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Brian Oster Obituary
Greece: Died suddenly on September 21, 2009, at age 30. He is survived by his loving parents, Pat & Charlie; and his loving sister, Jennifer; aunts and uncles, Matt Steckel, John & Loron, Nancy Steckel, Lisa & Jim Mucica, Bobbo & Ann, Joe & Carol and Matt & Donna; grandmother, Pat Oster; and cousins, great uncles, great-aunts and many many friends. Brian was a gentle soul with a kind heart and a special love for animals.
Friends may call Friday, 4-8 PM at Farrell-Ryan Funeral Home, 777 Long Pond Road (between English & Latta). Funeral Mass, 9:30 AM Saturday at Holy Cross Church. In lieu of flowers, donations in Brian's memory can be made to Farm Sanctuary, P.O. Box 150, Watkins Glen, NY 14891. farmsanctuary.org
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Memories and Condolences
for Brian Oster
Kim Belle-Isle Wilson
October 2, 2009
My deepest sympathy to the Oster Family. Brian was one of the warmest and most genuine people I have ever met. I remember sledding on snowy nights in Geneseo and the band playing at the Idle Hour. I know he will be missed by many.
Christa Weiss
September 30, 2009
I was and am a big fan of Brian's band. He always had kind words for my friends and I when we used to see him at shows. Today, I live in Boston and do design work for musicians. Without his influence my life would be totally different. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Debbie
September 29, 2009
I am so very sorry. Brian was a wonderful person who touched so many lives. His love for every person and every animal was contagious.
September 29, 2009
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Oster and Jenny, I went to Holy Cross and Aquinas with Brian. We rode the bus together and I remember doing my confirmation classes at your house. I was shocked when I heard of Brian's passing. My deepest sympathies go out to you. When I knew him he was fun and friendly, an overall good person. Its sad to know he's gone.
Corrie Streb
Kate Patton
September 27, 2009
I knew Brian at Geneseo - he was on my floor Freshman year, and we became fast friends. He was so outgoing and always had a smile on his face. He and I talked a lot about music (I was a violin major in the Music Program), and he talk about his piano playing with me. He asked my advice about auditioning for the piano professor, among other things, and we talked about collaborating in our 2 styles of playing. Through our friendship, I introduced him to a couple of the people (2 of my best friends) that later became part of the Blackouts. I even played a show with the Blackouts, playing their version of Pachelbel's "Canon". I remember his enthusiasm for merging the 2 styles together.
Brian was one of those people that is truly unforgettable. Anyone that ever met him could never forget that smile, and passion for life. I am deeply sorry for your loss - he will never be forgotten.
sheila foery
September 27, 2009
Dear Pat,Charlie and Jenny,
We were all quite taken back by the news of Brian`s passing and feel your pain.Matt and Brian were friends way back on Harding Rd days and now again hanging out in Heaven .Matt left us 7-31-01 so he`s been there awhile and can show Brain the "ropes " .I`m sorry that we didn`t hear until late last night or we would have been at Holy Cross yesterday.We`ll keep all of you our prayers.
Sheila (McCortney,VanGraafeiland)Foery
Heather ,Kelly and Megan
Chris Jones
September 26, 2009
Sorry for your loss, I went to AQ with Brian he was always a nice, helpful person. Our prayers go out to the entire family
Dennis Prevost
September 26, 2009
To the Oster Family: Brian and I used to run cross country together at Aquinas. His goofy smile and sense of humor always brightened up the day. He will be forever missed. I wish you all strength in your time of grieving.
September 26, 2009
To the Oster Family-
I received news about Brian's passing this evening and I am still in shock. Brian was one of the first people I met when I began high school at Aquinas. We ran cross country together and Brian was a few years older than me but I still fondly remember how encouraging and comfortable he made that transition for me. Brian was a kind and gentle soul whose laugh was contagious and whose natural ability to relate with people a special gift. Though I had not seen Brian in several years, I will miss him dearly. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Eddie Ciminelli
September 26, 2009
To the Oster Family-
I received news about Brian's passing this evening and I am still in shock. Brian was one of the first people I met when I began high school at Aquinas. We ran cross country together and Brian was a few years older than me but I still fondly remember how encouraging and comfortable he made that transition for me. Brian was a kind and gentle soul whose laugh was contagious and whose natural ability to relate with people a special gift. Though I had not seen Brian in several years, I will miss him dearly. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Steve & Diane Loiacono
September 25, 2009
We were so saddened to hear of the loss of your son, Brian. May God bless you and give you strength during this unbearably difficult time.
C K
September 25, 2009
I want to send my thoughts and prayers to you. I am not a friend of the family, but I was involved in his care. I prayed for your family and your loved one that night. I am sorry for your loss.
Marie & Augie Caracci
September 25, 2009
Charlie Pat & Family
So sorry to hear of your loss of your beloved son Brian, it's so hard to lose a child the pain is unbareable you are wonderfull parent's I sent a poem and i hope it helps you and your daughter.
God BLESS AND KEEP YOU SAFE
MARIE JO AND AUGIE CARACCI
EASTMAN DENTAL
Marie Jo & Augie Caracci
September 25, 2009
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2009
September 25, 2009
Charlie, Pat and Jenny,
My heart is deeply saddened by your loss. Brian's enthusiasm for life was contagious. His sense of humor, love for others and pure enjoyment of being around friends and family was eminent at all times.
I can't even begin to explain how sorry I am that you have to bear this pain. I love you all and am here for you if there is anything I can do.
Brian's memories will live on forever and he will always have a huge place in every Doolin's heart.
God Bless,
Kelly Doolin
Barb Yahn
September 25, 2009
I'm so sorry for you loss
Maureen Mehlenbacher
September 24, 2009
Thinking of you, Pat and Charlie and Jen. There really aren't words to say. Sending prayers for your family.
Carla Boff
September 24, 2009
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help at this time.
Aaron Stormo
September 24, 2009
My sincerest condolences. I knew him only casually, but running into Brian was always a very positive thing. I'll miss him.
Christine Houser
September 24, 2009
Dear Pat, Charlie, and Jen,
I'm so sorry for your loss... I was heartbroken when I heard what happened. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Brian was a good guy from the Holy Cross days.
...I'm so sorry, again.
Jenny Kennard
September 24, 2009
My prayers and sincere sympathy go out to the Oster family during this difficult time.
Jonathan Wilcox
September 24, 2009
My deepest sympathys go out to all you guys during this difficult time. I couldn't believe when my parents told me about Brian. The age gap between us kept me and Brian from being closer neighbors but I always admired him. I can still remember going to waterstreet to see him w/ The Blackouts and I can remember talking "band stuff" w/ him at a young age in my parents back yard. He was a very friendly individual and he will truly be missed.
Nick Joseph
September 24, 2009
I was stunned to hear the sad news yesterday. Brian was such a wonderful person to know at Geneseo. His gift of music was shared with thousands. His giving nature was shown in the way he helped students and faculty with computer problems. Most importantly, Brian was a good man. He had a rare calmness that made everyone around him comfortable. Brian took the time to learn who people were and get to know them. To the Oster family, I extend my heartfelt prayers and condolences.
Mary & Jim Dreesen
September 23, 2009
Dear Pat and Charlie : So sorry to hear about your lost All of our prayers and deepest Sympathy are with you and your family .
Rob
September 23, 2009
My thoughts and prayers to the Oster family. Although I haven't seen Brian since our days at Geneseo, he is a part of a lot of great memories and I am truly saddened by and so sorry for your loss.
September 23, 2009
Dear Charlie,Pat,& Jennifer, I Am truly very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard it must be to loose a child, a brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. I will always remember the smiley little guy in the pj's waving good bye to daddy as we drove off to work at the Temple Building. May happy, loving memories sustain you in the difficult days ahead. Susan Hasenauer
Nicole Schell
September 23, 2009
Brian and I went to Aquinas together, i remember him being one of the most caring people i'd ever met. My deepest condolences.
Patrick Weed
September 23, 2009
Jen, I am sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you and your family. I am saddened by this news. Rest In Peace Brian
Katie (Hall) Nauerth
September 23, 2009
Mr & Mrs Oster & Jen,
My thoughs and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
I'm sure Brian's wonderful, contagious smile is shining down on you.
Hilary Taillie
September 23, 2009
I am heartbroken to hear about your loss. I will always remember the very first time I saw Brian... sending me a very big smile from stage as he played his keyboard with the Professionals so many years ago. That was just the beginning of many wonderful memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Betsy Brothers
September 23, 2009
Dear Charlie and Mrs. Oster:
I had only met Brian on a few occasions, as my sister Jeri has taken karate for many years w/ Charlie, Wayne, Pat and Brian to name a few, and they have become part of her family. I also am friends with Loren, as I work at Highland Hospital, and we speak frequently regarding family.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this most horrible time, which doesn't seem enough, as there is nothing that can console any of you right now.
Hold deep in your hearts your memories of Brian as they will carry you through a lot of tough times that are coming ahead.
Again, I'm so so sorry for your loss.
Michael Crane
September 23, 2009
Charlie, Pat, Jennifer & Family.... I can not even imagine what pain you are feeling. Brian was a very special guy with amazing talents and a lot of happiness to spread. I know he will be missed by so many of the lives he touched. My deepest sympathies, thoughts, and prayers are with you during this horrible time. God Bless.
Mario Scala
September 23, 2009
My thoughts and prayers are with the Oster family. Rest in Peace Brian
Erin Culver
September 23, 2009
My deepest sympathies... I was friends with Brian in college and most often saw him playing with the Blackouts. He was such a great guy and this loss has touched us all. You are in my prayers.
Margaret Albert
September 23, 2009
Dear Pat and Charlie: I cannot imagine the pain you both are going through. All my prayers and deepest sympathy are with you and your family. Pat, my heart goes out to you.. I am here for you.
Kathryn & Garry Quick
September 23, 2009
Dear Charlie and Pat, My thoughts, prayers and heart are with you at this very sad time. I pray that the love and strength of your family and friends help you bear the unbearable. God bless Brian and hold him close.
Jim Curtis
September 23, 2009
God Bless You Brian.....And bless all of your family and friends at this time. We are thinking and praying for all of you.
Mara,Phillip,Andin, Andrew and Jim Curtis
Chris Roods
September 23, 2009
Jenny, My deep sympathy to you and your family. Carrie spoke of Brian so often and always with admiration as to what a nice person he was. There are no words to erase the hurt and loss.
doreen partiss
September 23, 2009
My thoughts and prayers to your family at this devastating time. Doreen Partiss
Ken
September 23, 2009
The few times i got to hang out with Brian, he was the nicest and happiest guy around. I am so sorry for your loss and my prayers are with all of Brians close friends and family.
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