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Tyrone May Obituary
Tyrone May's music collection was vast: hundreds and hundreds of records and CD's, running the gamut from reggae and disco to rhythm and blues. And his apartment in Rahway, N.J., was littered with the announcements for record fairs he received in the mail each month. Naturally, people leapt to conclusions.
"Everybody comes into the apartment and says, 'Who's the D.J.?' " said Mr. May's wife, Marva May. The truth is that on any given day, Mr. May, 44, an auditor with the New York State Department of Taxation and Finance, was more likely to be crunching numbers than spinning records. But he had an expert ear and, more important, the party-planning skills of a born impresario.
Nearly every December, Mr. May would rent a club somewhere in the city and throw a huge dance party for a few hundred friends and family members. By early September, he had a date (Dec. 15) and location (a club in Brooklyn). On Sept. 11, before he left home for 2 World Trade Center, Mr. May told his wife to keep an eye out for a fax from the agency that was designing the tickets for the event.
"I still have the fax," said Mrs. May, who is saving many of her husband's possessions for their son, Tyrone Jr., 2. "Everything is the same way since he left."
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Sue Colby
September 11, 2024
To the May family,
I have been thinking today about what I was going to write in this letter. The thought came to me as I was walking with a group of neighbors. A young couple is in our group. We were discussing about the events of that day. Our sweet young couple were not born yet. It just hit me. Although they feel sad about the attack, they do not know about the entire nation and world trying to make sense out of that horrific day. They did not feel the cry, sadness and numbness that we felt. But we told them that life does go on. We will never forget that day and the days ahead though. I hope your family was able to be together to honor Tyron's legacy. Until next year...
Susan Colby
September 11, 2023
To the May family, I think of your family each Sept. 11. This is the 22nd year of the tragic, senseless attack on our country. I'm not sure you receive these posts but each year when I write to your family, it helps me also. I know you and your family have special memories of Tyrone. God has softened the pain of 9/11 but we will never forget what happened. I pray that you are at peace and that God is alive in your family. Until, next year.....
Susan Colby
September 11, 2022
To the May family, Each year when it reaches Sept. 10th, I think of everyone working, being in school, driving to run an errand, and then going home to rest and think of the next day. I think of everyone going to bed that night, not knowing what horrible event was going to happen. This weighs heavy on my heart and I know it does yours. I pray that your family has found some closure and peace, knowing that Tyrone is in God's hands. Take care May family and I will connect with you next year.
Sue Colby
September 11, 2021
To the May family, Today is the 20th anniversary of the attack. We all reflect back on the events that happened. It seems like it yesterday but also that it was so long ago. I know that your family is not frozen in time. I am sure your family have had wonderful times together! To your family, I pray for peace and healing. I pray that you will always honor and love him. I also, will continue to pray for the victims of 9/11 and our nation. We must stay strong!
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Susan Colby
September 11, 2020
To the May family, I sit here at my desk tonight thinking about what I should write to you about. This is the 19th anniversary of the 9/11 attack. Our country is under another attack. This time it is from within. The year 2020 has not been an easy one. We are facing a pandemic, racism, economy, climate changes and an presidential election, along with other issues. The difference of the 2020 attack and the 9/11 attack is unity. Our nation stood up and rallied to defend our country in 2001. In 2020, we are divided. To your family..even if feels discouraging and bleak we will never forget the people who were lost that day. God bless you all.
Bill Bailey
September 12, 2019
Yesterday in Boston they read yours in remembrance of those lives that were taken from us on 9/11. My heart and prayers goes out to your wife, son, and family members. Bro, I know that you are looking down on all on us now, keeping us safe. I will always remember us studying together, running the hallways, and of course the flavor of music you introduced me to. Yes, we were young in college planning on making our mark in the world those days.... YOU DID! I'll never forget you bro.
Susan Colby
September 11, 2019
To the May family, today is the 18th anniversary of the attacks to our country. As I was driving home today, I was listening to our local Christian station on the radio. They shared Billy Graham's Sept. 14, 2001 sermon to our nation. It touched my heart and I hope it does yours. "We've seen so much that brings tears to our eyes and makes us all feel a sense of anger. But God can be trusted, even when life seems at its darkest." God bless the May family. We will never forget.
Sue Colby
September 11, 2018
To the May family, years have passed and things have changed since 2011. One thing that has not changed though, our memories of that morning and the following weeks. One of the questions that we hear is, Where were you on that day? I was teaching a room full of children. I looked down on their sweet faces and wondered what will they go through in their lifetime. I pray that those children will never have to face the tragedy that your family has. Please know that I am thinking of you and praying for healing and peace for your family.
Tom H
September 11, 2018
Today, 09/11/2018, we remember you Tyrone. We will never forget. Wishing all the best to your family and friends. Much regards.
William May
September 11, 2018
Your name was read today at 10:45 AM. RIP to the Music and Party Man.
Sue Colby
September 11, 2017
To Mrs. May and family, This morning was a beautiful morning here at my house. It had that "fall" feel. The sun was bright, it was cool and very quiet. I stood at my flagpole and thought about how our lives were changed 16 years ago. As I lowered the flag of the United States of America, I thought about those who were lost and the families whose hearts were broken. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
September 11, 2016
To the May family, I sit here, 15 years after the attack on our nation. Our days have continued on. However, on 9/11 we stop and remember those whom we have lost. We will never forget. I read down on a post that said Tyrone Jr. was 2 when this happened. As a 17 yr. old, I pray that his life is full of peace and happiness knowing that his father is with our Lord.
September 12, 2015
To the May family. I continue to keep Tyron's memory in my heart. I pray that your family is continuing to heal. May God bless your family.
Sue Colby, Catlin,Il.
Sue Colby
September 11, 2014
Dear Mrs. May and the May family. Our community held a memorial service soon after this very sad day. We tried, the best we could, to pray for everyone in our nation and abroad. We were given glow sticks with the names of the victims of this horrible act. I had your husband on my glow stick. His light came on... shining bright. I have kept that glow stick all this time. I will continue to and I will pray for peace for you and his family.
S J. Friscia III
September 1, 2014
In Memory
With Honor & Respect.
Ashkan Rahmani
September 17, 2013
Dear Mrs. May, I'm Ashkan from Iran. I was searching for biography of people passed away at sep 11 for my weblog, I found here. I know Tyrone is in peace, love and light in God's hands.
World never forget those people. We pray for theme.
Tyshon Cash
September 11, 2013
Im a teenager in north Carolina and we so happen to recherching people that died in the mist of the Sep,11,2001 and i so happen to pick him and i fount out we have so much in common we both love music and wont to spead the love with his friends and family and bring everybody together to have fun and a good time but i really feel sorry for his family because i know in my heart he was a good person and his peers loved him but i really wont the family to stay strong and never forget him.
Ellis Wallman
September 13, 2011
To the family of Tyrone May. My father took me to the 9-11 memorial in Orlando Fl. I was only 5 years old at the time and remeber little but going to this tribute helped me understand more. My father and I want to make sure you know we are thinking of you TYRONE MAY and your FAMILY. The tribute had almost 3000 individual flags that had the names of the people who perished. We were asked to take a flag and send our condolances.
Sue Colby
September 11, 2011
To the family of Tyrone May...I attended a tribute tonight for the tenth anniversary of 9/11. During the tribute we were given a glow stick which represented a victim of the 9/11 attacks. I was honored to hold Tyrone's memory. Please know that I feel your loss like it was yesterday. I pray that your family has found peace. God be with you.
Desiree Mckenney
September 5, 2011
Ty, It's been 10 long years.... No one to talk about the Prince songs,or new artists, the kids and just everyday life without judgement. When we spoke there was always lots of laughter. You were my Friend and I Loved You. I miss You Very much!
November 8, 2010
Tyrone, I know that you are at peace in God's hands. Keep shinning that light of peace from heaven on us below my brother.
Bill Bailey J&W college
P Tabbernor
December 26, 2006
In memory....
Kristine
November 15, 2006
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Rick Parnell
September 10, 2006
Tyrones loss is a tragedy to humanity, I never knew tyrone but after reading about him he seems to have been a very honorable and loving man. I hope the family is able to find peace after such a senseless loss.
Patricia Miles
September 11, 2003
To family and loved ones of Tyrone May:
On this the anniversary of your tragic loss, I am looking at random names of people lost that day to make sure that each one is remembered as an individual -- not a historical statistic. I am really touched by reading about Tyrone for a couple of reasons. I am also an African American. I was there at the WTC a week before visiting my brother (who was not hurt) with my then 2 year old daughter. I understand how important it is for Tyrone's son to realize someday how many people will think of him and his dad each year because of this terrible event. I know that Tyrone's family and friends will feel his loss every day. But, I hope there will be some comfort in knowing that millions of us whom you do not know will also pause today to think of Tyrone and the others who were lost that day.
May God Bless and comfort you all today and everyday. Tyrone will never be forgotten -- rest assured in that.
Mary LaMont Calsolaro
May 23, 2003
Thanks for the memory
STAND…
DANCE TO THE MUSIC…
LET'S DANCE
Tyrone May
remarkable wonderful
9.11.01
It's so disturbing to imagine what happened as you began another workday, but then I imagine too, how you and your coworkers gave of yourself as you had done so often in the past, as family, friends, citizens and public servants.
We'll always remember many images from that awful day.
Ellsworth Berry
October 8, 2002
Tyrone, I remember seeing you when you were in elementary school and I still see the same eyes and smile. You will always be in our thoughts.
Carla Santia
September 11, 2002
Since the Civil War, in times of great military conflict, there have been Mercy B.A.N.D.S. (Bearing Another's Name Daily) For almost a year I have been wearing the Mercy B.A.N.D. with the name of Tyrone May. I have thought and prayed about Mryna and Tyrone Jr. many days and hope that the grace of God has worked his hand in healing their broken hearts. On the anniversary of 9-11 I feel compelled to pass this bracelet on to the surviving son of Tyrone. The name has become so much a part of my prayers that I know I will never forget Tyrone, though I never met him. I hope that someone in the family sees this and will be gracious enough to pass along my email for Myrna to contact me. My prayers and blessings continue for the family.
Roslyn Evans
June 27, 2002
Tyrone you have always been a great part of my life. Not because your my son's GodFather but because your a wonderful person. when every I needed someone to talk to you was there.I know your in Heaven because God only except ANGLES.
One day we will meet again and I know you will still be the same then.
Rest in peace cuz and remember I love you and miss you so much.
LOve your couisn Roslyn
Ronnell Evans
June 27, 2002
Godfather Tyrone I will always miss you. The time we shared will always remain in my heart. Rest in peace and watch over me. I will always remember what you told me
To do my best and god will handle the rest.
Love you always your godson Ronnell
6-27-02
Rhonda Evans
June 21, 2002
My Cousin I miss you so much you can't even imagine, I'm trying to stay strong for the family each and every day and most of all my brother your "GOD SON" and its so hard. As I have got older we have became closer it was only the beginning of us getting to know each other. And you had to go so soon I will never forget the day you told me how proud you was of me taking care of my daughter as a single parent that ment so much to me. I LOVE YOU & MISS YOU SO MUCH. I think about all the family dances and other occasions you put together you loved us so much and my love for you will never die. ALWAYS MISSING YOU
YOUR COUSIN RHONDA
Ross May
June 11, 2002
Godspeed
Angie Campbell
May 6, 2002
May God Bless you and keep you now and forever more. Rest in his loving peace.
March 2, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL LIVELY MAN...TYRONE MAY AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE AND SON...FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY GOD GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN..AMEN
Jessie Redden
January 31, 2002
Tyrone you are a cousin that I never met and I am soory that I didn't know you. Your grandmother Geogia was the sister of my grandfather Sam Brown.
Peace be with you.
Teresa Jahn
December 22, 2001
We are deeply sorry for your loss of Tyrone. May his life, love and joy of music live on in those who love him. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
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