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Jay Shumsky Obituary

Shumsky, Jay
left this earth on February 12, 2009. Although his health had been steadily declining each year since his open-heart surgery, it was still a shock to all of us. He was a young man, only 52, so he packed an awful lot of living into that relatively short life span. Born in Sewickly, Pennsylvania on October 18, 1956 to Jim and Helen (Harasin) Shumsky, he decided as a young man after standing out in the cold on a flight line at an airforce base in New Jersey: there's GOT to be someplace warmer than this! He and his first wife packed up their truck and drove west, arriving in Phoenix on a day in August where he might have considered turning around and driving back to New Jersey again! He fell in love with Arizona in general and Phoenix in particular and ended up staying for 30 years. He loved hiking the state and the natural beauty of the state. He met Renee Bartlett in 1989 through the Omega organization where they were both volunteers and they were married on Sept. 21, 1991 in Sedona and they settled into their home with their two Scotties, Barkley and Aurora, and just enjoyed life! Steeler games on Sundays found a certain "rat pack" around for the duration, and he and his buddies watched football all day and enjoyed a wide variety of food. (you all know who you are) Football wasn't all of course - there was hiking with the dogs all around the great state of Arizona, rafting trips down the Grand Canyon, summer swims and barbeques at the house, talking outside in the evenings with the neighbors in the Fall and the Spring, planting every type of thing he could possibly think of in the yard, including 80 rose bushes! and of course racing his Mustang Saleen everywhere, even to just go to the store. (yes, there have been LOTS of speeding tickets) Jay was known & respected as a healer - really no other word applies, and I know that is not a word used here in the States much, but that is what he was. He helped people with chronic pain and he was excellent at it - using a mixture of deep tissue massage, neuromuscular re-education work, water therapy, and then his special blend of herbs, many of his products were the result of many years of trial and error. His lifelong friends Max Van Orman and Peter Busnack were around for the entire 30 years he was in Phoenix, and they were an important part of his healing arts work, especially in the early years. Many clients have been with Jay as long as Renee, and she and Jay always thought of them as extended family, and came to know them and love them well. How lucky we all were to gather in Las Vegas 2 years ago and celebrate his 50th birthday! Twenty eight family and extended family gathered for that evening and what a party it was! Survivors include brother Glenn in Aliquippa, PA, and a sister Rebecca, brother-in-law Tom, nieces JJ and Madison in Phoenix. It will be easy to remember Jay: when the Steelers play and you're eating a pierogi, when you see a Scottish terrier, or watch Tour de France, or when you hear Carlos Santana play his guitar or when you hear a racing engine, when you smell a rose, Jay will linger near....and bring you a smile, I guarantee it. From Renee, heart and soul. Thanks for always being so good to my Mom and Dad, Jay. A Memorial service is being planned and a date for that will be communicated by Renee to all of the "extended family" as soon as possible.

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Published by The Arizona Republic from Feb. 22 to Feb. 23, 2009.

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Michelle Molberg

March 2, 2009

Renee, I am so sorry to have just learned about Jay. I have enjoyed our conversations in the neighborhood over the past 13 years. I enjoyed my sessions with Jay and vice versa. Always enjoyed your Scottie/s and you. Please know I have a heart full of empathy for you and would love to talk with you.

Trini Jackson

March 2, 2009

Renee,

So sorry for you loss, Jay was a wonderful neighbor. My husband Billy and I would talk with him often when he would walk your scotties. Please know we are thinking of you.

Rachel Guilbault

February 23, 2009

After you've lived awhile and look back on your life with some perspective, the "turning points" and forks in the road become clearer, allowing you to see exactly where key choices were made that lead you to where (and who) you are today.

I met Jay 22 years ago at what was a crisis point for me, and I often reflect on what might have been had our paths not crossed. Out of the pain came a journey into self guided by an irreverant sage/jester/mystic/wildman! Not only was I healed physically through this process (after conventional medicine predicted I would be paralyzed without invasive back surgery --which I never had thanks to Jay), but my spirit was fortified and I became happier in my personal relationships, and successful in my career in human services.

This is Jay's legacy: I once told him that every life he touched, every spirit he healed extended out into the world like ripples in a pond, like branches of a tree reaching outward, healing other lives and replacing despair with hope, pain with joy, darkness with light exponentially!

I told him that the importance of the work he did was truly immeasurable, far beyond what he could see in his day to day practice. Using myself as an example, I pointed out that I might have ended up disabled, depressed, and not very productive had I taken the "other" path. As things turned out, the work I do has touched tens of thousands of Arizona families; work I would not have had the inspiration, heart, or stamina to do without the transformational work I did with Jay from 1991 through the present day!

And I said to him: "Imagine the impact you have had on the world because of the way you heal people and help their souls evolve, how extensive and vast it really is!!!"

And so I will always remember that Jay was one of my most important turning points, that he was truly an alchemist who helped us find the best in ourselves, and to pour that golden light out into the world.

With his passing, a great light has gone out. It is up to us now to keep the light burning, and to pass it on.

Namaste Great Friend!!!

Bob Ream

February 23, 2009

Jay was a rare breed with so much love of life and his fellow man. I will never forget those many sessions we had together. We love You Jay.

Diana Walton

February 23, 2009

I had the pleasure of knowing Jay since the early 1980's and he was the most upbeat, wonderful person I have every met. I was very sad to hear that he had passed. He was such a great man. God Speed

Kim Daniel

February 22, 2009

Be Good To You ShumsksGuy

Max & Colleen VanOrman

February 22, 2009

Jay was a dear friend and we will miss him very much as well as the great care he gave to me. Well maybe not the table HA! you all know what I mean. Peter & I called him "Mr Enthusiasm"
Goodbye old friend! RIP

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