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Myrna Frankel Obituary

Myrna Frankel

Myrna Raihill Frankel, our adored wife, mother, grandmother, colleague and friend, died on August 7, 2017, of cancer, at her home in San Francisco. She was 79. It is hard to put into words what Myrna meant to all of us; she touched countless lives with her never-ending kindness, generosity and good humor.

Originally from Duluth, Myrna graduated from the University of Minnesota with undergraduate degrees in Psychology and Speech Pathology, and came to San Francisco in 1960. Her first job was as a residential counselor for emotionally disturbed children at Homewood Terrace, and she became an energetic and lifelong advocate for the wellbeing of children and families. Myrna received graduate degrees in Early Childhood Development (San Francisco State University), Social Welfare (U.C. Berkeley), and Psychoanalysis (San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis). She was a preschool teacher, served on the Advisory Council to the Mayor's Office of Child Care, founded and ran Acorn Toddler Playgroup, served as a Board Member for Camp Tawonga, and worked as a therapist and child analyst in private practice for almost 30 years. Myrna volunteered at Parents' Place, Glide Memorial Church, Catholic Charities, The DeYoung Museum, Langley Porter, KQED Auction, The Sierra Club and Jewish Family and Children's Services. She was energized by doing things to help others!

Myrna had an enormous network of friends, family and professional colleagues who will miss her terribly. She was a spark, a bringer of joy, a shoulder to lean on, and the person who would show up with a home-cooked meal to celebrate a happy occasion or to support anyone in grief or upheaval. She was a gift-giver extraordinaire and the hostess with the mostess. Her love of flowers, books, quilts, tchotchkes, antiques, folk art, travel, entertaining, Freud and desserts was epic. She was sweet, tough, funny, fierce and ever so smart.

Myrna is survived by her Tom, her husband of 56 years; her children Ellen Frankel (John Crossman) and David Frankel (Kimberly Buss); and her grandchildren Jacob, Eli, Anna, Parker and Amy. Myrna was part of an enormous extended family and a huge community of friends and colleagues. Myrna loved and was loved by hundreds of people. She epitomized a life well lived, said she had "no regrets," and passed away with grit and grace. Our hearts are heavy and we miss her so much.

Service to be held at Congregation Emanu-El (1 Lake Street, San Francisco) on Sunday, August 27, 2017 at 3:30PM. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to The San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis (sf-cp.org), Jewish Family and Children's Services (www.jfcs.org) or the charity of your choice.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Aug. 9 to Aug. 13, 2017.

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Merle Paull Minda

August 3, 2024

Myrna was my best friend all through junior high and high school. I would stop at her house and pick her up every day on the way to school. We were both readers and I adored her. I married early at the end of my first year in college and our friendship came apart after that. But I always treasure her memory and that young friendship we shared.

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Stephanie Lytar

Planted Trees

Irene van der Zande

August 3, 2022

I am grateful for Myrna every day, because her amazing daughter, Ellen is my cherished friend and Kidpower colleague. Myrna's passion and talent for helping people - especially vulnerable children - has made and continues to make a huge difference in every life she touched. There are charming pictures of Myrna with Ellen on Myrna's Memorial Page on our website: https://www.kidpower.org/about-us/memorials/myrna/

Merle Minda

August 3, 2021

Myrna was my best friend all through junior and senior high in Duluth. I still think of our study sessions, giggling sessions etc. at her house or mine. We were both active readers and good students. I admired her tiny trim figure and cute outfits. Our friendship ended when we went to college and I moved into the sorority house. I still think of her with so much fondness.

Merle Minda

August 3, 2020

Myrna was my best friend all through grade school and high school. We spent so much time together all those years. She lived just a few blocks away and I would stop for her on the way to school every day. She was so tiny and lovely. We had so many of the same interests always. A charming and bright person. We were originally dorm roommates as U of Minnesota freshman but I moved out to join a sorority and our friendship never recovered. Lost much too soon though. So sorry again.

Patricia Ross

August 3, 2019

Hardly seems possible that its been a year since Myrna left, and yet the glow from her luminous presence continues to illuminate the lives of those of us fortunate enough to have been touched by her presence.

December 22, 2017

Sincere condolences to Tom and the entire Frankel family at your devastating loss.

Myrna exuded joy and comfort with her ever-present smile. Her zest for life will never be forgotten.

In sympathy, Celia Fushille

Sunset from the pool at Frankel Ranch

Molly O'Lone

August 26, 2017

My husband, Miguel, and I first met Myrna a little over seven and a half years ago when we became the caretakers at the Frankel Ranch in Napa. Myrna always made sure that our needs here were met. She showered us with gifts on just about every holiday. She was a great conversationalist and made our chance meetings at the barn fun with her wry sense of humor. The Ranch was a place for her to relax and to enjoy family and she relished both. After learning about other parts of her life it's clear that Myrna was a powerhouse of meaningful activity, enough for many life times! Both Miguel and I feel honored to have been both employee and friend to this wonderful woman.

Merle Paull Minda

August 18, 2017

I am so very sorry. Myrna was my very best friend all through high school in Duluth. I treasure her friendship during those years and will never forget this charming lovely woman. Deep condolences.

Irene van der Zande

August 15, 2017

I feel as if I am getting to know Myrna through her amazing daughter, Ellen, who is an enormous force for good in our world. Am sending heartfelt sympathy to all her loved ones! - Irene van der Zande

Catherine Cowey

August 11, 2017

There are no words for the loss, and yet there are so many. So many words making up all the moments, stories, and lessons that she gave myself and all those she met. Her invaluable influence never steered me wrong. There were so many ways she touched and impacted the world. She inspired, loved, and genuinely cared for so many people, one building couldn't hold them all. But she held all of them in her heart.
I will miss you dearly.

August 10, 2017

Dear Frankels,

Myrna, epitomized an honored life of kindness and warmth. For us, it began with "playdates" for our beagles. Myrna became my go-to friend for recommendations for ob/gyn's, to pediatricians to
"nannies" to schools. She was an guiding light for many young mothers. We celebrated friendship for more than 50 years at our annual Chinese New Years Dinners, and now we mourn the loss of a wonderful person. With sympathy to you all and may you soon find room in your hearts to share her wisdom and remember how much she loved family. George and Sally Williams

Katherine Cox

August 10, 2017

Myrna was a shining star. Her accomplishments, talents and generosity have touched many souls; she will be greatly missed.

Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Katherine, Jeff & Kyle Cox

Patricia Ross

August 9, 2017

My deepest condolences for your loss. We were colleagues at Mt. Zion Crisis Clinic, and I will always remember her wise and lovely presence, and my late husband's 75th birthday party at her wonderful home. The Frankel family is in my thoughts at this time.
Patricia Ross

Matt Reider

August 9, 2017

Myrna was such a warm an giving person. Her hugs were genuine, her expression always sincere and interested. Visiting her home - I always felt as relaxed and comfortable as anyone could possibly feel. So lucky to have been in her life.

August 9, 2017

Our thoughts go out to the Frankel family. We feel so lucky to have known and been embraced by Myrna (and by the whole family). She was an amazing person and led an amazing life.

Love from David and Rachel

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