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John Carr Obituary
March 4, 1949 - November 23, 2024
John Dabney Carr, Jr., of Charlottesville, VA, died peacefully at home on November 23, 2024, surrounded by his family. He was born on March 4, 1949, to John Dabney Carr and Mary Frances Huff Carr in Roanoke, VA. Dabney was a proud graduate of Episcopal High School, the College of Arts and Sciences and the Darden School of Business at the University of Virginia. He was a member of the Raven Society, the Phi Kappa Sigma fraternity, Farmington Country Club, and the Oliver Turner Society.
Dabney was an international banker with Citigroup for over 30 years, during which time he and his family were posted to Taipei, Singapore, Melbourne, Seoul, and New York. He and his wife Sunny enjoyed visiting new countries with their children, inspiring their curiosity about the world. After Dabney's retirement, he and Sunny moved back to the Charlottesville area, where they first met and long planned to return. Dabney became an adjunct professor at the Darden School, where he discovered a love of teaching and mentoring students. He pursued his lifelong interest in creative writing with the Blue Ridge Writers and had his short stories published in their journals. A lover of Shakespeare from his undergraduate days, Dabney supported theater locally and he and Sunny travelled regularly to performances in Washington, New York, Dublin and London. He was always a happy participant in his wife's charitable causes both in Charlottesville and their posts overseas.
Dabney will be remembered for his intelligence, his curiosity, and his keen wit. He was renowned for his ability to recommend a restaurant anywhere in the world and his inability to keep his shirt tucked in and stain-free. He always had a kind word and a joke, and never let the facts get in the way of a good story.
He is survived by his wife of 45 years, Isabelle "Sunny" Carr; son, John Dabney Carr III (Lindsay); daughter, Lucy Carr Jones (Nick); grandson, Winston Dabney Jones; brother, Peter Ring; sister, Mary Frances Ring; and several nieces and nephews.
A memorial service will be held at 12 p.m., on Friday, December 13, 2024, at Christ Episcopal Church, Charlottesville. The family requests that in lieu of flowers, memorial gifts be made to the Blue Ridge Area Food Bank.
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Mollie Ketelhut
January 31, 2025
Dear Sunny, I loved reading Dabney's obituary! It says so much about your precious husband. I only wish I could have spent more time with him. I also loved reading the touching entries from friends. My siblings and I are so grateful to you and Dabney for all the love you have shown our mother. She delighted in you both! We children are blessed that she surrounded herself with wonderful souls like you and Dabney. Sending so much love. Love, Mollie K.
Jeff Lick
December 20, 2024
Dabney was an unforgettable character and friend working together at Citibank Chicago. As a southerner he introduced me to fresh ham, and I promptly served it at a dinner party. But I didn't understand really what it was - uncooked. I called Dabney later that evening, and we both laughed and wondered if I had poisoned all of my guests. (I didn't). I'll wear my shirt partially untucked today in his memory. My deepest sympathy to the family.
Jim Brubaker
December 20, 2024
I met Dabney on our first day at work at Citibank in 1977. We became fast friends as `outsiders´ in our class of about 25 new bankers; Dabney, as the only southerner in the group, and me, as the only one without an MBA. We both felt like we had something to prove. Later we both moved to Chicago with the bank and enjoyed our shared work and the city. Dabney was always elegant and rumpled at the same time. He used to polish his glasses with the end of his tie in meetings when he was thinking about what to say. His sense of humor was legendary. Sunny and Dabney were so happy with their marriage, a second for both of them, that they told Nancy and I `your second marriage will be so much better than your first´; we were married for less than a year at the time and our first (and only). We laughed about that for a long time. Wishing Sunny and the Carr family happy memories in this difficult time.
Jim and Nancy Brubaker
Graham Dickson
December 18, 2024
a lovely person with a great sense of humour and I enjoyed his wisdom and counsel....
Rakesh
December 16, 2024
So many lovely memories flood my mind and Dabney will always remain in my heart as a special person who I had the privilege to know and work with. He was a rare person. His humour, passion for life and food and his giving nature has created a beautiful legacy. My hear goes out to sunny and the family as they go through this difficult time Sincere condolences - abha and Rakesh
K. Anandasagar
December 16, 2024
I had the privilege of knowing him in Singapore and in New York. He had a keen sense of humor which I particularly remember and enjoyed. My heartfelt condolences to his family. May his soul rest in peace
Catherine Zuver
December 13, 2024
Sunny, I am so sorry to see about Dabney. You are in my thoughts dear lady!!!!
Catherine Zuver
charles coppage
December 9, 2024
I remember Dabney well from our days at the High School. He was always full of life and good humor. I do remember that he was a banker in the far east and believe that Clyde Jacobs told me that Dabney said that he got lots of good advice on that from Clyde's family. I shall keep him in my thoughts.
Louise Peters Friend
December 9, 2024
I have often thought of Dabney with gratitude for his kindness and encouragement when I was a fearful and very un-selfconfident student at Darden back in the 70's. He made a difference.
David Lee Rubin
December 8, 2024
Dabney was among the unforgettable members of my OLLI courses on Great Books: perceptive, eloquent, generous, well-read, witty, and judicious, but above all a delightful companion and collaborator. My heart goes out to those near and dear to him.
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