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DAVID GRAPER Obituary
Dr. David Carlton Graper passed away unexpectedly Saturday 9/11/10. He was 38 years old. Born March 10, 1972 in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida at Holy Cross Hospital, he moved to Gainesville with his family as a teenager, graduating from Newberry High School in 1990. After medical school he had been a Family Practice Physician in Gainesville and Hawthorne for several years. David was devoted to his profession and loved by all who knew him.
David was an avid Gator fan, loved water sports and any beach. He loved to travel, some favorite destinations being Costa Rica, Amsterdam and Jamaica. He also was very devoted to his pets, Coco and Jane. He expressed himself passionately about the things that were important to him. He was a devoted husband and a good friend to all who knew him.
He is survived by his wife, Amy Rowell, brother, Marcus O. Graper, parents Charles and Beverly Graper, uncle, Mike Vernacchio, and grandmother Margaret Vernacchio. Also by his in-laws, Jill Boulware, Gary and Sylvia Rowell, Katherine and Jeremy Witt, Elijah and Olivia Witt, John Rowell, Libby Rowell, Dan and Sue Boothby and many other extended family members. David was preceded in death by his Grandfather, Willis Vernacchio.
Memorial contributions may be made to Haven Hospice and/or Gainesville Pet Rescue.
The family will receive friends on Friday, September 17, 2010 from 6:00 p.m. 8:00 p.m. and a funeral service will be at 10:30 a.m. on Saturday, September 18, 2010 at Milam Funeral Home Chapel 311 South Main Street, Gainesville, Florida 32601 (352) 376-5361.
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Memories and Condolences
for DAVID GRAPER
Amy
September 10, 2025
Dearest David,
Like others have said, September is such a hard time, and it's unfathomable that it's been 15 years. There has been so much happening since you've been gone, and yet it seems like just yesterday I called you to see what we were doing for dinner. The twins are turning 20 this year, Olivia is at USF (let's just not talk about that game) and Eli is at UF. John's kids are growing so fast too, Derek is 10 and Brooke is 6, and she's a chip off the ole block. You are so very missed, and I'd give anything to sit down and just talk with you. People often say loss and grief get easier with time, but that is simply not the case. It's just as raw and painful today as it always has been, and over the last few years I've finally begun to repair and rebuild my life. I never imagined you wouldn't be here to turn 50 with me, and I'd always thought we would do this journey together. Thank you for all of the visits and reminders, they help me to focus on all of the good; there was so much good, and that is never, ever fogotten. I will love you forever, and miss you eternally.
Always, Amy
Beverly Graper
September 9, 2025
David: I am sitting here crying with photos of you and Marc flying across the screen. No matter what you were told you had a very happy childhood. You were always laughing and loving on Sandy dog. You were so happy the Christmas we surprised you with Sandy. I have a new dog now. Her name is Cati and she is with me all the time. I think she speaks English. She always knows when I´m sad. She cuddles up with me so I can go to sleep.
Marc´s girls are getting so big. Olivia has been accepted by the Tallahassee theater. She is the youngest member of the cast. She also is very artistic like you. Clara is sweet and cute. Marc is going to have to watch her because she is such a flirt.
Just like you and Marc they are busy every day. The whole family goes to karate twice a week. One of their instructors was Elvis´ instructor. They also take Chinese lessons twice a week. I don´t know if you remember that Marc married a girl from China. Can you believe she´s a professor at FSU, but the only games she´s been to are Gator games.
Try to catch the game on Saturday with dad and grandpop. I miss our tailgates. We had such good times. Mike doesn´t tailgate anymore but Allan still makes it. I can´t get there since I am in a wheelchair and can´t drive. Pancreatic cancer and COVID did a real number on me, but I am going to start some exercise classes this week. I finally found a service that can drive me.
Marc really misses you. You were such an important part of our lives.
We all went to Philly and New York in June. The kids got to see wonderful artwork and learned a lot about how our country started.
Cati knows I am crying. She is cuddled up on my lap keeping me company.
I´ll never stop missing you. Say hi to dad and grandpa tomorrow. We play LSU. Should be a good game.
Love Mom. 2025
Claudia McCulloch
September 6, 2025
My sweet David:
You've been intensely "signaling" me these days. So many 9-11's showing up. I was at Publix this morning after going to our fabulous farmer's market here in Franklin, TN where I bought $9.11 worth of corn for my husband, David. I spent $91.11 at Publix and I started laughing a bit. When the clerk asked, I said, "Someone very special to me is trying to reach me through numbers". He looked confused. He's about 19; he knows very little about life. yet.
Anyway, I have been doing a lot of gardening. Very satisfying and colorful. I'm going out later and planting. Rainy, but warm, so I'll be muddy. Love it. A sharp contrast to working as a clinical psychologist. I love all of it so much. It would be so much fun to talk with you about all of life now.
To say that I miss you is not enough. But this we know-words don't teach, experiences teaches. I experience you everyday in some small and remarkable way. You let me know in those fleeting moments that you are enjoying where you are.
It'll be about 20 years or more before I'm with you again, so don't go anywhere. Wait for me. You, Sandy and I will talk a long walk together among the clouds.
Love always, Aunt Claudia
Beverly Graper
September 11, 2024
David: my heart breaks every day when I think of what a wonderful son you were. There are so many wonderful things we could do together. Marc´s girls are so cute and smart. They ask about you but we´re o waiting til there´re older to explain.
Mike finally got married to a great woman, Kitty. You would get along great with her.
Everything has changed for me. Your dad never recovered from your death. He ended it with Covid. Couldn´t beat it and died in `21. I hope you´ve run into and my dad. My fight with pancreatic cancer and COVID put me in a wheelchair but I´m getting back to normal. Sold the houses and live closer to Marc.
Don´t like retirement much. Not used to staying home. I´d like to be able to ick up the phone and talk to you. Hook up with your dad and Grandpop to watch the Gators. They could use your help.
Goodbye for now. Miss you. . Love Mom
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Claudia McCulloch
September 6, 2024
Dearest David:
When the calendar tells me that it´s September again, I start to hold my breath just a bit more each day until it´s 9/12 and then, I release the tension. I feel as though I´m bracing for impact. Perhaps that´s why you visit less and less each year. You, too, are letting go.
I find myself looking forward to March 10th more and more each year. It´s a healthier anniversary even though Grampa Willis died on that day, your birthday.
You didn´t see it as an honor as I did and that was your right. You felt his passing on your birthday was an omen. I couldn´t move you off that thought.
Synchronicity is a gift. You´ve likely met my beloved sister-in-law. She passed two years after my brother on the same day, December 28, when he called to tell me that he was dying of Agent Orange-related cancers. The timing of those two events comforted me. I was sure that he came to get his girl and take her home. Such is synchronicity.
I´m feeling more peaceful about you now. You´re telling me the same. It´s been 14 years and is getting closer to finding a way to close this chapter of our lives. Maybe next year. I´m not quite ready...
Love you. Aunt Claudia
Claudia McCulloch
September 11, 2023
Here we are again. Fully 13 years after your death. I´m amazed at the intensity of the grief that continues to linger. Isn´t it said the time heals all wounds? No. Not at all. I know that you are enjoying heaven and I love how you stop by and see me from time to time. You are loved and missed. Always know that.
Aunt Claudia
Claudia McCulloch
September 11, 2022
Dearest David;
The calendar says that it should feel like a very long time since you left us. My heart says that it was moments ago.
You are not forgotten as you continue to remind me with those
9-11 messages that I get from you almost daily.
No matter how many years I live, I will always respond with, "Don´t worry, David. I won´t forget you".
Now, go on your way and continue to enjoy heaven and all the wonderful people and pets you loved who were waiting for you at the door.
Love, Aunt Claudia
Claudia McCulloch
September 6, 2021
Dearest David:
Time doesn´t heal broken hearts. The edges of grief remain raw and ragged. With each loved one I lose, the slideshow of heartbreak plays.
Yet, I know that pain is the price of love and I´m happy to pay it. Now, you share the same heavenly address as my brother, Jack.
You both have our love always. You know that.
I have always felt that the measure of a person´s life is in the impact on those they leave behind. We cherish memories of you and those thoughts and the love that go with them will stay with us until we are together again.
Love you, David.
Aunt Claudia
The best smile ever d
Amy Rowell
September 7, 2020
Ten years seems so long but it also seems like yesterday. David you are loved and missed so very, very much. I know you are with me, I see the signs. I would just rather you be physically with me. You are never, ever forgotten. I will love and miss you forever. ;;
Suzanne Crain
September 7, 2020
Well Dr. Graper, this email popped up today to remind me of you but I don't need reminding. I think of you often and talk about you with your uncle, Dr. V. You were such an admirable person, easy to talk too and I loved all the laughs we shared. You are missed each and every day. Oh how I do wish we could share more conversations. Love and miss you. Suzanne
Claudia McCulloch
September 7, 2020
Of course, I was looking through photo albums and I saw the announcement of your medical school graduation that you sent...May 25, 2003. Remarkable accomplishment. Then, you took all of that knowledge, along with your compassion, caring, kindness, and curiosity and put it to good use healing others. I see so much of you in my home, in my life, in the children with whom I work. That's the lasting legacy of love, isn't it, David? I know you look out for us and those I love. We look out for your loved ones, too. I miss you, especially on your birthday, but you already know that, don't you? My heart breaks just a little bit more every September 11. Love you always, Aunt Claudia
Lisa Burnett
September 6, 2020
Dr. Graper, I received an email today suggesting I remember you, and since I was just talking about you the other day, I want you to know you are still remembered with so much love and thanks for the extraordinary person you were to so many. There will surely never be another you. Much love, Lisa
Amy Rowell
September 13, 2015
Well, it's been 5 years. I'm not sure how that time has gone so quickly. Even though I know you don't see, read or hear any of this, I know you are next to me always. I will never forget you, I will never let anyone forget you. While it may seem life moves on, it really doesn't. I know you are at peace, and I love & miss you today just as I did on this day 5 years & 2 days ago. You are always going to be Dave. Our Dave. Loving your music, medicine, me, our fur babies, our true friends and true family. You have no idea how much we all miss you. Until next time, I love you dearly. I will never be anything but honored to be your wife, your best friend and your life.
Claudia McCulloch
June 2, 2015
I've been thinking about you so often since your 43rd birthday. We are "packing and purging" in anticipation of moving "home" and came upon birthday cards and letters that you and Marcus sent over the years. I hear you laughing telling me how silly I am because I sent you cards written by Sandy Dog when you were visiting your grandparents in Florida. Because they were too precious to throw away and too heart-breaking to keep, I sent them to your mom. I miss you; everyday, I miss you, especially when the microwave clocks reads 9:11. I stand there while my tea is warming and talk with you. You're just fine. I know that. You are loved and never, ever forgotten. Aunt Claudia
Suzanne Crain
September 12, 2014
4 years, it seems so long but then again, it seems like yesterday. Dr. Dave you will never be forgotten. You touched so many lives, saved quite a few and made us all laugh no matter how hectic the day. I miss sitting in the office with you and Brian, pondering over life's circumstances. We had some great conversations. Know that you are loved and sadly missed everyday, never forgotten. XOXOXO Suzanne
Joan Gifford
September 11, 2014
Darling Dave, it has been four long years since you left us. You are still as real to me as the things I see in this very moment. My favorite image is of how excited you would get at Christmas, when Mike & I would open our gift and you would always ask, "do you like it? We looked all over to find it." And, you DID look all over because that is the kind of person you are. I have never known anyone, other than Grandpop, who showered so much love upon people...family or strangers. This grief business is rough, huh? I still feel like a line drive hits me right in my chest when I remember you. I love you now AND forever. Always, Aunt Joan~
Love, Steph
September 11, 2014
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always. Doc was an awesome doctor, a best friend, and had one of the biggest hearts, He loved Amy to the fullest. I can not believe it has been so long, seems like yesterday he was running back in the office telling Renee and I how the tree down the street almost fell on his car as he drove by. Love you, Man!!! You will never be forgotten!!
September 8, 2014
They say time heals all things. At this point, I have to disagree. These have been the hardest 4 years without you. I can not believe it's been that long. Even now, a day does not go by that I don't think of you, love you and miss you. Claudia sought out some much needed answers for us, and it has helped tremendously. Olivia has asked if all the kids in Heaven are all better now so that you can come home many times, it was the explanation I gave her over 3 years ago. The twins will be 9 this year and little Coco will be 8. Life has changed in so many ways, some of them great, some not so great. I often have dreams of places we went, things we did, or you just sitting on the side of my bed. I know, it seems weird....but it's the truth. This year, as I pay my respects to your memory, you will also be finally brought to your home here on Earth. My family and I are making your one final wish a reality. Until I see you again, you are in my heart and thoughts always.
Love, Amy
Dorene and Tom Stewart
September 11, 2013
Dr Graper was all I ever called you. I respected you much. I was blessed to be your nurse when you first started working. You were so kind and thoughtful with your patients that my husband came to be your patient. You are the reason he quit smoking. I will never forget you coming out in the parking lot of the office in Gainesville and telling my husband he had to stop no matter what and that his life was so important that he didn't need another heart attack. You convinced him to go on Wellbutrin and kick the cigarettes. I am proud to say he is still a non smoker because of you!!! He is healthier because you truly cared about him. You have blessed so many lives and it was a great loss to see you go home to The Lord so soon. God has HIS reasons for everything and I trust HIM no matter the outcome of this life. This is not our home. You have already gone home. We are left to remember you and the blessings you left behind. We will see you again on the other side in heaven and what a glorious day that will be. May God continue to be with those left to grieve your absence in their lives. You will not be forgotten!! You touched too many lives in such a positive way. God bless and may we keep doing the work The Lord has left us to do till we see you again!! In Christ love.
Joan Odom
September 10, 2013
Darling David,
Tomorrow, it will be three years since you left us. I cannot tell you how many times I think of you. So many things remind me of you. I will see a young man with your eyes, your laugh, your mannerisms. The tears appear and it becomes difficult to swallow. I am so proud to have known you. You were a gift to the family, to your patients, to this WORLD. Soon enough I shall see you. I am counting on it.
All my love,
Aunt Joan
September 9, 2013
Dear David,
It is impossible to fathom it's going to be 3 years. You would be so proud at the things that have been done in your honor. You've been remembered with love, honor, respect and dignity in our hearts and even in Mother Nature herself. Everything you ever said you wanted when your time came was made possible by all of us that feel your presence each and every day. The one thing that will never change is that you can not and will not ever be forgotten. You touched so many people that you didn't even know about until after you were gone. I am still contacted in various ways by people just to reminisce about the good times. I know you found peace and you deserve it more than anyone I have ever known. I love you today more than I ever have just for the simple fact of who you are. And I will continue to be your biggest supporter....thank you for sending me the ones who help me keep your memory alive and well. We always will.
Love Always, Amy
September 6, 2013
You gave to us and now we give in your honor. Love=Action. We've donated a honeybee hive, a flock of chicks and a flock of ducks through Heifer International in your memory. Children will have a better life because of you. We love you, David.
Aunt Claudia and Uncle David
Connie Thames
March 12, 2013
Love to see your smiling pics Amy post. You both were always so happy and you can feel it seeing the pics. Love and miss you
Suzanne
March 12, 2013
Happy Belated birthday Dr. Graper! Still think of you often and know that you're in a peaceful place. Sure do miss being able to talk and bounce stuff off you! You always had a good answer. xoxo
March 11, 2013
Still missing you Doc!!!
Love,
Renee'
March 10, 2013
David,
Today and every single day, you still bring a smile to my face and a part of my heart that misses you more than I can ever explain. You should be here today. I will love you as though you are and continue to love, honor and respect your entirely too short path in this world. I only wish for you that you found the peace you sought and to know that you are profoundly loved and missed by me and so many others.
Always,
Amy
Joan Odom
March 10, 2013
Amy, I am one of the ones who keeps coming back to post. You know I loved Dave with all of my heart. I continue to grieve...today especially. I always think of you, Bev, Charles, Marcus, Mike and Grandmom in my prayers and kind thoughts. I just wanted to tell you. Love, Joan~
The angel/boy figure I bought in memory of Dave. It looks like him, as a child, to me. Happy Birthday 3/10/13. Love, Aunt Joan
Joan Odom
March 10, 2013
Claudia McCulloch
March 10, 2013
Love.
Aunt Claudia
Joan Odom
March 10, 2013
Happy Birthday to my sweet Dave. You are incredibly loved & terribly missed. Always, Aunt Joan
October 20, 2012
I miss you Doc! We were just talking about you just the other day. About how you would bounce into the room and say "what's up dude?" As long as we are at that office, it will always be your office! I can still see you sitting in the middle of the hall working on a chart. I think you liked the floor better than your desk!
It is one of my favorite memory.
Rest in peace Doc.
Love, Renee'
Dee Watson
October 20, 2012
Dear Amy, Just to let you know that I wish you happiness, peace, and love to your self. You are a wonderful young lady and you also are so deserving of this.
Please use the gift of time that we all are given and enbrace every minute to the fullest !
October 19, 2012
As this weekend approaches, I will remember the days as some of the most fun we had in our entire relationship. You were the most at peace, and the happiest oceanside, and especially with our families and friends by our side. We all miss you dearly, and what should be our 6th wedding anniversary will be remembered. Wishing you love, happiness, and the peace you deserve.
Always,
Amy
Devon Milford
August 14, 2012
Thinking of David today. It's always that small things that bring him to mind, someone opening a New Castle or the mention of Florida Georgia games that bring a clear memory of David to mind and it always makes me smile. He was an incredible friend and I miss him every day. Amy, your strength through all this inspires me. I love you girl!
Debbie
August 10, 2012
Everyday.
August 6, 2012
August 6, 2012
July 31, 2012
To Don, Dee, Renee, Claudia and all of you who care to leave a note for Dave:
He is an incredible soul who has been missed every single moment he's been gone. I would like to thank all of you that have offered support, advice, guidance, and a shoulder to cry on while we all heal. It's not about just me, or anyone else, it's about remembering the person we all lost. We all have that connection and that bond forever. And we all have our parts of the legacy. All I ask is that every day, when you see the sun, or at the beach you see a wave, or you attend a Gator game, please know that there is a person who would be here if not for the things in life that defeated him. It only makes me love him more to know he was trying very hard to live. And he did. Not everyone appreciates or respects it, and I know that not one person is okay with it, but one thing I do KNOW, is my husband is an incredible person who deserves respect even now. If you knew him, you are a lucky person. He is never, ever forgotten, and NEVER, EVER, EVER lost in the daily grind we all face. Even our dog, Coco, still responds when your name is mentioned. A dog does not discriminate or hate, a dog only knows pure love. She still has a sock toy you made out of your socks that is tattered beyond belief. But you made it for her, and it will be here until the thread is so small that she can't play with it. We both miss you coming home, having a beer, turning on some Sublime or Red Hot Chili Peppers, and then cleaning the pool while you play with Coco. No value can be put on those days. But the people that love you, we come back time after time to post in your memory. You are so very loved and missed.
Always, Amy
Cousin Laurie and her Will have been wed 8 years akready. He thought s lot of you, Dave, because she loved you so much.
Joan Odom
July 14, 2012
Cousin Laurie and Will have been wed 8 years now! He loved you a lot because she did. He considers her a great judge of character.
Joan Odom
July 14, 2012
Cousin Laurie Ellen Green was chosen K-6 Outstanding Social Studies Teacher for 2011. She sure misses you, Dave..
Joan Odom
July 14, 2012
We finally have our little one, after so many years! Baby Ellie is brilliant, joyful and you would have adored her, David! We tell her about you...ho
Joan Odom
July 14, 2012
Your new cousins: Anna Borislova, Natalia Anneline, a nd Maria Elizabeth. We speak of you always. The girls feethat they know you...and really wish th
July 14, 2012
David, I am happy now. I believe you know that I am. Here is a photo that shows just how happy I am. Love and miss you...Aunt Joanie
Joan Odom
July 13, 2012
Donald Deane
July 11, 2012
Amy,Beverly,Dr.Charles Graper,Marcus And The rest of David's family i think of him almost everyday i was so proud of him when i found out he was a medical doctor! he is missed so much that words could not explain the loss that you guy's have gone through! and David we know you are looking down upon us saying he loves each and every one of us! i want everybody to know that we The Deane's love and miss him and will never forget him.Godspeed Donald,Susanne,Kelly,Stephanie And Melanie Too!
Dee Watson
July 11, 2012
We cannot feel life's losses without first feeling the blessings of its fullness. Sorrow is a fleeting emotion, but love is infinite. Amy, May all the happy memories that you and David shared carry you through the sorrowful times. You are a special person. Thinking of you with special thoughts and prayers.
Renee Vaughn
July 10, 2012
I miss you Doc!!! I think about you often. Still when I have a Coke in a can, or any for that matter, I toast it to you and remember the conversation about Cokes. Your picture is still up in the break room so we can see you! I agree with Amy that it is hard to believe that it is almost 2 years!! Love and miss you bunches!!!!!
Claudia McCulloch
July 10, 2012
Dear David: Today is our son, Dan's, 24th birthday. What a thrill it is to watch his life evolve. It's days such as these that make us think of you. Bittersweet to celebrate one life while thinking of what another could have been. You are loved, David. Far and wide, you are still very loved.
Aunt Claudia
July 9, 2012
Just wanted to pay some respects to your memory. It's a little sad to see you aren't getting the visits and notes that you used to except for a few of us. We are still here, and we still love and miss you. Can't believe it's going to be 2 years. Can't even believe it's been a day. You are needed so much, and believe it or not, I just got a letter from a former patient this weekend. You left an incredible mark on people that you never realized. I hope you see it now, and are in peace.
Love Always, Amy
March 29, 2012
March 20, 2012
Dearest David,
You would be just a little bit into your 40's now driving your Audi you wanted SO BAD!!! I know that you see everything going on, and I know you are with me every single day. I also know that you are and always will be irreplaceable and the single most poignant part of my life. The love and acceptance you gave me is what keeps me here today fighting to respect your memory. You are always loved, always missed, and so very needed. I hope you are getting the peace you deserve. We married for life, and I have no regrets. I was so lucky for my years with you, and I know you are looking down on me and that you have brought me the positive things in my life these days. You are never far in my mind, and you are always in my heart. Until next time.....
Love always,
Amy
Claudia McCulloch
March 1, 2012
My David and I walk along the cliffs high above the Pacific several times a week and we talk about Our David and the day we took you to the water and let you go. Oh, if only it were that easy. Your 40th birthday would be on March 10. We talk about the party you would have had and laugh about you celebrating in heaven with all of the people we both loved. We're just doing the best we can here without you; we cannot disappoint you. We'll keep moving forward, loving you and remembering you with every step along the cliffs as we look out and hope to see your smile. We love you, David.
Aunt Claudia
February 23, 2012
To David's family: I was one of his classmates and I was wondering if there were a scholarship or any sort of charity fund in his name. If so I would like to contribute. I am Carole McLane DO. I work in Lady Lake and live in Summerfield Florida. Contact me if there is something I can do.
January 29, 2012
I never got to know David as well as I would have liked to, but he was always very kind to me. I respected him for his integrity, intelligence, and instinctive medical judgements, which were always right on. He was passionate about patient care, and he was the type of doctor I would like to be someday.
I will always remember his kindness. Love Carole McLane
January 15, 2012
I love you and miss you more than you know. It is my honor to be the person you spent the best and last years of your life with. But most of all, you showed me what love is, what it means, and to never settle for anything less. Until I see you again....
Always, Amy
December 27, 2011
David: We think of you and feel your presence every day. You remain a huge part of our day-to-day thoughts. Missed you so much at Marcus' wedding. You would have been so happy for him. He married a wonderful woman and you would have been the first to tell him "Yeah man, she is fine". Many people that you loved and cared about were at the wedding and we talked about things as they were in the past.
Mike's special lady was there and Mike was beaming and smiling all night. This is definitely the happiest I have seen him since he was a kid. The new members of our family ask about you constantly and have learned what a thoughtful and special person you were.
You are greatly missed. We love you, Mom, Dad, Marcus, and Yanning
December 21, 2011
dearest david,
its amazing the number of entries you have. i only wish for every person who sees them that they stop for a second during this holiday season and tell the people they love how special they are. you taught all of us that you never know when your last chance will be. it is a hard lesson, but a beautiful legacy, and will show how petty life stuff can get in the way when it should not. peace to you as always, i love and miss you more than anyone can imagine. and i am thankful for what you have given me.
always, amy
December 19, 2011
David,
We miss you everyday.
All of our love always,
Debbie and Michael
December 4, 2011
At this time of year, the Christmas Season, I am thinking of My Dave. Every Christmas morning, for twenty years, we spent together. I loved how much thought you would put into gifts you gave to those you cared about. You would stop and watch the gift being opened and would BEAM when the recipient was pleased with it! Oh, that smile of yours! That laugh... and those HUGS! It hurts much more this year. I miss your energy, how animated you became when you were passionate about something. You showed interest in what people had to say, because you WERE interested. You loved people, really DUG them. I know your friends sense your loss greatly, as do your patients. You know, I sure hope this heaven thing pans out. There aren't too many folks I care to see in THIS life, much less the next. But, YOU...you are one of a handful (including Grandpop) that I MUST see again. I love you so very, very much and always will. Tu Me Manques, Aunt Joan
October 18, 2011
Dave,
Five years ago this week we arrived at Crescent Moon Beach house. We had said since then it was the time of our lives, second only to our honeymoon. This week, I will remember those days with a smile and many tears, because I know that day, we made our family official, and it will never be diminished. Now that you are back in the oceans (both Pacific and Atlantic, no less!) you love so much, I know you are at peace finally, and it is the peace you searched for during most of your life. You are greatly missed and loved, and as always, never forgotten.
Love, Amy
September 20, 2011
Dave,
Remembering you,thinking of the many memories we shared. The people we both love, each other included. Know that I think of you often. I loved you always, I know you knew that because I often told you when I saw you, always gave you a hug and a kiss, and you gave me one back. Praying that you are at peace....Jill
Vilano Beach, FL, September 11, 2011
September 14, 2011
Dave,
Remember how I said you were being celebrated in the places you loved? Here is one of them. This picture is from Vilano, and we were all there to give you peace. Rest now, finally get the peace you needed, deserve and will receive. We all felt you with us, and it was beautiful. Safe travels, my love.
Always, Amy
September 12, 2011
Dear David:
Yesterday was difficult, but beautiful. My phone was overloaded with texts and voice mails from your friends and family friends from everywhere. Flowers and plants were delivered as rememberances. Your dad and I attended a memorial concert at one of the churches in town where you were remembered in the program. It was a beautiful concert and I know you were listening as the orchestra and choir performed. Your love of music was eclectic and endless. From reading your entries, it appears that Claudia threw your ashes in the Pacific. You would have loved that as I know your favorite places in the world revolved around the beach and the ocean. A perfect resting place for you. Your dad, Marc, and I hold onto every beautiful memory of you from the day you were born until the last time we were with you. We have framed the collage of life pictures and it holds a special place where everyone can see it when they visit the planned memorial garden at our home. Every minute you are gone hurts so much, but every minute you were here remains special to everyone who knew you. Masses were being said all over the country yesterday offered by people who knew you throughout your life. We will always miss you, but we feel your presence daily.
Love, Mom, Dad, Marc, and your new sister "Yanning"
Floating away in the whale's path of the deep Pacific Ocean
September 11, 2011
Dear David:
Today, we took you out into the Pacific Ocean and returned you to the water world you so loved. The deep, clear water took you in. You floated away like a peaceful cloud. I choose to remember the good times. The day you were born, the happiness you brought to me and others and the healing touch you brought to your patients. Today, Amy shared you with me and I am grateful. We will love you always, David, and miss you with all of our being.
Love, Aunt Claudia
September 10, 2011
Dearest David,
One year. It is almost as hard to believe as the notion that you are not with us. Please know, this weekend you are being honored in two of your favorite places in the world by many people who love and miss you every single day. You have not and will not be forgotten. I have thought all year about what you would want, and I know now. Thank you for giving me that knowledge, and thank you for so many loving, wonderful years. This weekend I will remember it is not the amount of years you were here, but it is the life you led in those years that matters. I love you always.
Forever, Amy
Aunt Joan
August 12, 2011
Well, little David, it is creeping up on a year since you left us...one YEAR! Is it even possible? You see, it feels like a lifetime for those of us grieving your absence. Every Gator game played, every Sam Adams I open, every time I hear "Shine On You Crazy Diamond," you are THERE for just an instant! I often recall how when someone was disparaged in your presence, you would say, "Oh, he's not so bad," which was SO like your grandfather! I must admit that the ONLY solace I have about this whole "leaving thing," is the thought that Grandpop is sitting with you now, sharing a meal of braciole and a side of baked ziti. I can just hear the lively conversation about politics, which you were so passionate about, and that I suspect you learned from your grandfather, solely by the way you saw him live his life. Sports would be on the agenda, naturally, covering both professional baseball AND, of course, SEC football! I can even see you and he out on some fairway, as he talks you through a tough approach shot. I envision you lovingly, patiently, explaining a medical procedure as he proudly takes in each word. To keep despair from washing over me, or to soften the kick in the gut I get, when I consider the finality of this, I focus on my dream. This dream always plays out like this: Your grandfather is already waiting for you in a hallway, as you come walking in. He greets you with: "Hiya kid!" Then he gives you one of those hugs he was so fond of, and puts his hand atop your head, looks right into your eyes and says: "It's going to be okay, now, David. Grandpop's here."
donald deane
August 10, 2011
Dear,Amy Was just thinking of david and you and wanted to let you know i will never forget Him He was a wonderfull person.i saw his dad i was very sick he told me come in he did emergency surgery on my mouth ! he thanked me for being there for your husband when he past.again he has always been there when i needed help as well as david has too!! dont forget there are plaques in all the national forests in florida with trees planted in honor of Dr.David C. Graper his legacy will live on always god bless you amy for being so strong and family for treating me like a family member as well always thinking of you all,Donald P Deane High Springs,fl
Uma Dongre
August 10, 2011
I am so sorry to hear that such a kind and gentle soul as Dr David Graper is no more. Dear Joan, you are rightly proud of your nephew, he sounds very kind and protective of his patients and I wish he was still with us.
Our Wedding, October 21, 2006. Best day of my life....
July 26, 2011
Always on my mind. Missing you and love you just as much today as I always have. Until next time....
Love, A
Amy
May 12, 2011
It's been the longest 8 months of my life. Everyone has gone back to their lives, but for those of us you left behind so abruptly, life has not been right or even manageable. Each day seems to only add to the void. I love you, and miss you so very much....I just would rather tell you in person than like this. You are in my heart, mind and thoughts every single day, and not a day goes by that I don't stop in my tracks and cry for what could have been and should have been. You are so painfully missed, and will never, ever be forgotten. I love you, and would give anything to just see you, talk to you, hug you, and make everything okay again. You really never realized what an impact you have on so many people, I still get letters, cards and things from patients and colleagues. I just wish you could see them, and know you are so admired, loved and missed, and you always will be. Time does not heal this wound, and it never will. I miss you, and I love you, forever.
April 12, 2011
sorry to hear of your loss.never had the pleasURE of knowing DR G WHEN HE WAS OLDER.HE IS WITH HIS GRANDFATHER AND MY UNCLE WILLIS.KNEW HIM WHEN HE WAS A LITTLE BOY IN POMPANO.CHERISH THE MEMORIES.LONG LOST COUSIN -LINDA PILOTTI
Suzanne Crain
March 12, 2011
It's just not the same without you Dr. G, you're missed so much more than you could ever imagine...
Amy Rowell
March 11, 2011
My Dearest David,
I can't help but to imagine we would probably be on a beach somewhere right now, ringing in your birthday still. It would be your first days as a 39 year old, and we would be off work and playing with Coco. I can not describe how much I miss you, and still wait to hear you pull up in the driveway or kiss you goodnight. You are the love of my life, and that will never change. In a perfect world, I imagine that you are on your way home, just running late as usual. I have not been able to wrap my head around the fact you are not. September 11, September 17 and September 18 were by far the worst days of my life. By contrast, October 21, 2006 was one of our best days ever. I am thankful that I have 17 years of good, loving, true memories to keep of you forever. It is my honor to be your wife, your best friend and the one you chose to spend your very short time on Earth with. I know you are being comforted by Grandpop, Mama Jo and Daisy, and I am so glad for that....but I would much rather you be here. I will see you again, until then know that you live in my heart & mind always and forever.
Love, Amy
Beverly Graper
March 10, 2011
March 10 was such a happy day in 1972. We had a brand new baby boy who was beautiful and sweet. It was a very sad day today as we talked about all the happy times we had together and the worst day of our lives on September 11 when you were ripped out of our family forever. We thank God that noone can erase our memories and pray that Grandpop is holding you tight and looking down on the rest of us. We continue to love you and think about you daily.
Love forever, Mom, Dad, and Marc
Debra & William Mike
December 7, 2010
We just recently learned of death of Dr. Graper. My husband and I both had him as our doctor and he was wonderful. We are shocked and saddened by his loss. Our prayers and thoughts go out to his family.
Alicia Hardy
December 7, 2010
Didn't realized until today that you've left this life behind. Hope you are resting now, and know my mother and I sincerely appreciated the medical care you provided.
Charles, Beverly, and Marc Graper
October 26, 2010
We've been sitting at home every night thinking of all the wonderful memories David left with his family and dear friends. He always remained a part of our daily thoughts and prayers. We never stopped loving him and praying that he would come back to us. We watched from afar as he became a compassionate and caring physician. We heard about his talents as a physician from others and knew that he was helping many people.
Although we missed him more than he ever knew, we continued to live with our memories of the day he was born and came home with us, his baptism and first communion, his close bond with "Markie Beeper", his constant stream of friends in our home, his graduation from high school in the rain, his graduation from UF when he shook President Lombardi's hand, his graduation from medical school when he honored his father and uncle by having them participate in his hooding ceremony, the fun he had tailgating with his family and friends, and his wedding to Amy on the beach at sunset.
These memories are what we have left of our beautiful baby boy. His friends have flocked to our home from across the country to share in our memories and I want to thank each of them for loving David so much.
David: We will always love you and will miss you for the rest of our lives until we see you again. Say Hi!! to grandpop for us and save us a seat on the fifty yard line.
Love, Mom, Dad, and Marc
October 17, 2010
October 17, 2010
Where's that adorable smile?
October 6, 2010
High school graduation...so handsome!
Claudia McCulloch
October 6, 2010
My dearest David: I knew you before you became "you". When you were finally born, it was a glorious day. When you took your first step and said your first word, we were amazed by you. You went to school, starred in plays and concerts, lost teeth, skinned your knees, had great fun at birthday parties and holiday dinners at home. Everyday, you were surrounded by your loving and devoted family, your pal Sandy Dog and your many friends.
You were my first son. Caring for you and loving you all those years made me a well-prepared mother to my own son.
You grew up; life moved forward. You and I took different paths. I cheered you on from a continent away, but I cheered you on all the same as you pursued your dreams.
David, only you know the events and people who took you away at that terrible moment. Be assured that though you no longer stand in front of me, you rest softly in my heart forever more. Love such as this has no end. It does not fade with time or distance. I know you have found peace in G-d's embrace. Wait for me, David; I'll be along someday.
Your Aunt Claudia
Mattheu Crossman
September 29, 2010
Dave, as you told me to call you, I will miss you greatly. You were the best doctor I have ever had. It was a pleasure to meet you in Gainesville and follow you out to Hawthorne. I appreciate all that you shared with me and how you helped me in so many different ways. I could tell you truly cared for me and wanted to help me. I really appreciate the personal level that we shared. I wish that you did not leave us so soon. I know though that you touched many lives and as I reflect on how you affected mine, I will strive to be more like you. I wish I could have know you better outside of work. I know you would have made a great friend as you were a friend to so many. I know we will all see you again one day and we can all laugh together again.
Mattheu Crossman
Carl and Dolores Kropff
September 26, 2010
We will miss your happy smile, your caring ways and you, David. In our hearts you will remain forever young. Special love to Bev, Charles, Marc and Mike
Janice Root
September 26, 2010
My deepest sympathy to you and your family, Joan. David is still with you in your heart, where he will live forever.
September 25, 2010
Remembering David
In that dimension where you have gone
Do they appreciate all you have brought?
And have you finally found it, now,
That painless place you sought?
And have you told them you were well- loved
By everyone who ever met you?
That you left an ever-aching void
In all of us who won't forget you?
If there are angels where you are
Then, they could learn a lot from you.
For, as you moved about this earth,
Sweet Dave, you were our angel, too...
Loving you always,
Aunt Joan
Michael O'Hargan
September 24, 2010
Dave and I worked together before we both went to medical school. He was a very honorable man and a great person. This is a terrible loss. He will be missed greatly.
Pat Gleason
September 23, 2010
David had the most wonderful upbringing with the two most loving parents you can imagine. Beverly and Charles Graper enjoyed David for so many years and I am sending my prayers that he will live forever in our hearts. Pat Gleason and daughter Jessica Gleason
Jenifer Friedberg
September 21, 2010
I was a patient of Dr. Graper's for a while when he worked in Gainesville. He was truly one of the best doctors I have ever encountered-kind, compassionate, and thorough. He will be missed!
Penny Brossett
September 21, 2010
God Bless you. Dr Graper was a wonderful person. I worked with him for about a year at Family Medical in Hawthorne.He always seemed happy and in a great mood. I loved working with him. He will be greatly misswed
Penny Brossett
STEVEN WATKINS
September 20, 2010
MAYGOOD BLASSYOU
STEVEN ANDMY DAD
Patricia Rose
September 20, 2010
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. He was a great person, Dr. and someone to talk to.
Regina Plemmons Johnson
September 20, 2010
Amy Rowell Graper, I know that you do not remember me but I do know you, I grew up with your Dad, I know that he did wonderful job raising you, so I know that David had to be a very special person to you and your whole Family. My prayers and thoughts to out to all of ya'll,
Connie Thames
September 20, 2010
My prayers go out to you Amy,and your Family..I was so blessed to have known David personally. Amy you brought so much happiness in Davids life and his Passion as a Dr showed.I hope all the precious memories you have will help bring you some peace. David we love and miss you...
Laura Clark
September 19, 2010
Thinking and praying for you, Charles and Bev. Laura Clark (Mirabella)
Lee & Dorothy Jones
September 19, 2010
Dear Family of Dr. David Graper
Our hearts are truly saddended with the losss of this dear man. We appreciated so much the caring concern he had for each of us as his patients. We are grateful to have been under the care of such a devoted doctor. Our prayers are with each of you.
September 18, 2010
My daughter was one of David's patients. She had been to many doctors in her life, David was the only doctor she encounter who was a true humanitarian and healer. All are saddened by his sudden passing. David is incarnate in the hearts of all the lives he has touched.
Lynda O'Brien (Interlachen, FL)
Mary Anne (Nancy's Daughter) Poling
September 18, 2010
Aunt Beverly, Uncle Charlie, and family I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I can't possibly imagine the pain you are going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Mary Mallory
September 18, 2010
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
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