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Keti Tokmakova
March 24, 2025
Rest in peace Dr. Jay. I miss you and often remember you. Thank you for everything!
Patricia Fucs
March 23, 2025
Dr Jay was an icon in pediatric orthopedics, my mentor and an example for all. He is missed all the time. Rest in peace my friend.
Deborah Massaro
March 23, 2025
It has been 12 years since Dr Jay left us for heaven and he is deeply missed. What a wonderful, special, incredibly smart, funny, clever, genuine person. Dr. Jay was a spectacular mentor to all and a dear friend. I miss his kindness, sage, wisdom, and most of all his friendship. To the family, please know I´m thinking of you, keeping you all in my prayers and thanking God for our dear Dr. Jay, especially today.
"Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints."
Psalms 116:15
Deborah May
February 11, 2020
I think of Dr Jay many times through the years. I had the privilege to work with him at AI Dupont. He was such a presence in the OR, he was a advocate for his pts. and demanded excellence in his Operating room. I still can hear him directing his team .
He was a excellent teacher and surgeon.
He really cared and loved what he did.
Crystal Baker
Joan Baker
June 21, 2017
Regina Bettinger
May 24, 2017
Dr jay was my doctor/surgeon for 20 years at DuPont hospital. I remember he was always so warm and comforting I knew when he was doing surgery on me I was in the best hands possible and I am devastated by his passing.
Tim Smith
December 29, 2015
I can't believe he passed away! I remember that you performed a triple arthrodesis on my foot. You will be forever missed. My final words are THANK YOU
Kathy Kelly
June 3, 2015
I was referred to Dr. Jay when I was 19. He was my physician into my early twenties when AI DuPont Institute stopped treating adults. Never before or since have I had a more wonderful doctor. His genuine concern, compassion and gentle nature together with his medical expertise were among the qualities that distinguished him from other doctors I have known. My family loved him as much as I did. Through the years I reached out to him with questions and he always responded with interest and kindness. I am deeply saddened to hear about his passing, and I am truly grateful to have had him as my doctor and my friend.
Erin Collins Barron
June 27, 2014
I was a patient of Dr Jays for 21 years. He was amazing. He was great to my entire family. I recently had more ortho surgery for my hip dysplasia and my husband was looking for a way to email him to let him know how well I'm doing and we were heartbroken to discover his passing. He will truly be missed.
Marysue Whitby
May 29, 2014
I was just talking about Dr. Jay with my mom the other day. I first met him when I was 11 years old at DuPont hospital because I had scoliosis. He performed spinal fusion surgery on me when I was 16. He just had this incredible presence about him that made me so comfortable. I saw him every 3-6 months from the time I was 11 until I was 18. The day of my surgery I was so nervous, but the moment he walked into the room , my nerves relaxed and I smiled because I knew I was in good hands. My mom and I spoke of how incredible he was just the other day, so I looked him up. I'm sorry for the family's loss. He not only was an amazing doctor, but a kind and humble human being. I am 29 now and never have I met a doctor as warm and caring as Doctor J!! I' m sure he is missed by many.
Jennifer Einstein
January 13, 2014
Dr. Jay was a truly, truly special doctor. I am 32 and saw him til I was 18. If I could have remained a patient of his, I would have. I've had many doctors in my time, but he was truly one of a kind. He was the best of the best! He won't be forgotten.
mary realyvasquez
November 9, 2013
I was terribly saddened when I learned of Jay death. We all have lost a very special and unique person. My love to everone,
Edilson Forlin
October 8, 2013
I was a brazilian international fellow at duPont Institute rom Brazil and there I learnt to admire and respect the teacher and the person of Dr. Jay. When my parents visit me there he kindly invite us for a nice dinner. It was a 22 years ago but I will never forget the professor and the friend Dr. Jay.
June 13, 2013
I worked with Dr. Jay for many years, he was a brilliant surgeon as well as a wonderful and kind man. He will be missed by all his colleagues that trained and worked beside him at AI Dupont Hospital.
Krista and Tim Cunningham
April 15, 2013
Our son Jack was a patient of Dr. Jay's and we are so heartbroken to hear of his passing. We are so grateful for everything that he did for Jack. He will always have a special place in our hearts. The fact that Jack runs, play sports and no one even knows he's a bilateral amputee is a testament of your greatness. Thank you
Zoran Bozinovski
April 10, 2013
Great teacher wonderful person and friend. I sent him picture of my children as he asked. Hope he got it. Will remember him every time when we spoke about the Du Pont and our fellowship.
Jonathan Owen
April 6, 2013
What can I say about a man who reached into my body 20 plus times in my childhood. All I have is to say thank you to him and to God for allowing him to be my doctor. He also reached into my heart as a little kid dealing with growing up with arthrogryposis he was very caring and inspired me to never give up. Thank you Dr. Jay for giving your life to help others. You will inspire my whole life....
Reeses
April 5, 2013
Words can not express how sad we were to hear of Dr. Jays passing. He was a wonderful Dr. to our son Mason. With deepest sympathy.
Joanne Wood
April 5, 2013
Dr. J......."A Life Well Lived".
He was a blessing...from a grateful grandmother.
Tara Shockley
April 4, 2013
This was heart breaking news to hear. I was a patient of Dr. Jays for 18 yrs he was a great man and the best doctor You will never be forgotten and always loved you were one in a million <3
Martha Fleming
April 4, 2013
I can't help but make another comment here. I've been coming back to this Guest Book to read entries, and I have been so touched by the comments from families and patients (and others) who knew Dr. Jay. They are all a testimony to Dr. Jay's goodness and influence. How wonderful, even in sadness.
Patricia Fucs
April 3, 2013
May the light be with you always.
Ruth Owen
April 2, 2013
Feel very fortunate to have know Dr. Jayakumar. He was my son Jonathan's doctor for 21 years. Our family was so very blessed to have him as a doctor and friend. He was so kind and thoughtful to all of us. Not only did he care for my son but he helped my family greatly in the early days of understanding about living with Arthrogryposis. He helped my five daughters to understand what was going on with all the trips we made to A.I. In the beginning and for 18 months we traveled there daily. Dr Jay was always so willing to talk and encourage Jonathan and the rest of us. He knew just what was needed and was willing to provide it. We were greatly blessed by him and am so thankful God brought Dr Jayakumar into our lives.
Kasey Nowaczyk
April 2, 2013
Dr. Jay was my doctor from the time I was only days old until I was 19 and he retired from A.I. Dupont. He was such a great doctor and never steered us wrong. I thank my lucky stars everyday that my parents found Dr. Jay. I was lucky enough to live just around the corner from A.I. for my first 5 years. Even when we moved to VA and Dr. Jay gave my mom names of doctors down here we still opted to travel 4 and a half hours just to see him. Through all the PT and 5 surgeries Dr. Jay helped me become independent and get out of my braces by the end of high school. He was such a great man and certainly will be missed. I'll never forget you Dr. Jay. RIP.
Christy Tulenko
April 2, 2013
Dr. Jay was an integral part of my daughters care through the Spinal Dysfunction Clinic at AI duPont Hospitall for Children. He provided guidance as she was braced to walk, learned to walk and later decided to use only her wheelchair for mobility. He also performed several surgeries on her spine for scoliosis. I recall many difficult decisions through which his gentle kindness and guidance encouraged and supported both her and us as parents. He will always be fondly remembered as a part of Samantha's growth and development. My sincere condolences to his family for the loss.
Antonio Tiberi
April 2, 2013
I owe my life to Dr.Jay. I came to the U.S. when I was 11. I was noticeably disfigured due to scoliosis. Dr.Jay worked his magic to reconfigure my spine such that the defect was hardly noticeable. I went on to finish nursing school,marry and have 2 children. May God bless Dr. Jay and his family.
Susan Wise
April 2, 2013
Dr. Jay took care of my son since he was about 4 (he's now 26) and performed a much needed corrective club foot surgery on him. Years later he also treated my grandson. Couldn't ask for a better caring and concerned doctor. He will surely be missed. Thoughts and prayers are with the family.
Linda Sewell
April 2, 2013
My son, Brian, was a patient of this wonderful, caring, compassionate doctor and human being. I knew when Brian was in surgery with Dr. J he was safe. I'm sure that Brian was one of the first in line to meet him in his clinic in Heaven. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.
Tori Poole
March 31, 2013
I'm a former patient of Dr. Jay, and while we didn't always get along when I was particularly young, he was still one of the kindest doctors I've ever known. He was highly knowledgeable and incredibly compassionate, and I can honestly say I would not have the quality of life I do now without his expertise. His family has my deepest sympathies.
Marie Baca
March 31, 2013
Dr. Jay was my son's orthopedist from birth until we moved in 2010; 17 years of surgeries, xrays, casts, PT, wheelchairs and braces...such is the orthopedic part of life of many born with Spina Bifida. Dr. Jay was not simply a great doctor, he was a Kind and compassionate man who cared for my son, understood Luke's differences and would respond with a hug when Luke requested one. Dr. Jay showed respect and compassion for me, the stressed out Mom, too. He will always be remembered by Luke and me with fondness. I thank his family for sharing this great human being with us all. Peace.
Chrissie Brown
March 31, 2013
Not a day goes by that my family doesn't thank Dr. Jay for all that he did for our son Nathan. He was born with 2 club feet and Dr. Jay performed 3 surgeries on him. We knew we had the best and he was so humble and giving. My son is especially sadend of his death and I know he will never be forgotten. Our thoughts and prayers are with his family during this difficult time.
Zaza Azmaiparashvili
March 31, 2013
Dr. Jay was my teacher too. I mat him in the DuPont Hospital for Children. I learned from Dr. Jay a lot and I will remember this nice man for all my life.
Linda Santora
March 31, 2013
Dr. J was wonderful with my family when he operated on my son years ago. I never met a more kind and caring physician. His compassion will never be forgotten. Such a brilliant man, will never be forgotten!
March 31, 2013
My son had a follow-up ortho appointment with you. Your caring, gentle way was comforting. Rest in peace.
Martha Fleming
March 30, 2013
Dr.Jay's professional skill and his integrity will be remembered, always. A true gentleman, deserving of respect! May his family and all those who mourn his passing find peace in so many memories. I am grateful that I was able to know him as an employee at Nemours/AIDHC.
Antonio Andreacchio
March 30, 2013
I miss a great man, a wonderful doctor, a gorgeous teacher. I can say I met him !!!
He was for me like the polar star for the sailor. He teached me a lot and I am really proud to have been one of his fellow. He is always in my heart as his picture is on the wall of my office. My poor English is unable to express all my feelings. Rest in peace doctor Jay I 'll never forget you
Bradford Family
March 30, 2013
We met Dr. Jay when my son was one month old, and instantly felt the caring and confidence he had to help our son. He told us that day that our son would walk and we knew in our hearts that he would make that happen. We loved Dr. Jay very much and he was God's gift to all the children and families he help.
March 30, 2013
My sympathy goes out to the Family during this time of grief. May God's loving-kindness comfort you and help you through this difficult time. Psalm 119:50,76}
With Deep Sympathy
carol velez
March 30, 2013
my family is forever in his debt and he is forever in our hearts. He gave his knowledge, skill, respect and support and carried us through critical years. I cannot express how much he will be missed. he was a father figure to us. although our son graduated from pediatrics he was always the one doctor we trusted with all of our hearts. i can't say enough. i want his family to know how greatly he impacted our lives. much love to all of his family. Carol, Ricardo and Yuri Velez
Pictures made by Dr. Kareem Abu Sneineh
March 30, 2013
Leo Abrahao
March 30, 2013
Dr. Jay was a great teacher and very kind man! His work will be remembered forever! God bless you and your family.
Leni Lunski
March 30, 2013
To Dr Jay's family; I had the honor to work in several different capacities at AIDI for over 30 years and support his clinics. He was one of the first Fellows I met back in the 70s. He was always courteous and kind, and treated my children with gentle care when I chose him for their orthopedist. He has had, and always will have, my utmost respect. He will never be forgotten.
Uri Givon
March 30, 2013
Dr Jay was a great teacher, and a role model for all physicians. He is one of the most inspiring men I have encountered during my training as a fellow at AI duPont Hospital.
March 2010, (from right to left: Dr.Chanika, Dr.Patarawan, and Dr.Jay)
Patarawan Woratanarat
March 30, 2013
Dr.Jay was very kind and took good care for all children. He was my role model as the great pediatric orthopaedist in clinical practice, research and development, and a medical teacher. Dr.Jay will be in my mind and my memories, always. May Dr.Jay rest in peace. With my condolences to his family.
Keti Tokmakova
March 30, 2013
Rest in Peace Dr. Jay
Keti Tokmakova
March 30, 2013
I met Dr. Jay for the first time in January, 2001 when I arrived at Alfred I DuPont Hospital for Children as a Research Fellow. He made 2001 one of the most wonderful years in my life. We worked hard, we had fun, we learned a lot, we shared a lot, we made lifetime friendships, and he was always there to give advice, help, and chat and silently smile. He taught the research fellows the art of medicine, the art of friendship, the art of knowledge, and even the art of love.
I am proud to say that Dr. Jay was my friend and my teacher. I will always remember his lessons, his smile, and our conversations. The world is a sadder place without such a wonderful person, brilliant physician and wise man. But Dr. Jay is up there in Heaven – we just have to close our eyes in order to see him quietly smiling.
Keti Tokmakova, Plovdiv, Bulgaria
Elaine Fisher
March 29, 2013
My son was born with a club foot and we met Dr. Jay when he was just 4 days old. He was casted for months, his foot straightened, fitted for braces and all by Dr. Jay. He was a man of few words, but he had such a big heart. My son is now 10 and a good athlete. We will forever be indebted to Dr. Jay for the care he showed our son. We will miss him dearly.
Deborah Massaro
March 29, 2013
Dr. Jay has been my dearest friend and mentor since 1987. I had the privilege of being his secretary for many years. He truly cared deeply for his patients and I was so blessed to work with him. Dr. Jay was God's gift to us all and I will be forever grateful for his extraordinary, inspirational influence in my life. Love you Mirla, Anitha and JJ. Your sorrow for this amazing man is shared by many.
Psalm 116:15 Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants.
Stephanie Henry and son, Daniel Quinones
March 29, 2013
Without the wonderful care and knowledge of Dr. Jay and his skilled hands, my son would not walk. He was the most wonderful, brilliant man and we were so saddened to hear of his untimely death but so blessed to have known such a wonderful man. He was truely a gentleman and a dear friend to us. We will certainly miss Dr. Jay, he was such an important part in not only my sons life but mine as well. Rest in peace Dr. Jay, you will certainly be missed.
C Johnson-Hunter
March 29, 2013
It was my honor to work for Dr. Jay as a very young typist at AIDI in the early 80s. Such a kind and polite man, a truly appreciative gentleman, a model doctor. He had it right.
Maria Gladstone
March 29, 2013
Dr. Jay was a great man and will be missed by so many people. I had the pleasure of working for him at A.I. for many years. I always enjoyed talking to him and his quiet mischievous side as well. God bless you Dr. Jay.
Sandra Bruce
March 29, 2013
Dr Jay was a Godsend to me and my daughter, Ashley, who was born with Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita in 1985. I spent three years searching for someone who would listen and give us hope for a life of indepedence for my daughter. Doctor after doctor told me she would never walk, she would never feed herself, she would likely have a shortened life. Ten minutes into our first consultation with Dr. Jay he gave me a treatment plan and scheduled her first surgical procedure. My daughter is now a 28 year old mother living on her own and caring for my beautiful granddaughter. We love you, Dr. Jay! May you rest in peace in God's loving care.
March 29, 2013
Always a gentleman working with him was a honor. I will miss our conversations.
Michael Alexander MD retired chief of rehabilitation Alfred I du Pont Hospital for Children
March 29, 2013
Dr. J treated my oldest son at AI for a couple of years. We were really bummed when he retired. He is greatly missed:)
Harriet Reaves
March 29, 2013
Dr. Jay was very passionate about medicine and the children he helped...he will be missed by those whom loved him. I worked with Dr. Jay in the Orthopaedic Dept. at A.I. duPont for years...I will miss him dearly. Harriet Reaves
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