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Robert Merrick "Bobby" Bethea Jr.

1946 - 2011

BORN

1946

DIED

2011

Robert Bethea Obituary

Robert Merrick "Bobby" Bethea Jr. died Tuesday, Sept. 13, 2011, in New York City, N.Y., of pancreatic cancer. Funeral: 3 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 20, at St. John's Episcopal Church, Fort Worth. Burial of cremains will take place in St. John's columbarium. Memorials: Donations may be made to your favorite charity. Bobby was born Feb. 21, 1946, in Fort Worth. He was preceded in death by his parents, Dorothy Jean and Robert Bethea. Bobby attended TCU and graduated from Paschal High School and Stephen F. Austin University. He was employed more than 30 years by the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York and held a supervisory position. He was renowned for his encyclopedic knowledge, razor sharp wit, kindness and humility. Survivors: Sister, Susan Ellis James; brother-in-law, Michael James of Carrollton; aunt, Ann Kinney; uncle, Charles Kinney, both of Lake Conroe; and various other family members.

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Published by Star-Telegram on Nov. 16, 2011.

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Paula Black Furick

November 10, 2024

I think of Bobby often, and remember the fun times we had growing up. Still missing him...

pix

November 10, 2024

He used to wake me up by playing "Chicken Fat" sung by Robert Preston from some religious camp he attended as a youngster. So, even with a hangover, it made me laugh.

Brenda Prothro

February 26, 2024

At last I found you, Bob

Brenda Prothro, SFA 1967

Stephen Smith

November 10, 2023

On old and snowy day in December 1962 or 3 Bobby and I tried to get Bob´s Jeep started so we went to my house and tried to start the Renault by pushing it up the hill on Ryan Place Drive then letting it roll down the hill and pop the clutch. Total waste of time, but we got a lot of walking done.

Stephen Smith

November 10, 2022

I still think a lot about Bobby and still miss him. Rest eternal grant unto him O Lord and May Light perpetual shine upon him.

Lynda Tirhi

November 12, 2019

Remembering Bobby always warms me- he was a kind and beautiful soul.

Stephen Smith

November 11, 2019

Bobby was my best and dearest friend growing up. We kept in touch throughout the years. I really miss him and continue to pray for his soul.

Lorca Simons

May 20, 2013

Today and everyday I am loving you Bobby. The chime in my garden is chiming in the wind. I know you are with me. The garden is bursting with colour and light. The black bamboo rustles. The smell of fresh rain is in the air. I'm smiling feeling you. Blessings on this day and your presence in my life.

Tom Fowler

November 13, 2012

No one but Bobby could make me laugh as he gently pushed my face down into a plate of mashed potatoes. Only he could get away with that! Even though I miss him so much, it brings me so much pleasure to remember our times together. Bless you, BB, and all BB-lovers.

Lisa Rice

November 12, 2012

To my favorite first cousin.....who I miss everyday!
It's about time to decorate for Christmas. I hope you're watching over me because without your divine intervention, pretty sure I won't do it according to your standards. You've always been so picky about proper placement of decorations after all. You even forbid me to help, limiting my participation to that of a silent observer. Which was why one of my greatest delights was to wait until you went to bed during my December visits, then move everything around - especially Mary, Joseph, and the baby Jesus.

You can still make me laugh! XOXOXO

BARBARA FINCH

November 10, 2012

ONLY THREE PEOPLE KNEW OOFTY GOOFTY...GOD BLESS US...

November 10, 2012

SELDOM A DAY GOES BY WITHOUT A THOUGHT
OR REMEMBRANCE OF YOU. SO MANY MEMORIES
FILL MY HEART - AND HOW PROUD I ALWAYS
WAS. ONLY YOU COULD BE SO AUDACIOUS AND GET AWAY WITH IT! PART OF YOUR
CHARM? SO LOOK FORWARD TO FEELING
YOUR BIG BEAR HUG SURROUNDING ME
ONCE MORE.

FOREVER LOVE, AUNTIE

Susan Ellis

August 14, 2012

A month before you have been gone a year - a vast hole has appeared with many special memories - you live still dear brother

November 18, 2011

As Tommy said..Bobby was my brother and friend as much as any member of my family ever was. Anything I would attempt to say, would not even come close.. so ... move on, BB , as we all will oneday.

Gilmore Lauderdale

November 18, 2011

Susan , So glad I knew Bobby and what a Brother he was . We always shared memories of St John's activities . Sincerest condolences to you & your family .

Lynda Buckley Tirhi

November 17, 2011

Susan - I'm so sorry for your family's loss. I knew Bobby throughout all my years of public school but lost touch after we left high school. I have lots of fond memories of his humor and good nature. He called me "Buckwheat" since my maiden name was Buckley and I didn't mind because he had such a sweet spirit about it. I used to sell him my Hostess snowballs from my lunch for a nickel in grade school. And he was such the actor in our junior high school play "Cheaper by the Dozen"- he could really ham it up. Such a dear friend to all who knew him. His humor and kindness are missed by all who knew him.

Sandy Bethea

November 17, 2011

Bobby I wish I would have none you better. I am sure we would have had alot of fun. God bless you and be with you always.

Stephen Smith

November 17, 2011

Bobby was my oldest and dearest friend from elementary school 'till his death. We talked on a regular basis these last few months and I will miss him terribly.

Carol Black Harrel

November 16, 2011

Dear Susan,
I'm so sorry to hear of Bobby's death. I always admired his gentleness and sense of humor.

Lloyd Morris

November 16, 2011

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Anita Taylor

November 16, 2011

Bobby always brought a smile to my face and was always fun and interesting to be around. Life was an adventure to him and anyone who knew him and was lucky enough to share his life. Although I didn't get to see him much in our adult lives I will never forget his beautiful smile and kind heart and the happiness he brought to everyone around him. Rest well, sweet Bobby!

November 16, 2011

To an amazing brother

Susan Ellis

November 16, 2011

To an amazing brother who could talk the language of our childhood to me. What a ride you had ! Telling me you loved your life and did everything you wanted to do ! You go off on your new journey with as much wonder as you had in this one!
Sweet dreams my best brother
Love You Always-?Susan

pix and cathy howell

November 16, 2011

To the man who helped me realize how important my love was, turned me on to Bridget Nielsen, interpreted Ionesco for me and made a savage an artist. Where do we go and how do we get there? Love, Pix and Cathy.

Kris Kinney

November 16, 2011

To Bobby, you could always make me smile...still do

Tom Fowler

November 16, 2011

I loved Bobby more than I could have loved a brother, and was blessed to know him for so long. Until we meet again, BB

November 16, 2011

Oh, Susan, I'm so saddened to hear of Bobby's passing. We had just last year re-connected after so many years, bringing back memories as if they were yesterday.

Paula Black Furick
PHS class of 1964 and friend from 'diaper days'

November 16, 2011

Susan,
I was so sorry to hear of your bother's death. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers in the weeks ahead.
Susan Burton Kneten
PHS class of 1962

November 16, 2011

To an amazing brother

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