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Connolly Oyler Obituary

January 15, 1934 - October 23, 2015 Husband, Father, Grandfather, Friend, Mentor and Funny Man. Respected Family Law Attorney, always proud to give his clients "New Beginnings". Born in Chicago, raised in Los Angeles, a graduate of Fairfax HS, UCLA, and USC Law. Active member of the Rotary Club of Santa Monica and the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. Lover of the beach, the Bruins, his pets and, most importantly, his family, friends and colleagues. Connolly is survived by his wife, Michelle; children, Leslie, Todd, Morgan and Caitlin; grandchildren, Alexa, Cameron, Acacia and Luci; pets, Olive Oyler, Rico, Beanie and Enzo. He lived each day of his life with joy, laughter, inappropriate jokes, sound advice, and a generous spirit. A "Celebration of Connolly" to follow. In lieu of flowers, please share a good joke and make a new friend.

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Published by Los Angeles Times from Oct. 25 to Oct. 31, 2015.

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Amy Alcott

October 19, 2024

Always and character& a bright smile to greet you

Craig Gordon

November 18, 2015

Connolly was a big part of my life and growing up. Amazing guy. Some of the best times of my life were spent with him and all of our friends. We will all miss him very much.

Doug Levinson

November 11, 2015

I wish I had known Connolly better. What I did know of him was that he treated me with warmth and kindness whenever I saw him. I was always delighted to be in his company, and I will miss him.

Lynne Tracy

November 9, 2015

To Connolly's family. I am so saddened to hear of Connolly's passing. He always encouraged others and was a kind man. I truly appreciated our working relationship. Blessings to Connolly on his journey and to all his family. May the road rise to meet him.

LINDA LEFKOWITZ

November 7, 2015

Dear Michelle--YOu likely did not know, but Connolly was kind of a guiding light from the time I was assigned a judge in Santa Monica past my retirement when we saw each other at UCLA events. I was blessed to know him and to have met you at the various events he loved so much. He will always have a place in my heart. Linda Lefkowitz (310)454-1489

Ruth Estep

November 6, 2015

When I started working for Connolly, he took to me to a Court hearing with him. When he checked in with the Clerk, he told the Clerk that Opposing Counsel wanted her to go ask the Judge why he was still back in Chambers and was taking so long to come out. It was my first taste of his hilarious ways, and, I learned that only Connolly could get away with such antics! For the rest of our time together he only got funnier! Connolly was one in a Million. I will miss him terribly.

LaRissa Douglas

November 5, 2015

Connolly your radiant spirit, insightful advice, delightful sense of humor and unforgettable voice makes me grateful to have crossed paths with you. Rest in peace my friend.

Linda Giaciolli

November 1, 2015

Dear Michelle
Amy just made me aware of Connolly's passing. I remember his wit, intelligence and the kind hospitality he and you extended to me at various holiday affairs I attended at your lovely homes. He was a presence for sure and certainly at Hillstone's counter at lunch. The candle is my message of well wishes to you and your family during this time of transition.
Fondly .....,

Gail Ellis

October 30, 2015

Michelle, I am so saddened to hear of the loss of your tremendous Connolly -- funny, magnetic, generous and loving. Our family is thinking of yours and wishing you the strength to endure this pain and at the same time the ability to re-discover all the beautiful memories you have made over so many years together.

Robert & Diana Castells

October 29, 2015

Connolly's quick wit was hard to match. Like so many others, we are deeply saddened by the news of his passing, yet thankful to have had the opportunity to share time with Connolly. We will miss our favorite neighbor and his insistence on giving big bear hugs. Our heartfelt condolences (and a big hug) go out to Michelle and family.

October 29, 2015

One of the last true gentlemen! You will be missed by many! I will always remember your smile Connolly.

Barry Weiner

October 29, 2015

A man's most lasting influence on the world is seen in the faces of his family, the light in there eyes when they talk about him and in the love they'll hold on to forever! Here is to a good man, the life he lived, the hearts he touched and the legacy he left behind! All my best to Todd and Leslie! You now both carry on the legacy.

October 29, 2015

"Jim & Jim" Those were the words we heard every morning at the interactive café. Then we knew Connoly had arrived with a new joke! We'll miss you, dear friend!
Jim & Jim

October 29, 2015

Connolly loved his family and you Michelle,thats all he talked about,every now and then we would share a joke or two,family was his prority, my prayers for all of you.Richard Galvan

Gail Harrington

October 28, 2015

To a beautiful family left behind by a beautiful man. I will be there for you as you begin this new life without the one and only Connolly Oyler. I'm so happy I knew him and I will never forget him. He loved his family. He was a wonderful hilarious gift to this planet.

Toby Navarro

October 28, 2015

He always had a joke for us at the Jonathan Club gym. Connolly was part of the family of members who work out there regularly in the morning.
He was spunky and always had a great smile at the crack of dawn. I could see he enjoyed his life. We will all miss him at the club.
My heart goes out to you Michelle and your family.

diane saltzburg

October 28, 2015

wow - what a loss to all who knew Connolly - such a quality person
didi & henley saltzburg

Lauren Brock Marke

October 28, 2015

I am so sorry to hear of Connolly's passing. He and Michelle have been good friends to my parents and I will always remember Connnolly's generosity and zest for life. He worked hard and tried to help others succeed. His energy and friendship will be missed.

Jason Taylor

October 28, 2015

Michelle,

The Lorena Ochoa Golf Foundation is going to miss Connolly. Our monthly board meeting always started with one of his inappropriate jokes and his big laugh.

It was inspiring to work with someone who gave so much and wanted nothing in return. He motivated each of us.

We're going to miss the ConMan and his jokes.

October 28, 2015

Connolly was such a fun and generous man. A great story-teller and true jokester, my favorite memories with the Conn-man were our afternoons watching obscure high school sporting events on TV while cracking jokes. He will be thoroughly missed. Goodbye friend.

Sara Jane Boyers

October 28, 2015

We will have more to say but at this moment, we just can picture Connolly and all of you. Each time was a joyful experience, filled with humor, delight in your wonderful family and specifically from Connolly, a sense that he knew always what was right, even if said in an 'inappropriate" delivery/joke :) What a loss and our thoughts are with all of you. Sara and Steven

Neil Barham

October 28, 2015

Connolly was a fantastic man, proven by the fantastic family he has left behind.

Santiago de Compestello

Cheryl Christian

October 28, 2015

Michelle and family, our Deepest condolences. Cheryl and Ed

John J Nazarian

October 27, 2015

Michele, I am surprised to hear of Connolly's death, I had sat next to him several months ago at one of those horrible dinners! Even after eating the food he looked great and was funny as ever.
It was his stories that I loved to hear and as an old timer, he had stories. As I recall he had one or two about me!! One of the old time divorce lawyers and one of a handful who paved the way for what is known as to today... 'Family Law'.
May God Bless Him,

John J. Nazarian, Private Investigator

Nancy Ritter

October 27, 2015

I'm holding you all in my heart...thinking of you constantly. You're such a great and joyful family, and you will continue to be as you recover from the pain of this sad sad loss. Connolly was a warm and effervescent soul!!! The world will miss him! But none more than you........

Carly Ritter

October 27, 2015

Heartbroken for your loss, and holding you all in my heart. Sending much love...

Cynthia Hoffman

October 27, 2015

Oh Michelle, so very sorry for your loss!

Sheila Ross

October 27, 2015

Michelle, So sorry for your loss. Connolly was a great man and great host to all the wonderful parties. My thought and good wishes to you and the family

wendy mull

October 27, 2015

I have no wordsthis just sucks beyond what my heart can handleMichelle, you were Connolly's constant joy and companionprays and love to you and your family.

Barbara J. Wenger

October 27, 2015

A true guardian angel to all he met. Such a loss. My heart aches for you, Michelle and Caitlin and Morgan.

Ben Williams

October 27, 2015

The Man, the Myth, the Legend. One of my best summers living with the Oyler family up in the beautiful pacific palisades. A True blessing for me since just graduating from Pepperdine w/ Caitlin, getting my feet under me.

Al Wines\

October 27, 2015

Michelle, I didn't know Connolly well but my heart goes out to you and your children during this time, no matter if you knew his time was near its hard to have him gone....Best wishes Al Wines

Berwyn Friedman

October 27, 2015

Good bye to a stalwart of the Encino Jaycees circa 1965. It was fun!

Marla and Brad Seto

October 27, 2015

What a perfect obituary for Connelly. We loved his inappropriate jokes! He was a great dad on the soccer sidelines, so funny and so positive. Thinking of you all. Big tight hugs..

Shauna Mecartea

October 27, 2015

I send my love and support to you, Michelle, and your family. Connolly was an intelligent, warm and fun man. I loved swapping inappropriate jokes with him. His humor will be missed.

Terry and Woody Barela

October 27, 2015

I'm so sorry to learn of this. God bless you and your family.

Gail Woloz

October 27, 2015

I am deeply saddened to learn of Connolly's passing. The few times in his company and I felt he was a friend. I will remember him for his wonderful sense of humor and genuine friendly character. My sincerest condolences to Michelle, all his family and closet friends.

Dave Horne

October 27, 2015

Connelly always brought joy with him when he walked into a room. A true sports fan who'd eat up anything competitive. He will be missed and I just hope he's not telling St. Peter any off color jokes!

Mike Arnold

October 27, 2015

Always viewed Connolly as a mentor growing up. Such a kind hearted man that will be missed deeply. I love you Conman.

Jake St Philip

October 27, 2015

Michelle still in state of disbelief. I am so sorry for your loss. Connolly was a hoot and will always be remembered that way all the best to the family.
You will be in our prayers

October 27, 2015

I had known Connolly since Fairfax High. He was true mensch and will deeply missed. Jack A. Thompson, Esq.

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