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Pauline Wesley Wanderer

1935 - 2019

Pauline Wesley Wanderer obituary, 1935-2019, Boulder, Co

Pauline Wanderer Obituary

Pauline Wesley Wanderer passed peacefully Wednesday, January 09, 2019. Family and friends were by her side. She was 83. Pauline will be remembered for her perpetual motion and spontaneity, her faith in God, the many friendships she enjoyed, and her driving passion for nature, writing, cooking and peaceful protest. She leaves a lifetime of love, generosity, and inspiration to her children, family, friends, and to those who knew her only through her writing. The daughter of Pauline Raiche Wesley and John Wesley, Pauline was born October 14, 1935 in Marinette, WI. She was raised by John and Vivian Wesley in Green Bay, alongside two sisters. She attended East High School, Mount Mary College (Bachelor's) and the University of Colorado Boulder (Master's). Pauline was editor of East High's school newspaper and annual, and she was a cheerleader. Her squad also cheered for the Green Bay Packers, who practiced on East High's field at the time. She was named Miss Bluejay and Miss Baseball, and accepted an offer to screen test in Hollywood prior to attending Mount Mary College. While at CU Boulder, Pauline met and married fellow student Jules Wanderer. They settled in Boulder (and later separated). As a mother, professional writer and antique dealer and appraiser, she split her time between Boulder and Door County, WI, a migration she continued into her final year. Pauline said she felt most at home in Door County. She'd rise with the sun and could be found with a cup of coffee at her typewriter on the screened in porch of the family's second home. After writing, Pauline walked one of many trails through the woods, ran the sand beach in bare feet, and swam the often chilly waters of Green Bay and Lake Michigan. She prepared meals from locally caught fish and ingredients she foraged during the day. Pauline was the rare cook who could drop into anyone's kitchen and assemble a superb meal with just the ingredients at hand. This talent informed her life and her writing about food. Pauline authored several novels, including Bittersweet Winter and Secret At Death's Door; two cookbooks; and two popular columns, The Wooden Spoon and View From A Country Kitchen for Country Home magazine (each issue had 8 million readers). Creative her entire life, she placed a recent emphasis on poetry and pastels. Pauline's love of antiques had roots in early childhood. She said she'd always been fascinated by well-crafted objects with a history. Her passion grew into a career. She rubbed elbows with fellow experts and enthusiasts in the field for over 45 years. Many became close friends. Whether a longtime friendship or serendipitous fast friend, personal connections were an essential part of Pauline's life. These included a remarkable and sustaining friendship that began in childhood, dear friends in Wisconsin, in Boulder, and elsewhere, many of whom were her friends for over 60 years. She remained in contact with these beautiful people into her final evening. Pauline is survived by daughter, Julianne; son, Matthew (Hannah); grandson, Jules; and two sisters, Jackie Van Bellinger and Marilyn Murphy and their families. Celebrations of Pauline's life will be held in Boulder and Door County in the spring. In lieu of flowers, consider a donation to: doorcountylandtrust.org or TRU Care, an organization whose staff the family can not thank enough: trucare.org.

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Published by The Daily Camera on Feb. 3, 2019.

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Tracy Pirnack

May 7, 2024

Please accept our late condolences, from the Pirnack family. I just came across an envelope marked "Uncle Sam's Antiques" and remembered Nan Pirnack and Pauli Wanderer's shop on Pearl Street in Boulder, in the 1980s. My mom Nan counted Pauli as a dear friend.

Sandra Shackelford

January 28, 2023

Pauline, you are still and will always be with me. I had the great fortune of experiencing your mentoring as a student in your class at the Academy. Your encouragement sent me on many adventures, broadening my world, teaching me what compassion looked like. Over the years I, too, used my pencil and paint brush to render images of those often ignored. You inspired MY "wandering." YOU continue to be my teacher. Sandra Shackelford.

Suzanne Fraser

April 19, 2019

I have just learned of Pauli's passing and am so sad to hear that she is gone.I didn't know her that well,but always enjoyed our conversations immensely when I would see her.Over many years,we would run into each other either out and about or in the neighborhood.Recently,passing her house,I sensed that she was gone as I hadn't seen her for awhile and it looked like the house was being cleared out.A neighbor confirmed that she was indeed no longer with us.The world has lost another bright spirit and I send my deepest sympathies to her family and friends.

Carol Amrhein

April 16, 2019

Pauli and I were English majors at Mount Mary College. Pauli had a gift with words. About 5.years ago, my daughter and I travelled to southern Illinois and stayed at a charming bed and breakfast. Imagine my surprise and delight to find a vintage Country Living magazine on the table. Paging through it, I came across an article about Door County and an apple orchard. Then I looked at the author and realized it was indee Pauline Wesley Wanderer! It brought back warm memories of Paili! She was a talented and caring friend to so very many people.

February 25, 2019

My husband Harry and I met Pauline in Ellison Bay when we were in the process of founding what is now known at the Liberty Grove Historical Society. She was a ball of energy. The very first fund raiser the group put together was a rummage sale. We needed to raise funds for basics like stationery, stamps, printing copies. People responded to our ads. We had items delivered to our home in EB and to the Viking Grill where the sale was going to take place. Fantasticl Pauline swooped into the midst of the mess, tags and pen in hand. We spent days sorting, pricing, tossing, displaying collecting raffle items. She really knew her business and how to enjoy life. What a joy she was to work with. She was one of our early, fabulous supporters. Her efforts to make the Society happen will always be warmly remembered.
Sincere condolences to her family and friends. We are proud to have been among them.
Harry & Marylin Banzhaf Jou Jou Liberski
10103 Charter Mall, Mequon, WI 53092
Please notify us of the memorial date.
1-262-242-7716

mary kugler

February 25, 2019

Oh the stories I could tell-my dear friend Pauli (I called her the little puffball) met about 40 years ago at an antique show at the Red Barn in Door County.
We became fast friends and enjoyed so many good times. Being in the antique business and having many of the same interests including children of the same ages. I so loved her cottage in Gills Rock-it was like home to me.
We traveled to many antique shows together and suffered through the good and bad-no sales-bad weather-and some pretty awful motel accommodations-fast friends through it all.
So easy to laugh with my dear friend Paul!!
Thank you dear for sharing my life and yours all these years.
I am going to try and include a poem she entered and won in the PulseWriter Expose in
the summer of 2008.

Life Force by Pauli Wanderer

I'm confounded by the trees
their exuberant noisy growth
how they hide grouse and foxes
pine snakes and blood root
orchids and rusted engines

The trees strangle light
a livid show of green
dance an arch over the house
smother its occupants in chartreuse lace
dry rot sprouts vermillion fungi
a ribbon of bloom along the sill

The trees won't relent they wave
their long arms gracious
in light airs or frenzied when
storms pour their weight on this
spit of land that verges upon
big rough water

Who will take a blade notch and cut
listen to their screams
explosions of shattered leaves
the ground shuddering thud
what use are ear plugs
when the soul leaves the tree

A saw hangs in the pantry
its red handle sings
and waits my hands are bound
with invisible threads
for one more year I'll suffer
the wet and the dark.

Love always, Mary Kugler

Geoff Gialdini

February 14, 2019

We were neighbors of Paulines in Gillsrock. We are trying to get in touch with her family. If anyone can help it would be appreciated. Thank You Geoff Gialdini 920-606-8545

Mary Hays

February 10, 2019

I met Pauli in 1965 when my first husband and I moved to Boulder with our two young children. Even before we left Chicago, Pauli had found us a house to rent. She wrote to me about schools and neighborhoods and where to shop and did everything she could to make me feel welcome. We became instant friends as soon as I arrived.

Pauli encouraged me in everything I did. I counted on her approval, and always got it. She taught me the best way to roast a chicken (you sear it first in a heavy French pot), how to spot a promising second-hand shop or a house to buy, how to get rid of all the unnecessary words in a short story (ruthlessly), where to look for mushrooms, how to dance in the kitchen. She was there for me at every turn, at every important event in my life. Pauli was a necessary part of my universe.

Although I moved away, we stayed in touch, wrote insanely long letters, talked for hours on the phone. We understood each other perfectly and needed no time to get re-acquainted after long separations. She was a friend like no other. I am fortunate to have many reminders of her in my daily life, like the lampshade she picked out for my grandmother's marble lamp 40 years ago and which I only recently replaced with one exactly like it (I was looking forward to telling her that on my next visit); her handwriting on the envelope I found last week in the drawer next to my bed; my image of her in her black seal fur coat fast-walking down the snowy Santa Fe street on her way down to the plaza to see what was what and say hello to the shopkeepers she'd met on her last visit. She was gregarious and lively and curious and people loved her. Everybody wanted a little bit of Pauli and her bright energy and her warmth and her zest for life.

She had a deep suspicion of anything mechanical, especially computers and motors and keys. She claimed that there was bad chemistry between her and keys that prevented them from working for her and would quote stories about people who could ruin computers just by looking at them. She would try earnestly to make me believe it and although we laughed, I think she really did believe it herself. She had a green Hermes manual typewriter that always worked for her, though. I remember our sitting out on the screened porch of her house in Door County with our typewriters, both of us clacking away. The floor sloped so badly we had to pretend we were on a ship. She loved that place. She loved the woods and the beach where she fast-walked every day, keeping her eye out for good shells. She loved her children and her children's friends and her friends' children and her little dog, Bear, and all that life has to offer. I will miss her profoundly.

February 8, 2019

I took a night course at St Norbert with Pauline in 1959 and we stoped several tmes for coffee. She was a very nice person. My deepest sympathy to her family. Ed Morris.

February 4, 2019

We met Paulie through mutual Door County friends. She was a delightful and fun-loving individual. We enjoyed our times together. She will be missed. Our sincere sympathy to her family and friends.

Jane and Bob Klozotsky
Kaukauna, Wisconsin

Brenton Lyons

February 3, 2019

Rest well Paulie. ❤

Barbara Splitgerber

February 3, 2019

Ms. Wesley was my Freshman English teacher in 1957 at St. Joseph Academy in Green Bay WI. She was a fine teacher and a lovely lady.
Barb Splitgerber

Sandra Shackelford

February 3, 2019

"Miss" Wesley was a mentor of mine when she taught at The Academy in Green Bay, WI. Her influence and mentoring inspired me to set my feet on the path to working for civil and human rights in Mississippi from 1956 to 1967. May your spirit soar, you special soul. Sandra Shackelford, Green Bay, WI.

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