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Peter Hufstader Obituary

Hufstader, Peter
Peter Hufstader, an educator in public and private schools, whose wry sense of humor and gentlemanly demeanor endeared him to students and colleagues alike, died on April 19 at his home in Avon, CT after a long illness. He was 84. The son of musicians and educators at NYC's Julliard School and Rollins College, he attended the Buckley School, Phillips Andover Academy, and Yale University, receiving bachelor's and master's degrees from Yale. Before beginning his teaching career, he saw active duty as a commissioned officer in the U.S. Naval Reserve, serving with Patrol Squadron Seven and on the staff of Commander Fleet Air Wing Three. In addition to his many years as a high school English teacher, primarily at the Wheeler School in Providence RI, he filled leadership roles as a department chair, assistant headmaster, and acting headmaster. He left the classroom in 1988 to become a consultant to schools in curriculum and instruction. In 1995, he began a fulfilling second career as a researcher and then Research Director for Common Cause Rhode Island. In 1999, he received that organization's RI Public Service Achievement Award, and in 2008, he received their RI Distinguished Service Award. Mr. Hufstader retired in 2008. He published a novel, The Riddle of the Graveyard, in 2018. An avid, lifelong sailor in the waters of New England, he hoped his novel would educate young adults in problem-solving, both in life and aboard small boats. Mr. Hufstader is survived by his wife of 37 years, Katharine, her parents, Susan and James Dillon, his former wife, Margaret Robinson Steele, his brother Jonathan, his children LouisaHufstader, Christopher Hufstader, Elizabeth Balay, and AliceMoore, their spouses, four grandchildren, eleven brothers and sisters-in-law, fourteen nieces and nephews, and one great-nephew. His sister, Lucy Hufstader Sharp, and brother-in-law, John Dillon, as well as his parents, Alice Anderson and Robert Hufstader, pre-deceased him. A small memorial service will be held, and his ashes will be scattered in the waters just beyond Edgartown, MA, where he spent happy years sailing and racing sailboats. In lieu of flowers, friends and family might consider a donation to Oxfam America in his name. Carmon Funeral Home & Family Center of Avon has care of the arrangements. For condolences please visit www.carmonfuneralhome.com.

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Published by The Providence Journal on Apr. 25, 2021.

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Camille Blain Nixon

July 19, 2021

As a student of Mr. Hufstader´s, I can say that he loomed large as he taught us to write critically. Such a huge brain! In fact, I, still, question every word that I pen! Oh, he taught us, enthusiastically, about navigation, dead-reckoning, etc., and made it so that we all wanted to take to the sea! He was quick and, yet, patient with us. I was very fortunate to have had him as a teacher! Louisa, my friend, I wish that I could hug you!

Simone Taylor

May 1, 2021

Please except my deepest sympathies to you and your family at this time of grieving. May God be with you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Jennifer Grace Miller

April 26, 2021

So sorry to hear of Mr. Hofstader’s passing. I have many fond memories of his classes in the Fresh Air Building at Wheeler. He was so enthusiastic. So supportive of young writers. One of my favorites.

Patricia M Dillon

April 25, 2021

Peter was the best brother-in-law a human being could have hoped for......he was much loved and will be terribly missed.
Prayers and strength to his family.
Love, Patty & Jim

John Barylick

April 25, 2021

Peter and Katharine sang in St. Sebastian's choir for many years. Peter was the smartest, funniest, classiest friend one could have. A true intellectual. My heart goes out to Katharine and his family.

James Strange

April 25, 2021

Regretfully I hadn’t seen Peter in a few years since I last saw him at Healthtrax where he was doing physical therapy. I always enjoyed his wit and intellect, and unfortunately that it’s now too late, I wish I had spent more time in his company. He leaves a rich legacy of service that I must keep in mind as an example for my own life.

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