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Frank Shay Obituary

Shay, Frank Gordon
Irondequoit: Friday, June 13, 2008, at the age of 73. Predeceased by 4 brothers and 1 sister. Gordon is survived by his loving and devoted wife of 51 years, Janet Wolf Shay; children, Scott G. (Debbie) Shay and Jennifer (Tony Shuttleworth) Shay; 4 grandchildren; sister, Nancy (Samuel) Stevens; many nieces and nephews.
No prior visitation. Friends are invited to join the family Wednesday, 2:00 PM at the Third Presbyterian Church, 4 Meigs St., Rochester, NY, for a memorial service. A Graveside Service will be held Thursday, 11:30 AM at the Laurel Hill Cemetery in Erie, PA.
PAUL W. HARRIS FUNERAL HOME
570 Kings Highway So. 544-2041

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Published by Rochester Democrat And Chronicle on Jun. 16, 2008.

Memories and Condolences
for Frank Shay

Sponsored by John D. (Jack) Perry.

248 Entries

93rd PA Vol

Planted Trees

Point Guard

June 10, 2025

Still out here missing you all the time, Old Man. I´ll stop by Freddyburg again soon to see if I can catch you lurking behind the Kirkland Memorial like you said.

Sherri Tucker Andrews

June 10, 2024

I just love to read all these messages from Mr Shay's students! It's amazing to see how many lives he has touched, and the admiration from anyone he ever knew! Truly an amazing man, teacher, Father, Husband, and friend he was to all! God Speed Mr SHAY! WELL DONE!

Sherri Tucker Andrews

June 10, 2024

Still missing you Mr Shay! We miss you at our reunions! We miss you at all our get togethers! Your name ALWAYS come up, and we repeat your sayings, like CUT THE MUSTARD! You always managed to bring out everyone in the class! You had 100% of our attention! You made EVERYTHING interesting! I worked my schedule around having you for all four years of High School! My regards to Mrs Shay and your son Scott and his wife!

Beverly "Briggs" Booth

June 11, 2023

Every year that passes, now 52 years since graduation and 55 since you were my teacher, I am thankful for your instruction, care, and friendship. If someone were to mold the perfect history teacher it would be you. You taught me more about the world than anyone else. I consider myself a historian and the love of genealogy because of you. There are numerous days I have wished I could talk to you.

Sherri Tucker Andrews

June 10, 2023

Another year goes by missing Mr Shay! Since he was one of our 1969 class advisors, along with Mrs VanHoover, our last reunion was the first he didn't attend. But rest assured we spoke his name over and over! We will always miss him and love him! My regards to the Shay family! And Scott Shay, when are we getting together on the Cape??

Dan Finaldi

April 21, 2022

Mr Shay was a friend and father figure for me.
I cannot say how many hours we spent together given we were neighbors. A short walk down two streets was all it took to sit in his living room surrounded by volumes of books. He made a point to say he had read all of them- a point Mrs Shay met with a some measure of skepticism.

Mr Shay's gifts are not merely rooted in his intellectual prowess. His gift is deeply rooted in his humanity and sense of fairness. Mr Shay was a humanitarian, a Classical Liberal Democrat a McGovern Democrat. Mr Shay believed in this form of discourse so deeply that he could not imagine any other political viewpoint could compete.
Mr Shay believed in the spirit of Egalitarianism and he went out of his way to elevate the underdog.

Mr Shay recognized that the narrative of fairness was a profound motif in the drama of the Civil War. The narrative of a nation coming to terms with the hopes and aspirations expressed in the Declaration of Independence in contrast with the grim reality of human bondage clearly transfixed Shay. It spoke to him in a profound and spiritual level. It's no wonder why he was such a magnetic teacher- he believed in what he taught. He taught it with conviction, profound stage craft, outrageous humor and love for his students.

As I mentioned, I did not know Gordon Shay as a teacher. I wasn't a student nor did I ever audit his classes at St John Fisher. I was a boyhood friend of his son Scott, and as I grew older my friendship with Gordon grew. My experience with him was more akin to a mentor and a surrogate parent. He was there to lift up many who were adrift and I was among amongst the many he lifted.

Beverly B Booth

May 18, 2021

It's been 50 years in June that I graduated from Penfield High School. Reading these recent memoirs is so interesting that everyone called him Colonel or old man. When he was my teacher he was young and vibrant. Of all the teachers I had he was the most influential in my life. I couldn't wait for his class. Several of us actually were invited to his house which wasn't far from mine and we walked over in the afternoon and weekends. He was more than a teacher, we confided in him. He helped us understand the angst of teenagers and gave us advice on handling certain relationships. All these years later I still smile when I think of him. I am sure he is entertaining those in heaven with his wondeful stories.

Sherri Tucker Andrews

May 16, 2021

At least once a year I love to come back here to read all the hundreds of remembrances of Mr. Shay. Today, I found a surprise note on the windshield of my car from Scott Shay! It was an honor to talk with him! Apparently his wife grew up in the town I now live in, and his son went to school close by, and he and his wife live just an hour away. He had been here for the day visiting her family. I do so hope at some point we can get together. We spoke for half an hour and reminisced about his Dad...it brings me back to this page where I feel I can still connect with him! The thing I noticed reading through these remembrances is that apparently after I graduated, he took his Penfield students on trips to Gettysburg and Antietam. Though I have been there many times as my Mom grew up in Philadelphia, I would have so enjoyed going along with him. These hundreds of remembrances are just a small part of the people whose lives he touched! There will never be another teacher and person like him. And I feel privileged to have known him, been his student for 4 years, and his friend. I so enjoyed Mr Perry's and Mr Kerxhalli's tributes to him! Spot on! And the comment from his student who came back to visit to tell him because of him, he had joined the military and how horrified he looked.. Another person said that after knowing Mr Shay they didn't understand how anyone could ever be a racist! So very true! You'll never be forgotten! I'm sure your family and friends are brimming with pride for all those whose lives you've touched. All my best to the Shay family! XOX

Point Guard

June 13, 2020

Still miss you like crazy all the time, Old Man.

Sherri Tucker Andrews

June 10, 2020

WOW! Every time I have been NOTIFIED of a new entry on Mr. Shays memorial page, I love to read all the stories of him! Always makes me miss him! So many times I hear something and think I've got to tell Mr. Shay that! I arranged my schedule for all 4 years at PHS just to take his classes! What an inspiration to so many many people he was AND still is! Love you Mr. Shay! Sherri Tucker Andrews

February 9, 2017

Happy birthday Colonel. We miss you.

Bob Meadows Jr.

March 6, 2015

People like the Colonel are few and far between. One of the years that I was at St. John Fisher College, there was a huge snowball fight in front of the library during the first snowfall. In the middle of it was Col. Shay, yelling at us for not positioning ourselves on the high ground for an advantage.

Gordon was warm, engaging, and we all hoped to answer a question in his Civil War class that would result in him tossing us a mini-ball.

He was a fantastic teacher, a great man, and we all miss that crazy laugh. "One of a kind" is an understatement.

Andrew Easterly

December 7, 2011

I had the honor of knowing Mr. Shay during his last two years at PHS. I still remember, as a freshman in 1988, he asked me if I could make sense of a slave inventory / census from the 1850s. I was amazed that he would ask me, a "lowly" freshman. I was also present for the last bocce tournaments, a Shay tradition at PHS. RIP

January 27, 2011

"Colonel" Shay was one of the nicest people I had the pleasure to meet while my daughter attended St. John Fisher College in the nineties. I went with her on several of his famous Civil War excursions to the battlefields of Maryland and Virginia, and I was always amazed at his ability to make that great conflict come to life for his students! His kindness, sense of humor, and historic expertise will certainly be missed by all of his former students and associates.
Greg Baumbach (Baldwinsville, NY)

Kristen Baumbach

January 27, 2011

I just happen to be reminiscing about old times and decided to google the "Col". I was saddened to see that he had passed over two years ago. I am not surprised to see how many people he has influenced, as evidenced by the 200+ entries here.
I took his Civil War History class at St. John Fisher, and went on several of the trips to Gettysburg and Antietam. He welcomed my father on those trips. My father and I forged a bond on those trips and through our shared love of history--the Col came into our lives at a time when my family really needed it, more than he knew.
My father still paints Civil War soldiers (for his many loyal ebay customer!), a hobby he began after one of the Col's trips. After college I took a leap of faith and moved to Virginia. I had seen on our trips to Antietam how the sun actually shines in winter down here. I now live in Fredericksburg, Virginia. My house sits on a Civil War battlefield, literally. I got married in a church that served as a hospital during the War, and still has a cannonball in one of its columns. Ironically, it is a Presbyterian church, one that I'm sure the Col had visited.
I highly doubt I would be here if I had not signed up for the Col's class. I'm so thankful our paths crossed when they did, and I feel very lucky to have known such an amazing person. -Kristen Baumbach SJFC '01

Lisa Katz

September 27, 2010

With some help from Jack Perry and Carol Carlton I have finally found my way to Gordy's site. I moved to Penfield in the fall of 1963, and I didn't get Mr. Shay for freshmen social studies. I was envious and curious when I'd hear fellow students talking about him with laughter and awe. I'd never heard the term "cut the mustard" before and wished I could hear it from the horse's mouth. Well, we finally met during my senior year in Arts and Western Man...and I recall having a great discussion on the bus back from a field trip. Gordy had a way of forging and maintaining connection. We miss his presence at our reunions...he was one of a kind and one of those people who left this world a better place. Godspeed Mr. Shay. Lisa Sobolsky Katz PHS '67

July 27, 2010

So many things can be said about Gordie, but in the end, I find him impossible to describe.
I think one of his most remarkable talents was that; to Gordie, no one was invisible. If you were in his classroom there was no place to hide and no need to. Not only could he lure even the quietist of students into discussions and projects, but made them feel that the entire class would be less if they weren't there; that every contribution was unique and appreciated. For me, that was a very new experience and opened up a whole new world.
My friends and family would attest that to this day I rarely opt out of a discussion and I am always willing to contribute an opinion. That lesson I learned so well from my dear friend and teacher may annoy others from time to time, but to me, I can only feel grateful.
Gordie, a million thanks.
Happy trails my friend.
Susan Pirrello Komczyk PHS'66

Marilyn (Williams) Pugliese

July 8, 2010

I never had Mr. Shay as a teacher, but I vividly remember him. I remember participating in a political campaign, going door to door distributing flyers. He had so much enthusiasm, and it was contagious. How wonderful to have such an impression on young people. I lived across the street from the Stevens family in those days, and babysat for the kids. That gave me some status at school - "wow, you babysit for Mr. Shay's sister's kids?!" I haven't forgotten him, even after all of these years.

Judy Taylor-Atkinson

June 17, 2010

Gordon was my teacher at Penfield High School. He was also my friend. He started a "morning coffee club" discussion group in 1967 and we would meet before school and talk about world events. The respect and enthusiasm I had for Gordon over rode my enthusiasm for sleeping in! I always kept in touch with him and shared his interest in the Civil War. He would suggest books for me to read and then we would discuss them. I miss talking and laughing with him.

James Gamble, Ph.D.

June 16, 2010

What enthusiasm! What a presence in the classroom! One of my four favorite teachers EVER. He told us of how we needed to "cut the mustard." My favorite quote from 9th grade world geography: "Tomorrow we're going to do Canada." He inspired me to do a project on Nigeria in Non-West Civilization, Fall, '67, which has led me to comparative literature and post colonial studies. I still tell my students of him and his work in my own teaching here at the University of Arkansas. I became a teacher because of the interest that he and other teachers took in me. May he rest in peace. Oh, and I remember when he shot the winning basket in a faculty basketball game fund-raiser. Seriously.

June 7, 2010

I was another lucky one to have had Mr. Shay as a teacher. I became a teacher also. When I taught about the Civil War I would tell my sstudents about Mr. Shay and his love of History. I also loved History. I would tell my students that I wanted to be like Mr. Shay when I grew up. They would laugh. But I remembered how he treated everyone and I try to do the same thing. Understand that we are all special and that we all have a place here. Everyone was honored to have known him. We have truly lost a great humanbeing.

Dianne Hegeman 76 Rochester, NY

David Durand

June 4, 2010

"Mr. Shay" is how I remember him as a member of the Penfield Class of 1974. He was, as many have said, among the very top teachers I have had, and I've been fortunate to study at some top institutions and discover how truly outstanding Mr. Shay was among his peers. We at Penfield High School were incredibly lucky to have such a star who could have easily taught at any top university.

His booming, deep voice in our relatively small classroom spoke for the energy he brought to his subject of history. But he also brought his brilliance. A great teacher is a great blessing to his students. He was that to me. A true presence, which does not and will not perish.

Matthew Jonak

May 27, 2010

I met Col. Shay at St. John Fisher College in 2000 and was lucky enough to travel with him on on two of his 'epic' Civil War trips to Antietam, MD and Gettysburg, PA. I will never forget those trips, the jokes he made in class or his passion for teaching.

Betsy Miner

May 3, 2010

So sorry I can't make the Celebration of Gordon Shay on 7/10/10. I live in Nevada now and business calls that week. I knew Gordy Shay since I was a little girl when he came to PHS and became close friends with my Father, George Rudman. We had so many good times and it was terrific to be supported by such a fantastic Teacher. When I think of Gordy I think of ENTHUSIASM! His love for history and his creativity with Bocce Tournaments and making every student feel special. What a gift to my life. Thank you. Hi, Janet - I hope you are enjoying your Grandchildren!
Betsy Rudman Miner

Teresa Preston

April 27, 2010

I was lucky enough to take Shay's Civil War class at MCC after he'd "retired". I remember him calling me every morning before class to make sure I was out of bed and on my way. I also went to Gettysburg with him, and his enthusiasm is what inspired my love of history. He never ceased to amaze me with his energy, quick wit, and the fact that he never forgot a student. He was my favorite teacher, and he's very much missed.

Jonathan Spencer

March 22, 2010

Mr. Shay organized the Bocce tournament for many years at PHS. As was typical, it was very "over-the-top" reflecting Gordon's love for life and his devotion to making the High School experience fun. I remember him fondly.

Beth Wilder, PHS '71

March 15, 2010

How special a time it was in PHS with Mr Shay. He had such a happy and light heart and communicated to even the shyest of students his acceptance of each one as valuable individuals. Reading all the entries has been a wonderful trip down memory lane. He lives on in all of our hearts.

January 29, 2010

Dear Shay Family,
Mr Shay organized turn around day when the kids taught the classes- maybe that is what inspired me to teach. He was always so responsive and caring. Our team won the bocce tournement in 76. High school always had challanges, but he was a person who put students first and valued those relationships- My condolences-
Susan
Minneapolis

Meg Andronaco Class of '79

January 27, 2010

Loved Mr. Shay as a teacher AND as the creator/organizer of the Bocce Parade & Tournament [my team won one year!]. He was the creme de la creme of teachers and mentors.... thanks, Mr. Shay

D. Covert

November 23, 2009

I was one of your column of ducks, Mr. Shay. You saw in me what others couldn't. It meant so much how you cared. Thank you from D. Covert

Kathy Cochran (Grover)

November 18, 2009

Coach Shay was an inspiration to me. His witty humor encouraged me to keep running even when my legs felt like lead.
For Winter track we had to run a countless number of laps in the gym for warm up. When you were about to give in, Coach Shay would make you feel guilty with his little laugh and say "My grandmother in army boots could run better than that!"

With Fond Memories,
Kathy (Grover) Cochran

Jeffrey Goldstein

November 3, 2009

I just learned of Mr. Shay's passing and am deeply saddened and my sympathies go to his family.
I was fortunate to have had Mr. Shay for his introduction to anthropology class at Penfield High School. I found it fun and challenging and wanting to learn more. He was a gifted teacher who was able to get the message of learning through in innovative and fun ways.

Jeffrey Goldstein, Class of 1974

William Schneider-PHS Class of 1970

November 3, 2009

I have had a lot of great teachers over the years.....but Shay was the best.

Barbara Miller

November 3, 2009

I have just now learned of Coach Gordy's death. He was a remarkable man who instilled the joy of learning in just about everything he did. I read over many of the entries, and was struck by the memories they brought back - the first Bocce tournament, the first coed track team, running in the halls of PHS, occasional history/philosophy discussions on the smelly rides back from rainy meets. I think he would be happy to know that those times resulted in an enduring friendship between myself, Kathy, Kris and Nancy that has lasted for over 35 years. I can't thank him enough for that gift.
Gordy Shay was endowed with an educator's mind, heart, and soul. He was truly a person who loved life, knowledge, and spreading that wealth. My condolences go to his wife and family. I hope they understand that pieces of Gordy exist within those of us he touched.

Barbara Miller, Class of 74

Carol Faust-Reissig

October 17, 2009

Lost to this world of ours is the most wonderful person...however, heaven has surely gained in our loss. I remember Gordy most by participating in the annual bocce tournaments he organized in the bus loop at Penfield High School. He made a point of getting to know each and every student in the school by name. Even though I graduated H.S. in 1974 and never had him as a teacher, he has always been in my heart and thoughts throughout the years. Gordy, you have left a permanent imprint on the many, many people you have touched throughout your life. We will miss you greatly.

Rob Liput

September 29, 2009

To Mrs Shay, Jennifer and Scott,

I was saddened to read about Mr. Shay's passing. He really was an inspiration to many, including me. His love of history was one of the reasons I decided to get my BA in History. I remember him often talking about the Morningside Bookshop here in Dayton, OH and all the Civil War books he was able to find there. I cant help think about him when I pass it from time to time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Carole Miller Lansberry

September 2, 2009

To Coach Shay I say "hut!" A happy memory is the year you decided the 4 "Miller" girls, who sat front to back in your homeroom, should run track for you. Barb, Lynne, Margie and myself joined the team and enjoyed (almost) every minute of it! We won a few and had lots of laughs along the way! You were a wonderful person, teacher and coach that will always be in my heart. You inspired me to be a teacher and I now have an office in Collegiate Academy where you went to high school. You are sadly missed.

Susan Winterlind

July 31, 2009

I have so many memories of my Uncle Gordie that it is impossible to put them all down here. My mom is Nancy, Gordon's sister. We lived in Penfield in the early 70's and I have lots of fond memories of being at the Shays. I loved his stories....his magic tricks - he used to pull potatoes out of our ears! He was always singing and had the most wonderful laugh. Truly, he was magic.

A funny story I can add here is one that my mom and I played on him! (Believe me, this was a real dumb joke.) My mom dared me to prank call him and pretend to be a radio show host. I told him the radio station was having a contest and that if he could answer one question correctly he would win $100. He seemed skeptical but he said ok. I asked him to name 3 cars that start with p. He thought for a moment and said, "Oh alright. Pontiac, Plymouth, and...Porsche." I said, "Oh, Mr. Shay, all those cars start with gas. I'm sorry, but you didn't win." I distinctly remember he said," What? Who the hell is this!?" Meanwhile, my mother is doubled over laughing behind me. I said, "Now Mr. Shay, don't hang up. I have someone here who wants to talk to you." I put my mother on the phone and the laughter continued. As you can imagine, we laughed about that for years.

I am in awe of all the entries here in this guestbook. He had such a gift for believing in people and getting them to believe in themselves. A true inspiration. I try to carry that with me every day.
With love, Susan Winterlind

Alicia Granville

July 31, 2009

It was suggested that "Col.'s" students honor him with a the playing of TAPS on a reenactment trip to Gettysburg. If a proper trip can be "planned" is there anyone that would be interested in going for a weekend in October like the 93rd used to? I know for some anything in August would be short notice. If you are interested email [email protected].
"Col." still influences so many of us even now, he is missed greatly by all those whose lives he touched.

Sgt.Gopher
93rd Pennsylvania Volunteer Infantry Regiment

July 30, 2009

Our heartfelt thanks for all who signed Gordon'sGuest Book. Your con-dolences and rememberances are treasures for us. Many of your names jog memories of days long past. Thanks to Jack Perry for keeping the book open. Live well! Sincerely, Janet, Scott and Jennifer Shay

James Wolf

July 29, 2009

THE EXTRAORDINARY

Each of us is more than anything
A composite of all those people
Who have touched our lives. But
There is that rare miracle that
Sometimes occurs - -when someone
Extraordinary becomes so much a
Part of us that we are able to live
Some of the dreams that we
Thought were not possible.

James E. Wolf

Written for Gordon Shay, an extraordinary man. Gordon displayed outstanding humanistic and technical qualities that became the catalyst for exemplary achievement while serving as an educator at all education levels. His enduring focus for organization and inspiration and the quest for excellence became a force throughout his career. His personality and courage embraced the necessary elements for changing and improving the services for students.
His wife Janet, son Scott, and daughter Jennifer played a profound role of love and courage in Gordon's life.
Perhaps one of his students will honor his life with the sound of taps at a future Gettysburg reenactment.

Carol Franz

July 21, 2009

My brother-in-law, Gordon, a/k/a The Colonel, was an energy-filled fun-loving friend and relative. His creativity ensured that all would have a good time as he prepared, invented and embellished activities and stories for the times when two or three or more were gathered together. In fact he could muster small crowds at diverse places such as Gettysburg and bocce ball tournaments. He was a community organizer before we heard that title. If there were little children around, he would mesmerize them with stories and games. When Gordon was present, there was sure to be lots of laughs, guffaws and good old fashioned fun. My family has fond memories of summer weeks at the beach with Gordon's family. He was a great book lover, especially Civil War books, but it was people who energized him. His enthusiasm and respect for Civil War history turned countless people into Civil War buffs. It is the Gordon of old, before his last illness, that I will cherish in my memory. The response to his life has been a real celebration and tribute.

Mark Kerxhalli

July 1, 2009

To his family, friends, and colleagues,
In the early summer of 1967, I came home after graduate school to interview for teaching jobs. One of my interviews was at Penfield High School with the principal, Wallace Howell.
After the interview, he told me to go to the district office and sign a contract with Phil Wood if I wanted the job. I thought that I should walk around and see the building where I would be spending the next 30 years of my life. As I walked around, I passed an open door on the 2nd floor and introduced myself to the person inside telling him that I would begin teaching at PHS in the fall.
He said " Hi! I'm Gorden Shay-Welcome Aboard!" and shook my hand. He made a total stranger feel welcome. That was one of the many gifts he had. That was how our friendship started and continued until he passed away. So many memories--so many stories--those useless referrals, after back to school night gatherings, early AM monthly breakfasts, Embry Drug softball, Perry's kitchen, Rudman's basement, Jenk's, the Grill, chess games, Gettysburg --- I miss you ol'buddy. Save me a place on the roster and we'll play two.

David Thomas

June 8, 2009

Thank you, Shay. Melissa Quinn writes below about the Bocce Festival Mr. Shay organized in 1976. When we sang the Hallelujah Chorus (to the words "Bocce, bocce"), the last four chords ended with the words: "Oh thank you, Shay!" I will ALWAYS think of Mr. Shay when I hear that music. Though I never had him as a teacher, I always noticed how well he treated people. He made PHS a better place.

Jill Davidson Becker

June 7, 2009

Mr. Shay was the most caring, loving, teacher I've ever had. I was a very shy and introverted student in the 70's. He made me feel that I was special and was worth knowing. He was the one bright light in a very awkward time of my life. I am heartbroken that I never got the chance to tell him how much he truly meant to me.

Dennis Kearney

May 28, 2009

I was really sad to hear about the death of Mr. Shay. I remember his never ending smile and his love of life.He was just one of the guys after softball games as he came into the Grill and he always treated everone with genuine interest and respect. I now watch my 18 yr. old son and how freely he connects with most of his teachers and I will always remember how Gordy did that with such ease and grace.

Dennis Kearney, Class of 67

david vought

May 22, 2009

To,Mr.Shay my memory of him are also assoiated with what were acomplishinn in our life.He was a teacher well know for that,manily because of what he put forth and people noticeed,and made pretty well known most of the time becaused they thought he deserved it.He seemed just like that,from what I saw.I had a cast he took pictures of and said to say a little about it if the right thing happe- ned.So this should do.Thanks go out so much because people,are like that. David Vought

Jeffrey Merritt

May 20, 2009

I had MR Shay as a homeroom teacher as well as a social studies teacher.He was a wonderful person as well as teacher. No matter how miserable I was in the morning He always made sure that by the time I left homeroom I was smiling and laughing. Who could ever forget the wonderful pollukaville he always talked about. HE will be deeply missed and always remembered in my heart
jeff merritt class of 1987

Beverly Booth

May 18, 2009

When I think of Mr. Shay his wonderful smile immediately comes to mind and then his great sense of humor. He was the kindest most caring teacher I ever had. He also was a phenomenal history teacher, he made you want to learn. He had a huge impact on my life and high school days. I'm so thankful I had him as a teacher. He made you think and learn to love everyone. Once you took his class you couldn't understand why anyone would be racist. He made you see the beauty in everyone. He taught me to take a stand and fight for my rights. He will always be somewhere in my heart. Thank you God for letting Gordon Shay into my life.

Class of 1971

Michael Higgins

April 24, 2009

To Janet and the rest of the Shay family:
When I was a scrawny freshman in the spring of 1977, I wanted to be a Bocce COP. Of course, I was way too small to be one but that didn't matter to Mr Shay. I got to be Bocce Security for four years.
In my junior year,the history class, that I was a member of, got invited over to his place for lasagna. We discover that I had become a bottomless pit for pasta. I think I ate three helpings of the very delicious lasagna.
Years later, in 1988, I came back from serving on active duty with the US Army in West Germany. They were running the Bocce tournament on the front lawn of PHS. He welcomed me and asked me if I wanted to play. He referred to me as "Sarge" and I told him that he had been my inspiration to join the Army. He actually looked horrified about that. I told him that he reminded me every day in High School that our citizenship was very precious and that we needed to defend it. I did that in the best way I could think of. I joined the military. He then asked me what I did for the Army and I smiled and stated "I am a tanker. I get to blow things up!" He chuckled at that.
I will miss him.
Hopefully he is teaching wherever the gods have sent him. The experience of having him as a teacher still remains with me today.

SFC(Retired) Michael Higgins, M1A1 Master Gunner, PHS Class of 1980.

Nancy Uffindell

April 21, 2009

Gordon Shay treated students as people whether he saw them in the classroom or at the donut shop on the way to school. Not only was he a teacher to many of the class of 1968, he was an advisor. He helped many on their way to life. He will be missed.

Robert Maziarz

April 18, 2009

I had Mr. Shay for senior social studies in 1981. Towards the end of the semester, he had everyone put down in writing their aspirations for the future. I, at the time, had no clue what to do with myself after high school. I only knew that I loved to build things. I wrote that I wanted to be a carpenter and handed in the paper. A few days later he caught me in the hallway and began asking me questions. He stood there asking me questions about carpentry and made me feel like I was going to be the best darn carpenter there ever was. Well, my career path changed a bit after that, but I still love working with my hands and have a very nice home to show for it. I think about him sometimes when I am in the middle of a project and wonder how he managed to give so much of himself to so many people. He was really something! He will be missed.

Bob Maziarz, Penfield High class of 1981.

Carol Carlton

April 17, 2009

To all friends of Gordon Shay:

The message I previously posted is being expanded and corrected here.

My corrected email address is [email protected]

Perhaps you could pass along to me the names of your class leaders who may already have started class email contact lists.

Or, if you would forward this message to all your email contacts who knew Gordy Shay, they can get in touch with us in order to be placed on the master contact list being collected.

Also, if you are willing to volunteer in planning for this event in any way we would like to hear from you.

Thank you. ~ Jack Perry, Summerfield, Florida

NOTE: This is being sent for Jack by Carol Tucker Carlton, PHS '67, at [email protected]. PLEASE SEND ME AND/OR JACK YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS FOR FUTURE NOTICES EVEN IF YOU CANNOT VOLUNTEER TO HELP WITH THE EFFORT! INCLUDE YOUR SCHOOL NAME & YEAR OF GRADUATION, or OTHER WAY THAT YOU KNEW MR. SHAY so we may categorize contacts for separate distribution lists.

Jack Perry

April 13, 2009

To all friends of Gordon Shay:

A few of us are organizing a Celebration of Gordon Shay's Life event which would have two purposes: 1. To bring us all together to share the experiences we had with Gordon; 2. To establish a permanent remembrance of Gordon.

We need help in contacting people, particularly the Penfield High School Classes from 1963 to 1989. We are looking for people in each class that have an e-mail list of their classmates. (We do not want the lists, we just need to know people who would be willing to use their lists to help make contacts.)

Also, if you are willing to volunteer in this effort in any way we would like to hear from you.

Please contact me at perrjd@gail .com

Thank you. Jack Perry

Rebecca Blumm

April 6, 2009

I have just finished reading a wonderful piece in the NY Times about a civil war soldier, and the events that lead to his identification ("Whose Father Was He?" by Errol Morris). As with anything related to the civil war, I thought of my very special teacher, Gordy Shay. I googled his name, hoping to perhaps get back in touch, and my heart sank when I came across the news that he just recently died. I am truly sad to have missed him by less than a year. It would have been wonderful to have one more conversation. Perhaps I'll re-read The Killer Angels, one more time, in his honor. Thanks for the memories!

Serveria Manning

March 18, 2009

Mr. Shay,

I just learned of your passing while searching for Penfield High School class of 1989. Let me tell you out of all the teachers that I had, you are the one I always remember. You were the nicest, and coolest teacher that I ever had. Even though social studies was not my best subject you always encouraged me. God Bless you and your family.

Vera Manning Class of 1989

James Dobner

March 10, 2009

Shortly after Gordon died I tried to post an entry. Believe me that I outdid myself. It was a fantasy about the Village Grill in Heaven. Gordon playing chess with Dave Manno. Jesse K. Heider was there, loudly lamenting the ignorance of the new recruits. Jim Burt, too, put in an appearance, admonishing everyone to get over it and order the most expensive item. We the living having to make do watching. Laughing. Wishing we could join the fun. I screwed up somehow and the speculative masterpiece was lost. So here is one more try in a more somber mood. Speculating that Gordon, with his fascination for the fields of death, was, in his way, Rochester's Whitman. He understood the enormity of the loss, the catalog of calamity that is constantly be updated by the merchant of death. Bargains galore! Shipping and handling included! And because he understood, was capable of communicating the reality of mass suffering in personal and indivdual terms. So it's with real if last minute joy that I join everyone who has preceded me "to sing one verse ... for the heavy hearts of soldiers".

Jessica Reszitnyk

February 11, 2009

I will miss you. I enjoyed learning and playing chess with you, I learned alot.

Tom Donnelly

November 24, 2008

In memory of Coach F. Gordon Shay - My sympathy to his family, friends, and students.

Coach Shay will be missed by all that knew him. I had the pleasure of knowing Coach Shay from the time I entered Penfield High, as my homeIroom teacher, 11th Grade Social Studies class, track coach, and a friend after graduation. Coach Shay knew how to listen to everyone, ask probing and thoughtful questions that made us think, and not only taught history, but real life history in the making, and to think about the impact. He prepared all of us for life, and to think of what we wanted to accomplish with our lives, and how we wanted to live our lives. Coach Shay made history come alive for everyone, and made all of think of how history has shaped our lives today, and in the future. History and Government were a passion of Coach Shay, along with his love of family, friends, and students.

Personally, Coach Shay encourage me to join the indoor track club he started, with Saturday meets at the University of Rochester, running through (or getting lost) in the UofR tunnels, practicing and sprint racing in the PHS halls, and for those of us on the PHS distance team, sprinting against the girl sprinters, making indoor track a full varsity sport and then co-ed, then continuing on to the newly formed co-ed Track team, and following on to Coach Foley's Cross Country team. Coach Shay shared his interests in photography, chess, track, and Boccie Ball with all his students. I still remember his interest in US Government, History, Civil War, Korean War, current politics, photography, and chess. After graduation, Coach Shay and I were able to stay in touch, discussing saving the Manassas Battlefield, getting rid of the tower at Gettysburg, his Gettysburg trips, and current events, he was always a true friend. Coach Shay was able to share how he was part of the record setting track relay team in Erie, his experiences in the Korean War; and his life in Rochester with his students.

While Coach Shay made PHS fun, he also made learning fun, and was an inspiration not only to his students, but also his fellow teachers and parents he got to know. It was fun discussing Jack Perry's re-election campaign for the NYS Senate, and the national and local issues that were current or of interest to his students, and his urging of students to get involved and ask candidates to discuss the issues important to us as students. It has been a pleasure to read the thoughts of so many of Colonel Shays SJFC students on his impact on their lives.

Coach Shay's favorite quote from the track was "Come back with your shield, or on it", from Spartan history. After 73 years of coming back with his shield, Coach Shay has come back to god on it. While he will not be with us physically, he will always be in our spirits guiding our lives, and recording history. We can all keep his memory alive.

Tom Donnelly - PHS 74 Bethesda, MD

Sgt. Gopher of the 93rd PA

November 24, 2008

Everytime I look at the guestbook I think of more things to say about "Col." Everytime I step on to campus at SJFC I think about "Col." and miss him more and more. Needless to say attending my Graduate classes has become more about honoring him and being the best teacher I can so that I carry as he would be proud of. I have my list of "col"ism taped to my desk, and find that when I am in need of him he is always there. I think my heart will always be in Gettysburg at the top of Little Round Top, looking out across the field with him next to me telling me I was a dear heart for humoring him so much. And I don't mind it being there. I could never thank him enough for all that he showed me in life, learning and love (his love of learning, teaching, and for those he cared for).

Christopher Cole

November 21, 2008

I've taken months to try to figure out what to say, and I still don't know. He told us once that you never leave a place like Antietam, but I think really that someone like The Old Man never leaves you. I'll see you out on the fields every time I'm there, sir.

And yes, Potter, you still have to take the final!

Sgt Cole
Point Guard
93rd Pennsylvania Volunteer Infantry Regiment

Andy Ferguson

November 14, 2008

Shay, I only recently learned of your passing. You would be pleased to know that we recently elected a Democrat back to to the White House. He's African American and reminds us all of how far we have come as a nation. I recall the day that Reagan beat Mondale in 1984 and you, Stewart and others in the Social Studies department all wore mournful black clothing to school the next day. Too much! I am deeply saddened to hear of the passing of the best teacher I ever had. Shay was an icon at PHS. He was the guy we all waited to have as a teacher once we made it to 11th grade. Shay, I will always remember the lunch we shared at the Penfield Tavern several years after I graduated and when I had finally found my career path and decided to enter the education profession. You recommended that I read Robert Bly and posed to me the two most important questions I would ever pause to consider, "Where are you going?" and "Who are you taking with you?" Shay, you would be happy to know that I found the "fire in the belly" and that those questions have been answered. Often when I interact with students in the international schools I have come to call "home", I feel your impact on me. You taught me to be a global thinker and compassionate person. I know there are countless others you inspired in your illustrious career and they feel your impact as well. Jack Perry is absolutely right, you were a cut above the rest of 'em. Rest in peace Mr. Shay. Thank you for your impact and inspiration. Andy Ferguson, PHS Class of'85

Betsy (Mangano) Azzarito

October 5, 2008

Dear Shay Family,
I just read an announcement on classmates. com that Mr. Shay passed away - I am truly sorry for your loss. Mr. Shay was the first teacher I met when I arrived at Penfield High for the first time. I was a senior and in a new school, it was very scary. Mr. Shay said that a good way for me to meet other students was to run for Bocce Queen. I don't know how I would have made it through being a first year senior if it wasn't for Mr. Shay. What a wonderful man, what a terrible loss for all those that have known him.

Sandra Mancuso

September 28, 2008

Mr. Shay was the most wonderful teacher at Penfield High School. As a young teenager, I knew then how much he cared about his students. I was blessed to have him as a teacher.

Amber Collins

September 5, 2008

Shay Family,
I took the Civil war class with Colonel Shay and went on trips two years in a row. He's such a loved and respected man, I am very sad to hear of his passing! I will never forget what would have happened if the stop and shop and the a and p had merged!! All my love and respect...

Gordon Kidder

September 3, 2008

Dear Shay Family,
I recently learned of Gordon's passing at an East High reunion picnic. Gordon and I go back to Erie where I knew Earl and Nancy at East High. As a map and textbook salesman I happened upon him at Penfield high school and later at Fisher. We always greeted each other with a "Hi Gord" and I can understand the 18 pages of heartfelt memories in these guest book entries because he always was upbeat and treated me like the old friend I was delighted to be. Bye Gord, "RIP".

Maria Martella

August 22, 2008

Dear Shay family,

I am just so shocked and saddened of the news. My prayers are with you..I am just getting my mail now. I never use my default email , and thanks to the Penfiled School Reunion comittee, I was sent this by Andrew..

Looking at the School year book pictures, of Mr. Shay and more recent pictures at 2002 Reunion he looks graet Reunion pictures he looked like he was enjoying life, as always, spreading laughter...
God ,him and Mr Taddeo and maybe one other were my favorite Teachers... I remember very well the year, he talked me into running for Bocci Queen, it was a great time, I adored him, a fine man who had great influence on my life..and many lives There was never a time I could not go to him, and just talk, he made Social Studies fun , I enjoyed going to his classes, and he wil be sadly missed..Your family is in my prayers

Sincerly ,
Maria Martella

Nancy (Shay) Stevens

August 22, 2008

Gordon was my little brother. I remember the day he was born at home. I was sent to a neighbor for the day and when I came home I had a baby brother. He was the youngest of seven children, and the 5th boy.
I have lots of memories of him, of course. My family lived in Penfield for about 4 years and my children were looking forward to being in Uncle Gordies' class. Alas, Xerox moved us to Texas before that happened.
I am very touched by the number of people who have written to tell the rest of us what he meant to them.
He always had advice for life. I remember two of his best: "Don't get on the wrong bus.", and "Tell me where you are going and who is going with you." I bet many of his former students remember those as well.
He was an extraordinary story teller, but I often thought I knew those stories better than he remembered how he told them the first time. We did hear them over and over!
Since I am the last sibling, I miss him very much. He and I had many laughs, especially these last few years.

Erin Debski

July 29, 2008

Dearest Shay Family,
In looking over the guestbook, we were all blessed to have him in our lives, if only for a semester. Not many people would have such a warm and sincere send off as your dear Col. Shay. My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief.

I always hoped my path would cross his again, perhaps when the Stop and Shop merges with the A&P to become the . . . . ?

With Great Sympathy,

Erin (May) Debski
Class of 2000

Julie Favreau (Jeb Stuart)

July 28, 2008

I am very blessed to have had the opportunity to have someone as special as the Colonel in my life. I’m so happy that he allowed me to attend his class, even though I was from the wrong side of the bridge (Greece). I learned a lot about the Civil War during Col’s class, but he taught me so much more about life and how to live it. Colonetta & Family, thank you for sharing this wonderful person with all of us.

Jack Perry

July 28, 2008

I frequently would say to Gordon, "You are the best teacher in whole world." Of course, Gordon would laugh. Well, it was true from my perspective. Gordon was the best teacher in my world. This is not to slight any of my esteemed colleagues from Penfield High School who taught with us in the 1960s and 1970s, but Gordon was head and shoulders above all of us.

Gordon personally cared for each student who came into his class and each student he knew even if they were not in his class. He could understand a person better than they could understand themselves. He could always see a person's merits or strengths. He catered to those strengths which made it possible for a person to feel good about themselves and achieve on their own terms.

This is why so many students were Gordon's friends. The evidence is here in these testimonials. Even people who have not seen Gordon since they graduated from high school still consider him a friend.

It was a tragic day when Gordon left Penfield High School, but he went on to Saint John Fisher College and had the same impact on college students as he had on high school students.

I had the privilege of going on Gordon's last trip to Gettysburg. I was amazed. I have never seen such a daily expression of love, honor, respect and admiration from students toward a teacher than during those three days.

There are thousands of students who can say Gordon Shay made a difference in their life. What a tremendous legacy.

And Gordon was my friend too. I will dearly miss him.

P.S. I would like to have people submit there remembrances of Gordon the athlete, story teller, fisherman etc. so we can develop a complete record of Gordon's life.

Carol (Tucker) Carlton, PHS1967

July 24, 2008

Janet and Family,
I last enjoyed seeing Gordy with you at my step-father's funeral in Nov. 2006. I have a little story about a surreptitious lesson Mr. Shay taught me during freshman Geography class in 1964. He was planning to go over the homework handout question sheet so we all took it out. Heading through the desk rows for the back of the room (he was found of mingling throughout the desks when he lectured), he called upon me to head to the podium to lead the discussion. I flushed and knew it would be tough to pull off since I hadn't done my homework. I fumbled my way through it with Mr. Shay leading me to answer and grilling me at the same time. I am quite sure he had seen my homework page was blank--he didn't say a word, but he let me suffer the consequences. I learned an embarrassing lesson! We will all miss his company at our class reunions....I am sorry to have missed the funeral but my thoughts are with you even at this late date for guest book entries...

Chris Baumer

July 17, 2008

My sincerest condolences to your family. How fortunate I am to have had Mr. Shay as a teacher! I was in PHS, class of 1983. Mr. Shay was an inspiration and a true friend, and he truly cared.
There is one memory I'll always have from my days with him at PHS. My family used to vacation every April in Florida, and I'd miss a few days of school. Prior to the vacation, the school made me take a form around to all my teachers to sign regarding my absence. One teacher wrote "I do not approve of this absence.". The next teacher to sign, Mr. Shay, saw that and he went berserk. He wrote: "I most definitely approve, Chris needs the rest!" Mr. Shay was one of a kind. Godspeed to you, good Sir.

Lori Shirley

July 17, 2008

Mr. Shay was one of my favorite PHS teachers- he provided inspiration and friendship, and helped to instill in me a lifelong love of learning. My class '83 was also very fortunate in having Mr. Shay and Mr. Foley as our class advisors, and they certainly provided us with a lot of laughs during our time at Penfield HIgh. My condolences to his family, his friends, and the many, many people he has touched over his long career.

John Weber (SJFC '00)

July 16, 2008

Although he always reminded me I was from NJ ("What exit again?"), Col. Shay impacted my life and the lives of all his students in ways we can never measure nor fully appreciate. He will be greatly missed - but it was a pleasure having the chance to know him and learn from him. From Gettysburg trips to chess to bocce, he always had a smile and something interesting to share.
As a salute to him, I've compiled a short (surely incomplete) list of his quotes - "Everything I Need to Learn in Life I Learned From Col. Shay":
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- Readiness - “Keep your powder dry.”
- Retaliation - “Phooey on you!”
- Security - “First your flanked, then your….”
- Realism - “If Stonewall Jackson was at Gettysburg, he would have smelled funny because he’d been dead for three months!”
- Caution - “I’ve got the blow-torch and you’re on thin ice.”
- Respect -“Coffee General?”
- Compassion - “How are you?”
- Priorities - “Where are you going and who’s going with you?”
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Godspeed to the Colonel's family, and thank you for sharing him with us!

Gail (Jimerson) Watson

July 11, 2008

My deepest condolences to the Shay family. I recently learned of Colonel's passing and cannot tell you how deeply sorry I am for your loss. When I went to SJFC, I had no idea what memories I would leave with. When I graduated one of the fondest memories I had was of the Colonel. What a phenomenal impact he had on me and the many others who were fellow members of the 93rd. Col. always said that he hoped he would be visiting Little Round Top and see former students on field trips with their own students. "Keep your powder dry, Colonel, We'll see you at the top." Your legacy lives through us. God Bless.

Karen (Yonkers) Callanan

July 10, 2008

Col. Shay will be greatly missed. He made learning history fun and he was always so full of energy. He loved life and he loved coffee! Remember, "The nectar of the Gods!"
There are so many inspiring life lessons that he has taught me that I often reflect upon. It was a pleasure being a part of his Civil War class, but an even greater gift of just knowing him.
May he rest in peace. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.

Susie (Casper) Pevear - PHS '70

July 9, 2008

Gordon Shay, how do I love thee. You were a great teacher, a great inspirer and a great friend! You will always remain these things in my heart. You taught about history, about life and about how to live it to the fullest. I will always remember our trip to the inner city for a school project, fun parties at the Kerxhalli house, political elections and the "Hemlock" episode at PHS. My condolences to your family, friends and students ... we all miss you very much.
Hugs,

Eric Blumenau

July 9, 2008

I'm another student who thought the world of Colonel Shay. I was not able to make his famous Gettysburg Trip in high school but caught up with him again at St. John Fisher. What can I say? I can count on one hand the number of teachers that kept me interested from K-12 (and on through my bachelors, masters, and law degree) and Shay is/was one of the best.

Eric
Penfield '89

Melissa Gentile Haubner

July 9, 2008

I had the pleasure of being a member of the first regiment to go to Gettysburg with Colonel Shay. I must say, it was one of the greatest experiences of my time at Fisher, and it is one I shall never forget. Colonel Shay was an incredible teacher, and his passion for the Civil War was infectious. He will be greatly missed not only by his family, but the students whose lives he touched!

Rob Winslow

July 8, 2008

Plain and simple, Gordon was one of the good ones. We had a similar love of military history, especially the Civil War. Years ago, I met him in Gettysburg and got a personal tour -- something I will never forget.

I always enjoyed talking with him and listening to his stories. He was a good man and a good friend, and I will miss him. We need to keep him alive in our hearts, and carry his lessons with us throughout life.

I certainly will.

Gordon Remington Penfield '75

July 6, 2008

I just heard of Mr. Shay's passing I wanted to share my memory of a teacher who fostered intellectual curiosity and had fun doing it. He took an interest in his students that encouraged involvement. The many comments on this board are a testimony to his legacy.

Sara Romeyn

July 4, 2008

I just learned of Mr. Shay's passing. My family and I are in town for a week-long trip on the Erie Canal and we were at the Fairport parade this morning and got the news. Mr. Shay was, simply said, an awesome teacher. I am now a high school teacher of American history, and I hope that my classes are even 1/10th as interesting! My sympathy and prayers go to his family.
Sara Romeyn, PHS '87 (now at the Bullis School in Potomac, MD)

Kelly (Krause) Bates

July 4, 2008

In my academic, professional, and personal life, there are signs of the Colonel and his influence on me everywhere. Because of his infectious enthusiasm for education and history, I pursued a graduate degree at Penn State with a thesis topic on the “Role of Women in the American Civil War.” Because he told me the world could not live without me as a teacher, I now educate future history teachers in the Education department at SUNY Fredonia. Where, of course, I start each semester standing on a desk telling my students that I will get them to Appomattox by the end of the semester. Because of his love as a dear friend, I stepped out of my own wedding procession to give the Colonel a hug. In my living room hang three huge framed Civil War maps depicting the three days struggle at Gettysburg – a gift from a one time Columbia University geography student turned historian. Although a small part of the Colonel may be gone, there still remains a huge part of him in my life and in the lives of all the students he touched. He will always make my heart laugh and I feel privileged to have known him. And for the small part of him which has moved on I am sure my two dogs, General Buford and Father Corby, are greeting him in heaven.
SJFC '92

Terry Bates

July 4, 2008

Early Saturday morning, June 14th, two men are walking along a misty field of ankle high grass reminiscent of Southern Pennsylvania pasture land. The first man, a bit shorter and the older of the two, moves along at a deliberate clip with a well stocked field pack, walking stick, and tinted glasses. The second man, younger and taller than the first with a boyish confusion, shuffles first in one direction and then the other contemplating which direction to go.
“You look confused solider.” the older man says breaking his cadent march. “Do you have your marching papers?”
“Marching papers? Well. . . no. . .I did not know I needed any.” replied the second man.
The older man peers at the taller over the top rim of his glasses, rubs his chin, and smiles, “Boy, you are confused and you look like you need some coffee. . .got any?”
“Got any what?” came the reply.
“Coffee?” said the older man followed by a slight giggle.
“Well. . . no again.” replied the younger man looking around for some sign of camping supplies.
“Just what I thought.” snaps the older man as he opens his field pack. “Lucky for you, I packed a little extra. Now sit on down and tell me what’s buggin’ you.”
The younger man paces around a bit and finally settles on a cool rock, squeezes his eyes tight, and says, “The last thing I remember I was working the Washington news room, then I had chest pains, and then I was here. And I don’t even know where here is.”
“Yeah, I was a little surprised to see you along this marching route.” replies the older man as he tends to his rations.
The young eyes pop open, “You know who I am?”
“Of course I know who you are Mr. Russert.” smiles the older man. “What do you think I am. . .some kind of ninny? A history teacher who never watched Meet the Press is like the man who has two pair of pants and burns a hole in his jacket.”
Tim Russert asks, “Then what happened to me?”
“Well,” replies the older man, “given where you were, what you felt, and where you are standing, let’s just say the horse on your monument has one hoof off the ground.”
“What?” replies Tim.
“Don’t worry; I have a book for you in my pack from Borders’ that explains the whole thing. In fact, I might have your book stashed somewhere in here as well.” says the older man.
“May I ask who you are?” inquires Tim.
“Certainly, I am Gordon Shay. . . some of my students referred to me as ‘the Colonel.’ replies Colonel Shay.
“Referred?” Tim says.
“Yes,” replies the Colonel, “and for the record, my horse has all four hooves on the ground. I got hit with a couple mini balls along the way but none of them did me in”
Russert then asks, “So, I gather you were a teacher?”
“Well,” contemplates the Colonel, “you and I both spent our lives doing a similar thing – asking a lot of questions. You asked questions of guests on your show and I asked questions of my students. It’s not the answers that are important, you know. . . it’s the questions that matter.”
Russert reflects, “Yeah, I guess I did get to interview some interesting and important people.”
“Did you interview many teachers?” replies the Colonel.
“No.” Russert says.
“Well then you didn’t interview the most important people, did you?” Shay replies with another giggle as he tosses back the remaining coffee in his cup and packs up his gear.
The two men continue through the grassy field which becomes speckled with rocks and small boulders and then gives way to a gradual wooded incline. The Colonel proceeds with a deliberate pace as if he has walked this same route one hundred times and Russert follows in close ranks. The men climb the small hill in short order and approach a small cubed shaped polished stone with a man resting upon it. Upon seeing the two travelers approach the man snaps to full attention and salutes.
“As you were.” says the Colonel
“Colonel Shay, I have been expecting you.” says the man dressed in Union blue. “From one teacher to another, I wanted to thank you for keeping me and the other boys in the hearts and minds of your students and for teaching them about what happened here.”
“It was truly my pleasure, Mr. Chamberlain.” beams the Colonel.
“Now,” continues the soldier, “I need to ask you where you are going and who are you going with?”
The Colonel pulls himself up straight, pulls back his shoulders, and replies, “I am headed to Appomattox and I am taking my new friend, Tim. He knows how to ask one heck of a question.”
The three men walk off together into the morning mist away from the 20th Maine.
SJFC '92

Jim Baumann

July 3, 2008

Dear Shay Family:

I had the pleasure of being in the Colonel's class while attending Fisher (1989-1993)...I went to Gettysburg with him and seeing history through his eyes, especially the Civil War, was one of the best classroom experiences I ever had in college. He will be missed - know that he made a difference to many of us.

Alicia Granville

July 3, 2008

Dear Janet and the rest of the Shay family;
It is still hard to believe that "Col" has moved on to watch over all of us from a better view. I never got the chance to tell him how his influence and passion lead me to decide to try and get my Teaching Certification. I wrote about him in part of my application, and I think that it was because of him that I was accepted into a very competitive program. "Col" inspired me to love learning, and to want to help others find that same joy. I am eternally grateful for all that I learned from him. I have an unlimited supply of memories and stories from my time with him and the 93rd. Everyone of them brings a smile to my face, and the reminder of the lessons he taught me, both about the Civil War and about life. He was, to use his own words "a dear heart". I was honored to be his Gopher (go for...) for the trips from Spring 99-Fall '02.
I thank you for sharing him with all of us. He inspired everyone he met. And he will be greatly missed.

Kerstin Strand

July 2, 2008

My favorite memory of high school was the trip to Gettysburg w/Gordy. Even though the bus kept breaking down and had no air conditioning he was always in good spirits. When we finally got to the hotel he said good night to everyone personally. It was a trip I will never forget because of him.
Something else I will never forget was when he retired and alumni did a special tribute. At the end of the tribute Gordy said "At ease" and the entire group of us collapsed.
Several times when he did book discussions or lectures at the Penfield library my sister & I would go. I know he was always pleased to see former students. He has touched so many lives, he will never be forgotten.
PHS '89

Tom Higginbotham

July 2, 2008

People like Shay don't die, do they? He was one of the great ones and his heart and passion for life and doing and saying what was right were unparalleled. T

Bob Bloss

July 1, 2008

Janet: So sorry and sad to have learned of Gordon's passing. You and I, of course, go all the way back to Jefferson Grade School, but I got to know Gordy only at 10thgrade when you Wilson "kids" came to Academy. I very much enjoyed our three years together; then, again when we reminisced with big grins and exaggerated old war stories at those delightful reunions. I'll miss that. I know you and your family will miss him greatly. But you have wonderful memories.

Mary Kay Rudman Jiloty

June 30, 2008

Dear Janet, Jennifer and Scott,

I was in Italy at the time of Gordy's passing. Somehow that seemed fitting as I remembered all the fun bocci tournaments at PHS.

Janet, I am so glad that Chris, Betsy, Mom and I had a chance to see you and Gordy at the Snyder's and the Wilcox's last summer. It gave us a chance to relive some of our great memories. We had lots of good times at the Grill and in the basement of 2 Ludlow Way. I know this is a very sad time for you now, but I hope that soon you will be able to look back at all those good times and smile. Gordy has had a tremendous impact on generations of kids coming out of both PHS and SJFC.

With all our love and sympathy,
Mary Kay (Rudman) & Mike Jiloty
PHS, Class of '70

Kathy Negus

June 28, 2008

My condolences to Janet, Jennifer & Scott. I am sorry that I could not attend the service but I did send my emissary (and husband) Jim (Dobner). Gordon was a wonderful teacher and friend and his enthusiasm for life, learning and people in general, was infectious. He will be missed but will always be in our hearts and thoughts!

Marcie LaRose

June 25, 2008

My deepest sympathy goes out to the Shay family. I was blessed to have Colonel Shay as an advisor and as a professor at SJFC. He was an amazing man with great character. He will truly be missed but never forgotten. God Bless.

Dave Hicks

June 24, 2008

To the Shay Family:

Those that knew Gordy are not surprised to see all that follows here. I hope it provides the comfort you seek during this difficult time.

Gordy:

We were amazed at how you could read a classroom and determine in short order if it was "on" or if we were going through the motions. You had that great, rare ability to make us jump from the latter to the former.

The time you took for extra-curriculars changed lives tenfold. What grew out of speed chess tournaments in the ninth grade was an appreciation of a lifetime of learning, chess clubs in elementary schools across Western New York, and at the very least raised the IQ of all my children.

Dr Erich Marchand ain't got nothin' on you!

Thanks for picking me up when I needed it. Thanks for the USCF on Tuesday nights at the YMCA. Thanks for the visit to meet my boyz. Thanks for all the great memories of Kibitzing! You will live forever...

Nicole Harris

June 24, 2008

Col. Shay had been on my mind shortly before I heard about his death. He did so much more than teach a class - he had a way of inspiring learning, but also a sense of self and belonging. I wish I had contacted him when he crossed my mind, but we always think we have so much time with these things. He is already so very missed.

Jeff Rothstein PHS '85

June 24, 2008

My heartfelt condolences to the Shay family. I remember a passionate and animated Mr. Shay playing chess at PHS. When Mr. Shay asked me to join the Chess Club I remember being concerned about what other people might think. He told me that if I wanted to, I could meet him to play chess w/ a few of his friends. So I stayed on the chess club and about every other month or so, I would tell my parents I was going out to study – I just didn’t tell them it was at the Penfield Tavern playing chess with Mr. Shay. Mr. Shay taught me some great lessons - don’t worry about what other people think, take a chance, and always be yourself. Thank you Mr. Shay.

Kimberly Yaw (Maina)

June 24, 2008

I never, regretfully, had the pleasure of having Mr. Shay, and how jealous I was of all who did!! Even not having him as a teacher, he still touched my life and made PHS a better place to be every day I was there, always acknowledging me with a kind word and thought. He will be unbelievably missed and has left such an impression for the better on all who had the pleasure of knowing him.

Michelle (DeLong) Podosek

June 24, 2008

I had the pleasure of being in Colonel Shay's class at Penfield H.S. and traveling to Gettysburg and Antietam. I still smile at the memory of Colonel Shay telling us that we were his favorite class (5th period), but not to tell his other classes because they might feel bad. And he added that he had also told the other classes they are his favorite just as a precaution, in case it gets back to them, so their feelings are not hurt, but we should know that we were REALLY his favorite.
His humor and love of life made everyone happy. He was one in a milllion.

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