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Robert E. Diefenbach, Jr.
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Robert E. Diefenbach, Jr. Obituary
He was the son of Robert E. Diefenbach and the late Ruth DeNoyelles Diefenbach of Fort Myers, Florida. He was born in Greenville, NC and grew up in Rye, NY. He raised his family in Marston Mills, MA, before moving to New Hampshire and settling in Campton.
Rob attended Resurrection School in Rye, NY, Rye Neck High School in Mamaroneck, NY, and St. Louis University in Missouri. He spent his professional career in retail related businesses. Most recently, he was a project consultant for Gordon Brothers of Boston, MA. He also served as Treasurer of Campton's Waterville Estates Village District.
He cherished music, especially live and particularly Rock and Jazz - though his eclectic tastes included many other genres. He was proud of his diverse and extensive collection of vinyl records and Rock memorabilia. Rob possessed an encyclopedic knowledge of musicians, their works, their bands, genealogies, and influences. He was a great admirer of the Grateful Dead, a diehard Deadhead. Along with his family and friends, music was the love of his life.
Rob is survived by his devoted family: sons Robert III (Andrea McManus), Andrew (Shannon), and Mark, grandsons Jakob McManus Shapiro, and Levi and Otis Diefenbach, father Robert, sister Margaret Gray (Stuart), brothers Michael (Michele), David (Nina), Eric (James Keith), and Peter, and former wife Nilde. He was predeceased by his mother Ruth.
In lieu of flowers, to honor Robert's lifelong love of music, donations may be made to the band program at NYC's IS230 where his eldest son Robert teaches.
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35-18 90th Street
Jackson Heights, NY 11372
9 Entries
Kirk Walton
April 6, 2024
I am so sorry to hear about Rob's passing. We never met in person, though we were in each other's hemisphere a number of times and stayed in touch through various music groups over social media. Even over the past couple of weeks, I was marveling at Rob's music collection that he posted online. He was an awesome guy - always great at sharing his tastes and making recommendations for others. I can only imagine he was a great son, dad, grand-dad, consultant, and friend. Really sad to hear this news.
John Reilly
April 4, 2024
Fond memories of the annual camping weekend at Pound Ridge.
Sorry we won't be able to make the Celebration, but you will be in our thoughts.
janice and the late Scott Pierce
April 4, 2024
my first memory of Robert is seeing him in ruth's arms , end of February 1954, as we were driving to florida on our honey moon...we stopped off in griffton to see the NEW baby and ruth and rob....firsr stroller baby I think!! xxx janice
Peter Hurwitch
April 3, 2024
I worked with Rob several times, and he was so capable with multiple computer screens in front of him.
It was always an interesting office with Rob - diverse music, intense opinions and a warm heart.
Rob was unique and will be missed.
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Kevin Kulinowski
April 2, 2024
Back in the day when CD´s were a thing, he always looked forward to new releases coming out on Tuesdays so he could update his collection. And what a collection! He was a great guy and I enjoyed all the time I spent with him, including 3 months together in Southampton, LI doing MCM. He will be missed.
Ken Simms
April 2, 2024
Working with him on one of many deals throughout the years
Andy Dershin
April 2, 2024
I met Rob around `95. We were on the Rickles deal together. While in the car on our way to lunch a song came on the radio. After two or three notes he named the song. I then told him "We´re going to get along just fine" We remained friends for almost 30 years.
Doug Koch
March 29, 2024
Rob was a brilliant guy. Always enjoyed working with and learning from him! Gone too soon! Sincere condolences to his family.
Frederic "Ric" Gilbert
March 28, 2024
Too many memories to share, but will always remember riding around in the VW bus throughout the Rye Neck NY area , especially Shore Acres. Missing my brother more than I ever thought possible.
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