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Barbara Murphy Obituary

Her birthplace was Boston, but Barbara Murphy who passed away Dec 3 at the age of 61 after a long and valiant battle with cancer was "born" in Bellingham. A 23-year-old aspiring artist in 1975 she came west with her husband to be, Tom, who was starting a graduate program in creative writing at University of British Columbia in Vancouver. She got her first glimpse of Bellingham as they turned off I-5 on a sun-splashed fall day. "This is where I want to become me," she said as she came face to face with the century-old red brick buildings out of a Hopper painting. She first worked at the Greenhouse doing displays. Then following jobs that took them to New York and Miami she and Tom returned to Bellingham in 1993 with their 11-year-old daughter, Caitlin. Later Caitlin graduated from the University of Washington and now works as the Lifestyle/Fitness reporter for King 5's, New Day Northwest. Caitlin gave Barbara a ceramic tile for her birthday one year that hangs on the kitchen wall. "I have a superhero in my life," it says, "I call her Mom." Many others in Bellingham came to know Barb as a superhero as well - for her interior design expertise and the company she created, Barbara Murphy Interiors. Color was her specialty. She chose colors that changed hues as sunlight passed through a house during the arc of the day. "You have left a lasting legacy," Dr Meg Jacobson, Barbara's hospice doctor and a client, told her. "Your talent will live forever in our homes." Barbara's greatest pride was the home she designed for her family on Morey Ave. She angled the yellow hillside house to the west for a panoramic view of the San Juan Islands and Bellingham Bay's fiery sunsets. HOME Magazine featured the house on its cover in 1998 and one day as Barb and Tom changed planes at O'Hare, Tom spotted the magazine on display at Hudson News and snapped Barb's picture standing beside her cover. Her smile was the proudest of any ever snapped of her. Barbara was diagnosed with non-smoker's lung cancer in December, 2007. It came out of the blue and was discovered in a routine exam following a 15K road race where she set an age group record. A series of operations followed as she fought to stay ahead of the progression, but through it all she never complained. Never once did she utter "Why me?" A regular competitor in the NY and Boston Marathons, she continued to run, and when she couldn't run, she walked, striving to promote early detection of lung cancer among women. Her focus was always on showing the cancer that it could take hold of her body, but it could not control her soul. "I am my soul," she would tell everyone. "My body is only the vehicle it travels in. Our souls live forever with God." And so Meg Jacobson was right. Barbara's legacy will live forever in people's homes in the town where her talent first blossomed - but she will live forever on a broader level as well in the memories of all who loved her and were inspired by her. Barbara leaves her husband, Tom, who founded the "Edge4Vets.org" program at Fordham University in NY to help veterans transition successfully to civilian life, daughter, Caitlin, and son-in-law, Justin Reed. She leaves her mother, Mary Mullen, of Dennis, MA, three sisters, Marianne Kelly, Jayne Sampson and Johanne Connors, a brother, Barry, and her late father, Bob. A former Boston fireman her father painted the famous Eire Pub sign in Dorchester made famous by President Reagan's visit and was her inspiration as an artist. She leaves dozens of nieces and nephews and adoring in-laws along with legions of friends who stand in awe of her towering strength. A Mass and celebration of Barbara's life will be scheduled. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the charity established by Barbara's oncologist at Swedish Hospital, Dr. Howard West, for his national efforts to combat non smoker's lung cancer, at cancergrace.org.

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Published by Bellingham Herald on Dec. 5, 2013.

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Johanne Connors

March 4, 2014

I am so happy to see that even though my sister barb is not here in our material world she inspires us in our everyday lives. Thank you to all of you who she touched so much!!! She is my idiol and inspiration!! May she live on for us forever!!

Lisa Stgrong-Wallis

March 3, 2014

Dear Barb...you were one of my most favorite members at BAC. You gave it your all in my spin and Gravity workouts. What an inspiration! Tom...my deepest condolences to you. I loved your concern for Barb in our Gravity workouts together...you trying to encourage her to ease up and she just going for it! Definitely a beautiful tangle of determination, drive and love between you two. Here is a BIG hug. Loves to you, Tom. And Barb...I'm looking forward to seeing you in Heaven. Lets get Jesus to workout with us! Love to you!

Ed Zech

January 12, 2014

Tom, when you can, call me.
Deb and I are devastated...
Ed Zech. 3603030139

A J Freeman

December 20, 2013

Tom and Family, Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Meeting Barbara a few years ago was a great pleasure and I'm sure she will be missed greatly!

December 12, 2013

Dear Tom and Family,
I am so sorry to hear that Barb passed. I recall our jogging paths crossing one afternoon and her stunning me with the news that she had lung cancer. She was confident it wouldn't be a problem since it was caught early. I met Barb when she came to Bellingham and worked at the Greenhouse. She was the first person I recall to wear fushia, a bright color that looked great on only her. She was unique and very cool.
My sincere sympathy to you all.
Lois Longwood

Shar Van Winkle

December 11, 2013

Some times life is so unfair, and this is one of those times. Gone too soon. Tom and Caitlin, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you both and keeping you in my prayers. This photo of Barb is so pretty and perfect, just how I remember her.

Nancy Heuman

December 10, 2013

Tom and Caitlin,
Barbara was a very special person. She came into my life as a talented home designer. I loved her spirit and gifted sense for design. She spoke about her family often with great love. My condolences to you. I will miss her!

Myrna & Seth Bramson

December 10, 2013

Dear Tom and Caitlin: Our thoughts and deepest condolences are with you both. All we have are the happy memories of Barbara's warm smile and great sense of humor and we think of all of you often.
Love,
Myrna and Seth

Sharlene Martin

December 9, 2013

Tom and Caitlin:
I wish you peace and comfort in the loss of Barbara far too early. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Henny Verkyk

December 9, 2013

We met Barbara and Tom when they moved next door to us in Miami Lakes. Barbara and I could not stop talking over the fence. She talked me into joining the health club and I would only go every other day, while she would go every day, sometimes even twice. She was such an inspiration and I wanted to be like her. She was beautiful, athletic, smart, and creative. I still remember her "pink" kitchen. We got to know a lot of their family that came to visit. She became the sister I never had.

When we moved to Cooper City, we were so excited that they also moved there soon after. But then they moved again, and again. Every house they had was more and more beautiful. She had such an eye for design and color.

We were sad to hear that they were going back to Bellingham even though it was the place she loved. We were very happy to visit and stay in that beautiful home on the hill with a gorgeous view.

Even though quite some time had passed, we picked up right where we had left off. We enjoyed great food and some glasses of wine while we talked for hours, just like the old days.

I absolutely loved it when they came to visit us in Tampa. Gave me some great ideas for color on my walls! And yes Barb you were right, green is the right color.

Again some time went by when we received the invite for Caitlin's wedding. Our little girl from next-door was all grown up! The wedding was absolutely beautiful, with obvious help from Barb.

She was the sweetest, classiest, most loving, caring, and courageous person I have ever met, and I am lucky to call her my friend.
Barbara, we love you forever and will miss you for always

Christine Sorensen

December 8, 2013

Barbara and I were classmates. She was always a lovely person..I am so sorry, Christine Sorensen

Mary Latta

December 7, 2013

Thank you Barb for inviting me on your early morning runs with your wonderful girlfriends when I first moved to Bellingham. I will forever be grateful to you for all of your kind and wise words on being a parent. My sincerest condolences to Tom, Caitlin and the rest of your family.

Virginia Buckingham

December 7, 2013

I'm very sorry for your loss. She and Tom exemplified love and determination in this journey. You are all in my thoughts.

Ash Goddard

December 6, 2013

A light truly went out for us this week. Barb began as my patient and ended up my friend. She brought out the best in everyone and everything. We are all going to miss her so dearly. My heart goes out to Tom and Caitlin, and all her family and friends from everywhere she ever went.

John Duval

December 6, 2013

Words cannot express my sadness. Her incredibly strong bond with family & friends is a true testament to the wonderful person she was. I know she will always live on in the memories of so many who's lives she touched

Barbara Hadelman

December 6, 2013

Barbara was my godmother and cousin. A true role model and an inspired artist. She will be missed greatly

Julie Adams

December 5, 2013

I am one of few who only knew this beautiful woman a few short weeks. I can say.. I've been deeply touched forever by Barbs enormous spirit, her sense of delegating jobs to be done till her end, her warmth, courage and deep love of family and friends... I am ever so grateful and honored for her presence in my life ??

Johanne Connors

December 5, 2013

Barbara is my oldest sister. From a very early age she inspired me to forge my own path in life. Even though we lived thousands of miles away most of my life I could pick up the phone tell her about something I had done or a dress that I had bought and she would say I bought the same one. We had an undenialble bond. I also had so much fun with her. When i visited her or she was here at the cape we would go grab some beers and just talk for hours and hope that whatever place we were at a band would start playing so we could dance a little. I am going to miss her so much and my heart is so heavy it sometimes hurts to breath. I look around my house and all my pretty things are from her. She lived her life to it's fullest and never gave up on anyone or anything. You are in my heart forever. It was an honor to be your little sister

Jeri Winterburn

December 5, 2013

Tom & Caitlin - My very deepest thoughts and prayers are with you. I have so many amazing memories of Barb - she was the fittest, most beautiful woman I know. She stood beside me in the front row of every exercise class - her spot was never taken by another - it still remains, as do the many fond memories I have of her. Caitlin - she was so proud of you! and Tom - she was so completely in love with you. I learned so much from her - and she will be missed. I am truly & deeply sorry.

"It's up to you New York, New York!" Love you, Barb!

Tracey Cashman

December 5, 2013

Barb was one of the first friends I made when I moved to Bellingham from NY. Barb's husband Tom is the brother of a very close friend of mine from NY and so this is how we met. She introduced me to many wonderful people and took me under her wing when I first started working as an Interior Designer at Walkers Carpet One. She had magnificent style and taste and I learned so much from her. We had a lot of fun working on projects together and she brought many nice clients my way. She was a beautiful , talented, athletic and inspiring woman. It will always make me smile remembering how she and my best NY girlfriends stood up and sang "NY NY" at my wedding! Rest in Peace, dear Barb. You will be truly missed and your spirit will live on within our hearts. I am blessed for having known you.

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