have kissed you even more,
I would have never let you out of my sight.
But we didn't know what tomorrow will bring.
I treasure so very much all of our memories.
But you left the most precious,
and beautiful part of you--your daughter
Alessia Erin
Born December 22, 2009------at 7:35PM
6 lbs. 22 oz.
You were there when she was born ,watching over her , as you
always will ,and from us she will know you.
I love you with all my heart,
But for now I'll keep you forever in my heart,
Until we are together again.
You are in all my thoughts, I miss you always,
Love
Mom
June 14, 2010
June 14, 2010
One year ago I huggged and kissed you for the last time. That day my mind was a series of disjointed questions and thoughts as I drove away from the sadness, it remains that way still. I am still attempting to drive away from that same sadness. I so terribly miss you, and our sessions of discussion, challenge, debate, laughter and usually and finally a sense of increased understanding of whom we both were, and who we were trying to become for each other. Those moments repaired me. I can only hope that they did the same for you.
I met your daughter Alessia on December 22, 2009 and held her for you. I hope that I can always hold her for you, and help her, just as you would have. She will feel you from me when I hold her, talk with her, and love her, just as you would have done. She will be fine and protected by all of us who care about you.
I brought you home again last month. It felt the same as the day we carried you home from the hospital after your birth. At that time I could not wait to be with you and experience your growth. This time it was the same, because I can keep part of you with me again. You shall travel with me and be with me wherever I go. I am empty without you.
Love,
Dad
June 10, 2010
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart,
and you shall see that in truth you are weeping
for that which has been your delight.
- Kahlil Gibran
June 7, 2010
Dear Uncle Jeff:
This past Christmas, I put a very special ornament on our tree, your picture was on it and I felt so important being the one who was able to put it on the tree.
Love,Owen(nephew--6 yrs old)
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June 6, 2010
"Death is not the worst thing, only the last, and love makes it necessary. One was, is, and will not be, so others may follow.
Death is the one price of evolution. It cannot be evaded, should not usually be sought, and never partakes of evil.
It is each person's required gift to the rest and says, I yield now that you may continue. The contented add; I have made the world some bit better in my fashion; I have given you my life as an imperfect example; pursue and enhance the best of me, for you are now in my stead.
Caroline and Jeffrey McClough
June 6, 2010
Dear Uncle Jeff:
Whenever my mom asks who is my Guardian Angel---I tell her Uncle Jeff---he is sitting on my shoulder.
Love,Jack(nephew 4yrs old)
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June 6, 2010
June 6, 2010
Dear Uncle Jeff:
I miss you and always will remember our silly but so much fun phone talks.
Love, Henry (nephew-8yrs. old)
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OOOOOOOO
May 30, 2010
"Aunt Marlene and I firmly believe that our loss was Heaven's gain. We know that you are looking down on us, and you are fully aware that you have a beautiful daughter who you are watching, caring for, and loving from above. We miss your physical being as it has almost been one year since you were taken from us. Yet, things happen for a reason, and God felt that you were needed from above. In a matter of time, we will all be together again in spirit. We love you as we always did, " Ralph and Marlene Perry (Glenview,IL.)
Always a good friend
July 14, 2009
Congratulations Son
July 14, 2009
Such a good Grandson
July 14, 2009
Hello Uncle Jeff
July 14, 2009
Betty Zappa
July 14, 2009
Still being at a loss for adequate words to express condolences to Frank and all of Jeffrey’s loved ones, while capturing the beauty of knowing him, his kindness, his intelligence and sharing many special moments with him, perhaps this touching poem conveys hope that the many memories of family times enjoyed with Jeff over the years become exquisite family treasures.
“We little knew that Saturday morning, that on Sunday suddenly you would leave
It broke our hearts to lose you and although now we grieve
You leave us peaceful memories; your love is still our guide
And though we cannot see you, you are always at our side
Although our family chain is changed and nothing seems the same
Now we may create a new link of fond memories each time we hear your name
We will think of and treasure forever the many wonderful memories of Jeff as a beloved son, brother, grandson, uncle, cousin, nephew, husband and most of all… always a good friend.
We miss you and love you Jeff.
Betty
Robert Steinberg
July 10, 2009
There is another star in the Heavens tonight. My sympathy is with you and your family.
Harold Hurwitz
July 6, 2009
Dear Jeff;
There is an assumed progression. We take it for granted that father precedes son, blazing a trail, making life better for those who follow. Son will take over, blazing away for those who in turn follow him.
Your father has done this and watched with great pride as your kindness, extreme resilience and constant seeking of something better has benefited you and those who love you. Though you time was cut short, the love and compassion you shared with those you touched was not. Each of us thank you for having influenced us.
Jan and I feel so sad for Rosario, Frank, Patt, Jason, Betty and all of those who so deeply love you. They are bewildered by their loneliness. Your absence has left a void. They must reach deeply within themselves to find the extra kindness and resilience to fill that void. Remembering your ways will guide them every day.
So Jeff…the chronology is wrong. We are hopeful that as you look upon us you will find our response was worthy, have pride for our resilience and say…”we have done well to fill the void”.
Harold Hurwitz
Janet Hurwitz
July 6, 2009
The loss of Jeff at the age of 42,
The loss of your son,
The loss of your husband,
The loss of your brother.
So sudden,
So unexpected,
So young.
No words can really comfort or take away the pain
While you go on in life and do all the things that have to be done.
Some of which can now seem trivial: some small stuff.
We are happy for the fine, kind person Jeff was:
His gentle, searching, loving nature.
Pondering, thinking deeply, caring about what was important to him.
Not valuing money or things the most,
But rather seeking happiness and peace.
And finding those with Rosario.
Making his loss all more tragic – not enough time together.
I can remember discussions while we were all younger:
Jobs, goals, dreams.
At our family get togethers he was a genuinely nice person to be around,
Observing all our relationships; with his quiet, calm strength.
I can remember him walking around our apartment on Lake Shore Drive.
Lovely he said; awesome views –
But what most impressed him he said was our happiness.
An example of what I mean about his values.
He had thought about them and could articulate them.
Hard working – and then suffering through computer layoffs and outsourcing.
He just kept trying.
Finally – all seeming to come together:
His life with Rosario.
Work.
Goals for the future but happy in the now.
You, of course, have so many more special memories:
The growing up memories;
The special kid moments.
Watching him discover what he was good at!
Being your son, Frank, I can never imagine him having a messy room!
Can there be any laughter through the tears?
A brief parting of the clouds of sadness?
We all want to help – yet feel so helpless.
Want to call and talk, yet respect your privacy.
As if talking will help – maybe – in some way, some of the time.
Mourn Jeff and celebrate his life,
Be angry or sad that he did not have more life,
For himself, for Rosario,
To share with you.
And when the anger, or sad, or whatever the nameless jumble of emotions settles a little,
Or in the quiet of the night, after a day of work.
Of all the little things one has to do at a time like this –
The work that keeps us going sometimes by forcible preoccupying our mind –
At those times, I pray for the happy memories to surface.
Perhaps a sense of Jeff reaching out in some special way known to you and him.
To ease the aloneness and the sadness.
With love to you all;
Jan Hurwitz
Scott and Melissa Jacobsen
June 23, 2009
Dr. Zappa, Betty and Family:
Melissa and I are so sorry to hear about your loss. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Love, Always...
Steven Beekil
June 22, 2009
I am saddened by your loss. Marcia and I offer our condolences and we wish you the strength and spiritual resolve to get through this period of mourning.
Sue and Hal
June 22, 2009
Patt -I know there is nothing I can say to comfort you-but our thoughts and prayers will always be with you and your family. We are so so sorry that you have had to suffer the worst pain anyone could go through. I just so wish that there was some way to erase all of this for you and make it all disappear. God bless you and your family.
Theresa Minardi
June 22, 2009
Heartfully saddened to hear of Jeffrey's passing. My thoughts are with all of the family. Next time I see a new star I will think of him.
From the Staff of Toon Funeral Home
June 21, 2009
Offering our deepest condolences during this difficult time.
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