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Brendan McCarthy Obituary

Brendan C. McCarthy
Brendan "Homer" Cornelius McCarthy, age 67, beloved husband and "luvbug" of Kathy McCarthy (née Leonard) passed away peacefully on July 24, 2019, at Bridgeport Hospital surrounded by his wife, children, siblings, nieces, nephews, and grandchildren. He was born in Bridgeport, CT to the late James and Mary McCarthy, and was predeceased by his sister, Mary "Mimi" McCarthy, a Sister of Mercy, and Christopher McCarthy, his nephew. He earned a Bachelor of Arts degree from Spring Hill College in Mobile, Alabama, where he met "his Katie." Brendan married Kathy on June 21, 1975, in Mobile, where they briefly lived before relocating to Brendan's hometown of Bridgeport. Brendan and Kathy built a life together in Bridgeport, raising four children in the Black Rock neighborhood, where Brendan coached Little League baseball and softball for sixteen years, mentoring hundreds of kids from Black Rock, including all four of his own children. A fixture in his local community, Brendan was thought of as a "renaissance man." Despite holding a successful career as a salesman at Hilti Manufacturing and then Heim Bearing, Brendan left an office job to become a full-time teacher. He taught in the Bridgeport public school system as a Special Education teacher, bringing his zest and passion for life to every subject he taught, filling his classrooms with his own materials and designing interactive lesson plans to accommodate the unique learning styles of special needs children. Eventually Brendan transitioned from being an educator to managing operations of a pizzeria owned by his son, Marty. Brendan found his calling in the restaurant industry, where his gregarious personality shone at its brightest, his smile visible from across the room and his laugh audible from a mile away.
Brendan had a diverse array of interests, which influenced his journey in life. He studied Art History and was a connoisseur of renaissance art and impressionism. He loved explorative travel and was not bashful about adventuring alone. Among his favorite destinations were New Orleans, Chicago, France, and Italy. Brendan's travels include thousands of memories, hundreds of stories, and endless laughter. Wherever he went, Brendan always brought his music. He was never alone if he had the Beatles, the Pogues, or Bobby Charles queued up. Above all else, Brendan loved his family. He reflected recently that he was incredibly proud of his children and of the way they came together to support him during his illness.
Brendan is survived by his wife of 44 years, Kathy, whom he loved more than words could ever describe. He is also survived by his four children: Martin McCarthy (Melissa Nyden McCarthy), Matthew McCarthy (Mary Elizabeth Daly McCarthy), Colin McCarthy (Beatriz Ota), and Molly McCarthy (Stephen McCabe); his siblings: Kathleen McCarthy Swanton, James McCarthy (Beth McCarthy), and Gerald McCarthy (Patricia McCarthy); his nieces and nephews: Donna Gualtieri (Eddie Gualtieri), Melissa McCarthy, James McCarthy (Liza McCarthy), Patricia McCarthy, Ryan McCarthy, Kyle McCarthy (Courtney Meng); his grandchildren: Mackenzie McCarthy and Mason McCarthy; his grand niece and nephews: Emma Gualtieri, Tommy McCarthy, and Cole McCarthy; and many additional family members and friends - from McCarthy cousins in Connecticut, Brooklyn, and Ireland to the Leonards to the many people he impacted wherever he went - who will remember Brendan with warmth and gratitude.
Friends and family may call on Sunday, July 28 from 3-7 p.m. at the Spear-Miller Funeral Home, 39 South Benson Road, Fairfield. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated for Brendan on Monday, July 29 at 10 a.m. at St. Ann's Church, 481 Brewster Street, Bridgeport. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Brendan C. McCarthy Memorial Scholarship Fund. For more information or to offer online condolence, please visit www.SpearFuneralHome.com.

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Published by Connecticut Post on Jul. 25, 2019.

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JUDY SMITH

July 29, 2019

To the McCarthy Family -- Rest In Peace Brendan. He will be missed in Black Rock. Loved to talk and spread his Wisdom to others. Bill has welcomed him up in Heaven with a cold beer and a Roast Beef sandwich. Prayers and Love to you all. xoxoxo

July 29, 2019

My deepest condolences to the McCarthy
family at this difficult time.
I have fond memories of Brendan from SHC
and those weekend reunions in Chicago.
Rest in Peace.
Chris Cosgrove '72

Aaron Dommu

July 28, 2019

Brendan will be missed tremendously.. it was a privilege to get to know him these past few years. Even during challenging times, he made such a positive influence to everyone around him.. whether those alike or different. He always had a joke or an upbeat comment & that will be so missed. Sending condolences to his wonderful family who he spoke about often!

Jack Stothart

July 28, 2019

Homer was a gift of God --- inspired countless people to achieve a higher loft-- funny-- happy-- at ease with his God given charm-- Colin and Marty-- Good ole Brad and Jack of 607 Brewster St. back in the short day -- think of how much fun it was to be in Homers' company-- God bless you all--- JCS....

July 28, 2019

July 28, 2019

I had the privilege of coaching with Brendan in Black Rock Little League for many years. He was a great coach and impacted hundreds of lives. To say that he was one in a million or even one of a kind does not do him justice. He was so much more and will be sorely missed by all that knew him.

Brendan had a keen sense of humor and a great outlook on life. He could talk at length about the virtues of Descartes and Merton and then the value a good rotation to defense a bunt. Most important is Brendan's laugh an his ability to find humor in almost everything.

Brendan can be described as a classic Black Rocker, a great neighbor, a warm heart and dedicated family man. But all of these descriptions fall short - there are so many stores and memories that will keep Brendan's memory alive.

Rest in peace.

Mike Money

jacki porto

July 27, 2019

Kathy and Family,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I remember Brendan so very well. He was always happy and kind.
My most sincere sympathy.
With love and sadness ,
Jacki Porto and family

July 26, 2019

To all of the McCarthy Clan: My dad, who you fondly call Jackie, and the rest of our Family were so very sad to hear the news about Brendan. We all remember him well and even with dad's memory loss, he recalls all of you from the days on Blackrock Ave.. He remembers Brendan very well and he said he was a sweet kid and a character with a great laugh...

Our hearts and memories will keep him always close...Much love to Kathy, the kids and the rest of you...

Jack, Cathi, Liz, Brandon & John...

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John Moriarty

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HELEN WITOWSKI

July 26, 2019

Prayers of comfort to family, friends and anyone who got to know "Homer". He will be missed. Every time he drove by me, no matter where it was, I knew it was Homer because I would always hear, "Yak she mash!!" yelled out the window as he drove by. Homer definitely is a Black Rock Icon and shall not be forgotten.

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Jim DeSabia

July 26, 2019

Remembering Brendan from our years together in high school, I am so sorry to hear of his passing. My sincere condolences to his family.

Bill Kuhar

July 26, 2019

Rest in peace my friend, rest in peace.

Gary Zingo

July 26, 2019

To the entire McCarthy family in which all were a big part of my life growing up in the south end of Bridgeport Brandon was a gentleman first in foremost his entire lifetime dedicated to his family friends and community will be missed may you all keep your spirit alive with the wonderful memories and special moments you shared as you celebrate a life well lived my deepest sympathy Gary Zingo Palm City Florida.

Cookie Martini

July 26, 2019

Kathy, Matt and family.....remembering your husband and dad. Such a nice man. Full of charm. I will keep you in my prayers.

Mary Jo Bragg

July 25, 2019

Dear Kathy and family,

All of you are in my heart. God Bless, Mary Jo

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July 25, 2019

Dear Kathy and family,

I am heartbroken to hear of Brendan's passing. I loved him dearly. One of my favorite things was to be able to pick up any conversation where it was left off, even if years had gone by. He was one of those very special people and he will be missed by all he touched. Special love and hugs to all of you!

Love, Mary Jo

Lois Bader

July 25, 2019

Dearest Kathy, I am so sorry for the loss of the love of your life, Brendan! Please know you and your entire family are being held close to my heart in love and prayer during this time. Hold close your loving memories. God Bless and love, Lois Ann Valko Bader

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July 25, 2019

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