Steven Ray Merola

Steven Ray Merola obituary, Lincolnwood, IL

Steven Ray Merola

Steven Merola Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jul. 31, 2022.
Steven Ray Merola, 71, passed away unexpectedly on March 6, 2022 in Evanston, IL. Steve was born and raised in Staten Island, NY, the second child of the late Carmine and Norma Merola. He began drumming professionally as a teenager on the local rock 'n roll scene with Mack Truck - a legendary young band playing for throngs of underage fans. Steve studied drumming with Bernard "Pretty" Purdie and went on to play with bands including Tracks, Simpson, Jimmie Mack and The Jumpers, MetroLogic and Cat Daddy Jones. He also performed in the bands of the musicals "It's a Hard Job Being God "on Broadway and in an early road production of "Hair." Steve did session work with artists including Bonnie Raitt, Roy Bitton, DL Byron, Ric Ocasek, Earl Slick, Eddie Kramer, Richie Zito, Hank Devito, Michael Kamen, David Sanborn, Ernie Savage, Frankie LaRocka and Vinnie Zumo, among others. An accomplished blues harmonica player, he later studied classical harmonica with one of the masters of the genre and went on to write and record original compositions. Over the course of his career Steve recorded, co-wrote and co-produced albums released on RCA, Columbia, Capital, Paramount, Powerdrive and Fountainblue Records.

He met his future wife and soulmate Janet Weiss while playing drums with Nonnie and The Onnies when she was an NYU film student and her crew was hired to shoot the band's music video. Thus began a passionate, decades-long love affair, enduring partnership and deep spiritual bond. Within six months, the couple moved in together in Staten Island to be nearer to Steve's young son Rory, from his first marriage. No matter how late into the night or early morning that Steve gigged on weekends, Sundays were devoted to father and son activities; playing ball, GI Joes, electric football and later on Madden NFL in hotly contested hours-long matches. Music was a shared language and passion between father and son and Rory grew up to be a talented musician in his own right.

A member of the American Society of Composer, Authors and Publishers (ASCAP) since 1981, Steve co-wrote with Grammy-award winning recording engineer Jan Fairchild, as well as songwriters Christopher Ward, Michael "Flasher" Abate and Luke McMaster. Steve worked in a variety of musical genres and was extremely knowledgeable about every aspect of the industry. In the 1990's he started managing and producing other artists, co-founded and led indie label Phantom Power Records, and provided guidance and promotional support to a number of artists and other labels. He later founded and was President of Area Music, an early adopter of digital music distribution. Steve also became a pioneering, vocal and ongoing advocate in the ensuing fight for musicians' royalties as streaming services took over the business.

After moving to Los Angeles in 2007 for his wife's career, Steve continued to collaborate on projects with his creative circle in NYC and reconnected with old friends and former bandmates who had relocated to the West Coast. He also befriended a group of film composers and lyricists and began writing with Oscar and Emmy-nominated lyricist Arthur Hamilton. This was Steve's second stint in LA, having lived there briefly in the 1970's as a struggling young musician. Those earlier escapades, along with his love of LA-based novels by Elmore Leonard and Walter Mosely, inspired him to revisit a decades old project involving the character Billy Lightcap. This scoundrel and veteran bluesman stars in an original series of songs, stories and podcasts. The Lightcap saga provided Steve with an opportunity to expand his writing talent beyond songwriting and flex his mostly underused vocal prowess as the growling, tongue-in-cheek performer.

In late 2014, Steve and Janet moved to the Chicago area to help out her elderly parents. He continued to compose, create, record and publish in a variety of mediums, played drums at Chicago Blues Fest and performed on harmonica at Buddy Guy's, even as he was privately and valiantly waging a six year battle with cancer. Steve was a voracious reader, adept at computer chess, scrabble and the New Yorker crossword puzzle. A skilled carpenter, lover of fine food and wine (forced to give the latter up after his diagnosis), a dedicated meditator and an astute observer of life. He never stopped learning, growing or laughing at life's absurdities or himself. He was resilient, determined and always hopeful. When asked how he remained so positive, he always gave the same response, "I'm the luckiest man in the world." For those of us who knew and loved him, we know that we were the lucky ones.

In addition to his devoted and heartbroken wife and beloved son, Steve is survived by his rescue cat Baby, who showed up on the front porch shortly after his cancer diagnosis and never left; siblings Gene (Marnie), Janice and John (Lyn); mother-in-law Judy "Mamala" Weiss and sister-in-law Betsy Van Die (Jeff). He is deeply missed by an extended family of aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins and numerous friends and former bandmates. A celebration of life will be held in NYC at a future date.

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July 25, 2025

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March 13, 2025

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April 10, 2023

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joe nania

July 25, 2025

Hello , up there in Heaven to my long ago and long time good friend STEVE MEROLA love from Hollywood Joe Nania -

HOLLYWOOD JOE NANIA

March 13, 2025

Hello STEVE MEROLA up there in HEAVEN from your long ago pal - HOLLYWOOD JOE here in Greenwich Village New York thank you for getting my cds over to England and and then all over Europe back in 1995 GOD BLESS YOU FOREVER

Michael Fastaia

April 10, 2023

I knew Steve in the 1970. We had mutual friends all of which shared a love of music. Steve always impressed me with his vast knowledge of music and musicians. Sadly we lost touch with each other. He will be missed.

Scott Saks

March 1, 2023

Steve played amazing drums on our Capital Record Album with Tracks. He was a joy to play with. As a bass player he and I would go places and keep the rock of the songs solid. What a sweet good man you were. We will meet again and play. To those of you who had more time with him, bless you. Love, Scott Kenneth Saks (Tracks)

Mark Jones

January 15, 2023

Old Staten Island, NY friend; had great times together, and sung ...

"Pool men were we born to be free ... free as the fish in the sea".

Al Somma

August 15, 2022

Wonderful friend. Wry, knowledgable and funny. We played music together and renovated my house (and others) before I moved in. It was a privilege and my first thought to offer our great Silver Lake area apt. when we left-- much closer to Rory and the recording studio where he was producing. I was very sad to hear of his suffering with serious illness before he passed. My condolences to Janet who was the love of his life. To know a true love can answer life's only mystery however brief or long that life is. Rest in Peace, Steven.

Jimmie Mack

August 8, 2022

Great memories!! Hard to believe you are gone. I miss you already.

John "Little Brother" Merola

August 6, 2022

I´ve said many times that Steve is/was the coolest guy I know! A big brother who would teach me many of life´s lessons be they funny or painful. Respect yourself, be yourself and live, truly live life. He was my cheerleader, confidant and sounding board. I'll miss that hearty laugh!

Terry Morgan

August 2, 2022

Rest in peace, my friend. I have fond memories of you in Staten Island.

Leslie Mendoza Temple, MD

August 2, 2022

It was an absolute honor to take care of Steve, and to be your friend, Janet. We miss him terribly, and hold a special place in our heart for you both. I am glad the Benefit Concert at Metro in his honor, held 5/28/22, has offered solace to many patients dealing with cancer. Steve would definitely approve! Sending you much love and hugs, Dr. LMT

Janis Russo Cipriano

August 2, 2022

That was one of the best written memorials I ever read. His life was so full and intricate in all the different roads he traveled. I spent most reading time shaking my head in awe. Although Steven and I weren't daily friends I saw him around town and shared his love of music. All part of growing up in the best decade the 70s, we all had the best times of our lives. Condolences to his family and loved one.

Daniel Leyes

August 2, 2022

Stevie was like a big brother to me when we worked together in a series of bands from 78-82. I was an 18 year old and he was nearing 30. He shared his wisdom and laughter generously. I loved Stevie. Space prevents me from sharing our many great times together, but my memories are sweet and many. I think I took the photo of him tuning his drums that accompanies this obituary. I remember that kit as I must have set it up a hundred times as his roadie. I look forward to the Celebration of his life. He lived it well. I will always remember you sir and always cherish all you taught me and all the great times we shared. MY deepest condolences to Janet, Rory, and all those who loved him, especially his life long musical partner Mykey (Flasher) Abate. RIP old friend.

Gary Brady

August 2, 2022

First met you through my friend and fellow drummer the late Dennis Ferguson in 1969/70. We hit off immediately. We shared our original songs and he encouraged me to keep writing. Met up with him in the mid 80´s at a club called "dock of the bay" he was lead singer and playing un believable harmonica.
Also Mike Abate was playing lead guitar. " great band"
I bought them a bottle or two of Moët and we had some laughs. I wish we could have wrote some sons together. I always thought you were a super star.
So much beautiful energy. I know you and Dennis are together in heaven playing together. Play in peace
Love ya, Gary

Dorian Rudnytsky

August 2, 2022

Thank you for everything you dedicated your life to, to music, musicians, your family, & the betterment of life for all of us. RIP, Steven.

Jody M

August 1, 2022

I have known Steve since he got together with Janet, my longtime best friend... maybe 38 years. I will always cherish the time we spent together whether it was the many visits to Staten Island with Janet, Rory, Kato, Wyatt, Virgil, Lilly (cats) and his family (Xmas & Steve´s Birthday) or in LA when we all lived in the same city and then, finally, the visits to Chicago. It´s still hard to believe this is real. Sending condolences to all that are suffering this great loss that I haven´t already spoken to. Love you, Steve.

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