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Dad
March 15, 2024
It's been 17 years. Feels so long ago and feels like yesterday.
I miss you Debbie. And I miss the life we would have shared and the memories we would have made. And Josh, every single day i think of the life you would have had as the baby brother, who would be turning 16 this year, in HS, looking at colleges, with the world at your feet.
We all miss you both. Every single day.
I'll see you both again.
Love Always and forever.
Dad.
sam thomas
March 14, 2023
i miss you more than words can explain. i love you so much and think about the two of you every single day. god, i wish you could be here to see all of the things i have accomplished in the past year. finally, i was able to get my tattoo for you and josh. i hope everyday that you´re proud of me mommy. i wish more than anything i could just call you and fill you in on my life. i do however know your watching over me and will always be my guardian angel. my heart hurts a little extra today, as it does every year. i truly think it will for the rest of my life. i will always think about the family we should have been. but don´t worry, i´m taking care of dad for you. i really can´t wait to see you again. i love you and miss the two of you forever.
- sam
mommy
March 15, 2022
It seems so unreasonable that it has been so long and I still can´t get over it. I miss you so much. I will be so happy when I see you and Jen again. I love you both so much and I hope you are playing nice together.
Robert Quiery
March 2, 2021
Hey Sam, love the pictures of you and your Mom.
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sam thomas
March 2, 2021
i read these messages and start to become sad. sad because i miss my mom. sad because i know she had such great influence on so many people. she seems like such a great person and i really wish i got to know her. i want to thank all of you for your kind messages, if anyone still even looks at this page besides me. we are approaching 14 years since my mom died and next year i´ll be starting my senior year of high school. it´s starting to dawn on me now that there´s a lot of things i´ll have to do without a mother there. she won´t be there to help me pick out my prom dress. i wont get the classic graduation picture in the middle of my mother and father. she won´t be there to help me move into my dorm and help me plan my wedding. i´ve grown up dealing with not having a mother, thinking it would get easier but it doesn´t seem that way right now. if i do the math right, josh would have started high school this year which i find absolutely insane. i know we would fight all the time about the dumbest things but i would love him and protect him. because that´s what a big sister is supposed to do.
mom and josh- i love and miss both of you dearly as you probably know. not a day goes by that i don´t think of the two of you. i´m sorry i couldn´t protect you josh. i´m sorry you´ll miss all my milestones mom, and i wish you were here right now more than anything. i wish i could feel your hug. i wish we could go shopping together. i wish you could come see me in my school shows. i wish you wouldn´t have left me. i wish you were here. both of you blove you forever and always.
- sam
Daniel
February 7, 2020
Daniel
February 7, 2020
Susan Berger
March 15, 2019
Sweet baby girl, Im missing you so much today. I cant believe that its 12 years since Ive hugged or kissed you. My heart will forever be missing the piece that belonged to you. I hope you have found the peace you wanted so badly. Kiss everybody for me. Really looking forward to seeing you again. Love you so much.
Mommy
Lisa Blank
March 12, 2019
Debbie thinking of you today! So many good times in Delhi! I can hear people yell Berger as you walked through the complex. You were everyones friend, you spoke your mind and we always had fun. God bless you and your family. ❤
sam thomas
January 21, 2019
dear mom, i know you're never going to be able to read this but i've been thinking about you a lot lately. this march will be 12 years since you and josh passed away. even though i don't remember you and never got the chance to meet josh, i think about both of you so much. i started high school this past september at sacred heart. it's such a good school and i know in the end it will all pay off. even if i'm not the happiest there. throughout the past years i've met so many people who knew you. mrs.rhenback was my math teacher in 7th grade and she would tell me how much i looked like you. and your friend stacey digregorio? i'm best friends with her daughter izzy. so many people tell me about you so much and it makes me happy that they still think about you. so much has happened especially in these past few years and i wish you were here to see me. to see my successes and my failures. sometimes, i look back at pictures of us and i get sad even though i know i shouldn't. we looked so happy then, and i wish i could go back and experience that again. sometimes i don't really understand what happened. i think about if it would be different if you were here. would you be happy? would things be better than they are now? i've made a lot of mistakes over the past year. you've seen them all. sorry about that by the way. i really am trying to do better. but at the same time, i'm trying to live through my teenage years with no regrets. wow that sounded really corny. it gets hard sometimes. without you here. even though i don't know what it would be like with you here. hope you and josh are doing well up there. i realize you guys are in a better place. i miss you guys so so much. you guys will always be in my mind and my heart. much love from your daughter and your big sis, sam.
June 25, 2017
Sweet girl, today would have been your 44th birthday. You've missed a lot. Sam is so beautiful, kind and smart. You would be so proud of her. Rob is doing very well, and I think we are closer than we were. He's so good to me. Last but not least, today is our wedding anniversary. 50 years even though we are not living together. As usual, this is a hard day for me. I miss you and love you so much. I'll see you ont the other side.
Love and kisses,
Mommy
Susan Berger
December 31, 2015
Debbie, I was thinking about you and Joshua as I often do. It's not a special day, just another day. I miss you and Jen so much at times that I think I can't bear it. I know I have to stay strong for Rob, Sam, Jess, and Dad, but it's so hard to do. In two days it will be the third anniversary of your sister Jen's death. My heart is broken and it will never heal. I know I will see you all again but it's hard to wait. I love you so much.
Mommy
Rob Thomas
March 16, 2008
Dear Debbie and Joshua,
It's been a year since that horrible night when everyone's world collapsed around you. It seems like yesterday, with the taste of my tears still on my lips. It seems like ages ago, with the dull pain that sometimes numbs my soul. I miss you Deb, for what we were and what the 4 of us will never become here on earth. We'll all have to wait a little longer to be a family up in heaven.
Sam celebrated your Birthday in heaven yesterday, she kissed your picture before bed, like always, and then blew a kiss to Joshua in Heaven. She's so smart and deals with this so much better than all of us adults. To think we were worried about her, she's the one saving us all. Especially me.
I removed my ring today because it's time to move on. It's on the other hand for now, but we'll see. Know that it is forever on my left hand in spirit. My heart and soul are always with you, even though I can not be. One day soon, i'll get to push Joshua on the swing, teach him to skate, to fish, and of course to cook. And i'll get to kiss you both again. I so wish i could have those 5 minutes holding him again, reading him Moo Baa LaLaLa. Wanting him to see me with his own eyes, just once. Instead of from above. I look at his picture every now and again and break down, and I know i will do the same till the day I go to meet him myself. Such a future we all had, now shattered into pieces.
The bench i got for you, Joshua and Dad, had lots of flowers on it yesterday, as i'm sure you know. It gets its fair share of visitors, especially me. Because I know you're all there when I am there. It was a good idea you had, Deb. Just didn't want it to be this way.
We all miss you and talk about you so so much. I tell myself you accomplished everything you ever wanted to. You found a very lucky man, had a happy marriage, made my house into our loving home, gave the world Samantha, and stood by all your friends. You made us all so proud of everything you did. And then you were gone. Your smile and your laugh are now just happy memories that are forever so sad.
Do you remember this? The day we were married we walked out of the ceremony together, husband and wife, and in the corridor, i stopped you, turned you around and told you i'd love you and care for you forever. And I kissed you. I knew at that moment that i'd never forget that moment in time. It felt so true then and it does so now. But i wished i could have cared for you better, taken your pain away. I'm sorry i could not. I'm Sorry for you, and for my little boy Joshua, for Samantha our angel, and for all your friends and family that miss you. And i'm sorry for me, because i needed you the most. I am lost without you Debbie. Please, please guide me.
You are my Wife. You are my Love. You are my Best Friend. You are the Mother of My 2 Angels, Samantha here with me and Joshua with you in Heaven. You are my Soulmate. And I will Love You Always.
Rob
Stacey DiGregorio
March 11, 2008
I can't believe it's almost been a year... I think of you often my friend, especially when shopping! I hope you are watching over all of us and smiling down on us. Rob and Sam; I can only imagine how proud Debbie would be to see the way you have kept her memory alive.
Deb, you are always in my thoughts and prayers.
Marcel Sim
December 14, 2007
Thinking of you and Sam during this holiday season. Wishing both of you a safe and happy New Year. God bless you all.
not known to the family
December 13, 2007
Debbie, May both you and your son be at peace looking down and blessing your husband and daughter everyday. You were not alone prayers were with you and your son that night as you were taken back to the hospital. prayers are still with you and your family. rest peacefully. i didnt know you or your family, but i often think of you and how hard your strugle must have been.
Lisa Blank
October 11, 2007
Rob,
Thinking of you and Samantha. I think of Debbie often and all the fun we had in Delhi. I hope you are both well and taking life day by day. My prayers and thoughts are with you always.
John Hynes
October 9, 2007
Thinking of you guys,
Since i have left the pct. I miss seeing you around. I think of you guys often. I missed Irish day this year, but thanks for the ride back in the day....: )
September 24, 2007
to my friend debbie,
miss you always and always thinking of you everyday. hope you are smiling down upon us.
Marcel Sim
August 4, 2007
Rob,
I am glad to hear that you are back to work and are doing good. Stay strong and remain positive. You have the will and also the strength. Take care and be well. Marcel
Kelly Horsham
August 1, 2007
It makes my heart happy to see you back at work Rob. I think of Debbie and Joshua often.
Stacy Bernstein
July 28, 2007
I went to high school with Debbie, I always remember a friendly, smiling face. This is such sad news and my thoughts go out to the entire family.
Don Rau
June 20, 2007
Still thinking of you.
Max Katsov
May 29, 2007
I am sorry it took so long for me to write this. Its a very hard matter for all of us who knew even the smallest of things about this wonderful wife, mother and friend.
I will never forget the first time I met her when I was playing on Rob's hockey team, and she would come to our games and cheer for us. It always surprised me and put a smile on my face when she said hi to me when she saw me the next before the game. I was new on the team and she made me feel very welcome. Debbie came to a lot of games, which is where I mostly saw her and got to talk to her, and even get a laugh in about Rob sometimes. She would always cheer for us, on Rob's team and the precinct team. She was just a joy to be around at the picnics at lido, always having fun and smiling. She will be greatly missed.
My prayers go out to Rob and the Thomas family.
We are all here for you Rob.
LINDA ROSSI
May 20, 2007
DEAR ROB, I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS AND I DO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE GOING THROUGH RIGHT NOW. MY DAUGHTER CHRISSY DIED BY SUICIDE 7/25/06, AND I DID MEET YOUR FATHER IN LAW AT A COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS MEETING LAST WEEK. I WILL KEEP YOU ALL IN MY PRAYERS. I HAVE ESTABLISHED THE CHRISSY'S WISH MEMORIAL FUND TO BENEFIT NARSAD: THE MENTAL HEALTH RESEARCH ASSOCIATION AND WILL BE HAVING A GOLF OUTING ON CHRISSY'S FIRST ANNIVERSARY IN HEAVEN, 7/25/07. I PRAY THAT WITH RESEARCH, NO OTHER FAMILY WILL HAVE TO SUFFER SUCH A DEVASTATION, AND PEOPLE WITH DEPRESSION AND BIPOLAR DISORDER WILL HAVE PROPER TREATMENT AND EFFECTIVE MEDICATIONS. I KNOW IT IS A WHOLE NEW WORLD THAT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE NOW EXISTING IN, BUT I PRAY THAT WE ALL WILL FIND PEACE IN KNOWING THAT OUR LOVED ONES HAVE FINALLY FOUND THEIR PEACE. WITH WARM REGARDS, LINDA
Donna DiMartino
May 18, 2007
Dear Rob,
I don't know you or your beautiful wife and family, however, I felt compelled to write you. I suffer with bipolar disorder II and had an episode the day before I gave birth to my second child.
I have been suffering ever since, lost my children, my marriage, everything. I want to say thank you for having the courage to write about Deborah's life and struggle. More research and attention needs to be on mental illness.
The stigma is huge. I have been so down lately, waiting for my new meds to work, suicide has popped into my brain many times. I have been reading as much as I can and when I came across your story, I think you saved my life.
So I want to say thank you and God Bless you and your family.
Barry Hamber
May 2, 2007
Dear Rob,
I'm glad that I spoke to you this morning on the phone. You sounded stronger than I would have imagined. Thank you for telling me about her and your daughter. I wish that I had an oppurtunity to meet Deborah. Please remain strong for Samantha and yourself. May G-d bless you and your family during this difficult time.
Barry Hamber & Family
Terry Scarlatos
May 1, 2007
Dear Rob,
I just wanted to send you my deepest condolences. I remember the first time you introduced Debbie to me. It was at the MTN tailgate party at the Nassau Coliseum (PD vs. FD game). I remember how happy and proud you were introducing her to all the guys. I was telling my wife, Libby, about that day. I think you guys were just starting to date at that time. I could tell though, even way back then, you knew you had a keeper. I can remember like it was just yesterday, you had that silly happy smile on your face (and so did she). I think we missed most of the game just hanging out joking and laughing, typical tailgating fun…Deb, not only fit in, but she was one of us. This, as we all know, is not an easy thing to pull off, but she did it with ease. I truly hope you and your daughter Samantha stay strong, and after reading many of these postings, I’m happy to see you guys have so much support. If you ever need to get away, give me a call. You and Samantha are always welcome… We can catch a Cubs game, or even a Blackhawks/Rangers game.
Your hockey pal,
Olivia
April 30, 2007
I cannot add anything extra to the wonderful comments made by others in this guestbook. I can only agree to what a wonderful service you have done for others who may be suffering from, or who have a loved one who is suffering from, the same disease. I was not able to read the actual newspaper,but could only read the internet version. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Elisa Barretti
April 30, 2007
Dear Samantha (and Rob),
When I think of your mom all I can think is that there has never been a more beautiful person both inside and out. Debbie was the first person to welcome me into the MTN family at my first precinct picnic. Whenever there was a gather, she was always the warmest and most caring woman, almost like a mother hen. If you had a problem, Debbie would fix it. The last time I saw your mommy was at the precinct christmas party. She was showing me pictures of you and telling me how terrific you were doing (she was so proud of you). She spoke about your baby brother and we laughed about the weird cravings and other pregnancy happenings. Your mommy was the most radiant woman with the brightest smile you'd ever seen. She loved you and your daddy so much and she took amazing care of you both. Someday I hope to be half the mother that she was!
JARRED BARRETTI
April 30, 2007
Dear Rob & Sam
AS I READ THOUGH ALL OF THE OTHER THOUGHTS OF DEBBIE THAT PEOPLE LEFT IT DOES NOT SURPRISE ME THAT MOST PEOPLE WHO KNEW DEBBIE SPOKE OF HER SMILE. THATS RIGHT SAM, MOMMY'S SMILE COULD LIGHT UP ANYONE'S DAY. WHETHER DEBBIE KNEW YOU FOR 5 MINUTES OR 5 YEARS SHE WOULD TREAT YOU THE SAME. WHEN I FIRST MET DEBBIE AT THE MTN PICNIC SHE WELCOMED ME WITH THE SAME SIMLE ON HER FACE AS SHE DID AT THE CHRISTMAS PARTY 6 YEARS LATER WHEN SHE WALKED STRAIGHT OVER TO MY WIFE AND I TO TALK ABOUT MY NEW BABY GIRL, WATCHING DEBBIE AND MY WIFE LAUGHING AND SMILING TOGETHING AS THEY LOOKED AT PICTURES OF THE BABY IS THE LAST MEMORY I HAVE OF DEBBIE, WHICH IS NO DIFFERENT FROM MY FIRST ONE. WHAT AM TRYING TO SAY HERE SAMANTHA ABOUT YOUR MOMMY IS THAT SHE WAS A SPECIAL PERSON TO A LOT OF PEOPLE, AND I KNOW YOUR MOMMY AND YOU BROTHER JOSHUA WILL FOREVER BE GUARDIAN ANGELS FOR YOU AND YOUR DADDY. ROB, EVERY WARM SUNNY DAY THAT PASSES I KNOW YOU SAY TO YOURSELF AND TO OTHERS "DEBBIE LOVED DAYS LIKE THIS" WELL JUST KNOW THAT ON EVERY WARM SUNNY DAY THAT PASSES IT'S DEBBIE AND JOSHUA SMILING DOWN ON US ALL...
Tracy Arnold
April 30, 2007
Dearest Robert, Samantha and family of Deborah,
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I saw Deborahs obituary back in march and was deeply touched by her passing and the honesty you as her family shared with so many. Then today I was touched deeper than ever by the beautiful Photo and life story of an obviously wonderful human being who behind her beautiful smile lived with such a terrible disease. Robert you have already helped more people than you can imagine by telling deborahs story. Your strength and openness to depression will not only help those who battle the disease but the families of those affected. That is a gift that so many will forever be thankful for. Your wifes passing has not only touched the lives of those who knew and loved her. The lives of those with this disease, but also the many of us who unfortunately werent lucky enough to have met her, but felt the warmth of her outstanding smile shown in her photo today. Her bright smile will stay with me (a total stranger),forever, because your courage and devotion has not let her life end but has let it live on with the selflessness you possess. You gave us all a chance to understand what a special person Deborah is( NOT WAS )She in heaven and you here on earth are helping to do Gods work. If only more people had your courage and devotion there would be alot less sadness in our world.
To all who knew and love deborah may the prayers from so many help comfort you and to you Robert and Samantha You were so truly blessed to have shared your life with such an Angel.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all and may God wrap his arms around your beautiful wife and mommy and your precious son and brother until you all meet again.
with my deepest sympathy,
JOE LIBRARO
April 30, 2007
DEAR ROB AND SAMANTHA,
AS YOU SIT AND READ THIS WITH ALL THE OTHER "THOUGHTFUL SIGNINGS" YEARS FROM NOW,(SAMANTHA)YOU WILL NOW UNDERSTAND WHAT A BEAUTIFUL PERSON MOMMY WAS AND HOW MUCH SHE LOVED BOTH YOU AND YOUR DADDY. MAY DEBORAH AND JOSHUA REST IN ETERNAL PEACE AND FOREVER LOOK DOWN AND GUIDE YOU BOTH.
Ruth Squillace
April 30, 2007
To the Thomas Family:
I am a psychology teacher in a Long Island High School and I just read your story in Newday this morning. It is both heartbreaking and courageous. Thank you for sharing your personal story with the world and I do believe it will help to educate others about mental illness and treatment. I know that I will be using this story in my classroom today and I have no doubt that its impact will be felt by one and all. I send my thoughts and prayers to your family. May God, family, and friends guide you through this difficult journey.
barbara
April 30, 2007
I want to say im sorry for your loss. i know what its like to have a person with bipolar disorder.i have been threw it with my stepson. and its a hard thing to deal with.his had it since he was 10 and now his almost 16.still has problems with it.its hard thing to handle.i have my own son who has depression.he his add.his a good kid my son.i pray for you and your daugther sam. barbara
Gerard Norum
April 25, 2007
Dear Rob and Samantha,
I only met Deb a few times. I could tell right away she was a special person who's smile brightened up a room. Remember that Deb and Joshua are looking down upon you both. I know you will make them proud. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sean Maher
April 25, 2007
Rob & Samantha,
I don't even know where to begin, as a collegue I will offer sympathy and condolences but that can only give you words and emotion, as a soul I can offer you prayers and offerings, this may comfort your aching soul during all of your days of sorrow. As a friend I offer you my home, this I offer as shelter from the storm. Anytime you and Samantha need to get away for awhile you are always welcome in my home down here in NC. Sometimes a change in scenery offers moments free of the mental fatigue you and Samantha must be enduring now. You were Debbie's Light in this world, She and Joshua will now be the light that helps guide you and Samantha as you continue on your path as the wonderful father you have and always will be. Be as strong as you possibly can, Samantha needs you more then ever. You are a strong soul, don't stray from your beliefs in these dark days. The light will guide you through the dark hours. Debbie and Joshua will guide you through your life and Samantha over the coming years will bring the light back into your heart and soul. May the lord carry you & Samantha in the Palms of his hands, while his Angels wrap their wings around you to protect you from harm. We all love you Rob and will always be here for you during your journey. Please try to remember life is a journey and NOT a destination,May the lord give salvation to Debbie and Joshua as they journey home to him. Contact me anytime you need to get away for awhile.
With Love & Respect,
Sean & Allison
karl hettinger
April 24, 2007
Rob and Samantha,I believe the first time I met Debby,(mommy)was at the MTN christmas party. I recall she was an extemely friendly and warm person who had a way of making me feel very comfortable when talking with her.
Kelly Fowler
April 24, 2007
Rob - my heart and thoughts are with you and Samantha everyday. I will always do my best to let Samantha know what an incredible person her mommy was and how much she loved her little girl and adoring husband. She truly did have a smile that lit up the world. Deb was such a compassionate, genuine and sweet person. This horrible illness has such abilities to overtake these good qualities. I know that Deb is smiling down on you and Sam everyday. Please keep in touch and I look forward to seeing you both very soon. All my love, Kelly
Victor Hernandez
April 22, 2007
Rob, My deepest condolences to you and your family, sorry I couldn't write any sooner, for I do not check my emails as often as I should....I hope You and your family are coping with this trajedy and if there's anything you need, do not hesitate to ask....sorry for your loss again...God Bless Your Wife Deborah & May She Rest In Peace....From your good buddy vik & the rest of the Hernandez Family
Penny Turner
April 21, 2007
Debbie, I'm sorry it took me so long to write, but I had to gather my thoughts. Debbie and I have been very close friends for years. We were always there for one another, and Debbie was the kind of friend I knew I can always count on. I never met anyone so caring, loving, and devoted as deb. Today on my 11 year wedding anniversary, I remember Debbie, as my maid of honor, and how her bright smile and laughter made it such a special day for me. I remember when my son Matthew was born how excited she was for me and was the first out of my friends to see us at the hospital. Whenever we spoke she was always interested in how my family was. My husband and Debbie got along very well, and he always thought of her as a little sister. I know how much happiness and love Debbie felt for Rob and Samantha .They were the light of her life. I know Joshua and Debbie are looking over them. Darren and I miss you so much and have such wonderful memories of our times together. We will do whatever we can to bring awareness to this illness that has deprived us all of many more special times together.
Patty Greenberg
April 18, 2007
Debbie,you are missed everyday.I will watch Samantha grow and think of you.Rob you are in my thoughts and you know whenever you need me just call.
James Vanderbeek
April 16, 2007
Rob and Samatha
Debbie(mommy) was a wonderful person with a great big smile to go with her big heart. I will always remember Debbie as a fun, happy and a caring person. I meet Debbie on several occasions and I always enjoyed those times, you will be missed. Rob, you are not alone she is there with you every day.
Don Rau
April 16, 2007
I was fortunate enough to know Debbie while I was a camp counselor along with her sister Jen. The minute I met Debbie she made an immediate and lasting impression. She had that effect on so many people that came into her life.
Your memorial to Debbie was truly wonderful. Thank you for the courageous step in bringing the illness of depression to light. It will inspire others who are suffering to reach out to someone who needs help.
Rob and Samantha, we will continue think about you just as Debbie and Joshua continue to watch over you both.
Kristine Farsky
April 16, 2007
Deb,
I am proud to call you one of my best friends. You were such a beautiful person both inside and out. I miss you more than you can imagine. I will never forget your infectious laugh. All who have met you are lucky to have had you in their lives if even for a short period of time. I know that you and Joshua are at peace and will watch over all of us, especially Rob and Samantha. Missing you every day.
Giovanni Furio & Family
April 15, 2007
Dear Rob & Sam,
You are continually in our thoughts and prayers. Although we've never met Debbie it is clear how she has touched the lives of so many around her. God Bless.
Thomas DiFusco
April 15, 2007
Debbie was one of the nicest people I have ever met. I miss her and think about her everyday. I see her beautiful spirit in Samantha. I know Debbie and Joshua are in heaven watching over and protecting Rob and Samantha. Rob, I will always be there for you and Samantha.
janis mayors
April 15, 2007
Dear Robert,daughter Samantha and all friends and family of Deborah Thomas,
You don't know me. My name is Janis Mayors. I lost my wonderful brother-in-law to the horrible disease of suicide on June 1, 2006. I can only tell you that if my sister-in-law did not have a strong spiritual backing, she would not be where she is today. Her name is Kerry Ann Rohe and she will be contacting you if you should need any support. By helping and reaching out to others and bringing this horrible disease of depression and suicide out in the open, i'm sure we can touch the lives of many people who suffer. my deepest sympathies are with all of you and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. may god keep you strong and watch over you as he has watched over my sister-in-law and our family.
Sherri Fackler
April 12, 2007
Debbie and I were friends for a very long time! Debbie was one of the greatest people I have ever met. She was a true friend and someone that you could count on for anything and everything! We shared so many great times together! She was the best mother to Samantha and a great wife to Rob! I miss her so much and still can't believe that she is gone. I will cherish my memories of her forever! Rob and Samantha, I love you both and am always here for you!
Diane Gardner
April 10, 2007
Rob and family,
When you came into Dr. Barrys office to tell me the sad news my heart broke for you,your Samantha,and everyone that was fortunate enough to have known your beautiful Deb. She was indeed very special.Even tho I didn't see her as much as I used to she always had that sweetness about her that never wavered.I know she loved you and your daughter sooooooo much.I can't tell you how sorry I am that she's gone but so many people loved her that her memory will live on in all our hearts.
God Bless your family and you, Diane
Marcel Sim
April 10, 2007
Rob and Sam,
I am sorry to hear about your precious loss. May God give you strength and continue to embrace, both of you in his heart. I once met Deb when she came to the precinct with Sam. Her smile and friendliness was contagious. The gleam in her eyes and the glow on her face showed how happy, proud she is. I remember the day you brought the awesome news! and also the cigars, IT'S A GIRL! I admire and respect you as a leader and also a friend. Your support and encouragement will never be forgotten. Deb and Joshua will be with you and Sam forever. Your passion, enthusiasm and positive attitude for life will be the empowering force that will guide and protect you and your family. I will pray for you all and my support is forever lasting. God bless and take care.
Mark & Debbie Porto
April 10, 2007
Dear Rob,
We are so very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and our prayers are with you and your daughter at this most difficult time. Please know that we are thinking of you both. We wish you peace and strength as you continue to go forward together.
Liam Kelly
April 9, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter during this difficult time. You are not alone, we are all here for you
Liam Kelly
April 9, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter during this difficult time. You are not alone, we are all here for you.
dorothy Burke
April 9, 2007
Dear Rob and family,
I went to high school with debbie and saw her when we had our babies. I feel so terrrible and my heart aches for you and Samantha. You are in my prayers, God Bless You Both!!
Dorothy McCarthy Burke
Michael Shand and Family
April 9, 2007
Dear Rob and Samantha,
It is impossible to imagine the sorrow you’re going through right now. Me and my family wish you peace and healing during this difficult time. Be assured that you and your family are always in our prayers. Rob, be strong for Samantha she needs you now more than ever. If there`s anything that I that I could do to help, please don`t hesitate to reach out.
Joe Fotino
April 9, 2007
Rob and Samantha, Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. May your Faith, Family and Friends give you strength. If you ever need anything know we are here for you both.
Jennifer Quinones
April 9, 2007
Our prayers are with you and your daughter. We love you very much.
Mary (Hynes) Ricciardi
April 8, 2007
Dear Thomas family,
i am so sorry for your loss.i know God will watch over you both and give you the strength that you need at this time. i will keep you in my prayers
Dr. Joel Benowitz & Staff
April 6, 2007
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Charles (pepe) Davis
April 6, 2007
Debbie, Often in life we happen to cross paths with people who have an impact greater than anyone could ever imagine. Debbie, to me, you are that person. I with all of the others you have touched in so many different ways, Will miss you terribly. Although we wont speak out loud, I know you are here with me and your other loved ones as you always have been. Continue to walk by our side, as for our creator has bigger plans for you. Robert, I can say this with absolute certianty, you are a wonderful father, a thoughtful friend, and an excellent Husband. Your strengh in these trying times is refreshing and reassuring. Robert you are not alone!
Kevin Young
April 5, 2007
Rob, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. Please remember that you have an army of friends waiting to help you if you need it.
Patrick Hynes
April 5, 2007
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Jeffrey Gironda
April 5, 2007
Rob, where are the words to lend comfort to a friend who suffers a tradegy such as this one? After thinking on it for a while I realized there aren't many, if any. I have no doubt that you will continue being a terrific father, and a good friend to everyone. I want to you know that although you may feel alone in your new journey through life, you are not. It made me happy to see just how many people love you, and would be there for you in the future. Your strength makes me proud to call you friend, and I will always be there for you. God Bless you Rob.
John Lee
April 5, 2007
Rob, at times like these it is very diffucult to find the right words to express sorrow and lend comfort. I just want you to know that you have another family with the NYPD and we are all behind you to support you in any way we can. I pray that time will help with your grief.
Robert Berrios
April 4, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Larry Ayers
April 4, 2007
All our prayers are with you. You have family and friends around you for support. If you ever need anything know I am here for you and Samantha. God Bless.
Norbert Mercado
April 4, 2007
Rob.I cannot begin to describe the heartache I feel for you and your family. You told me on the phone to tell everyone or anyone who still care about you of this news,and I can tell you that I still get calls to this day. Everyone cares rob. Everyone is devastated and wish that there was something we could do for you. You have a beautiful daughter and she has a great father so take care of each other. I will always be here for you. May god bless you and keep you safe. Your old partner Bert, Alissa and Brett.
April 4, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
I will always remember your smile.
April 3, 2007
Eileen Feeney
April 3, 2007
Wow. I had waited this long to write something in Deborah's guest book because I would always start to cry. I figured I would be able to do it tonight and then I read your letter and viewed the photo's of your family and I started crying all over again. It is very obvious that she loved you and Sam very much. She strikes me as a very loving and nurturing mother and a very sweet person. I never met her but I wish I had. May God bless you and watch over you all.
Anonymous
April 2, 2007
I don't know you but was so affected by your beautiful obituary I felt compelled to express my condolences. Thank you for bringing a terrible disease to light in such a touching manner. You may have saved a life with your unselfish act.
I can't imagine what you must be feeling. Hold on to the wonderful and happy memories you've shared. Keep those memories alive for Samantha.
Deborah has finally find the peace she couldn't find on earth. God bless Baby Joshua. And may God bless your family in the days ahead.
Lisa Scotto-Blank
April 2, 2007
Dear Rob and your whole family,
I am one of Debbie's old roomates from Delhi. We all just found out today when we got an e-mail from you. I have reached out to other I knew loved Debbie and we are all devastated to hear about your loss. I just reconnected with Debbie a few months ago and we were supposed to get together for a play date but we never were able to I just am so shocked and sad about her passing. God bless you and Samantha, who she sent me pictures of and spoke so much of and Debbie's whole family. The world will miss "Berger"..
The ABSOLUTE greatest day of our lives!!!!!!!!!!We were one month away from a repeat performance.
April 2, 2007
Christmas 2006, So many traditions to look forward to. How do i explain to Sam what happened when i don't understand.
April 2, 2007
Her Beauty as a person blinded me to her Physical Beauty. The greatest person I ever knew, my soulmate.
April 2, 2007
Enjoying each other on our Honeymoon in Aruba. We always wanted to go back but never made it....I miss you so Deb.
April 2, 2007
Mom and Sam on her 1st Birthday. She was so proud.
April 2, 2007
Mommy and Sam in Orlando, Best Trip Ever. 2 great smiles on 2 great people
April 2, 2007
April 1, 2007
What a beautiful photo of you all. I didn't know you or your wife, but I was drawn to her beautiful face in the obituary. I have prayed for her and Joshua since I read it, not quite understanding what you were going through. I must tell you that your entry brought tears to my eyes. You speak from the heart. I hope you know that there are so many people who didn't know your family that will be helped by how you handled your loss. You are a very brave, kind, sincere man and Samantha is a lucky girl. Help her through these confusing times as she will be the greatest comfort to you. She is made from both of you, and through her, Debbie lives on. Words alone cannot tell you how sorry I am for your loss.
Robert Thomas
April 1, 2007
You are my Wife. You are my Love. You are my Best Friend. You are the Mother of My 2 Angels, Samantha here with me and Joshua with you in Heaven. You are my Soulmate. And I will Love You Always. My Heart aches for you more and more each passing day. Samantha knows you are in Heaven, but does not understand yet. Neither do I. I purchased a bench for you on the Boardwalk where my Dad left us. You'll get it on your Birthday, and alot of us will be there to give it to you. I know you will like it. I will try to make others understand the disease so no one else goes through it alone.
My love for you was so deep and now my pain must be too. Memories of you are EVERYWHERE I LOOK! They are happy ones, but oh so sad. Me and Sam kiss each other goodnight for you every night, I hope you get them all.
I will see you soon, but not yet. I wish I could have done more. I LOVE YOU ALWAYS.
My heart aches for you now as it once grew with you. Until we speak again, which is soon, watch over me and Sam and everyone who loved you,and there are a lot debbie. A whole lot.
Give Joshua a Kiss for me.
Loving Husband and Father
Rob
Laura Noelle
March 29, 2007
Rob,
May love give you strength during this difficult time. The strength you are displaying is truly remarkable. Depression is more common than people think and it’s true that secrecy and stigma are its fertile breeding grounds, I speak from my personal experience, which I thank God for standing by me and helping me survive it.
Our lives are special and it’s important to cherish each day we live, and the special people we are blessed with. Although you don’t physically have Debbie, spiritually you will forever, continue to love her and maintain your strength in her memory. Continue to seek happiness in your life (as she would want for anyone she loved, most certainly you) and be there for Samantha. I pray for you and your family.
We will all see Debbie again in a different place and we will hug her and hold her.
~
Yvonne Lewanski
March 27, 2007
Dear Rob, Samantha, David and Sue,
Words cannot express my sorrow after hearing from Dorothea of Debbie and Joshua's passing.
My thoughts are with you in these difficult days. Debbie is at peace and will live in your memory and in Samantha forever.
I wish you all the strength you will need.
With deepest sympathy,
Yvonne
Shannon Hofmann
March 22, 2007
I did not know Debbie but after reading about her I felt compeled to write. First thing first, I'm extremely sorry for your loss. What she was going through I couldn't even imagine. I almost wished I knew her, because just maybe I could've said or done something to help. As a mother myself it must of been hard for her to get through the days battling her illness. My heart goes out to you and your family, may you keep her sprirt in your children's lives!
Be Safe- as my husband was a NYPD offier.
J.P. Hynes
March 21, 2007
Rob,
Your are a friend and inspiration to us all. We will be here for you always. Debbie was a great girl; who will be remembered for her beautiful bright smile at the pct. functions.
Tara Annunziata
March 21, 2007
Debbie and I had been friends for a very long time and I have only the best memories of her. Though I did not get to meet Rob and Samantha,Debbie spoke of you both so highly. I will definitly miss our friendship, you were one of my dearest friends and I will remember you always!!!
Aileen Riordan
March 21, 2007
I did not personally know Debbie, but I wanted to express my sympathy and condolances to her family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very sad time.
Gemma
March 21, 2007
Debbie, I can see your smile standing on the beach with your beautiful daughter Samantha.. Through Liz & Patsy you became part of our extended family and you will be always in our thoughts and prayers.
Maggie Clifford
March 20, 2007
My Dear Sweet Debbie
I will miss you so much. You always had a smile and a kind word to comfort. Why could'nt we comfort you? I promise you, my little Duck, that I will keep your memory alive for Samantha.You were such an incredible MOM. I hope you knew that. I love you forever. #2mom Maggie
RICHIE MESSANA
March 20, 2007
I DID NOT KNOW DEBBIE BUT KNOW HER THROUGH PEOPLE AND HEARD NOTHING BUT GREAT THINGS ABOUT HER AND HER FAMILY! WE WILL NEVER KNOW WHY THINGS HAPPEN IN LIFE AND WHY GOD TAKES GOOD PEOPLE TO HEAVEN. SOMETIMES IT HELPS TO THINK WE ALL NOW HAVE A PERSONAL ANGEL AND THERE NOT GONE THERE JUST TAKING A LITTLE VACATION! GOD BLESS THIS FAMILY!
Jodie Hetzler
March 20, 2007
For those that did not know Debbie- She was a truly amazing person. She had a warmth and spirit and when I met her I instantly knew we would become friends. We shared many special moments with our families and many laughs and great times as girlfriends. She was a true friend, sincere, fun-loving and warm. She was a wonderful and doting mother to Samantha and a great wife to Rob. I am heart-broken that I will never get another chance to tell her how much she meant in my life. I consider Rob and Samantha part of my family now and will be there to support and love them through this very difficult time. For all of the people who didn't know Debbie--thank you for your loving suppport, kind words, and thoughtfulness. It means so much to all of us who loved her so.
Selena DiFusco
March 20, 2007
Dearest Debbie, You will never be forgotten as your friendship and rare light truly touched our family. We loved you very much and will continue to love Rob and Samantha and be there for them. We were fortunate to share many happy times in the too short time we had together. May you and Joshua rest in eternal, sweet peace. All of our love, Tom, Selena, John & Natalie
You Are Not Alone
March 20, 2007
To The Thomas Family
I am so sorry for your loss, My twin brother took his own life 04/13/04. Only we never knew he was so lost, so he never reached out because of the stigma attached to mental illness, and he was also in law enforcement which attaches a bigger stigma. I applaud you for being open about Deborah's passing and know that by doing so, you will save a life. Thank you and may your precious memories keep Deborah in your hearts forever.
jesse and jodie hetzler
March 20, 2007
dear debbie,,you will be missed so much be me jodie and the kids,but after being with rob for the last couple of days ,im 100 percent confident he is going to be o.k.he loved you and samantha and joshua so much,that he wil use that positive energy to move on...never forgetting you guys ever..me and jodie will be there for rob and samantha every day ....so have no worries and rest in peace
Holli Cirone
March 20, 2007
Though I've known Debbie for a short time, she has touched my life forever. Rob, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Stacey DiGregorio
March 20, 2007
Although I only knew Debbie a relative short period of time, she was a wonderful friend, mother, wife and daughter. I will miss her and keep the memories of our friendship close to my heart. This disease is unlike any other, it is silent and painful but I believe that Debbie lived every day of her life to the fullest. I will miss her always.
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